If
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Don't you take it personal
If I don't do all the things that I used to do (to you)
I ain't mad at you
If you get to feeling stressed up in your chest
Thinking that you about to lose
(Baby its true)
And if you losing out on sleep
This how it be
If you don't know
Now you know you're gonna miss (my love)
And I ain't stressing bout a dog gone thing
'Cause I was true when I gave you (my love)
If you search you will never find another love like (my love)
You're gonna miss me
I ain't got time while you sit around and play with my (my love)
If you think I caught a feeling
When I heard about that other chick (no)
I already knew about it
I just needed time
Just to clear my mind
And ask myself
(why I didn't handle him)
If you would've taken care of home
Instead of leaving me alone
(I) still would be right there with you
Taking care of you
Instead of loving you
Like I used to do
If you don't know
Now you know you're gonna miss (my love)
And I ain't stressing bout a dog gone thing
'Cause I was true when I gave you (my love)
If you search you will never find another love like (my love)
You're gonna miss me
I ain't got time while you sit around and play with my (my love)
There once was a time
I blamed myself for what was wrong
(I can see so clearly now because you are gone)
That's how I spent all my time when you weren't home
(Playin' around with them raggedy heffers)
There'll be no more stressing
No more crying no more trying
I would rather be alone
(Id rather be all by myself yeah)
'Cause this valuable heart of mine
Was yours until I realized finally opened my eyes
You see ladies
I know I know better
What was I thinking?
He gon' miss me when I'm gone
If you don't know
Now you know you're gonna miss (my love)
And I ain't stressing bout a dog gone thing
'Cause I was true when I gave you (my love)
If you search you will never find another love like (my love)
You're gonna miss me
I ain't got time while you sit around and play with my (my love)
The song "If" by Destiny's Child illustrates a relationship where the woman is trying to find her worth and shift the power dynamics in the relationship. The first verse speaks of a situation where the woman is not as attentive to her partner's needs as before. She asserts that it is not personal, and she is not angry with her partner. The second verse explains that the woman knows about her partner's infidelity, but she needed time to clear her mind and understand why she did not handle him. The chorus is a warning that her partner will miss her love and never find another one like it. The last verse shows the woman's realization that her partner did not value her as much as she valued him, and she deserves better than staying in a stressful relationship.
The lyrics in "If" by Destiny's Child are empowering for women, as they highlight the importance of self-worth and self-respect. The song resonated with many women who could relate to being taken for granted in their relationships. The song was a massive hit for Destiny's Child, and it won a Soul Train Lady of Soul Award for Best R&B/Soul Single by a Group, Band, or Duo.
Line by Line Meaning
If I don't pick up the phone like I used to (for you)
If I don't answer your calls like I did before
Don't you take it personal
Don't feel offended
If I don't do all the things that I used to do (to you)
If I don't treat you in the same way
I ain't mad at you
I'm not angry with you
If you get to feeling stressed up in your chest
If you feel anxious or overwhelmed
Thinking that you about to lose
Thinking that you're going to lose me
(Baby its true)
(It's true)
And if you losing out on sleep
And if you can't sleep
On worrying about me
Because you're worrying about me
This how it be
That's just how it is
If you don't know
If you don't realize
Now you know you're gonna miss (my love)
You will miss my love now that I'm gone
And I ain't stressing bout a dog gone thing
And I'm not worrying about anything
'Cause I was true when I gave you (my love)
I was sincere when I loved you
If you search you will never find another love like (my love)
You won't find another love like mine
You're gonna miss me
You will miss me
I ain't got time while you sit around and play with my (my love)
I don't have time for you playing with my love
If you think I caught a feeling
If you think I got emotional
When I heard about that other chick (no)
When I found out about the other woman (no)
I already knew about it
I already knew beforehand
I just needed time
I just needed some time
Just to clear my mind
Just to think things through
And ask myself
And question myself
(why I didn't handle him)
(why I didn't deal with him)
If you would've taken care of home
If you had taken care of our relationship
Instead of leaving me alone
Instead of leaving me by myself
(I) still would be right there with you
(I) would still be with you
Taking care of you
Taking care of you
Instead of loving you
Instead of being in love with you
Like I used to do
Like I did before
There once was a time
There was a time
I blamed myself for what was wrong
I thought it was my fault for everything that went wrong
(I can see so clearly now because you are gone)
(Now that you're gone, I can see things more clearly)
That's how I spent all my time when you weren't home
That's how I spent my time when you weren't around
(Playin' around with them raggedy heffers)
(Messing with other women)
There'll be no more stressing
There won't be any more worry
No more crying no more trying
No more tears, no more effort
I would rather be alone
I'd rather be by myself
(Id rather be all by myself yeah)
(I'd rather be all by myself, yeah)
'Cause this valuable heart of mine
Because my heart is valuable
Was yours until I realized finally opened my eyes
Was yours until I finally opened my eyes and saw the truth
You see ladies
You see, ladies
I know I know better
I know better
What was I thinking?
What was I even thinking?
He gon' miss me when I'm gone
He will miss me when I'm gone
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner/Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: KELENDRIA ROWLAND, JUANITA WYNN, CHUCK JACKSON, MARVIN YANCY, DANA STINSON, BEYONCE KNOWLES, MICHELLE WILLIAMS, T. BLACKS, SHANNELL IRVING
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@glennhosick1514
Dearest jen999
I to for a long time
Have absolutely loved...&...adored this beautifully scripted poem.
*if* by Mr Rudyard Kipling.
As your husband also surely did.
..
I'm so sorry/saddened
By your loss jen.
within both your husbands life..&..love.
I know from your words!
The son you both gifted to life
is the illuminating inspiration of both your loves..&..life
shared together!!
.&.
Will help you advance forward
Through your darkest hours.
On your journey with he by your side.
.&.
The love... memories..laughter..
Adventures shared.
Locked within your ❤..&..soul!!
Will gift you a Strength..&..courage from the universe jen.
@Praise___YaH
Guys, HERE is The Savior
HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH”
YaH is The Heavenly Father
YaH is Who Created “Man (Adam)”
YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING
YaH was Who they Crucified for the sins OF “Man”
** NO female involved WHATSOEVER **
— Hebrew Book of Isaiah
Isaiah 42:8
"I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols.
Isaiah 43:11
I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me.
Isaiah 45:5
I am YaH, and there is none else.
@Praise___YaH
Guys, HERE is The Savior
HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH”
YaH is The Heavenly Father
YaH is Who Created “Man (Adam)”
YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING
YaH was Who they Crucified for the sins OF “Man”
** NO female involved WHATSOEVER **
— Hebrew Book of Isaiah
Isaiah 42:8
"I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols.
Isaiah 43:11
I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me.
Isaiah 45:5
I am YaH, and there is none else.
@timacoata7456
My dad, gave this poem to me for my 12th birthday . I wasn’t to thrilled being 12 getting a poem on a plaque, but it was from my dad who I looked up to. Seven months later he was killed in Vietnam on his second tour. After I was told by my mom I cried till I couldn’t cry anymore and walked to my drawer removed the poem from its box and put it on my wall . I’ve never taken it down and have tried to live up to those words . Thanks dad.
@yesterdayitrained
I am so sorry- your father was truly a loving man.
@timacoata7456
@M&M ❤️
@freebird7017
More father in 12 years than others have in a lifetime. Sorry for your loss. 😔
@lisas2538
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. He sounds like a good man. What a sweet story. Thank you for sharing.
@timacoata7456
@Lisa S From Ohio thank you . He was a tough guy with a good heart . I think he new his profession, at the time, was literally minute by minute. I believe he wanted leave me a guidebook in case he wouldn’t be there to finish the task of raising me . This poem covers just about all we need to know to do what’s right in life. Thanks for your post 🇺🇸
@brendamichaelides3817
My dad lived by this poem. He taught my sisters and I to the same. I still tear up when I hear it … miss you dad 😢
@timothydraper3687
I only have my Dad around now, somehow there's a stillness to fathers if we're lucky, a reassuring presence. I'm sure you've absorbed a lot of your own's wisdom without realising it, if he was the kind to teach you this poem.
@cleocatra9324
It applies to anyone male or feminine
@tombryan1
If you can listen and not tear up