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赤い風船あの娘はどこの娘こんな夕暮れしっかり握りしめた赤い風船よなぜだかあの手をするりとぬけた小さな夢がしぼむどこか…

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

Kristina Seitaj

First of all I want to thank you for sharing this so personal information about your battle with depression! Speaking so openly about mental illnes spreads so much light and hope not only to ones who experience something like that but also in society in general.

Ps
We share and the same battle so if I may, I would say that the best advice or better what saved me was self-knowledge, self-improvement and personal development. I watched a tone of videos with that content on youtube, I listend free audiobooks etc. Just Keep Going!

My honest respect and gratitude for your
existence.

Greetings from Greece.

All comments from YouTube:

Mina

3y↑7.9K

It's so weird to read about so many people struggling with a similar thing when you feel so so incredibly alone all the time.

Seasonal-Shadow_4674

3y↑68

that needs a ted talk of its own

Abounding grace

3y↑41

Jesus Loves you, don't give up. He makes all things new.

Mohammad Shatila

3y↑66

That's because everyone has different experiences when it comes to depression and a lot of depressed people are too ashamed of admitting to others that they have depression myself included

E G

3y↑5

That's exactly what I was thinking 😅

L Rose

3y↑3

exactly..

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velvet

3y↑1.7K

It feels even lonelier when some people misunderstand depression as being lazy, and you keep that thought to your inner selves. Those depressed people are already experiencing a lot of difficulties and that just hurts them even more.

Dream Chaser

3y↑32

Damn, why is this so relative. I seriously want to push myself to do extraordinary things but it's really a challenge when I have this.

K M

3y↑32

Especially when it's the people who are supposed to understand and be supportive 🙃

Đoka

3y↑5

I just thought it was laziness that caused me to be like this, but was it not?

호비민hobimin

3y↑12

I never was lazy. I was just too scared to come out of my room and too afraid to meet people.

crazy 8

3y↑1

I felt that like a *stroke*. @4:25

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Meg

3y↑751

I must have watched this at least 20 times at this point. One thing that depression does to you is make you feel so completely unseen, misunderstood... so alien. So to hear someone so eloquently, accurately and almost beautifully describe the experience of depression means absolutely everything. I have since gone on to read and watch everything I can find of Andrew’s. I am very grateful for this talk. It has saved my life. Literally.

Alice Walker

3y↑6

I agree Meg, in times when I've been unwell I find this video so helpful. I hope you're feeling OK today and finding some comfort 💜

ifo lyandi

3y↑4

Remain strengthened Meg.

Life is full of ups and downs but all pass!

deni g

3y↑3

It was very good, and it is also enlightening to read all of the people's replies. There are so many sad people in the World, mainly from being alone and no one caring if they live or die, why are we not uniting to help each other?

roodey75_HUN

Woah. i didn't know that. I have quite a few ood friends, carin family, and life goals, but I still feel alienated from my classmates for example even in a bustling room. Sometimes I have goosebumps, and feel cold just from nothing, and I don't know why.

Andrey Bakalenko

2y↑1

Sending the love your way (heart emoji)

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ProfChaos

3y↑940

the saddest thing about depression is when we try to talk about it to someone else they just ignored and underestimated it, it's no joke

givar df

3y↑27

and they doubt and dont believe it because we're outside seem just like normal people, happy and fun

b 129

3y↑21

It’ll be because some people get a little sad and see a sad piece of music that makes them feel sad for a day, and they say they have major depression, they say that they are severely depressed when they aren’t, it silences real depressed peoples voices and makes people who already find it hard to speak out, even harder, like the boy who cries wolf but it was someone else shouting about a false wolf

Alexandria Geiler

3y↑16

I agree, even worse than being depressed is being depressed and no one believes or even cares. Depression is such an awful fucking illness I would never wish on my worst enemy.

A_

3y↑8

@givar df This! My parents think it's a joke. They're like you're laughing and smiling. You're not depressed, just dramatic and ungrateful 😂😂😂

K

3y↑8

The people around me just start talking about themselves when I try and explain what I'm going through. I don't matter

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mia noel

3y↑677

"There's no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss" THAT HIT HARDER THAN A TRAIN

Cliff Konkle

3y↑4

Face Lift

J Kim

3y↑2

Look up the four noble truths in Buddhism.

Denise McDougal

True

beto

3y↑3

6:57

Razen

3y↑4

It even hits harder than my dad

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known as gablaxy

3y↑180

My mother was struggling with depression most of my upbringing and my family would always act like it was such an inconvenience like such a burden so when I started feeling similar feelings I bottled them up, I never told anyone in my family how much I struggle with being here on this earth, I didn’t wanna be a burden. This video really helped because you explained it so well. Thank you.

Cliff Konkle

3y↑8

How are you doing now?

Moody Copper Inabangan

I am sorry to hear that you had to go through your struggles with depression on your own, and I'm glad to hear that the video was helpful in explaining your experiences. I could not even imagine the challenges you had, especially during the pandemic. It is unfortunate that mental health still faces stigmas and seen as an inconvenience or a burden by some individuals in our community, especially from families, which can make it difficult for those struggling with these conditions to reach out for help.

It takes a lot of courage to open up about your struggles with mental health, and it's understandable that you didn't want to be a burden to your family. However, it is also important to remember that seeking help and support for mental health issues is not a burden, but a courageous and necessary step towards healing and recovery. I encourage you to continue seeking out resources and support that can help you navigate your mental health journey. There are many professionals and organizations dedicated to helping individuals with mental health issues, and you don't have to go through this alone.

Thank you for sharing your story and I admire you for being brave enough to reach out for help.

SaintMichael99

3y↑8.1K

The worst part about having depression is knowing the potential you hold but never being able to muster the energy to use it.

Nathaniel Girma

3y↑42

Listen to Jordan Peterson

Rahul Ramesh

3y↑71

I am in that exact situation right now..........

SaintMichael99

3y↑29

@Nathaniel Girma i do he helps a lot. one of my big inspos

Nova Lard

3y↑5

Same here

T20

3y↑7

U need to rise above it

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Dr Kalsoom

1y↑119

" The opposite of depression is not happiness but vitality" that's so true😞

Noah Richardson

1y↑1

Vitality. I wish I had it

Delaney 🌸

Yes 🙌🏻 they try to tell you you aren’t trying hard enough when that’s all you can do TRY

van

3y↑159

I've watched lots of TED Talks on depression and this is one of the best out there! It's 7 years ago but timeless, really.

bogie

2y↑1

I agree with you. I've watched this video so many times when I'm feeling hopeless or nothing at all. Everytime (for me anyway) it helps. It might sometimes help only a little bit but it helps me.

Mateo Mikulic

3y↑422

We are all dying but when you have depression you can feel every moment of it.Thats the pain you feel.

Lorenzo Catalano

2y↑2

And at the worst point you feel you are a terminal ill person. At least that is what I go through when I relapse

Shaniese Miller

2y↑3

Realization.... its sucks.... it feels as if your stuck..... not enough time... and not knowing if ....

Jonathan Bayud

Same feeling, I feel pain every day ,

Greg Jonson

3y↑128

I once described this feeling to my old therapist:
"It's like someone puts a bucket over your head. You know there's a world outside of the bucket, but you can't even imagine it. All of your consciousness is filled with the bucket, you can only see the darkness and you can only hear the echo of your own voice. It takes some incredible force to get through that veil."

Abijith N G

2y↑2

Well put! :))

mommylibrarian

That is well stated. It reminds me of Sylvia Plath's description of depression as being inside a bell jar.

Amanda Parker

1y↑1

You just described the cave allegory pretty much. Something they teach is psychology classes early on. It's very real. It's all about lifting the bucket little by little or taking that step outside the cave. It may be scary but it will help you on your way to save your life and see the world again. I am thankfully a survivor of MDD. Thought you might appreciate looking into that if you haven't.

somewhat blue

1y↑8

I just want people to know — I’ve watched this video a ton of times over the years, in some very dark places. It saved my life, quite literally. Now, I’m realizing I haven’t had to come back to it in a couple years. I’m in a fantastically healthy relationship with an amazing woman (she bought me a copy of Andrew’s book, actually), I’m in a job that I’m good at and don’t mind doing, I have some good friends, and there are things I love to do in my spare time. It’s mostly small things, but it’s the kind of thing I’d have considered a miracle 5 years ago. So if you’re here in the comments, and you feel like you’ve always been in this state and will always be there, I want you to know that as someone who’s been there too, you’re never too far gone for there to be the possibility of happiness in your future. It might be sneaking up on you right now.

Eddy Westbury

3y↑3.4K

My heart was in my throat the entire video. I’ve never heard anyone describe the feeling of depression so well.

Bruno Almeida

3y↑37

Yeah, it hurts sometime that you can’t speak out like this to explain who ask about something we’re feeling vulnerable to talk.

Tracey H.

3y↑51

I cried in the first three minutes. “You KNOW it’s ridiculous”

Ahtika Halim

3y↑5

So true

Anh Phuong

3y↑9

I've watched it so many times and it still moves me.

RAEtv

3y↑2

Same!

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Brunno Vivone

3y↑56

One of the best talks I saw. He is so compassionate, balanced, and even funny at the right times. Really feel motivated to read his book.

Anthony Nguyen

3y↑101

He speaks and... surprisingly he speaks. It's continuous, never-ending; no thought can flow out of you before his next idea is presented. There is no stutter nor is there a minor inconvenience that can fluctuate our hearing. He is certainly great at speaking.

BasicBGaming

31w

Thank you Andrew! This talk pretty much saved my life. I first watched this video 8 years ago when I was really struggling with exactly what Andrew describes in the first 5 minutes. It helped so much to know I wasn't alone and helped me to change my outlook on life and my mental health. I still come back and watch this video every now and then but now, when I cry, it's happy tears and gratefulness on how far I've come! Thanks again Andrew ❤

Euchrid Eucrow

44w↑1

I don’t really believe in heroes but Andrew Solomon is the closest thing I have to one. An incredible human with an incredible mind, filled with compassion, empathy and a healthy dose of wit. If you haven’t read his books I urge you to do so, they changed my life.

Bao

3y↑40

I'm watching this after having gone through several episodes of depression, a few prescription medications, and I just cry. I can't helping crying watching this because I feel called out, overwhelmed, but also touched and understood. I'm really helpful that someone can describe how depression feels so well, so that people who dont have it can somewhat understand, and for the people who do have it to know exactly what they are undergoing.

Westwood Shadow Gaming

6y↑7.6K

4:04 "The only reason not to kill oneself was so as not to hurt other people"

That is the only thing that has kept me alive for about 8 years.

BoniBon 666

6y↑154

Westwood Shadow I know that feeling buddy

xRiss13

6y↑163

Me too. I am sorry this is your reality and I hope one day you can be happy.

Westwood Shadow Gaming

6y↑157

xRiss13 Thank you. Honestly, it does make me happy to know how happy i made people like my mom, grandparents, and my dog. It does give me a sense of purpose. But, i am also learning to accept myslef for who i am and to treat myself the way i deserve to be treated, and i feel like that's helping.

CredibleCat

6y↑154

I know that feeling well. I was able to find a treatment for myself after ten years of research, without drugs, and with minimal counseling. The key for me was learning to remove people and things that caused me stress. It was hard but given it was either that or killing myself due to the pain, I chose life. I had to want to live and get better each day.
I finally learned to accept myself as the introvert that I am, that there is nothing wrong with me but that society in the US is designed for extroverts and forcing myself to live that way was a major factor for my depression. It is inflammation in the Hippocampus, It is chemical, It is quantum, it is psychological, and it is up to you to become your own counselor, find the tools, and find a way to enjoy the experience that is life.

d Fam ill e Man

6y↑31

Jeremy Jimenez Thank you for sharing these points.

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kriashun

2y↑16

This is not only the best Ted Talk I’ve ever heard, it is the best description of depression!!

melissa harris

3y↑27

This is probably my favorite piece on depression I’ve ever seen. Thank you Mr. Solomon.

Mariya Rosegun

48w

Such a beautiful and humane talk filled with acceptance and empathy.

Sinikiwe Sibisi

3y↑10

As a person who suffers from depression, this makes me feel heard it's like someone completely understands what I've been feeling.

Mariana Telles

2y↑18

This talk helped me a lot to understand my husband ‘s suffering. It was like going inside his psique, so I could simpathize and learn how to deal with his pain…

Mathias DP

8y↑11.3K

I have never seen a man speak about an emotion so clearly and understandably.

Mathias DP

8y↑4

*****
what makes you say that?

Mathias DP

8y↑38

*****
ah in that manner, but don't forget: he's part of the society that you call bullshit. depressed peoples aren't the ones to jump to the opportunity to go on stage...
and he is probably the only one to explain it that well too.

Kristopher Driver

8y↑216

I've never heard depression expressed so eloquently.

boomshroomgoonmoon

7y↑5

You must not read

Leo

7y↑2

How about women?

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André Elias Oliveira

This talk is marvelously beautiful and I again have taken my time to appreciate it. Minute @15:40 until @16:31 is one of the most sticking truths I have ever heard

Bluey Barnes

1y↑1

The best speech “hands down” ever on depression !!

David Uoi

3y↑1

Tive depressão por anos, tenho esquizofrenia e videos como esse me ajuda a seguir em frente, mesmo que seja uma luta em segredo, o final desse vídeo da um quentinho no coração ❤

Plotas

3y↑174

I can say, that I am over depression. My cure was finding out what a depression is, and how it affects me. Knowing how it affects me made me able to prevent the sadness. Depression taught me so much about life and myself. It made ma a wise person. Such a wise person that I no longer feel like I belong to society. Everybody seem so childish and foolish. Now I feel very alienated. I struggle to talk about my emotions, and what I've learned, because nobody understands. They dont know anything.

V Volek

3y↑17

25:48

Dank 280

@V Volek touché

tigmite1

3y↑2

Cognitive Behavior Therapy?

Bastian

3y↑16

Agree... it's like you finally see the truth and you just watch everybody else "play their game"...

Rustbanana

3y↑2

It's almost like coming out of a psychedelic trip.

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Love Aliens

2y↑4

The treatments we have for depression are "appalling" this is very true and heartfelt.

Mushraf Altaf

5y↑1.6K

His memories with depression could be seen through his eyes and heard through his voice.

How he is doing now could be felt through his smile.

Eddie Ortega

4y↑16

incredibly so, I love his smile in a special way

Fedama1891

4y↑8

what a really nice comment

kisslena

4y↑8

He has a beautiful smile and I pray he is doing well through the pandemic. This period is especially difficult for people with depression and anxiety.

DarkDaysInPurple

4y↑1

Brother. I know right? I just started shoving a waterfall down my eyes, as I had explained my experience???

Nate W.

4y↑1

Robin Williams

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ponzopa

3y↑94

the worst thing is when i look into the future 20 years from now and i would ask myself: “Do you regret anything?”. and i know that the answer is “yes everything”. breaks my heart every single time

Sanket Jadhav

3y↑6

That goes through my mind everytime.

Sine Nomine

2y↑3

I look back over the past 20 years and now instead of grief I feel anger. I gladly and willingly accept this anger because I finally feel like I have a voice. The depress med me mute, it folded me in on myself, collapsed my sense of self-worth. I despised who I was while depressed. The anger instead is my speaking up for myself, defending myself. It tells myself of my worthiness of existing. I will not be controlled by my triggers. I will create a new narrative, one that values compassion first and foremost for myself.

dakota root_

49w↑1

Ive been coming back to this video over the past 8 years of my life. Everytime i find myself at my lowest i eventually end up back here. That is always very reassuring for me, because at least once i make my way to here i know the path onward. Andrew Solomon has helped me tremendously throughout my life and im so thankful that he gave this talk.

David Reinish

3y↑16

as someone with major depression and bad anxiety this man rlly described it all this man is 100% right

John L

I have gone thru 4 MDDs since 1973. What a beautiful gift from Andrew Solomon.

Brynjólfur Sandholt

1y↑1

This is the best speech/lecture I have ever seen, it helped me understand my own depression and I watch it every time I am feel the depression coming over me. Thank you so much, I truly believe you saved my life.❤

Kent VanderVelden

6y↑1.7K

Wow, what an absolutely amazing description of depression.

Sang

6y↑7

Yes. It is very real.

maryann Hope

6y↑7

He was getting in my head. Goood job!
An important video

Stormillion

5y↑2

Damn

pookamonsta

5y↑7

ive never see someone so accurately describe what i feel ever day.

KandiBabyy

5y↑6

YES!! && his tone from the VERY BEGINNING had me hooked...I’m 29 years old and have dealt with depression/anxiety/self injury since I was 13.

I forgot the first time I came across this video, but I DO know that it instantly became my favorite speech, spoken word, description, etc regarding depression....

Tyler Smith Music

3y↑42

I suffer from PTSD from childhood, and my time in the military and his acute anxiety he spoke on around 3 mins has been the last two years of my life. I am constantly in fight or flight and feel scared all the time. When I feel any relief I just feel so tired from living on constant edge IF I feel any relief. I’ve used alcohol, weed, hallucinogens, and even my phone to try and combat this and feel some sense of togetherness or love, but now that none of those things are apart of my life I realize how alone we all really are. I’m resilient and will keep trucking on, I just put this here to help maybe just one reader who is struggling realize they aren’t alone.

ian gaita

3y↑7

For everyone reading this just remember these tough times will only stop if we grow stronger... Look at the speaker" Andrew Solomon "he's here talking to us coz he was able to resist suicidal thoughts and kept on pushing even when there was no hope for him... Tough times don't last for ever... Wait for your time to tell everyone how strong you were!!!!!! 💯

S K

41w

This is such an amazing talk by him. What a speaker. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Jennifer Gugger

3y↑9

I found Andrew Solomon and his Ted Talk a couple of years ago. I’ve been suffering since I was an adolescent. When o watched this it felt like coming home. He articulates depression in a way I never knew how. I sent this to my family and close friends and said “this is it, this is me!” It made my heart a little less heavy. I struggle and I always will. You have to accept it and make peace with it and keep fighting.

TY Z

3y↑3

Year after year I keep coming back to this. It soothes me every time, the poignant stories and the funny anecdotes, the terrible truth about dealing with depression and the aftermath of surviving. I have his book 'The Noonday Demon' but have yet to finish it. But the book too have the same conversational unflinching tone as this talk, maybe coz I end up reading it in his voice in my mind haha

wijcik

5y↑1.3K

"Depression is a family secret that we all have". So accurate.

Fast Awake

5y↑9

not accurate, my family secret is herpes, keeps us movin, why am i the only one who seees through this charade. what a whiny exhausting man.

Matok

4y↑3

@Fast Awake my family's secret is alcoholism

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TsarCasm

2y↑9

Reading other people's comments makes me feel that I am not completely alone with these kind of feelings... Thank you guys🙏

Nft

3y↑7

This was absolutely beautiful 🖤💙 this brought more insight into my own battle, and I am working so hard to feel and get better. I will not give up. I will keep pushing because I know inside me there is strength, it is not all gone.

Rafaella Alejandra Palacios Hernández

3y↑10

I've never had cried in a movie as much as I did listening to this video , he explained most of the things going inside my mind when I have a depressive episode in a way I have never been able to explain as Id like to the psychologist I attend. It's amazing to be reminded that this is something that many people of all ages , genders,economical situations around the world fight against everyday sometimes we get beaten,sometimes we win it's exhausting but its not imposible . Small steps and making yourself feel emotions and as human as you are Is so important , i couldn't feel more grateful being able to hear all this experiences and knowledge.

Green Flowers

3y↑1

This talk is amazing. I have a second episode of MDD and it is really hellish, but this guy helps me to think differently about my problem. Wish all of you vitality and happiness💙

Sura Bluma

1y↑1

I did not realize until a few years ago that depression is now considered a potentially life-threatening condition (analogous to diabetes, auto-immune disorders, etc.). In other words, without medication, medical monitoring, and the actions necessary to keep it under control (or iimprove it), it can be directly or indirectly fatal. Solomon is absolutely right: we must make sure people in poverty have access to these things, just as they have access to diabetes and heart medications.

Yolis Bortin

8y↑10.5K

"The opposite of depression isn't happiness, it's vitality": on the list of truest words ever spoken in the world

abcdefg15720

8y↑20

+Yolis Bortin Please help me understand this. I don't understand what he means. I thought happiness and vitality are same?

Jace Westcott

8y↑317

+abcdefg15720 Vitality is a bit more complex than happiness. SImply being happy is being content with where you currently are. Vitality is, by dictionaries definition, the power to live and grow. Vitality is feeling headstrong and ready for the challenges in life. Atleast this is my interpretation.

Godikke

8y↑77

+abcdefg15720 I have had several depressions like he describes it. It is like all the desire to live is sucked out of you. Have you read Harry Potter? It feels like being kissed by a dementor. Not anything you want for anyone at all...

Paul Coddington

8y↑80

+Yolis Bortin Yes. Ironically, you can be depressed while appearing positive and feeling happy, but the problem is more that the part of the brain that effects will is out of action, the transmission of signals throughout the nervous system is out of whack (loss of coordination and phantom shooting pains), memory and concentration are kaput, and there is a mental fatigue which is like being overloaded with too many demands when you are very tired, but in an extreme form to the point where even brushing your teeth is too much to cope with.

57Strudel

8y↑42

+abcdefg15720 No... vitality is not only seeing/knowing the things that make you happy, but having the ability to actually get up and do them. Depression is being devoid of that motivation and energy (among other things) -- which in turn makes you sad in addition to being depressed. People often mistake the term depression to mean sadness, but they are not the same thing at all, although they can overlap. In like fashion, happiness and vitality are related but not the same.

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StopThatTrain

2y↑2

His seminal work on depression, The Noonday Demon, is an incredibly powerful book. In fact, the Goya painting that is shown onstage with him is also the book's cover. It was that cover that prompted me to pick up the book in the first place, and I'm grateful to have done so.

collin

3y↑6

When you have depression, what you need most is to acknowledge it. This can be done autonomously by self aware people or you can be helped to this conclusion by someone who has had depression themselves and are open enough to tell you they had it too and you aren’t alone

Rose Moon

1y↑3

if you are someone who isn't able to feel strong feelings like grief , you close down and suppress it .. this will become depression ...

Charlie Kim

3y↑3

Depression is exhausting and takes up all the energy: I couldn't agree with it more. When I went through the depression, I always felt like I just finished full marathon and had a hard time breathing: I had never thought simple things like eating food, taking a shower could be challenge. I feel so thankful for having some people around me helping me to get back to some type of normalcy. Watching this video made my eyes welled up with tears:

Chris P

2y↑3

What an incredible depiction of so many truths. So eloquently spoken.

Amna Tanveer

4y↑1.3K

I want to give this man a standing ovation.

Simran Nisha

4y↑18

he has a book on depression..
the noonsday demon..
quite well written..read it..

Katelyn Pollard

4y↑2

me too, but I'm only one person:(

R

4y↑1

Technically nothing is stopping you

Mohib Khan

3y↑1

Stand on the top of your building count 1,2,3 then jump

Spongebob Squarepants

3y↑1

@Mohib Khan on the trampoline and have fun!

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Alex Campbell

2y↑10

I’ve come back to this video multiple times over the years during my darkest moments. I’ve shared it with many loved ones so that they have a better understanding of what it is me and so many others are dealing with. Instead of trying to beat my mental illness I have learned how to live with it and it has changed my life immensely. Remember you are never alone 🖤

Kristina Seitaj

ekdud

1y↑1

“I can feel more in fact, because I can feel sadness without nullity” i can’t explain how much this resonated

SalemBeats187

3y↑6

Its kind of comforting hearing that almost everyone has had experiences with depression. I dont feel so alone now, nor do i feel like its something that can overpower me and take over me when alot of people have thrived from this similar feeling of hopelessness. Its not something that only i suffer from but everyone else does too. Together we can all help heal each other ^__^

Kiki Good

1y↑1

I have listened to and shared this so many times and every time I have watched it over the years it means more. This talk has helped save my outlook

Bullakins

8y↑1.9K

This is all too relatable, I actually cried several times while watching it even though I haven't been able to cry in months. We need more speakers like this. The way he talked about depression described it in the best way possible. I wish I could have gone to this TED talk, and that I could've talked with him.

zeroXDXD

8y↑6

me too man, me too

Linda

+Bulla McBullakins :c

John Joe

8y↑1

your right of feel the same !

Henk De Vries

8y↑11

You should read his book! Within 25 pages I was hooked to it, crying, sometimes it filled my head with words to describe what I was/am feeling, other times it took my breath away so I couldn't speak and only feel the words I read. The book is very sad and relatable, but it has something hopeful inside too. And it is beautifully written, with loads of detail but without being slow paced or boring (I read the translated version and it was still very, very beautiful.)

TheHabitman

What is the name of his book?

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rvxvxvx

3y↑5

He described depression so well, I never expected anyone do be able to do that but yet he did, I also didn't expect myself to watch this from beginning to end. I applaud him.

oledilep

3y↑1

The emotion in his voice and the choice of words are very powerful. It's very clear from early on that he has experienced this first hand.

Lavender Gilly

3y↑12

I fight depression. I feel like it's this vast deep blue sea in my mind that I tread water in every day, but sometimes, I give into it. Sometimes, I hope i fall completely into it, because it is a blanket of numbness, stillness - it empties me completely, which is terrifying, but can feel better than the pain.
This man speaks well, and says good things. thank you.

Jackie

1y↑2

Every time I listen to Andrew Solomon I wish I could have him for a friend.

s1lv3r bordeaux

This is without a doubt the best explanation of a condition that is emensly hard to convey to anyone who has not experienced it first hand. I am currently 7 years in (down) of my first relapse, which is already twice as long as my first diagnosed episode. As well have exhausted all available pharmaceutical medication alluded medical assistance with not even the slightest improvement unfortunately. Thank you so so much for this video, from Andy in Nelson New Zealand.

Matthew Doucette

8y↑30

"Depression is not illness, it's insight"... that's a great way to understand it.

Ira

2y↑11

You can always overcome depression if you want to, the tricky part is that it makes you unable to want to do literally anything, it makes you paralyzed and completely helpless

Antara Dey

3y↑10

You know it's depression, when you feel you have no control over yourself, when you feel alienated from yourself, and everybody around you, when you don't know anymore what will bring you peace, when waking up in the morning feels like hopelessness, when you lose track of time and your daily chores, when you sit and stare at the ceiling, at the walls, ruminating over everything, and feeling worthless, when the voices in your head take over the wheel and you lose all control, when self-care feels like an obligation, when showering feels like drowning, when looking at yourself in the mirror feels like you don't know this person anymore, and feel immense hate for that image, when your reality gets disoriented, and the world feels like an illusion, and no reason left to live.

a lost lonely loser

3y↑633

having depression feels like you're literally going insane.

Rudy Louie Tayong

3y↑5

yes you are

above

3y↑3

@Rudy Louie Tayong no u

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3y↑1

uh, no

Judy Frank Barit

3y↑5

I'd say having chronic pain 24/7 is like going insane!

girl who can't be named

3y↑1

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Jaded Chick.

3y↑3

I’m so, moved by Andrew’s words. I saw this video in 2013, and, it has stayed with me throughout the years. I’m thankful he shared his story, he’ll never know how many he has helped.

6ms1s Hassan

3y↑1

“It’s easier to help schizophrenics who perceive that there is something foreign inside of them that needs to be exorcised, but it’s difficult with depressives because we believe that we are seeing the truth” WOW this is so true !
I always keep saying why should I do this or that because we are all going to die in the end & life is meaningless & so on but I’m trying to fight these thoughts everyday.

Vandana Swaraj

5y↑2.7K

If you have never suffered from there's no way you will understand how terrifying it is. People will sympathize but not understand.

Gollum

5y↑43

I do feel depressed, but I like it somehow.

Kenjamin Garnett

5y↑63

@Gollum sadness is addictive

Gollum

5y↑12

@Kenjamin Garnett Indeed!

Arrietty

5y↑30

Gollum crying somehow feels good. Lately it feels like it’s my only friend

Gollum

5y↑6

@Arrietty it's kind of how it is :/

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Irish Patti

Very moving. It is an awful feeling when your large family doesn't understand depression and yet, you survive. You persevere. It is not easy being gaslighted daily; but again one must be strong. The worst are med or dose changes. Those days ought to be paid, valid absences. Lastly, as a medical professional, I have and will always advocate for the patient & attempt to educate the ignorant among us.
Thank you

D Piddy

3y↑8

Lovely man, excellent speaker. Thank you so much for explaining depression so accurately.

shannon ricks

You described depression perfectly I was unable to express how I felt but after listening to your Ted talk I can express this to my Therapist

p0lterg0ist

3y↑2

what an amazing man. The ending was so genuine and heartful, and I felt his tears when he spoke.

ponyphonic

9y↑3.9K

The "lifted veil" feeling is the worst part. Depression feels like an awful clarity, sort of like "why didn't I realize before how pointless life is?" And it's not some subtle suggestion of doubt; it's an overwhelming flood of fear and despair. It's like an emotional suffocation, where even the memory of contentment and happiness is vague and elusive. Sadness doesn't feel like that. Depression is horrifying.

Emilio Santiago Alvarez

9y↑59

I have that same thing going on right now. But let's hang in there and keep on looking for solutions to our problems!

vikiandmarcin

9y↑9

Christian Vallejo
One more thing. When spider, bee.. bites you, you have physical and mental discomfort , same like after bad salad in a restaurant are also symptoms of mental mood. When you have groggy body, lack of necessary ingredients, after junk food, alcohol, cigarettes you have big chance to develop stress and depression ... you're very vulnerable to mental collapse.
Give yourself just two weeks to honestly prove that I'm wrong.
I do not have the benefits from this, just simply I need to give back.
If you manage to do this, it'll save a lot of people.

Emilio Santiago Alvarez

9y↑40

I'm not sure exactly what point you're trying to make. Are you refuting my urge to be optimistic about the situation? If that's the case, then let me remind you that in the video, he said that he was fascinated by the fact that those who seemed to have the worst depression were also the most persistent in finding a solution and took every chance they had to cling to vitality. If someone has a mental illness, then it's understandable why they can't function normally, but they need to still be willing to solve the problem.

qsqua

9y↑112

ponyphonic "why didn't I realize before how pointless life is?"

THIS. This is exactly one of the components of depression.

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twist3dsista

He says so much that I have been trying to find words for my whole life. It made me cry. Just wow! And thank you.

Av iYa

3y↑1

Amazing lecture ...one of the best lectures I've ever heard. God bless you and all the depressed people out there...i wish everyone have a chance to survive and tell their success story like that. I have suicidal thoughts every day and it's a bad struggle....its not even a phase... it's my way of life and it's truly tiring

Amber C

❤❤❤

♛ August ♛

3y↑24

“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality. And it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment.”

Never have I resonated with something so much in my life.

Dulce Flores

Loved how he talked. like a serious monologue but with which you can empathize because you know he knows about what he is talking.

Santiago Carranza

3y↑1

Just remember that you're not alone, there are millions of people in the same position as you, all on the same boat. Just be strong and keep going!

RainAngel111

8y↑1.9K

This is just, so strangely beautiful and therapeutic to listen to.

Esenija Olegovna

Christopher Akridge

Kala Clayton Ha

7y↑1

agreed.

Mahmud

7y↑2

may I please know how this speech could be therapeutic? I couldn't realize that but knowing an explanation would help me. I need to know, in fact. thank you!

ordinaryhuman

7y↑14

When you are depressed, your view on life is obstructed, if not like just watching the inner of your eye and not really connecting, getting stuck in your thoughts.
As he says "the truth lies".
His clear description of his own experiences as well as other experiences — this over a long time to spread — are intense and offer moments to everybody who has suffered from comparable states of mind to identify with.
Maybe his talk somehow triggers you to feel part of "us", "us" who suffer from depression but of whom many fight to get out of it.
I dunno.
This talk is damn helpful, that's for sure.

afifo

agree

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Jeanette de Beer

This is such an inspiring and insightful speech on depression. It is so true!!!!

Alejandra Alvarado

3y↑5

I left my computer playing YouTube, it got me here… I remember this talk, as in a dream, from years back when I was sick, very very sick. I have thanked so many people for my recovery, my doctor, my friends, but you too, Mr. Solomon, you and all those who dare to speak about depression. 🙏🏾 In my opinion, when we talk about our struggles we open the doors for others to speak too.

passenger.

This was really powerful and helping, talking real things, real problems. I hope you and everyone else happy, healthy and enjoyable life. :)

John Finigan

2y↑1

This guy is a great speaker and was fighting back tears; that passion is amazing.

White Rabbit

3y↑1

I really relate to this video. The speaker was incredibly insightful and described depression extremely well. Thank you for sharing. :)

Moonbubbles

6y↑345

This is one of the most profoundly moving and perfectly articulated TED talks I’ve ever seen and perhaps the most comprehensive description of depression and it’s myriad manifestations I’ve ever, ever heard.

Mr. Solomon you are a beautiful, extraordinary man. Thank you for this. More than I can say

Tewai Hohaia

5y↑3

Yes, i agree!

PLain CLothes SPaceman

5y↑1

Totally agree, beautiful soul this man has.

Shang Hunter

It sure was, I sincerely hope you're doing well Laura. Hope you also have a great remaining summer dear.

Paul Juliano

3y↑4

This was so amazing... For 29 minutes i felt as if I was understood for the first time ever.

deni g

Andrew Solomon, you are still bringing relief to people, Thank you for such an eloquent, meaningful and useful talk.

Lopiklop

I'm happy that someone is out there voicing my opinions. In an almost verbatim approach. I feel like I've known this guy my whole life.

Political Wonderland

3y↑15

“The opposite of depression isn’t happiness, it’s vitality” 🤯 truth 💯

Inexternal Records

3y↑2

They clapped so hard at the end for this man and he really deserved it. That was the best round of applauds I've heard at the end of a TED Talk.

Anna C

5y↑984

28:46 "I've found a way to love my depression. I love it because it has forced me to find and cling to joy."

Thank you for your words Mr. Solomon. I am 20 years old and have been to upwards of 6 therapists in 3 years. Yet I am still watching this from my bed, not having moved for days. I was recently hospitalized for a nervous breakdown causing me to take a leave of absence from college. Lately, I have lacked the motivation to even think about going back to school, let alone leave the house. I feel like my life is at a standstill, like someone pressed the pause button, and I am just watching the rest of the world pass me by, one painfully slow day at a time.

Your take on depression is one I have never heard, yet I am so grateful for. Grateful to know I am not alone. Your words have given me the courage to get out of bed today and seek joy. I went for a bike ride for the first time in two years. I actually smiled, and suddenly everything else felt a little less daunting. To anyone reading this, just take the first step. You won't regret it.

Astorrian

4y↑39

Well done...you are a hero!!!! You will grow into the strongest and most empathetic being. Depression is like a bully...face it and it will respect you ... smile when you feel sad and laugh OUT LOUD at yourself, but course you know that already...so young but so wise. Sending you love x

J Chua

4y↑6

Sending you hugs of support <3

Hotdoguy956

4y↑7

I always wanted to go to a therapist but I don't have enough money and I'm too afraid to ask my parents to go there.

Afton A

4y↑3

❤️

Do Li

4y↑3

That was the only part of the talk I detested! I NEVER want to "love my depression". I think that statement was a bunch of crap and actually a copout if you ask me. That's like saying "I've learned to love my heart disease or my kidney failure. Our brains are organs, the same as hearts and kidneys and livers! We should NOT learn to "love" our disease!

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ThePoopmancer

3y↑1

I hope that everyone here is okay. Please be safe and remember that people care about you, even if it may not feel like it sometimes. If you are feeling troubled, maybe professional help is the answer, or talking to a trusted friend about what you are going through. Wish you all the best.

Steven Deitrich

3y↑2

This man had me at every word ! He knows exactly what I feel ! I have been single & alone for 33 years . I miss being loved terribly !

Amber C

3y↑2

❤

King Julien

3y↑4

Listening to him I laughed, I almost cried a lot of times and often sat there with my jaw on the floor. This is one of the best things I ever saw

This Guy

3y↑18

Emotionally, it's like looking through a window, even though you're in the same room. You recognize those emotions, but you don't really remember too well how they feel anymore.

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