Out of touch with my feelings
I can′t help it if I'm happy or sad
Today I cried for no reason
Made me feel like a psychopath
I should hate you ′cause I love you
You should hate yourself for treating me like that
We both know you only love you
Did you know they have a name for that?

You say that I'm crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won′t happen again
You say I′m dramatic
I'm overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you′ll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

My parents don't like you
Why would they want to?
After they found me crying on the bathroom floor
I don′t even like me anymore

'Cause you say that I′m crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won't happen again
You say I′m dramatic
I′m overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you'll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

You lose your voice when you yell too much
Don′t say you love me until you mess up
Phone calls past twelve o'clock, wanting me back
Don′t you know that they got a name for that?

You say that I'm crazy
You say that you′re sorry
Won't happen again
You say I'm dramatic
I′m overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you′ll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

Contributed by David J. Suggest a correction in the comments below.

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Dennis

25w

We’re can I buy Avery Anna cd

Most interesting comment from YouTube:

Divvy Diesel

15w↑3

I have an nacisstic ex
She comes back into my life yearly ssying I'm her soul mate & I'm always on her mind
We split up 5 yrs ago & she came back with a baby in tow & she breaks me every time
She came back last Sunday
but after 6 days/Saturday I ended it as i see the same toxic patterns starting again
Even tho I know she never really loved me
I truly love her
And thats the killer of these types of relationships
I moved home I came off all social media & she still got my number & contacted me with the usual I miss you bull shit
Narcissists know which strings to pull to draw us back in
Now I realise that no contact is the only way to survive
I'm still single after 5yrs of this as i can get past how badly she treat me or the fact no1s made me feel the way she does
It's a FuQd up situation I cant escape from even when she's gone I miss her
This is what narcissists do to you

All comments from YouTube:

Avery Anna

30w↑3.7K

I am so overwhelmed with how many of you can relate to this song. Thank you all for sharing your stories with me, your support means the world 🤍

Stacy Wilson

I know I do !

WestCoastHunny

My mother is a narcissist and she affected my future relationships and I’m only learning now how to love myself at almost 30

angela tweet

Omg this describes alot of ppl i dated .tears flow heavy thank. You

1stGod

Sometimes we are narcissist that's why we attract narcissist Sad but true

Jessica Blankenship

I just got out of a abusive relationship a month ago and this song really mad me realize that this song realest wTbhe put me through and how it mad me relaizei that he was just like that and told him he need to get help cause it tore me up but I'm stronger now love this song

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mommyconnor

22w↑1.1K

As a therapist, I hope it’s ok that I’m going to be sharing your video with the survivors I work with. This was well done. ❤️

x

10w

Why wouldn't it be? It's a lyric video on YouTube... cringe.

Holly Fabiani

14w

@mommgconnor I love this song too. Very relatable. Finally... As a therapist; and I've asked many the same question- ever seen a narcissist in therapy?

Sommer Bradley

14w

You're an amazing therapist for this ❤ I wish mine would share music with me

Stephanie

14w

@Jodie Mae Bumatay how can someone change if they refuse to be aware of their own problems? Many will project, degrade, belittle as a way to feels powerful and superior. They have a "ME" mentality.

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Michelle Vizzini

20w↑591

I just left my narcissist husband of 13 years. As I was leaving this song came on the radio. It made me feel better. No one knows what it is like unless they have had to deal with one. Prayers to all the survivors!!

T E H R

proud of you and i dont even know you ❤️🥺

Jean Wagner

Did you

Shannon Rodriguez

Me too, 13 years and it’s so hard! 😔

braylee cain

@Michelle Vizzini i cant because they took my phone went through it and now im not aloud to have a phone as soon as i get it back im writing down every number in that phone they took my phone because i didnt get out of bed and then went through it and they grounded me because i was talking to a boy its always so stupid im afraid that if i go live with my older sister that they will put my little sister through everything i went through im really sorry about your daughter she is in a much better place i hope one day you will see her again

Michelle Vizzini

8w↑1

@AshleyCerullo I so wish I could help everyone!! Did you try a womans center?

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Victor Erwin

16w↑143

Having been called a narcissist by my child's mother, this song puts it out there like wtf was I thinking. My daughter is 4 now and I feel horrible for what I put her mother through. This is real life and it happens on a daily. I'm doing my best to make things right but it will never be enough to fix what I put her through during her pregnancy. I'm in the middle of fixing myself. There is hope for us, but deep inside it's our own demons we are dealing with and unfortunately blame it on others. Whatever it is going on there is hope. One step at a time

malice

you got this.

dymps

Kudos to you!!

Stephanie Lynn

10w↑2

Amazing! She's such a lucky woman to have a man like you! I bet she loved you through all of it and I pray yall are rewarded with a great life together with your daughter!

Lauriell Baker

10w↑5

The fact that you are owning up to your mistakes is beautiful. Being on the other side of things, I can say that narcissistic behavior is sooo very damaging. Hopefully as you heal yourself, you can heal the relationship with her.

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Davis Wiker

21w↑264

"I don't even like me anymore." Felt that. It's incredible how someone else treating you a particular way can rearrange your own evaluation of yourself and your worth as a person. And crazier still that years later you can still be giving it your all to undo that damage but still often feel worse off than you were before.

Roberta Taylor

Although I am still suffering greatly because I am 6 months out from leaving my situation I do feel that I am not worth off I feel that I might be able to have the life I really want and I actually kind of know more what I want than I did before everybody's or everybody's experience is different I hope that someday you will see that you are not worse off look at the things that you learned from the relationship and try to reframe it and use it for your good I know that this is very hard to do and it's hard to retain your brain the brain is very broken when you leave these relationships I have been meditating listening to special music at night And I has helped my attitude greatly I some different things that you might like to try and see if that doesn't help I hope That you can find some meaning to the situation that happened to you life is really It's sucky situation sometimes but there's always going to be lost and there will always be hard times at least maybe we can learn from the mistakes that we made and not feel down on ourselves. Good luck and I am with you and supporting you in your journey just thought I'd let you know.

Lynn Ry

9w↑1

Thank you. I understand this to the core. It’s a lifetime matter for me to unravel and peel back the onion in order to repair that damage and my sense of self was chiseled down to nothing because of it

xUnderdog21

11w↑1

I hate that I relate to this

TheErika711

11w↑2

It took a year of physical pain letting go and confronting I was in love with a narcissist.....now loving myself I never thought I could. He still affects my mind at times but that's only memories not my real world THANK GOD - LIFE CAN HEAL US WE HAVE TO WANT IT.

Robert Lees

12w↑1

Well said hunnie. Couldn't of described it better myself. Xx

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Avery Anna

37w↑1.5K

Thanks so much for all of your comments and love for this song. I appreciate y’all’s support. 🤍🤍

Lorrie Wieland

It describes perfectly of what I'm going through with my abusive husband...finally left him & going through a divorce...

Linda Williams

17w

Thanks so much for the words and expression of this song I love it

Donitra Jeffers

21w

Thank you for being the voice to all of us who fell victim to a Narcissist, I almost lost my life to one.

Cesar Santiago

25w

You r amazing Avery Anna , n u dnt need nobody but yourself!!!!! However, everybody needs somebody to love u…. It’s just life!! Love u Anna!

1tJB

26w

Keep up the music

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Megan O'Neill

24w↑353

I was in an 8 year relationship with a narcissist and every lyric she sings is so true. I walked away 3 years ago and I struggled with the aftermath of what he turned me into. He made me feel like I was not enough and that I was just an inconvenience. It took me 2 years to love myself again and find who I’m supposed to be. Still working on letting myself trust and love others, but it’s not easy when you let a narcissist destroy you for so long. I thank you for writing this song and being a voice for us who have gone through these situations. And for those who have gone through this, know you are loved and you are enough, always remember that. ❤️

Megan O'Neill

@Nevaeh Harris I’m so sorry to hear that your dad is going through something like this. All I can say is to make sure you are giving him love and support, it goes along ways. Sending you hugs ❤

Megan O'Neill

@Janea Kanalos I promise you that one day you will find the strength to walk away, remember you deserve better. Hugs to you as well❤

Janea Kanalos

Mine is a 7 year relationship. Hugs to you. Thank you for your words.

Janea Kanalos

I get everything you said. I can't wait to be strong enought like you. I'm in the beginning stage of leaving and it's such a struggle

Michelle Anderson

I finally gained enough strength to walk away from an extremely abusive marriage with a narcissist 2and a half years ago. I definitely feel so much better a ton of weight lifted from me. But he definitely shattered my soul I still feel like I'm not enough and second guess myself all the time but I'm working on it trying hard to think differently. Being in that situation was dark and lonely... just living in misery :( So I thank God everyday that I am finally free from that!

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Terri Nelson

20w↑106

This song hits my soul right now. It literally is exactly what I'm going thru right now. Loving a narcissist is the hardest.

Kelly Cavender

13w↑1

@M J thank you! I've got a lot of people backing me. They've been there all along. I just couldn't see them.

M J

13w↑1

@Kelly Cavender Who you are is a stronger person that is capable of helping other people now. Just listening to someone else can help because their narcissist has probably told them they're crazy and overdramatic etc and so on. Good luck and enjoy your freedom.

Kelly Cavender

14w↑2

Just got out of a 6 yr relationship with one. I don't even know who I am anymore.

Leila Earl

16w↑1

Dealing with this is my life after 9 years!. Hurts so bad😥

M J

17w↑1

At some point you have to ask yourself are they really loving me? Thr truth hurts, but dragging yourself along in a relationship with a narcissist will really hurt more. Hoping for the best for you.

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gwizz 713

23w↑51

You have literally sang every painful secret word and experience I went through after the narcissistic abusive relationship and discarding! I didn’t know what I went though at that time! Thank you for making this song ! You will help so many recognize what they are experiencing and recognize they have to get out of relationship with such a harmful type of person.

Kendyl Frye

As a narsistic person I’m evil 100 and I deserve to burn in a fire (No joke) call me evil all you want

Kim Fetsko

16w↑11

15 years with an abusive narcissistic person, left the relationship 5+ years ago.. when their is a child/children involved.. it can be very difficult and hard. The abuse has actually gotten worse since I’ve left. My daughter is in the middle, I have become a prisoner in my own life. Thank you for this beautiful song. Sending love to all, healing ❤️‍🩹 and strength. ✨💖🙏🏻💖✨

Sheri B Official

39w↑2.2K

I really feel this on levels that I’m sure only few understand. Hugs to all who have overcome a narcissist. 💕💕💕

rageagainst themachine

11w

THERES ONLY ONE PERSON TO STOP GETTING THE HELL BEAT OUT OF THEM !!!! ...... YOU🙏

Shirley Wever

17w

❤

Latosha Jones

18w

@Angel Rains wooo u said a mouth full...I was entangled and entertaining the devil himself

Latosha Jones

18w

@Lisa Smith ik ur drained

Gute Geister

18w

@Sylvia Brooks 🙏💫💚

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Emily Coleman

10w↑5

This song reminds me of my relationship with my mother. I have recently started therapy and am realizing what she has put me through and finding myself.

Kat

12w↑15

Wow. This hits home so hard. I wish there was a Part 2 to this song where the lyrics dig more into what it's like to be with a narcissist. Society needs so badly to understand the reality of it. Avery Anna, and all of the others who have been here, sending you all so much love, positivity and strength. Praying that all of you break free / stay narc-free. <3

DEBORAH DEFELICE

20w↑25

I have been waiting for so long for someone to come up with a song about it. Thank you so much! You nailed it !

Graciele Fernandes

8w↑1

Sua voz é linda amei sua música 😍😍😍

Sewer monster

12w↑6

Ex boyfriend just called me to tell me about how great he feels and how he found someone knew and how pretty she was. Then this song came on the radio❤️ thank you I really needed this. You have the most amazing voice.

Jezel Work121

13w↑10

I heard this one day, it brought me back to 4 years ago. It took me back to when I was alone, when my friends and family were pushed away from a boy who made me believe no one loved me besides himself. He told me I wouldn’t make it in this life without him. And no one would ever love me the way he does even though he called me names and put me down and put his hands on me. 4 years later my kids and I are free and happy. He eventually got charged with stalking for harassing me when I left but it was the best choice I made.

Robin Berry

Me too

E W

7w↑1

Literally every word from inside my head, it's sad to see how many of us survivors there are, thank you Avery xx

Ashli Bradford

20w↑14

Geez. I was with a narcissist about 7 years ago. It took the last 6 years to recover from that mess. Beautiful song! And so accurate. It was actually an article I found while in that relationship called "The Toxic Relationship of an Empath & a Narcissist" from the elephant journal. And I suddenly realized I was fighting a completely hopeless battle for something I was never going to have with him.

M J

16w

@Ashli Bradford That's a good point about technology and definitely seems like something that would help aid them. Instant gratification, a lot of attention, easy to paint a picture of who they want to appear like to multiple people at once. Thankfully you were able to see what was actually transpiring in your situation, glad you got out of there.

Ashli Bradford

17w

@M J yeah I keep hearing more and more about this. I realize not all bad relationships have a narcissistic partner. But it is a bit disturbing to know that people are increasingly coming to thinking that's what they've wound up in.
For me it was definitely a flood of reality and realization. And even after that I struggled to leave. It wasn't until a frightening moment in my friends basement with him that I was frightened so deep down to my soul that I was finally able to get a direct look at him. Shortly thereafter I was able to get the hell out of there. Sad that this behavior may actually be on the rise. I blame the way our world is today for issues. Too much technology making people too self centered and selfish to be kind or even human in some cases.

M J

17w

Yes, I had to learn the hard way that apparently narcissists really do have types. This is far deeper than a hair color preference...narcissist can spot an empathetic person miles away. These are your nurses, teachers, home care aides, volunteers, EMT, childcare workers, church helpers etc. Apparently it's way more common then people realize. 😌

Queen V

36w↑755

For all of you listening that are in a narcissistic relationship, I'm praying you are able to break free. May you have the strength to walk away and NEVER turn back! You are worthy of being love genuinely and completely ❤

Kendyl Frye

So what about the narcistic that are struggling? They had an emotional abuse too you😭

Angela

22w

@Ashley Snyder omg girl I feel you this is what I say how can I love him so much even though he treats me like shit. I use to be so strong and now 22yrs in I'm not I lost myself my kids are even against me now 20,14 and I had done everything my kids even called the cops on me everything is my fault I hate my life never thought I would ever feel that way

Angela

22w

@Jessica Martin that's how I use to feel he would make me push my family away but there still here and I'm trying to get back myself it's super hard but reading these comments reminds me it's not me it's not us it's them so called men we love

Queen V

24w

@Lisa Womack you are stronger than you think! It just takes Faith and one step at a time! Prayers are behind you. 🙏

Lisa Womack

24w

16 years I'm so drained he is in control I am stuck

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Michael Eygabroad

21w↑41

Women do it as well. I never knew what was going on. Until someone explained to me years after I finally left her. The guilt trips, the blaming, the threats ...it goes on and on. This is a very good song! I still hate admitting to what was going on but she ruined me in every way possible.
Amazing song thank you!

Janina Katrine Lenea Nikita Skancke

11w↑1

It happens to all genders, of all cultures, all religions, all life styles, all ethnicities.

Although you hate admitting to that she ruined you, it is the first step in the road to what emotional recovery you can get <3

Hugs sent your way.

Divvy Diesel

15w↑3

Amanda Sockriter

20w↑3

Yes it happens to men, just as much as women. It destroys you and you feel like its never ending picking up the pieces after “freeing” yourself from the relationship. But I hope you take it and use it for your advantage with the next relationship. Because I have for sure. I hope you are healing at your own pace. And know your not alone. And never blame yourself thats what they want.

Stephanie adolph

15w↑5

I celebrate your beautiful, moving and resonating way of naming the challenge of being involved with a narcissist! This is such a loving way to awaken countless sufferers, and help them not only to see the problem, but also to finally name the problem. I raise hope to the universe that now those who are now awakened will find the strength to break the cycle of gravitating to the narcissists and reach higher for a genuine love that they deserve. 🙏🏻

Audraya Denson

21w↑5

I am so glad I found this song! It takes me back to a very dark time but I came out stronger in the end ❤

Chandra Lowry

Wow! I needed this year's ago! This is beautiful and it really hits home, please don't ever stop making music and singing your story, there's so many of us that can relate to this song, and want more like them ❤

Jen J

39w↑1.2K

The 44 people who disliked this song have never been in love with a narcissist because this song exactly describes how it goes.

LAURA WRIGHT

20w

Humans !!!!

Amanda Zavitz

21w

The 44 people who disliked this song are all probably narcissist 🤦‍♀️

J**

21w

Or they are narcissistic

She’s Deitria

22w

It’s probably narcissist that disliked it.. Smh

Lizbe Peyper

22w

Or maybe they are a Narcissist! I was married to one for 2 years and 3 months. Nobody that was not in such a relationship will ever understand.

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Abraham Hoffman

15w↑1

When I first listen to your song this morning. Half way through I couldn't hold back my tears because for a small moment I was able to be in my wife's shoes in understanding what she has been feeling these last 11 years of her life! For me these last four years I've seen first hand the devastating power of a narcissist from my current wife's ex-husband. They were married for eight years and it was a living h*ll and it still is because they share two kids together. They have to talk with each other almost everyday or every other day. It's like my wife's life was shattered into a thousand pieces and I've spent the last four years trying to put those pieces back together but knowing I can only do so much as her husband. I'm just so thankful my wife has an amazing family that supports her and that there are therapist out there to continuously get through the devastating power of a narcissist!!

Amanda Marsh

11w

This song is amazing I can relate so much on so many different levels thank you for making such a beautiful song 🤩

Lauriell Baker

10w↑5

I cried when I listened to this. I am married to a Narcissist that gas lights me all the time. I am so broken down and insecure. I have thought I was crazy for so long, thinking that I was incapable of being enough. The damage that people like this do is undescribable. Thank you for this beautiful song.

Lauriell Baker

@Aliza Sawyer thank you. ❤️

Aliza Sawyer

7w↑1

Just know that you deserve better you deserve to be treated like a queen and just know that you ARE enough!! 😌 💋❤️

Lauren Stone

I just left a 10 year relationship with a narcissist. Thank you for this beautiful song.
Bright blessings to you.

Rebekah Eakin

18w↑3

I got goosebumps when I first heard this. My older sister is a narcissist and because of it, it even caused my mom to go in a state of depression for a while, she would constantly make my parents feel like the worst there is. She ran away about 4 years ago, and my family has actually grown closer without her here. I know it sounds bad, but I was happy when she ran away, I worried for her, but notheless I was happy she wasn't living with us any more.

Nadine Durant

20w↑8

i love this finally a song i can relate to, you are so talented and thanks for exposing those Narcissistic assholes there is so much of them in this world.

Brianna Murphy

25w↑7

I cry almost everytime I hear it.. This is amazing and beautiful and just REAL on so many levels. 💖

Alisia Lockhart

19w↑1

I left my kids’ dad after 3 years after enduring the narcissism and abuse. It’s been very difficult but the best decision I could’ve made, regardless. This song really hits home and I sincerely thank you for writing it

Simply Starry Sustainable Living With God

38w↑489

wow...my life for 24 years..but there is hope.. you are valuable priceless and lovely..God showed me love..unconditional..peace... and forgiveness...My new husband is Jesus... and I am now empowered...strong and free

Kimberly

12w

Amen me too!!!💔💔 26 years

Squidwart

27w

@who asked ?? what what is that

who asked

27w

@Squidwart emoji keyboard🙄

Squidwart

27w

@who asked ? how you emote??

who asked

27w

@Squidwart you are being trolled by yourself 🤣🤷‍♀️🤡

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Kim R

10w

I love this!!! ❤️ Thank you!! I'm going through something similar.

julie beabout

20w↑2

Exactly what I'm going through. Thank you for putting it in to words 💜

Chasity Matlock

13w↑3

I feel this with EVERY ounce of my being! Time and time again I have found my self in relationships with people like this! I have dumped my heart and soul into people who gave nothing back but everything this song talks about. Thank you for writing this! After years and years of back burnering the hurt I have felt it I am breaking free of that! Thank you again! Much love!!!

Lynn Ry

Thank you. Just thank you so much for these words and beautiful voice!! “I don’t even like me anymore…” the residual feeling I got after being with an abusive narcissist. It felt like a soul rape. And as much as I hated him for being so cruel. I hated me more for allowing myself go through that. And rebuilding self-trust has been the most exhausting, difficult task in my life yet.. nothing scares me anymore thanks to him.

You all are strong af.

Jamie Anderson

25w↑741

I heard this in car the other day and had to do everything to hide my tears from my kids. Nobody understands the hell you go through living with a narcissist. 11 years of that. This song hit home. Thank you for making this amazing beautiful song

Jean Wagner

🍔

Madelaine Varga

7w↑1

Wish you somebody who loves you for what you are ❤️

Uniquea Mcneal

@jess Be careful not to become them. It happens.

jess

11w

I have learned to give right back what they put out turns out they do not like it at all.

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Highlands County Lifestyle Candace Ray

17w↑2

I’m going to listen to this song over and over again. I’m crying my eyes and thank you bc I didn’t realize I was still so emotional over everything that happened. It’s been a year and a half since I left. Some days I blamed myself until I realized I wasn’t crazy and dramatic and didn’t deserve the abuse. Thank you for this song.

Alicia Gibson

13w↑3

This song is amazing. I just got out of a 20 yrs marriage to a narcissist... Helped me feel better. Love the lyrics and girl you can sing so beautifully!! Keep up the great songs!!

Alivia Haven

24w↑8

Words cannot express how deeply grateful I am to you for writing this song. It captures the pain of loving a narcissist so perfectly. I’ve never been so thankful to sob 😅

The Awakened Ones

19w

Hmmmm this is so true... These people manipulate you till you start questioning your morals and principles , praying that you don't have friends and family that emotionally support you.

Krissy K

16w↑4

Just found out about your song on Kelly's show. love both versions. it sounds so good 🥰

M J

33w↑372

FINALLY. Narcissists are getting exposure. There are too many people in toxic relationships that have no idea why their partner is acting the way they do. It's a horrible cycle that has the abused second guessing themselves. Anyone out there, please leave them. The narcissistic person just doesn't change, but they will change you for the worse if you let them. Gather your strength, accept the relationship is over and move on!

M J

17w

@Jill B. Thank you for sharing your experience. I know it will help someone that comes across it find their strength. It's extremely hard to leave, especially when children are involved. Some people say it's seeing what you want because you were in love. Perhaps that was true in the beginning but, the narcissist will take full on advantage of a good person who keeps forgiving them as well. I am glad you were able to leave and I hope you continue to love yourself and take care of you.

M J

17w

@Pretty Mesha #Hallelujah
Let the healing begin!

M J

17w↑1

@Amber ~j~ For sure, it is literally amusement to the skilled narcissist. Your pain, constant confusion and shock seems to excite them. Unfortunately, I had no idea what a narcissist was back then so I couldn't understand why someone would go through all the trouble of such in depth lies over and over.

M J

17w

@Meredith Mallow Yes absolutely and it's hard to share the stories with others because it's unbelievable the amount of manipulation and secrets that turn up with a narcissist. Thank you for your kind words, it is reassuring knowing other people have been in these horrible, confusing situations too.

Amber ~j~

18w↑1

The worst thing is when they completely know that they are a manipulative narcissist and actually pride them selves on being able to lie and deceive their way through life

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Erica Westbrook

24w↑7

Married for 10 years and this was the cycle. I chose to break it for my kids and it was the hardest decision of my life. Beautiful song. A friend shared and it hit home.

Sarah Zolman

19w

I can relate… Married for 10 years as well, signed paperwork on our 10 year anniversary actually. But it was time, long overdue actually. 5 affairs is enough to damage someone beyond repair. Wouldn’t wish this on anyone. 💔

Megan

12w

Love the music you put out! ❤️❤️

Leela Loveless

18w↑3

I have never related to a song so much before and I’ve never commented on a YouTube video ever before, but I just wanted you to know that this song is amazing and thank you for it ❤️

Heather Cummings

14w↑2

thank you for writing this song, every word reaches my soul. I finally made the decision to stand up for myself. after of 6 years of lies in a 13 year marriage, being told over and over its all in my head when its not takes a toll on u, makes u 2nd guess yourself, needing that approval and feeling guilty when u do something for yourself.

sara stefanides

12w

This song brings me to tears everytime!! Love this song ...it's so amazing ..thank you for this

StarGazer123

13w↑1

I was with a Narcissist for many years and it nearly destroyed me. I ended up moving to get away from that person and their flying monkeys. It is sad and disheartening to see how many other people have had to go through it. On the other hand it makes me happy to see how many people got away from it. Love to those that survived the Narcissist!

Bosse Boss

21w↑2

Thank you for this incredible song. After 4 years as married and now I trying again to leave her. After started to go and talk with a psychology my eyes is starting to opening again. This time I will not go back, this time I will be stronger for my daughter and be as good father as I can, it will be a hard time but the future will show me the world again in its true colours ❤️

Keith Plaisted

24w↑7

This song hit me deep to the core with my whole life.. I'm not the issue only the enabler..

Kristine Tindell

15w↑1

Exactly where I am right now! This song literally says exactly how it is… 💞
Your words are truly amazing and will help many women! Thank you 🥰

Marisa M

21w↑3

Wow...thank you for this song. Been married for 16 yrs to a covert narcissist, and fighting Lyme disease at the same time. Had to almost die to leave, but it saved me from him. God bless you, and all those affected by narcissists. May we keep striving to heal 💗🌷.

Ellie Hunt

I’ve been so unhappy in my relationship for such a long time and the day I left this song played when I got to my friends house, it will forever be my song 🖤I felt in that moment that this song was made for me

Jambony Figeroa

12w

This is great, I’m going to try to learn this one on guitar myself.

Jaidhe Lyon

39w↑510

This song hit deep. I was called all those crazy and overdramatic. And I'm literally sitting here with tears in my eyes because it hits so hard. I love this song.

Steven Foster

33w↑1

@Tricia Wilcox everyone deserves better things dear❤️

Tricia Wilcox

34w

Me too sweetie. We all deserve better

Steven Foster

34w↑1

It really hit very deep ,exactly when you have someone who loves and cared for you ,as for me i have one who love and cared for me, but now she is no more and i got no one to shared my love and secrets with ,and whenever I listen to this song it reminds me of our memories .with my beloved wife..❤️

Steven Foster

34w

@Kyle Winters alot of people are going through alot ,like me am actually going through alot of hardship since my wife died in an accident

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Kendra Dunn

18w↑2

This song made me cry. It is so beautiful and perfectly describes so much of what I am and have gone through. Thank you for this!

Jennifer Hensel

13w↑4

One of new favorites. Jam out to this everytime it comes on radio. Amazing song!

Tracy Nelson

21w

Thank you for this masterpiece 💜

Stella Aislinn

14w↑1

Thank you so much for this ❤️ Every now and again I come back to this song, and it makes me feel less lonely.

Shaniece Millan

39w↑599

To any girl feeling this way,
Remember who you are.
Look in the mirror
Tell yourself that your the same women you were before him!!

Shaniece Millan

17w

@Ashley Zombik YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

Shaniece Millan

17w

@The Cray Krays Honestly, probably.
And tons of good men have to suffer for those mistakes and it’s unfortunate.
But there WILL BE a man one day that comes into our lives that will make us completely comfortable with being loved and doing it in return!

The Cray Krays

17w

What if it's cuz of your dad?

Holly Stevens

17w

It’s not always the man. I abused my boyfriend for 3years till he was suicidal. I then cheated and ignored him while with another guy. I done everything in this song too him. I just hope I can find a nasty hood boy who will abuse me. It excites me wen I’m treated badly. Manipulation is my main purpose of relationships. If you can’t manipulate you’ll never get what you want

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Yani Teli

The lyrics hits home!!! Thankyou for this song ❤️🌻

Angie Kelley

13w↑2

Literally still healing myself and my son even after being away from my ex ( the narcissist ) for 3 years. This song shook my soul. Love it.

Gdonisblue

14w

The most difficult hurtful experience I’ve ever lived through. Thank you for this song!

Tempestt Mona

23w↑2

@Avery Anna I just found your song, I absolutely love it so relatable definitely for me, hearing the words, kind of make me realize that I wasn't crazy it wasn't in my head, I was getting treated. Wrongly and so beautiful, and just the words in the melody, and the flow of it is everything, thank you so much for creating it written it and singing 👏🏿👑❤

Heidi Lee

34w↑269

I had never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until after I left my ex a couple months ago and once I started doing some research on it I was completely shocked to find that I have been living it for the last two years - They have a name for that! This song hits so hard, and this is a subject that needs to be talked about so much more in our society. Abuse is not always physical. Thank you for sharing 💕

Christian Hoye

23w↑1

YES ! I didn’t know what a Narcissistic abuse was until after I left my sons after after 2 years. This song hits home. It definitely described everything he’s said to me. I never knew abuse wasn’t only physical until afterwards.

Crystal Edenfield

23w↑4

same. I never had a name for it. Once I named it, I couldn't unsee it.

AlohaBeaches81

23w↑5

Everything you just mentioned is what I just learned after 10 years of ongoing physical emotional and high intentions of physical ways how he damaged me on narcissistic ways I never knew. I’m damaged and wish I knew what I know now.

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Jennifer Baker

22w↑2

This song is my life currently... thank you for making me feel I'm not alone... !

NM7379 M

16w↑1

I just found this song and I so relate! Just added this to my playlist! So good! ❤️

emrymarie

12w↑1

Hold this song close to my heart was with someone for 8 years just hoping everything would be better but never did all the lies the betrayal this song hit home for me

Michael Roberts

24w↑2

This song is amazing and makes me realize my worth and how I was being treated thank you!!

Mariëtte Quint

39w↑296

The sentences "Out of touch with my feelings" and "I don't even like me anymore" sum up my struggle everyday. They reflect the struggle after dealing with myself after his behaviour and what I was left with. They reflect the multiple times he hit me, he messed up my emotions, he used my insecurities to hurt me, he left me in tears and I felt ashamed when he said "You're overreacting". I feel free, however it still has an effect on my day to day life. Hopefully there will be a day when I'm proud of who I am today. Thankyou for writing this song and putting my feelings into words.

CynthiaMayo

30w

I've been out for a year and a half and still it's an almost daily struggle. I just want to feel like a normal person again. This is a long and painful journey.

Onlyluvisreal

34w

@Jacey 16 thank you. A lot of people are hurting and every little nudge is valuable.

Onlyluvisreal

34w

Do the work. Healing is important after this nightmare.

Bri B

35w↑1

@Haley Pitts I could use one too...it's definitely gets lonely being with a narc

Bri B

35w

@lien van der meijden same...I hate that I don't recognize the person I am now. I wouldn't wish this life on my worst enemy.

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Jeff Nelson

Creating a presentation for youth on Narcissism in relationships. I am using this song to open the presentation. This is too perfect. Thank you for creating this amazing song. You've opened the door to have these conversations. Hopefully no one else will be victim to Narcissistic Abuse.

Lareina Rodriguez

18w

Wow thank you for this song!!!! This really hit my heart. I deal with it everyday!!!!

Jaybird Brown

12w↑1

Absolutely XLNT, I totally love it! (Reminds me of a Dark Cloud that hung over my daughter for 12 years😏) Ya gotta love YouTube when they throw gems like this in your path! Another 'treasure' to add to my 'chest' of music. Thanks especially to Avery Anna! - Love your voice, love the lyrics. New fan of yours! - gonna Share and Sub now!✌️😊

Olivia Correll

11w↑1

Wow...just wow... I left my abusive baby daddy 2 years ago and songs like this still hit just as hard as the day I ran.

Hood Priestess Philosophy

39w↑401

A lawyer I was speaking to about my ex called him a Narcissist. It was very validating. Remember, as you're leaving a Narcissist, to include as many healthy people in your journey as possible. After spending years or decades being called crazy, being seen, understood, and validated is such a gift.

Hood Priestess Philosophy

31w

@ANICA RUDMAN 🖤🖤🖤

Hood Priestess Philosophy

31w

@Hannah Brett it really messes with your sense of reality! I wish you well on your healing journey. You deserve the best treatment from anyone in your life. 🖤

P R

33w↑2

It’s not a “gift”, finally hearing your worth is WHAT YOU DESERVE. Abuse is hard to recover from. You deserve all the good things you didn’t get in this abusive situation

Ila Dawn Smith

33w↑1

Thanks for the advice!

ANICA RUDMAN

33w↑4

Narcissists love “labelling” the victims. It is nice to hear someone putting a label on them… it set me free for all the labels that became so heavy. It took me years, but I am free and can help others in the same situation.
Amazing song!

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Aimmee Truong

22w↑1

This song is phenomenal! For anyone who feels the slightest fear of the unknown when it comes to leaving a relationship behind, I can promise you your life is better leaping into the unknown vs. sitting in the same cycle with a narcissist. I look at how far I’ve came, the man I met while dealing with the fear of “meeting” another narcissist, the beautiful life we’ve built and I’m forever grateful of how far I’ve come. A new home, finished my college degree, had a wonderful daughter and started a new career. I know if I stayed 7 years ago, I’ll probably be dead by my ex’s hands.

Kellie Bush

13w↑2

Wow 🙏🏽 you girl are amazing & have put every dark painful truth into lyrics ❤️❤️ thank you 🙏🏽 from my damaged soul to yours xox this ☝🏽 will now be my song 🎶 to keep me alive, strong & believing in my path out of this nightmare 🤞🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Tiffany Rodriguez

@Avery Anna wow this song is so amazing! 🙌🏽🥰❤️🎼. Only someone who has dealt with a real narcissist could describe it so well! Thank you for sharing this beautiful work! May God Bless you and your career!

Olivia wilkins

23w↑1

This song means so much to me, thank you for writing it. I was with a narcissists for 5 years and it was all abuse. And this song relates mostly with my recovery from it.

Mindy

36w↑357

Finally… FINALLY a song about the things so many of us unfortunately deal with in relationships with Narcs. 💕

Mindy

28w↑3

@Timayy I’m am not anymore. I left, but it was after a very painful 5 years. But people who aren’t educated on Narcissism do not know what they are getting themselves into in the beginning and don’t know that Narcs can’t change.

Timayy

28w

Why you in a relationship with a narc lol

RestingInJesus

28w↑2

Finally 🤍

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Katherine Myers

22w↑1

Love this from the first time I heard this.. SO, so true. Your voice is amazing also~

Leah Huser

18w↑2

This reminds me of my dad. I was taken away by the state. It's been 12 years and I still live everyday feeling like I'm crazy.

Cindy Crawford

25w

I recently discovered her & she has an amazing/beautiful voice! ❤

Kim Verba

"I don't even like me anymore". Wow!! Such a powerful lyric that hit right to the core....

Jenny Stiglet

39w↑136

To add to all the other comments on here...yes this song hit home for me too. I was in a 4 year relationship with a narc. Let me give a piece of advice to anyone reading this: you can't fix him/her. No matter who they are. The damage done to them is irreparable. The only thing you CAN do: RUN. Run as hard and as fast as you can in the OPPOSITE direction. And NEVER EVER look back. Because as soon as you do he/she will ensnare you again. And then they know they've got you. So listen to your gut. Watch for the red flags. Trust your instincts. And RUN.

Pamela Berry

30w↑1

💯facts!!!LOVE YOURSELVES AND GET OUT!!!!

Jenny Stiglet

34w

@Gregory Lowthorp Indeed.

Gregory Lowthorp

34w↑1

Right

Dawn Walsh

35w↑5

Anyone who identifies with this song, RUN don't walk out of the relationship you're in period. don't waste 20 something years of your life like I did.
You won't fix them, your love won't be enough... not because you're not enough, not because you don't deserve it, because they are incapable of incapable of real love and will never give you what you deserve.

Darlene Boling

38w↑3

I moved out of state for 3 yrs, then returned. Best thing i did for myself. I ran, and ran and ran 1200 miles.

Liliana V

15w↑1

This song is so powerful. Thank you so much for sharing Avery!! 🤍🤍

Faithe St. Clair

15w

This was breathtaking. Everything i needed to hear right now. 🙏💕😭

sapphire steel

24w

I am in this now. It's agony. This song is my comfort, my validation. Thank you. Xx

Miss Gigi

23w

Wow. This song is special 🙏🏼 thank you for putting so much feeling into words and a song that is empowering. #healed

Έλα Εlίzαbετh

38w↑160

I needed this 2 years ago.. 💔
All I can say is it gets so much better once you finally LEAVE, you’re not alone you’re not crazy and you’re not stupid for loving someone who’s incapable of love - yet so capable of destroying your worth. They won’t change, I promise. You can however change your reality and walk away, for your own peace and happiness 🕊
What a beautiful song. It def says it all..

Jacqueline Kempf

25w

@Έλα Εlίzαbετh Thanks you ❤

Έλα Εlίzαbετh

27w↑1

@HazelQueen 💗 💗 💗
You’re incredibly strong, you should feel so proud for knowing and honouring your worth!
An abundance of blessings are about to unfold, & you absolutely deserve the best..
Never allow anyone to dim your light, you’re deserving of someone who cherishes you & all that you bring to this world.
🥰

Sending u love!
x

HazelQueen

27w↑1

Your Beautiful words have just showed me the light of the relationship that I’ve been and still am in for 7 years. Thank you for showing me that I need to leave and break free. ❤️🙏🏻

Jacqueline Kempf

27w↑1

@Έλα Εlίzαbετh your right

Έλα Εlίzαbετh

27w↑2

@Jacqueline Kempf
I think the fact that you’re here, relating to this song & the comments, says a lot..
I think you need to trust your intuition more 💗
Do what’s right for YOU.
x

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Jane Davis

15w

What an amazing song! Thank you so much for writing it and singing it! Hah! Your ex will probably want all the credit.😄

Jenna Heguys

24w↑1

Thank you for writing this beautiful song it touched me in so many ways as other people you have great talent and a great voice keep it up girl and keep speaking from the heart xo

Brooke Kerr

25w

Thank you for this . You were able to put what I had in my head towards my baby daddy into words . Your voice is beautiful

Stephanie Sullivan

18w↑1

As a survivor of domestic violence and from loving a narcissist. I needed this.

Tawana Sandoval

37w↑216

Made me cry. After 4 years of dealing with my now ex. I now know....this is him, how he made me feel, always walking on egg shells when I was with him, when I talk to him, when I text him, when I went somewhere before his approval. Literally, listening to this, my heart dropped to my stomach and made me feel sick all over again, I got scared but at the same time I now know what and who he is. Idk if I make sense but I'm just happy I left.

Christy Hausner

12w↑1

Thank you for this comment because this is how I feel 100% now I know I’m not alone and I am NOT crazy someone else is going through it as well.

Ashley King

27w↑1

I hear you sweetie. You make perfect sense to me. Even when "They" wanted us to sound Looney. In the end they are the Crazy One!! Sending big hugs & many prayers. ☺️

Cindy Taylor

27w↑1

Me too talked to a scammer for 6 mths.

Emma Poindexter

28w↑2

Oh honey I’m sobbing reading this…. I got out of 4 years myself and this comment sums my situation up. I’m engaged now and haven’t felt the way I felt back then… I’m happier then ever and I’m so glad I got out.

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Sherry Dalesandro

Wow. I want to add a few verses of my own to this. So poignant. “I don’t even like me anymore” hit home very hard. Im so glad I am out the other side. Almost 18 years of hatred and torture and nastiness and sick twisted malevolent evil. I like myself again. I hope you do too. It isn’t an easy road to walk down when someone has so badly clipped your wings.

Allie Carlson

11w

I’m only twelve but I understand your songs and it makes me feel more connected to music and my family. I hope I can be like you one day 🙂 thanks for being such a good role model