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At Seventeen
Janis Ian Lyrics


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I learned the truth at seventeen
That love was meant for beauty queens
And high school girls with clear-skinned smiles
Who married young and then retired

The valentines I never knew
The Friday night charades of youth
Were spent on one more beautiful
At seventeen I learned the truth

And those of us with ravaged faces
Lacking in the social graces
Desperately remained at home
Inventing lovers on the phone

Who called to say, "Come dance with me"
And murmured vague obscenities
It isn't all it seems
At seventeen

A brown eyed girl in hand-me-downs
Whose name I never could pronounce
Said, "Pity, please, the ones who serve
They only get what they deserve"

And the rich-relationed hometown queen
Marries into what she needs
With a guarantee of company
And haven for the elderly

Remember those who win the game
Lose the love they sought to gain
In debentures of quality
And dubious integrity

Their small-town eyes will gape at you
In dull surprise when payment due
Exceeds accounts received
At seventeen

To those of us who knew the pain
Of valentines that never came
And those whose names were never called
When choosing sides for basketball

It was long ago and far away
The world was younger than today
When dreams were all they gave for free
To ugly duckling girls like me

We all play the game, and when we dare
To cheat ourselves at solitaire
Inventing lovers on the phone
Repenting other lives unknown

They call and say, "Come dance with me"
And murmur vague obscenities
At ugly girls like me
At seventeen

Overall Meaning

Janis Ian's "At Seventeen" is a poignant reflection on the pain and loneliness that often accompanies adolescence. The song opens with the narrator recalling her own naivety about love at the age of seventeen. She believed that it was only meant for the "beauty queens" and "high school girls with clear-skinned smiles". The sad reality dawns on her as she realizes that she does not fit into these categories, and her lack of beauty kept her from receiving affection from her peers. She mourns her lost youth, reminiscing about Friday night charades of her youth, where coming second or third did not matter.


The second verse dives deeper into her feelings of loneliness and desolation. She speaks of "inventing lovers on the phone", and how it's "not all it seems at seventeen". She also mentions other "ravaged faces, lacking in the social graces" who were like her and were left behind when the beautiful youth of her high school days moved on to find love elsewhere.


The closing verse shows that even those that seem to have won the game also play another game where they cheat themselves at solitaire, and they ultimately realize that they too feel lonely and empty. The song is a poignant reflection on the pain of wanting love and not receiving it, and the alienation that can come with adolescence.


Line by Line Meaning

I learned the truth at seventeen
At the age of seventeen, I realized the harsh truth about love


That love was meant for beauty queens
Love is only meant for those who are physically attractive


And high school girls with clear-skinned smiles
Only high school girls who look perfect with spotless skin deserve love


Who married young and then retired
Only those girls who settled down at a young age get to enjoy love


The Valentines I never knew
I never got any Valentine's Day greetings or gifts


The Friday night charades of youth
The games we used to play on Friday nights during our young age


Were spent on one more beautiful
All the games and events were only to make the prettiest girl feel more special


At seventeen I learned the truth
I realized the hard reality of the love game at the age of seventeen


And those of us with ravaged faces
People like me who have unattractive faces


Lacking in the social graces
Those who don't have manners or social skills


Desperately remained at home
Stayed at home alone with no one to love


Inventing lovers on the phone
Pretending to have lovers who call on the phone to talk romantic things


Who called to say, "Come dance with me"
The imaginary lover would ask me to go for a dance with them


And murmured vague obscenities
Told some vague, indecent things in a low voice


It isn't all it seems
It's not at all how it looks like from the outside


At seventeen
All these thoughts and incidents happened with me at the age of seventeen


A brown-eyed girl in hand-me-downs
A brown-eyed girl who is wearing clothes handed down from someone else


Whose name I never could pronounce
I could never pronounce her name correctly


Said, "Pity, please, the ones who serve
The girl pleaded to show mercy to those who serve and do housework


They only get what they deserve"
They only get what they are worthy of


And the rich-relationed hometown queen
The hometown queen with influential family background


Marries into what she needs
She marries someone who can fulfill her needs


With a guarantee of company
She gets married for the sake of companionship


And haven for the elderly
A place for her to stay when she grows old


Remember those who win the game
We need to remember that those who win the popularity contest lose real love


Lose the love they sought to gain
They lose the true love they wanted to find and experience


In debentures of quality
They lose love in financial securities that they thought to be quality


And dubious integrity
They lose love in deceitful and dishonest behavior


Their small-town eyes will gape at you
People from small towns will be surprised to see the sad reality of love


In dull surprise when payment due
They will be shocked to learn about the bitter consequences after the love game ends


Exceeds accounts received
When the effort they made in the love game doesn't match the rewards they receive


At seventeen
All this while I was just seventeen, too young to understand even the basic facts about love


To those of us who knew the pain
People like me who experienced the pain of not getting love


Of valentines that never came
People who never got a Valentine's Day gift or card from anyone


And those whose names were never called
People who were never chosen or their names never got called in any activities


When choosing sides for basketball
When groups were forming or picking sides for basketball or any other games


It was long ago and far away
Now, those things happened a long time back and far away from where I am currently


The world was younger than today
During that time, the world was completely different than what it is today


When dreams were all they gave for free
During those times, dreams and desires were the only things that you could get for free


To ugly duckling girls like me
To all the not-so-attractive girls like me who didn't fit the beauty standards at that time


We all play the game, and when we dare
We all become a part of the love game, and when we hope for more


To cheat ourselves at solitaire
We trick ourselves while playing alone


Inventing lovers on the phone
We create imaginary lovers whom we talk to on phones


Repenting other lives unknown
We regret having a different life, a life that we have never lived


They call and say, "Come dance with me"
Our imaginary lover calls and invites us to dance


And murmur vague obscenities
Our imaginary lover whispers unclear and indecent words in our ears


At ugly girls like me
All these incidents have happened with me since I wasn't conventionally pretty and failed to be a part of the beauty pageant culture


At seventeen
All these thoughts and incidents happened with me at the age of seventeen




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Written by: Janis Ian

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S N Smith

At Seventeen
Janis Ian
I learned the truth at seventeen
That love was meant for beauty queens
And high school girls with clear skinned smiles
Who married young and then retired
The valentines I never knew
The Friday night charades of youth
Were spent on one more beautiful
At seventeen I learned the truth
And those of us with ravaged faces
Lacking in the social graces
Desperately remained at home
Inventing lovers on the phone
Who called to say "come dance with me"
And murmured vague obscenities
It isn't all it seems at seventeen
A brown eyed girl in hand me downs
Whose name I never could pronounce
Said: "pity please the ones who serve
They only get what they deserve"
The rich relationed hometown queen
Marries into what she needs
With a guarantee of company
And haven for the elderly
So remember those who win the game
Lose the love they sought to gain
In debitures of quality and dubious integrity
Their small-town eyes will gape at you
In dull surprise when payment due
Exceeds accounts received at seventeen
To those of us who knew the pain
Of valentines that never came
And those whose names were never called
When choosing sides for basketball
It was long ago and far away
The world was younger than today
When dreams were all they gave for free
To ugly duckling girls like me...
We all play the game, and when we dare
We cheat ourselves at solitaire
Inventing lovers on the phone
Repenting other lives unknown
That call and say: "come on, dance with me"
And murmur vague obscenities
At ugly girls like me, at seventeen



dskyyksd

I was in your shoes when I was 28. I am now 57 and kicking myself every day for not appreciating what I did have back then: FREEDOM.

Men compete for women with skills and resources. Use all that free time and money you're not spending on a woman now to improve yourself. Take the time to appreciate the things in life that are democratic, like nature and travel. You may think traveling alone is a bore, but you'll never be able to go where you want to go and see what you want to see like you can when you don't have to compromise with someone.

In short, make the most of it. Think of it as an opportunity you wouldn't get if you were rich and good looking because you wouldn't be able to stay out of trouble with women. We're men. We can't help ourselves. Once we have the attention of the ladies, we're gonna do what we're gonna do.

And seriously, if you don't have a pet, get one, and preferably one that you can travel with. Most all of the motel chains allow pets now.

I'd give anything to be 28 again with no prospects of romance and all the baggage that comes with it.



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Mark Romney

I’m a guy and was 17 when this was a hit in 1975 and really related to it. Played some sports in high school but was still an outcast with many personal family problems at home. Great song! Be kind to everyone and reach out to those who need it most. We ALL know who those people are.

chejlr

Me too I graduated in 76, I was poor, unattractive and unwanted. To this day it still pains me.

rachel Garcia

It's such a crime against a tender school kid: We all know who's languishing socially.

PJ Hey

Me too! I was 15 in 1975 and it was all so horrible. I wish with all my heart that those of us here posting and others had found each other to take the pain away. Sending love to all the outcasts 💕💕💕💕

slc2466

Yep, any outcast can relate strongly to this classic, so just about everyone at some point in their lives can.

Ston

1975 ! We'll never have another year like it, musically.

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Robert Cline

I was 17 when this came out. Oddly my mother REALLY identified with the song. She was not a popular girl in high school, and (I think) wanted very desperately to be. She had tremendous numbers of friends as an adult though. Her sparkling personality and love for people shined through once adult life took over. Isn’t it tragic how many of us let social setbacks in high school curtail our growth? While others, who were popular in high school often have an inflated ego for ever for outdated and often unimportant reasons.

David Martin

Well said...

Carolyn King

I'm glad life got better for your mother when she got away from high school.

Maureen

LOL the "populars" in HS so often go nowhere in life, while the "fringies" bloom successfully. Karma.

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