How Many Times
Aretha Franklin Lyrics


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You used to tell me you loved me
You used to show me you cared
I used to be the one that you adored
But lately I don't feel you love me no more

You see, I don't understand what's goin' on with you
And I don't understand why I let you treat me so cruel
So tell me

How many times must I break down and cry?
I'm confused
My understanding was true love should never die
How many times will you kill me inside?
Any kind of fool should see the light
So why can't I?

Time after time, I have tried and tried
To give you some space and some time
But no matter what I do it is never enough
You just refuse to try to do by me right

Though I know I still believe
Something's got a hold on me
Can't seem to find the strength to set myself free
So tell me

How many times must I break down and cry?
I'm confused
My understanding was true love should never die
How many times will you kill me inside?
Any kind of fool should see the light
So why can't I?

I gave my heart and soul
I gave my all, you know
I deserve better, baby
Oh so much better, baby
You know it's just not fair
For you to act like just don't care
For you to act like I've done something wrong
Boy, how could you dare

How many times must I break down and cry?
I'm confused
My understanding was true love should never die
How many times will you kill me inside?
Any kind of fool should see the light
Why can't I?
How many times must I break down and cry?
I'm confused
My understanding was true love should never die
How many times will you kill me inside?
Any kind of fool should see the light
But why can't I?





You're wrong, you know it

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to "How Many Times" by Aretha Franklin tell the story of a relationship falling apart. The singer is questioning her partner's love for her, stating that they used to show her love and affection but lately she doesn't feel loved anymore. She is confused and hurt by her partner's actions and wonders how many times she must break down and cry before things change. Despite her efforts to give her partner space and time, they refuse to do right by her and she feels trapped in the relationship.


The chorus asks the repeated question of how many times she must suffer before things get better. Despite knowing that she deserves better, the singer feels like something is holding her back from leaving the toxic relationship. She believes that true love should never die, but her partner's actions are killing her inside. The lyrics end with the singer questioning why she can't see the light and move on from the relationship.


Overall, the song reflects on the struggles that can come with relationships and the pain that comes with losing love. It also touches on the difficulty of knowing when it's time to let go and move on, even if it's the best decision for one's own well-being.


Line by Line Meaning

You used to tell me you loved me
You once shared your love for me with truthful words


You used to show me you cared
Your actions affirmed that you held genuine feelings for me


I used to be the one that you adored
At one point, you looked up to me above anyone else


But lately I don't feel you love me no more
As of recent, your care and admiration for me have appeared to disappear


You see, I don't understand what's goin' on with you
I am unable to comprehend your actions and what they mean for our relationship


And I don't understand why I let you treat me so cruel
I am uncertain about the reasons behind my willingness to endure your harsh treatment


So tell me
I have a lingering question that I need you to answer


How many times must I break down and cry?
How frequently do I need to emotionally collapse for you to recognize the pain you cause me?


I'm confused
I am unsure about how to handle this situation


My understanding was true love should never die
I believed that genuine love endures through any circumstance


How many times will you kill me inside?
How often will your actions strip away pieces of my heart and soul?


Any kind of fool should see the light
A sensible person should recognize when a situation is harmful or harmful to themselves


So why can't I?
Despite my best efforts, I still struggle to see my way out of this difficult relationship


Time after time, I have tried and tried
Repeatedly, I have pushed myself to change and improve what is necessary in our relationship


To give you some space and some time
I have attempted to give you what you need by creating distance between us


But no matter what I do it is never enough
Regardless of my attempts to make changes, I am consistently falling short of what you truly want and need


You just refuse to try to do by me right
You reject the notion of treating me respectfully and kindly


Though I know I still believe
Despite the difficulties I currently face, I still carry a hope for our future together


Something's got a hold on me
I feel trapped within this situation and unable to escape its grasp


Can't seem to find the strength to set myself free
Despite my better judgement, I struggle to muster the bravery to let go of our relationship


I gave my heart and soul
I put my entire being into our relationship


I gave my all, you know
I have given everything I could possibly offer


I deserve better, baby
I know, without a doubt, that I should be treated with greater respect and kindness


Oh so much better, baby
I long for the love and devotion that I know I deserve


You know it's just not fair
You recognize that your own behaviour is unjust and causes pain to me


For you to act like just don't care
Your blatant disregard for my emotions and wellbeing is unacceptable


For you to act like I've done something wrong
Your tendency to shift blame onto me is unfounded and unfair


Boy, how could you dare
I am appalled by your actions and refuse to accept them any longer




Lyrics © Peermusic Publishing, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: David Foster, Gregory Charley, John Darryl Winston

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Comments from YouTube:

Matt Turn

Aretha really pours out her heart in this ballad. We all can relate when it comes to love and relationships. Communication is key when it boils down to the truth about love and all that other stuff that goes along with it. Amen!

smooth persuader

Matt Turn one of my favorites

David da Fonseca

It's a song that identifies many stories, sometimes I feel like this song, in the particular voice of Aretha sounds so wonderful!

Sheila Bagby

Right Aretha true love should never die.

Sheila Bagby

Deep song one of a hold bunch of songs she have.now she singing to the angel it's a Aretha Franklin turn out with her beautiful voice up In heaven.rip in peace.queen.

Pauline Pollard

The love from this Queens voice is irreplaceable. May you sang in heaven like you song for Earth

Just Me

2020 still listening to this jam. Some of the best music. ♥️❤

Angela Robinson

R.I.P Aretha.. They don't know about this.. 2018!

smooth persuader

Angela Robinson I do!!!!! I love this song.

bee bee

Love it Queen !

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