Baltimore singer-songwriter Ashley Kutcher distinguishes herself as the kin… Read Full Bio ↴Baltimore singer-songwriter Ashley Kutcher distinguishes herself as the kind of raw talent who infuses a unique sense of vulnerability and honesty to her songs that her fans have grown to love so much. The rising pop artist got her start performing in high school before she started releasing her own music during her time at Towson University. Ashley was pursuing a nursing degree when a local bar came across a video of her singing online and invited her to perform onstage. While still enrolled in college, Ashley began to sing in local venues more regularly and produce songs on the side. In only the past year, what started out as a hobby has grown into a full time career with a larger fanbase than she had ever thought possible. Her breakout single “Love You From a Distance” set TikTok on fire with her D.I.Y. performance from the bathroom, and quickly led to her eventual signing with Darkroom/Interscope Records. Amassing well over 100 million streams and 20 million TikTok views, Ashley’s heartfelt honesty captivates on a series of singles and her debut EP, One Eighty. The project is the culmination of a productive year for Ashley as her fan base steadily grew and she continued to hone her craft. Now, with her breakout year behind her and an even more exciting year ahead, she will hit the road for the first time to perform her shows live in New York and Los Angeles.

HMU If U Don't Like Me
Ashley Kutcher Lyrics

Jump to: Overall Meaning ↴ Line by Line Meaning ↴

My love language is rejection
But I don’t want to tell him
That the only thing that really turns me on
Is your bad answering
Or staying out till morning
And texting those other girls when you’re alone
And I know it’s so messed up that I want you to never
Tell me I’m the only one that you see

Cause there’s something so thrilling about this toxic feeling
So only hit me up if you don’t like me
Yeah
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Hit me up if you don’t like me
My love language is destructive
I want guys who just want nothing
But there’s really only one thing that I ask
Don’t show up when I need you
Apologize when you fall through
Cause I only care when you don’t want me back
And I know it’s so messed up that I want you to never
Tell me I’m the only one that you see
Cause there’s something so thrilling about this toxic feeling
So only hit me up if you don’t like me
Yeah
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Hit me up if you don’t like me
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Hit me up if you don’t like me
I don’t want to go and let you down
Know you thinking about keeping me around
You look at me like you have found your world
But I’ll leave when you start calling me your girl
And I know it’s so messed up that I want you to never
Tell me I’m the only one that you see
Cause there’s something so thrilling about this toxic feeling
So only hit me up if you don’t like me
Yeah
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Hit me up if you don’t like me
Go hit me up
Go hit me up
Go hit me up

Go hit me up
Hit me up if you don’t like me

Overall Meaning

In Ashley Kutcher's song ‎HMU If U Don't Like Me, the artist discusses their struggles with love language and how it functions within the context of destructive relationships. Kutcher admits that their love language is rejection, and they find themselves drawn to people who don't reciprocate their feelings, and prefer to be treated badly by their partners. They also find something thrilling about the feeling of toxicity in their relationships, and only desire to be hit up by people who don't like them.

Kutcher writes that they don't want their partners to tell them they are the only ones they see, but instead indulge in destructive behavior, such as staying out all night and texting other people when they are alone. Even when the partner falls through and apologizes, Kutcher only seems to care when their partners don't want them back. The artist is aware of the toxic nature of these relationships but can't help but feel invigorated by them.

Overall, the song seems to be a commentary on the struggles that come with unhealthy relationship patterns and how they can be addictive even when they are harmful. Kutcher acknowledges that they have difficulties with attachment and love but can't help the way they feel. "HMU If U Don't Like Me" is a powerful and honest exploration of the ways love can be complicated and messy.

Line by Line Meaning

My love language is rejection
I show my love by pushing people away and rejecting their advances

But I don’t want to tell him
I am not open about my true feelings with the person I'm interested in

That the only thing that really turns me on
What I find attractive is when someone ignores me or treats me badly

Is your bad answering
I'm turned on by your lack of response or attention

Or staying out till morning
I like it when you ignore me and stay out all night

And texting those other girls when you’re alone
It excites me when you talk to other girls behind my back

And I know it’s so messed up that I want you to never
I am aware that my desires are not normal or healthy

Tell me I’m the only one that you see
I don't want to be your only focus or priority

Cause there’s something so thrilling about this toxic feeling
The toxicity of our relationship excites me

So only hit me up if you don’t like me
If you're not into me, that's when I want you to contact me

My love language is destructive
I show my love by being destructive towards myself and others

I want guys who just want nothing
I'm attracted to people who don't want a serious relationship

But there’s really only one thing that I ask
I have one simple requirement for the people I date

Don’t show up when I need you
I don't want you to be dependable or reliable

Apologize when you fall through
I want you to feel guilty and apologize when you don't meet my expectations

Cause I only care when you don’t want me back
I become interested in someone when they show disinterest in me

I don’t want to go and let you down
I don't want to disappoint you or let you down

Know you thinking about keeping me around
I think you want to keep me as a part of your life

You look at me like you have found your world
I feel like you see me as the answer to your problems

But I’ll leave when you start calling me your girl
Once you start showing affection for me, I'll probably break things off

Hit me up if you don't like me
Contact me only if you're not romantically interested in me

Lyrics © DistroKid
Written by: Ashley Kutcher

Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind

To comment on or correct specific content, highlight it

TRACKS

No Related Genres

More Genres

No Artists Found

More Artists Load All

No Albums Found

More Albums Load All

No Tracks Found

01HMU If U Don't Like Me2:50

PT2M50S

Ashley Kutcher

Genre not found

Artist not found

Album not found

Search results not found

Song not found

Comments from YouTube:

@nessimaus123456789

3y↑14

I never related to a song more than I do now!! This song is amazing, but soooo underrated😕 let’s try to blow this song up, please, it deserves so much more attention!!!!!!!!!