Narcissist
Avery Anna Lyrics

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Out of touch with my feelings
I can′t help it if I'm happy or sad
Today I cried for no reason
Made me feel like a psychopath
I should hate you ′cause I love you
You should hate yourself for treating me like that
We both know you only love you
Did you know they have a name for that?

You say that I'm crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won′t happen again
You say I′m dramatic
I'm overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you′ll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

My parents don't like you
Why would they want to?
After they found me crying on the bathroom floor
I don′t even like me anymore

'Cause you say that I′m crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won't happen again
You say I′m dramatic
I′m overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you'll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

You lose your voice when you yell too much
Don′t say you love me until you mess up
Phone calls past twelve o'clock, wanting me back
Don′t you know that they got a name for that?

You say that I'm crazy
You say that you′re sorry
Won't happen again
You say I'm dramatic
I′m overreacting
And maybe I am

And I know you′ll get over me
But can you get over yourself?

Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

Overall Meaning

The song Narcissist by Avery Anna seems to be about a woman in a toxic relationship with a man who is a narcissist. The first verse shows that the singer is confused about her emotions, unable to understand whether she should feel happy or sad. The lyrics suggest that her partner's behavior is the cause of her emotional turmoil. The singer is aware of the narcissist's self-centered ways, but despite knowing that she should hate him for the way he treats her, she is still in love with him. The lyrics reveal that the narcissist only loves himself, and there's a name for such behavior.

In the chorus, the narcissist accuses the singer of being crazy and dramatizing things. He apologizes for his behavior, but the singer knows it won't change. She realizes that there is a pattern in their fights and that the narcissist is always the one at fault. The singer urges him to seek help before moving on to another person to love.

The last verse shows that the singer is aware of the red flags in their relationship. Her parents do not approve of her partner, and she finds herself crying on the bathroom floor. The narcissist tries to apologize, but the singer knows that his apologies are meaningless. The singer asks the narcissist to get help before he goes and loves somebody else.

Line by Line Meaning

Out of touch with my feelings
I am disconnected from my emotions

I can′t help it if I'm happy or sad
I have no control over my emotional state

Today I cried for no reason
I had an emotional outburst without any apparent external cause

Made me feel like a psychopath
It made me worry that there might be something deeply wrong with me

I should hate you ′cause I love you
I logically recognize that you are not good for me, but my emotions are conflicting

You should hate yourself for treating me like that
You are responsible for your own behavior towards me, which is causing me harm

We both know you only love you
Your behavior towards me is motivated only by self-interest

Did you know they have a name for that?
This behavior has been described and labeled by psychologists

You say that I'm crazy
You are dismissing my legitimate emotional reactions as unreasonable or irrational

You say that you're sorry
You acknowledge the hurt that you have caused me

Won′t happen again
You make a promise to change your behavior in the future

You say I′m dramatic
You are belittling my emotional reactions as exaggerated or attention-seeking

I'm overreacting
You are suggesting that my emotional responses are disproportionately intense

And maybe I am
I am considering the possibility that you might be right

And I know you′ll get over me
You will eventually move on from our relationship

But can you get over yourself?
You need to address your own underlying issues and patterns of behavior

Before you go and love somebody else
You should not continue to repeat the same destructive patterns with others

You should probably get some help
You could benefit from professional assistance to address your own emotional baggage

My parents don't like you
My family has concerns about our relationship

Why would they want to?
They have observed how you treat me and do not think it is healthy

After they found me crying on the bathroom floor
My emotional state has caused them to worry for my well-being

I don′t even like me anymore
I am struggling with my own self-worth and personal identity

You lose your voice when you yell too much
Your angry outbursts are causing you physical harm

Don′t say you love me until you mess up
Your words of affection are meaningless if they are not backed up by your actions

Phone calls past twelve o'clock, wanting me back
Your attempts to reach out and reconcile are coming at inappropriate times and are unwelcome

Don′t you know that they got a name for that?
This behavior has also been labeled and recognized by psychologists

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@ElizabethSotiria

2y↑3

@@hannahrodgers4622
You’ve got this girlie! 🤗
Don’t let him steal your joy or your confidence, he is not the source of your strength..
For a long time I really didn’t think I was strong enough to walk away, he had destroyed all my confidence and self worth that I felt so incredibly weak.
I promise eventually you will just get so tired of being tired..& sad..& constantly disappointed etc that you honestly just have no choice but to decide not to suffer another day.
I wasn’t ready until I was ready. Have faith in yourself, remember who you are.
I knew I deserved better, and I know you do too, it’s just important to understand that you’re not stuck and you can leave. You can, and you should.
I hope you find your happiness again and the authentic love that you deserve 💕
x

@jeushaneradoc4616

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2y↑1

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All comments from YouTube:

@AveryAnna

2y↑8.1K

I am so overwhelmed with how many of you can relate to this song. Thank you all for sharing your stories with me, your support means the world 🤍

@jaminugent5539

2y↑113

Going through this as we speak, trapped

@jordangann7438

2y↑60

@@jaminugent5539 there's a way out, there is, don't lose hope 💜 praying for you.

@brandysears512

2y↑67

@@jaminugent5539 I am also currently experiencing a relationship like this and feel stuck because I've never loved anyone like I do him. I don't want to lose him, but I can't take the mental & emotional abuse any longer.... ☹️😒🥺

@cherylwilkins2585

2y↑21

A very dear person that I love lived a horrible life with this exact person!!

@jennystiglet1231

2y↑12

@@brandysears512 Girl you deserve SO much better than that!! RUN. ESCAPE. Get away as fast as you can! I loved my ex harder and deeper than I have EVER loved ANYONE in my WHOLE life! Or at least I THOUGHT I did.. But it was NEVER enough for him. Girl it was SO SO SO TOXIC.. He was ALWAYS the taker...NEVER the giver. And no matter how hard I tried to show him I was true and loyal to him...I was never anything more than a cheating whore to him...even tho I LITERALLY NEVER cheated on him...not ONCE. It doesn't matter the type of abuse...whether physical, mental, spiritual or psychological...it's all the same. It's a waste of your time, energy, spirit and LIFE. You neither need nor deserve that! You deserve to spend time ALONE to HEAL and to learn to LOVE YOURSELF first!! Please trust me on this! I spent 8 1/2 months figuring this out for myself before I met a man who loves me truly and sincerely. And BELIEVE me when I say I am STILL WORKING on healing myself even in this new relationship I'm in. But my guy is SO loving and SO patient. Get away from this toxic relationship NOW before all your life is UTTERLY spent. He/She doesn't love you. And your love will NEVER be enough for him/her. Learn to heal and to love/value YOURSELF. You are an incredible human being!

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@sheribofficial

2y↑2.3K

I really feel this on levels that I’m sure only few understand. Hugs to all who have overcome a narcissist. 💕💕💕

@amygauden6351

2y↑11

Right back at ye Much love stay strong 💪 🙏 ❤

@arkhanjhels

2y↑29

Amen! Vibes to all victims of narcissistic abuse. <3

@anastaciamyott2801

2y↑23

There’s more then you think out here. Narcissistic seems to be the new thing. Personally I know all too well the feeling. We got this❤️ Nobody is ever alone!

@Spiceyone101

2y↑14

There’s so many of us out here. Myself and three friends have lived this trauma. I’m amazed that my friends want to try again. I’m not. I’ll never give another man the chance.

@Spiceyone101

2y↑17

On my own now. And life is so peaceful. I question why I stayed so long. Sometimes love isn’t enough. Tried to love him through it. Cost me in the end. But…. Life alone isn’t bad. It’s so peaceful no drama in my life.

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@rebeccafaust9386

33w↑102

This is EXACTLY what I'm going through!! Please make more songs like this. I need reality songs not sappy love songs. We need a female voice for what so many of us are going through

@BrittanyPetty-eq3nf

22w↑1

You'll get through it. U will soon get tired an say enough is enough..❤❤ just pray for strength as well beautiful

@way2slo

13w

😅 yeah women can be narcissist too.... 😁

@heatherwillingham3869

12w

Agreed ma'am. 😢

@angiemorales2044

Same here it’s a horrible citation to be in

@sierrasharman6939

I’m listening to this one after Dax song narssist it’s way better than this one in my opinion but it’s bc his style of music is more my type but his is about female narssist

@KarimElakkad

14w↑39

Finally someone put it in a direct song, we need more of these type of songs to expose them and to spread awareness 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

@ChristinaTrafficante-jp2dm

14w↑2

❤️

@MJ-gj6mj

2y↑431

FINALLY. Narcissists are getting exposure. There are too many people in toxic relationships that have no idea why their partner is acting the way they do. It's a horrible cycle that has the abused second guessing themselves. Anyone out there, please leave them. The narcissistic person just doesn't change, but they will change you for the worse if you let them. Gather your strength, accept the relationship is over and move on!

@chadbasurto5157

Duhh narcissists love exposure.

@stevenfoster5291

2y↑19

Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for.

@kimberlyrain

2y↑4

@@stevenfoster5291 happens in physically abusive relationships too... its honestly how it starts... often blaming u for little things until they have u believing u cant do good enough, theyll start physically abusing u and when its said and done apologize while still painting it out to be ur fault.... ppl often dont realize this is exactly why ppl stay in abusive relationships...esp when the abuser promises to get better or simply continues to blame u....once u hear it so often, their voice becomes ur own mental one...and youll feel youre not good enough...even if they dont actually say it their actions can speak loudly

@krystalwashington3767

2y↑4

Wow powerful words you spoke 👏

@jillb.4538

2y↑11

29 years of life with a narcissist, trying to break free and stay away was the hardest thing I ever did. It took a lot of times of leaving before I left and stayed gone. The way they manipulate and twist reality leaves a person confused and blaming themselves for things that were never their fault to begin with. They make your life hell whether you stay or go, so might as well escape, take time to heal and start a new life living in peace. ❤

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@bradensouthard737

27w↑183

I am a narcissist survivor. People will never understand what a person goes through when they love a narcissist. One of the hardest things that I have ever done. I was at the end of my rope, and I knew it was time to get out before it was too late. Now the stalking, lies and the teaming up with other people starts as I leave the relationship. They will see the truth down the road as they have never gotten my side of the story but a narcissist is very very good at doing what they do.

@Jec_2815

23w↑11

I one hundred percent feel your comment. I left my narc 5 days ago and I didn’t realize until after I left how much he actually damaged me.

@SophieiamSophie

22w↑3

hi i know exactly what u are going through i was with a narcissist for almost 4 yrs and it is very hard to leave but i also new i had to

@cassandrahamrick7262

22w↑12

They have a warped sense of self, telling a story where they're either the hero or the victim, but never the problem...

@lily6246

19w↑4

I feel you..
I would love to recommend the channel 'the narcissist guide' he helped me tremendously ♡ look at his playlists

@paulawawrzynek2868

16w↑2

I know what u mean. My advice for you,let them all thinking what they want,you know the truth,focus on yourself and people who are good for your mental health. Block everyone who is not good for you,that's the only one way to set yourself free,and go to specialist who will help u to love yourself again. I wish you the best.

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@lberntson7924

1y↑86

I lived this. Thank you for giving a voice to those of us who have suffered this trauma and abuse.

@michellevizzini6590

2y↑1.1K

I just left my narcissist husband of 13 years. As I was leaving this song came on the radio. It made me feel better. No one knows what it is like unless they have had to deal with one. Prayers to all the survivors!!

@kmartin09021

2y↑15

13 years for me too. He has changed. He's been in therapy but can't talk to his mother. The question is. Will this last or should I just move on? Most don't recognize ehat they've done wrong. It wasn't supposed to happen this way.

@jaimexoxo7691

2y↑17

That was your sign that you made the right decision. I hope all works out for you and it will..im trying do the same myself. Narcissist abuse is horrible ans does some real damage. I hope I can break free soon..god bless n keep your head up your only going to be going up from here. Don't look back😉 you got this

@kristibrown6091

2y↑8

People like that say you’re the problem, they can cause self-loathing… they snuff out dreams… dig deep to find your self worth again and kick their ass to the frickin’ curb.

@breahnebrown3284

2y↑19

Just left two days ago.. I know it’s better but it’s so hard

@ladybug41766

2y↑5

Good job for finding your strength honey. Stay strong 💪🏼

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@angelam4795

2y↑544

Anyone who's ever been in a relationship with a narcissist knows how true this song is.

@theresak288

2y↑10

27 years and tonight will be the last time

@tjodogify

2y↑3

Absolutley mind breaking…it takes a piece of your soul, from you to be involved with a narcissist…I’ll NEVER marry again…..

@haverscutie

2y↑3

yep- been there - done that - glad I gave him up

@allisonb.8492

1y↑1

@@theresak288 21 for me. Its so hard.

@jamestylerjr1332

I agree

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@sarah-anneeisenbach2584

1y↑38

This song hits every aspect of my life. In a relationship with a narcissist. Everything is about them, it's sad how they drain all you self worth and the reason to live. Then once there's nothing left of you, they leave and replace you for someone else. Problem is, they make you believe that you the problem. Beautiful song, just wish it wasn't true. Wish people were good

@user-tm3jl2yl7e

12w

Insanity

@susandenmarkrogers3768

Wow

@iwonderwhatmydognamedme4000

If ur in a relationship with one leave. They don’t love you. They love the attention you give. They crave validation. They will never change for you it’s unfortunate but it’s true. 4 years of being with someone and I finally realize he was the biggest narcissist I ever met and I had no idea. Do not wait until they leave you for another supply. LEAVE

@sarah-anneeisenbach2584

I managed to get out of that relationship. It went from bad to worse. However im so thankful im 1 hours out of that. Thank God ❤

@Opinionatedcancer

They also tell ppl ur the problem

@nicolehaltom2048

3w↑2

When you start to question who was the narcissist in the relationship...you know you've stayed forgave and tried for too long. 😖😥 the gaslighting was a very effective tool used to question my sanity and reaches for help outside of the isolation. What is so crazy to me is that its so hard to let go but im doing my best. Its so hard to go dark block and delete. Its so fresh but i needed this song to remind me...im strong and deserve better and it wasnt me, i changed according to how i was treated. Its time i straighten my crown and take back who i really am. Love reading all the comments of those who successfully made it through the other side. Thank you. Wish me luck. ❤

@jaidhelyon6911

2y↑522

This song hit deep. I was called all those crazy and overdramatic. And I'm literally sitting here with tears in my eyes because it hits so hard. I love this song.

@jaidhelyon6911

2y↑3

@@dynamiteman1001 excuse me but no it's not true. Is me caring and wanting the person I'm with to do good in life over dramatic and crazy? No! Is me wanting what's best for my s/o over dramatic and crazy? I think not! What is crazy is i loved a man so deeply and believed everything he said. Until i was put in the hospital and had 11 stitches put in my face and a bruise going up half my face and a cut under my eye from him pinning me in a corner and punching me and refusing to let me go to my drs appointment for my asthma. And then him not allowing me to leave our apartment and him cheating on me and doing drugs and kicking me out. Thats what is crazy. After he swore up and down he would never be like my ex and beat me. You have absolutely no place to speak since you don't know me or what I went through. So please go take your negativity else where.

@dynamiteman1001

2y↑1

@@jaidhelyon6911 I'm sorry and I was just playing with you 😔 I really do apologize please believe me I don't want nothing bad to happen to you or anyone I hope you can please forgive me I was stupid for saying that and I deleted the comment

@dynamiteman1001

2y↑1

@@jaidhelyon6911 or just tell me to go f### myself If you want but I'm seriously so sorry that happened to you I can't stand when a man hits a woman

@jaidhelyon6911

2y↑3

@@dynamiteman1001 Im not going to tell you to f off I'm not like that. And I appreciate the apology.

@mandy8624

2y↑2

right there with ya hugs 🤗

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@mommyconnor

2y↑1.9K

As a therapist, I hope it’s ok that I’m going to be sharing your video with the survivors I work with. This was well done. ❤️

@jacquelineDevensi222

2y↑7

❤️🙏

@priscillahartl9795

2y↑6

Nailed it

@jeweleesheets3582

2y↑10

I'm a survivor 💪😎

@andremaheu1

2y↑18

This song touched me opens my eyes more for my behavior in a 7.5 year relationship that i ruined. We both were narcissistic towards each other but I was really bad. How do you get help for being narcissistic? Or is it just a poisonous relationship itself that makes you crazy that way ? Cause I wasn't always like that.

@ajmenashe5803

2y↑4

I salute you.

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@AveryAnna

2y↑1.6K

Thanks so much for all of your comments and love for this song. I appreciate y’all’s support. 🤍🤍

@katy_the_runner

2y↑15

I just discovered you, and you are amazing!!!

@travisseip665

2y↑7

I love your song the I love you more song my wife sent me it and it's the best song I ever heard she is gonna be the only women I ever need in my life again God bless you girl I hope your career takes off very far keep making these good songs

@bl7203

2y↑4

Your just amazing 👏 😍 ❤

@jacquelinecastillo965

2y↑3

Unique song title

@EslamG84

2y↑5

I cried my eyeballs out, and I’m a guy btw but I was subjected to this kind of abuse in my family of origin.

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@MinatheMenace

1y↑108

My sister has been in a relationship with a narcissist for more than 9 years.

I've watched her wittle away into a shell of what she used to be. I feel like I've lost her. I've tried so so hard to help her see the toxicity of her situation, but now I'm so exhausted and just...completely helpless.

@finfin2004

1y↑16

I wish she could talk to me
It took me 20 years
Please, understood she can’t see it when she’s in it

@jasonhanly1597

48w↑7

I am a narrsistic abuse survivor of 16yrs. Is almost impossible to let go after so many yrs. To my narrsistic abuse survivors stay strong 💪

@claireprettysea8591

48w↑7

I just myself got out of a narcissistic abuse relationship. It took me three years to realize what he was doing, I thought it was normal because that's how my dad always treated us. I promise you when your in that relationship, you will not see it

@jasonhanly1597

48w

@@claireprettysea8591 yes

@tanjineverwhere8778

43w↑6

Just stay on her side. Not forcing her to anything. She will need you one day.

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@Karisheppard39

1y↑22

I left my abuser over 3 years ago and still love him. He's my son's father. This song just gave me chills. Thanks for sharing your experience.

@hoodpriestessphilosophy7669

2y↑402

A lawyer I was speaking to about my ex called him a Narcissist. It was very validating. Remember, as you're leaving a Narcissist, to include as many healthy people in your journey as possible. After spending years or decades being called crazy, being seen, understood, and validated is such a gift.

@patty100ch

https://youtu.be/mt3hJf9sD4U

@kirstenholmquist7074

2y↑2

My ex's lawyer was a Narissist

@TinasCrazyLife

2y↑1

My therapist told me

@HannyB003

2y↑3

This comment though 🙌 I always thought I was the problem until someone else told me that they thought my ex was a narcissist...the more I looked into it, and the more people who I spoke to that confirmed it, the more validated I felt! I feel like most people don't realise, and just blame themselves, until an outsider points out the blindingly obvious signs! I ended that relationship a year ago now, and I'm still not over it...which just goes to show how deeply under your skin they get

@anicarudman8427

2y↑4

Narcissists love “labelling” the victims. It is nice to hear someone putting a label on them… it set me free for all the labels that became so heavy. It took me years, but I am free and can help others in the same situation.
Amazing song!

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@karma7484

2y↑796

For all of you listening that are in a narcissistic relationship, I'm praying you are able to break free. May you have the strength to walk away and NEVER turn back! You are worthy of being love genuinely and completely ❤

@stevenfoster5291

2y↑5

Yes i have been going through alot since my wife died in an accident,but whenever I listened to the songs it reminds me of the memories we shared together before she died.i am really missing her

@prettyboss275

2y↑2

🙏

@stevenfoster5291

2y↑1

Thanks very much 🙏

@stevenfoster5291

@@prettyboss275 ❤️

@kimveith2591

2y↑9

Try growing up with a narcissist, it fucks the kid up so badly

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@tcramirez1474

1y↑37

This is the first time I’ve heard this song & boy did it hit me! I was gaslit, stonewalled and made feel less than. Finally found the strength to leave

@sandraleeweeks-hubbard6079

I've been with one for 40 years that was the smartest thing you could ever do for yourself!

@lynngang3805

47w

I finally fell out of LOVE with him it feels so freeing

@cloby3863

1y↑82

I relate so much to this song
My mom is a bipolar abusive narcissist and I'm a 14 yo boy
Thank you for this song

@bryleejade4039

I don't think my bf is a narcisst but I relate to this song so fxckin much to this song bc of him

@Phiwipuss

1y↑2

I hope you manage to go no contact as soon as you can, wish you strength

@Geo._.253

1y↑5

I know that you don’t know me and so this probably doesn’t mean much but i get what you’re going through, im a 15yo trans kid and my mom is an abusive narcissistic. The best thing you can do in your situation is to make good friends next year when you go into high school and spend time with them whenever you can, that’s what saved me

@KaylaThompson-yx9us

1y↑7

Oh sweetheart. You will be out of that soon. You will be old enough to be able to run. You are so strong hunny! I’m a daughter of a mom like this. Remember there is always a storm before the rainbow. Love to you. It’ll get better.

@KaylaThompson-yx9us

1y↑8

@@Geo._.253 I’m 31 I had a Mom like this. I’m a mama of 3 little girls. Let me be your mama. If you ever need someone , reach out. This is a storm you will get through it! Be you, Beautiful you! It gets better. There is a rainbow after the storm! Love to you. As if I was your adoptive mama’

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@Yesthatsmyfirstname

2y↑367

"I don't even like me anymore." Felt that. It's incredible how someone else treating you a particular way can rearrange your own evaluation of yourself and your worth as a person. And crazier still that years later you can still be giving it your all to undo that damage but still often feel worse off than you were before.

@2006nail

2y↑3

😭😭😢😢

@MJ-gj6mj

2y↑9

Yes, that is so true. Learning to love yourself again is a process. Someone told me that it's necessary to release the blame on yourself dor starters. Maybe that person made you feel stupid because you believed them. That was a game for them, this is your life. Take the control back in your mind and find your inner strength. Hoping for the best with you.

@rachellydy3367

2y↑6

So true. I never understood how damaging narcissists are until I dated one for years. I wish now I had never met him. I understand now why his words could damage me so much, it is what narcissists do. It is a healing process and while he turned me into a shell of who I was before I met him, the Lord is gently healing me.

@kellycavender98

2y↑4

Yes!! I'm working on liking myself again.

@robertlees6569

2y↑3

Well said hunnie. Couldn't of described it better myself. Xx

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@mindy2048

2y↑356

Finally… FINALLY a song about the things so many of us unfortunately deal with in relationships with Narcs. 💕

@EvIsFierce

2y↑2

Finally 🤍

@jeushaneradoc4616

@Timayy

2y↑1

Why you in a relationship with a narc lol

@mindy2048

2y↑3

@@Timayy I’m am not anymore. I left, but it was after a very painful 5 years. But people who aren’t educated on Narcissism do not know what they are getting themselves into in the beginning and don’t know that Narcs can’t change.

@Trix_Nix

34w↑7

Loving a narcissist for over 10 years and suffering the pain and emotional abuse was torture! 😢 This song is such truth. Thank you for this much needed song.❤

@jennyancell84

42w↑16

I have never felt this close to a song. Thank you, simply just thank you for making such a relatable Song. I literally need this song to remind everyday to not give in and go back... Thank you!

@jenj7155

2y↑1.8K

The 44 people who disliked this song have never been in love with a narcissist because this song exactly describes how it goes.

@debbiecarter8687

2y↑7

Exactly!

@jennylistens6135

2y↑8

That and then some

@Rubester-cl6op

2y↑56

Probably narcissistic trolls.

@senkabobovcan2356

2y↑2

Lacky you....I never know someone exist like that and call them narcissist .

@chl90c

Yeah it does ! Wow

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@hollyalsept318

2y↑76

7 years I dated a narcissist. But, you know what? I'm grateful. He taught me exactly how I shouldn't be treated, and now I'm 6 days away from marrying the most incredible man I've ever met ❤

@donnamariegiglio6964

2y↑7

I am so happy you not only survived, but you loved yourself so much that you allowed a healthy relationship into your life. I am 3 weeks out of a narcissistic relationship and I struggle with believing there are honest, kind, loving people in the world- people with whom I can put my trust in, open my heart to. Your post here brought me to tears because it gives me hope. You have told me not to give up on myself and the universe, for it will bring me kindness and love. Thank you.

@chelseaking5325

31w↑8

This song literally made me cry because my bd is a narcissist who makes me feel exactly like this and sometimes I just can't find the words to explain how he makes me feel and what I go through with him...thank you for this song because it's perfect for us who have been or still are in love with a narcissist

@rosemarykuehn6380

1y↑53

I believe this is my husband and some days it's scary as hell. I try staying strong but he has taken away my sunshine and made a dark whole made me empty. Don't know what to do where to go. Thank you for this song there's so many who go through things that people don't know or understand and even some that lose there lives becuz of people like this.

@pearlydecker8834

52w↑3

Same situation I feel helpless

@NidiaRuiz-ic1bm

52w

😢

@denisedixon9538

51w↑2

I left, never looked back. ❤

@jocelyncurtis8826

51w

It's called covert narcissist. Get out. Power and control, they are unable to love anyone but themselves. I just got fee after 14 years. They keep you depressed on purpose so you will not become strong enough to figure them out.

@tabithahunt7737

51w↑5

I felt that so deeply! Some days I don't even feel like a person anymore, I feel so helpless and hopeless it scares me. May you find strength, healing and the love that you deserve,

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@Virgolyfeee

2y↑655

To any girl feeling this way,
Remember who you are.
Look in the mirror
Tell yourself that your the same women you were before him!!

@illablair4070

2y↑1

💔

@kathleenmcqueen1246

2y↑36

If you were in a long term relationship with a TRUE NARCISSIST you'll never in your life time be the same.

@hannahmichelle5329

2y↑11

I don't think I can ever be the same.

@kellycrandell1689

2y↑8

I wish that was true I lost me a long time ago

@amandajoy2034

2y↑3

But it's hard to see that person....

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@jamieanderson7754

2y↑731

I heard this in car the other day and had to do everything to hide my tears from my kids. Nobody understands the hell you go through living with a narcissist. 11 years of that. This song hit home. Thank you for making this amazing beautiful song

@chyhamilton7382

2y↑16

Man oh man, I'm 62 and gave my all n best and left with CPTSD and live a life having very limited contact with others - reclusive! The damage done 2 a person's "self" is enormous, lonely n wary of every good thing

@littlekylian1241

2y↑1

It’s been 6 years…

@vickijeandron2433

2y↑1

34 years

@Wicked.Kitten.

2y↑5

@Akurrs talk to a mental health professional. They’ll give you tools and material to help navigate daily life. The most important thing is that you’re looking for information and wanting to change.

@donnawunderlich-jenkins916

2y↑4

I understand. Sadly I do. Hugs my friend.... From one single mom (who left a scary covert narcissistic abusive marriage) to another. You aren't alone.

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@tammarasavage4597

1y↑11

This song just hits me on so many different levels. It makes me realize I’ve been apologizing for someone else’s choices. It now I see what other people see.

@alchemistic9811

1y↑6

Avery Anna, thank you! Felt this, sending love and strength to anyone who's ever experience this.

@loribebout1055

2y↑322

Married for 30 yrs to one...now I'm FREE!!! I love my life, it's a new beginning ❤️. This song made my night ❤️

@lisamarcus6937

2y↑6

30 years here too. And very depleted right now. Stuck...

@crystalmattocks-carter5779

2y↑3

26 years been with h since I was 12 ,hardest thing ever to do

@jessicawilson4655

2y↑9

I think I’m with one. I want to die every single day. He says it’s all me… he never comes home, he’s gone all the time but then it’s my fault, he doesn’t like being here cause I’m sad all the time. He calls me crazy, tries to diagnose me with shit like ROCD and he makes me feel like im crazy! He’s left me so many times, each time I NEVER bothered him. He ALWAYS came back for me!! I just don’t understand why is he with me if he doesn’t love me??? I love him so damn much and just want that love back from him and it feels like I’ll never get it. Just like Selena in her song Loose you To Love me, she says “I put you first and you adored it”… I think that’s why he’s with me. Because he likes how much I love him, it makes him feel good. Plus I don’t work don’t have a car or my own money so he just LOVES having all the control. Idk if he’s narcissistic or just an asshole… 🤷🏼‍♀️

@crystalmattocks-carter5779

2y↑3

I left 8 days ago. It's hard but everyday gets better. You can do it too.

@augustmoon5596

2y↑1

27 years..

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@mariettequint2658

2y↑293

The sentences "Out of touch with my feelings" and "I don't even like me anymore" sum up my struggle everyday. They reflect the struggle after dealing with myself after his behaviour and what I was left with. They reflect the multiple times he hit me, he messed up my emotions, he used my insecurities to hurt me, he left me in tears and I felt ashamed when he said "You're overreacting". I feel free, however it still has an effect on my day to day life. Hopefully there will be a day when I'm proud of who I am today. Thankyou for writing this song and putting my feelings into words.

@lienvandermeijden5742

2y↑7

I feel with you I have that every day that I am feeling like I lost myself because of that relationship

@JaceyGracie

2y↑12

Please know that the greatest battle you will ever fight is within your own mind. IF YOU ARE READING THIS YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON & ARE WORTHY TO TO BE HAPPY.

@MikeKollin

2y↑7

I hope you have learned a lot about Narcissists! They do everything they can to destroy us...
I have learned a lot and understanding it has helped me to heal tremendously and has helped me to become
stronger than I ever was! I still hurt but it's a lot better than it was... Good Luck and Best Wishes!
You can heal completely from this and become a lot stronger and happier! Bless you!

@mbelue8611

2y↑4

I get it im not in a relationship, but my dad is a narcissist, and its been a struggle with dealing with him and my anxiety and depression. so I hope you realize how strong and amazing you are!!

@debbiecarter8687

That's exactly how i feel.

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@chariseparkin2276

36w↑7

This song made me realise I got out of a bad toxic violent relationship and helped me so much thank you and what a beautiful song you have helped so many people with it such a good song writer xx

@mandybradley232

2y↑25

I'm literally going through this right now with my husband! He's been so mean and doing all this! Thank you for this song it's so overwhelmingly powerful!

@katelyngardner8968

Me too..

@kimirving8316

This is something I too am trying to escape. So broken and worn down. Yes. They need help too, so no one else ever has to suffer from this abuse.

@bubbalewis2011

47w↑1

16 yrs and 2 children and I'm 40 now, I've realized it for yrs and just played it off like it was nothing cause I felt I just was never gonna get away so I should make the best out of it and try not to p etc my boys see how truly broken I am, but they already knew because they are my baby's and they could sense it I'm sure. My oldest who is 15 now, can't really stand to be around his dad, to where I have to constantly intervene so he doesn't get his ass kicked for being so disrespectful, but he is only that way to his dad and I know it's cause of the way he has seen his dad treat me over the yrs. 3 was ago today I got the strength to leave his ass and its hard and I feel alone sometimes, but everyday I feel or notice a part of myself I thought I'd lost. The biggest thing that is helping me get threw this is my kids 15 and 6 and the couple friends I have left and family .. seeing how my kids behavior and what it's doing to them is ultimately what gave me that final push.
Oh and I always told my self it would get better with age and he would grow up and pull his head out of his ass but I was so wrong it only has gotten worse.. .

@sherrybrown6952

12w

You know what, been there, stayed bc of the kids and my first love didn't want to go thru life without him kept saying he" ll grown out of it. Yeah right,16 yrs Well turns out I grew out of him😅, that day I will never forget, it was a beautiful thing new release on life, "take these chains from my heart and set me free". Amen. You'll see. He still wants me back.. 😂I'd adsoon put daggers in my eyes than to have to look at his mug again.

@GraceDeJong

2y↑177

I was never in a relationship with a narcissist and here I am almost crying. If you are with one, this is your sign to reach out. Healing from an abusive relationship will result in an undeniable glow.

@mmxw2294

2y↑5

It’s like being in love with Satan

@reinalynbumanlag1789

2y↑2

Being in a relationship with narcissist is emotionally and mentally draining, I've been in a ldr with narcissist and it's the worst relationship I ever had

@reinalynbumanlag1789

@@mmxw2294 I agree with you🥺

@joywill6397

2y↑2

It's a terrible thing to over come. I'm away from him for almost 6 years and our children keep us linked I'm dying inside.

@saramcdaniel4650

2y↑1

💔 thank u

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@debbiecarter8687

2y↑112

I'm 59 years old and remarried after my husband passed. That loss has been tough enough on its own. I remarried to a man who makes me feel like I'm going crazy then makes mr feel guilty for feeling that way. When he's called out, he resorts to being the victim. If all else fails the gifts start coming in, never "I love you", or "I'm sorry". I feel like I've lost it, and can't find even a shadow of the person i was. Thank you, for letting me see that I'm not the only one, and maybe I'm not the crazy one.

@senkabobovcan2356

2y↑8

Belive me lady....you are not the crazy. You are amazing and strong to survived all. God bless you

@toniawerchan9360

2y↑8

RUN!

@nancyadams7247

2y↑5

Yes …. Get OUT …. Find Yourself … Live, Love & Laugh @ YOURSELF 💝 Gift Yourself LIFE Darlin 🙌🏼

@renrene

2y↑3

You're not crazy. Never let that settle in you. It's not you I promise. You gotta run. You're precious

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723

2y↑5

To live with a Narcissistic person, you literally have to accept their delusions. My ❤️ goes out to you. No wrong in leaving dysfunctional every time it’s necessary! Sadly, they seem to be everywhere these days! Hold on to Truth, don’t buy the lies, your Not Crazy, only being driven there…. Life with a Narcissistic personality is Crazy Making, been there, don’t that.

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@jennifermartinez7151

2y↑14

I am currently in a 5 year relationship with a narcissist. I didn't even know what one was until someone told me he sounded like one. I researched it and he is textbook. I'm so depressed and lonely all the time, and I want out. He is terrible and this song is like I wrote the words for you. It's such a good song, and for some reason brings me piece and hope. I have nobody here. My family and everything I know is 3,000 miles away on the west coast. I moved here with my kids and him to the east coast. He's cheated, then blamed me for finding out, he is very verbally abusive, and I am losing myself. I'm trying so hard to get home. I've been saving and I think $500 more will at least get me there. It's taken me a year to save. But I know my day is coming. To anyone that has been through this pain, keep your head up. The more successful stories we hear, the stronger we get. ❤

@virl2022

39w↑1

I'm with a narcissistic woman
She is treating me as her toy
Whenever she needs me she uses me and then forget about my feelings and requirements
She has lights, balme shift, behold love, bread crumbs and future faking
She has left me miserable
Before she met me, I was very strong and focused
😢😢😢😢
Feeling alone

@chariseparkin2276

36w↑1

You will get out took me 4 years but I left and il never look back ever xx
Good luck

@dejacopeland5528

22w↑2

Never thought I’d be able to relate to this song … Recently had an epiphany that I suffered abuse from a friend that I thought was going to be there for a lifetime. Overlooked all of the signs of narcissism, even though deep down I knew for some time. I fought as hard as I could for the friendship to last but the effort simply wasn’t reciprocated. It hurts but I know the Lord will get me through this immense pain and confusion 💛

@lily6246

19w

❤

@ElizabethSotiria

2y↑162

I needed this 2 years ago.. 💔
All I can say is it gets so much better once you finally LEAVE, you’re not alone you’re not crazy and you’re not stupid for loving someone who’s incapable of love - yet so capable of destroying your worth. They won’t change, I promise. You can however change your reality and walk away, for your own peace and happiness 🕊
What a beautiful song. It def says it all..

@hannahrodgers4622

2y↑4

You said it perfectly.. now I’m going to search for that strength he continues to knock down. I want to leave but damn I’m scared. Love to all that knows this too well🖤

@ElizabethSotiria

2y↑3

@thedisneysimmer577

2y↑1

Wow I actually needed this, this morning. Thank you 😿

@ElizabethSotiria

2y↑2

@@thedisneysimmer577
Keep your head up 💗
Sending u love & light & strength
x

@jeushaneradoc4616

2y↑1

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@mattiekole2912

2y↑107

This song changed my life, and it’s about to change yours… thank you for validating my emotions.

@ADHDShenanigans420

33w↑2

This song hits right to my core. It explains life with a narcissist. I can’t help but cry listening to this song.

@shehlatanveer2731

1y↑3

I wish I could give it a hundred billion likes.
Besides these, I have no words.
Only silence, that's all I have got left with me.
Thank you so much for this song.

@heidilee8232

2y↑267

I had never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until after I left my ex a couple months ago and once I started doing some research on it I was completely shocked to find that I have been living it for the last two years - They have a name for that! This song hits so hard, and this is a subject that needs to be talked about so much more in our society. Abuse is not always physical. Thank you for sharing 💕

@jeushaneradoc4616

2y↑1

@Alohabeaches560

2y↑5

Everything you just mentioned is what I just learned after 10 years of ongoing physical emotional and high intentions of physical ways how he damaged me on narcissistic ways I never knew. I’m damaged and wish I knew what I know now.

@crystaledenfield9622

2y↑5

same. I never had a name for it. Once I named it, I couldn't unsee it.

@christianhoye8420

2y↑1

YES ! I didn’t know what a Narcissistic abuse was until after I left my sons after after 2 years. This song hits home. It definitely described everything he’s said to me. I never knew abuse wasn’t only physical until afterwards.

@tawanasandoval4770

2y↑211

Made me cry. After 4 years of dealing with my now ex. I now know....this is him, how he made me feel, always walking on egg shells when I was with him, when I talk to him, when I text him, when I went somewhere before his approval. Literally, listening to this, my heart dropped to my stomach and made me feel sick all over again, I got scared but at the same time I now know what and who he is. Idk if I make sense but I'm just happy I left.

@kimveith2591

2y↑4

Congrats. I'm happy you got out of that unfortunate situation. Not many people get so lucky to get out of a situation like that or they don't have the courage to leave something like that

@shawnamartin8505

2y↑5

My mother is a malignant narcissist. Im so glad I didn't marry a man ANYTHING like her. I can't believe a mother would destroy her own daughter to protect her secrets and trying to hide. The circumstances are different but the feelings and words are a lot the same. A lot of people want to love and be loved truly without alternative motives. If you're hurt by a narcissist, it is hell, but there is help, understanding and love givers out there and you can heal. Not necessarily in that order. Peace to everyone!

@faith35.

2y↑7

I understand every word of this so glad to be out and survived 6 yrs🙏🦋

@shawnamartin8505

2y↑3

You are incredible! Im so glad for you too. Stay strong and keep the narcissist radar on! It means a lot there are people out there who care. And I certainly do.

@numbernine3436

2y↑6

There is a book Stop Walking on Eggshells that is amazing. You'll probably think you wrote it. I did. It was as if someone had been watching my relationship & taking notes.

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@rebeccab8119

1y↑4

Thank you for addressing this issue! It takes strength beyond messure to handle relationships and situations pertaining to a narcissist. The kind only God can give. Even the strongest can be made weak when it comes to loving someone as such.

@sayyadsaioo

29w↑1

I wanna thank that SOB that made you produce all of those gems, Avery.

@jennystiglet1231

2y↑134

To add to all the other comments on here...yes this song hit home for me too. I was in a 4 year relationship with a narc. Let me give a piece of advice to anyone reading this: you can't fix him/her. No matter who they are. The damage done to them is irreparable. The only thing you CAN do: RUN. Run as hard and as fast as you can in the OPPOSITE direction. And NEVER EVER look back. Because as soon as you do he/she will ensnare you again. And then they know they've got you. So listen to your gut. Watch for the red flags. Trust your instincts. And RUN.

@darleneboling8565

2y↑3

I moved out of state for 3 yrs, then returned. Best thing i did for myself. I ran, and ran and ran 1200 miles.

@dawnwalsh2114

2y↑5

Anyone who identifies with this song, RUN don't walk out of the relationship you're in period. don't waste 20 something years of your life like I did.
You won't fix them, your love won't be enough... not because you're not enough, not because you don't deserve it, because they are incapable of incapable of real love and will never give you what you deserve.

@gregorylowthorp4184

2y↑1

Right

@jennystiglet1231

@@gregorylowthorp4184 Indeed.

@pamelaberry6369

2y↑1

💯facts!!!LOVE YOURSELVES AND GET OUT!!!!

@kcmadeline5794

2y↑84

I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. He cut me off like I was nothing to him. It was so real for me and it’s hard to believe it was never real for him after all this time. I cried myself to sleep every night wondering why I wasn’t enough, but I understand now. You will never be enough for a narcissistic person. You truly never know the pain of being in an abusive relationship until you’re in one yourself, and I pray for everyone else who has been through it ❤️

@Cell-Jai

2y↑3

Same here….acted like we met on Tinder a week ago. No emotion, from one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met. Still makes no sense to me.

@havoc1230

2y↑2

And some of us can never forget

@426snn

2y↑2

I was in the same situation as you. It was so hard when it ended but I learned I'm better off without him..

@jeushaneradoc4616

@hollyclayton1649

In my situation I am 26yrs old and we have been together 10yrs with a 1yr old and 4yr old. Im ready to leave and I want out. I sleep on my couch until he cant get enough money to move out. He doesnt like it too much so i get screamed at every morning when he wakes up and realizes i didnt come to bed. Ive told him over and over again i cant take it anymore because he is emotionially draining. He swears if i would just do what he says then he wouldnt be the way he is. We all know, thats a lie. It took me so long to realize he wont ever change but now is better then never. Im ready to feel that peace and freedom. Im ready to become happy again like I once was. I will be happy again.

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@Kalynkmoney

1y↑9

This song speaks volumes to me so happy I’m not in the situation I used to be in. Thank you for this amazing song

@heatheroberry1233

1y↑6

Today was the 1st time I ever heard this song, it was on a local station and the name caught my attention….but the lyrics….now those struck a nerve!!!! 😢😭 This is one of the most heartbreaking moments I have experienced in my nearly 15 months free from the narcissistic ex!!!! This song has so beautifully expressed the exact thoughts & emotions and circumstances & instances that I went through during that entire 7 years of hell!!!! All I can say is “Thank you”!!! Thank you for giving every single person that has survived a relationship with a narcissist a sense of validation; that we are not alone and that someone has been in our shoes and knows our pain!!!! I can not stop listening to this song!!!!!! Thank you for voicing what soooo many feel and experience daily!!!!!!! Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!! I love this song and hope you make many more that pull at heart strings so deeply!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤

@kristinaamja9341

2y↑502

I got discarded with no empathy by a narcissist. It hurts so much. Thank you for this song.

@amwil4980

1y↑11

Consider that a blessing

@angelastone4806

@@amwil4980 Amen to that!

@Mrsjshorter21

1y↑8

Me too girl! Together 13 years, married for 9. He cheated with our mutual friend and I was thrown away like yesterday’s trash. It’s been four years and he still treats me like garbage and she is on his pedestal, just wish I didn’t have to co-parent our 10 year old and witness their happiness or deal with her arrogance, they are both Narcissistic.

@kristinaamja9341

1y↑9

@@Mrsjshorter21 I am so sorry. This break up happened a few months ago and I still feel so broken... My pain is actually physical pain... This trauma bond is intense...

@alchemistic9811

1y↑17

Sometimes rejection is God's protection. Sending love and strength.

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@victorerwin8819

2y↑689

Having been called a narcissist by my child's mother, this song puts it out there like wtf was I thinking. My daughter is 4 now and I feel horrible for what I put her mother through. This is real life and it happens on a daily. I'm doing my best to make things right but it will never be enough to fix what I put her through during her pregnancy. I'm in the middle of fixing myself. There is hope for us, but deep inside it's our own demons we are dealing with and unfortunately blame it on others. Whatever it is going on there is hope. One step at a time

@taylorfausett177

2y↑81

Thank you for your honesty and being willing to look inward. There's definitely hope for anyone who is capable of introspection. Most narcissist aren't capable of it so I suspect that you are just a product of your environment and what men are taught about women. Women are seen as overly emotional and less than in our society.

@roxypoint1

2y↑56

Victor you are a very strong person to have written that. Best part of it is that you have acknowledged and are aware of the issues that hurt your relationship. That’s a great step in fixing yourself. Most narcissist will always say “That’s not me!” My prayers to your daughter that there is hope that mommy and daddy can fix things.

@shermy0628

2y↑41

You’re a hell of a good guy to realize the harm you’ve done. You are going to be okay!

@lauriellbaker

2y↑26

The fact that you are owning up to your mistakes is beautiful. Being on the other side of things, I can say that narcissistic behavior is sooo very damaging. Hopefully as you heal yourself, you can heal the relationship with her.

@stephaniegregory7036

2y↑10

Amazing! She's such a lucky woman to have a man like you! I bet she loved you through all of it and I pray yall are rewarded with a great life together with your daughter!

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@amberwilson2144

1y↑3

This song reminds me of what I went through with my ex. Thank you for this song Avery! Means more than you know to those of us that have been through this in our lives. Thank you

@feliciadawnpierson4942

1y↑7

This song literally is the number one song that has ever made my life play back so vividly and bring me to my knees on the bathroom floor!!! Never been so moved by a song in my life 🖤🤍🖤

@HeatherMarie-ji8ut

2y↑94

OMYGOSH!!!!! I SO NEEDED THIS SONG THERAPY! Anyone who's ever encountered a narcissist, I commend you for your survival skills & your obvious will to live! Because that shit is debilitating to say in the least! Congrats to the ones who made it through! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE AMAZING, VALUABLE & LOVED, DESPITE HOW THE NARCISSIST DEGRADED YOU OR MADE YOU FEEL & ULTIMATELY BELIEVE THE WORDS THAT CAME OUT THEIR MOUTH! THEY ARE ALL PATHOLOGICAL LIARS & ARE INSENSITIVE, SPINELESS, COWARDS! I WISH I COULD BE THERE WHEN THEY ALL CATCH THAT KARMA TRAIN!
Great song by the way!

@elderxemo92

Not to mention, most narcissist are insecure themselves. So they have to put that insecurity onto someone else so they can feel better about themselves.

@meganoneill2877

2y↑362

I was in an 8 year relationship with a narcissist and every lyric she sings is so true. I walked away 3 years ago and I struggled with the aftermath of what he turned me into. He made me feel like I was not enough and that I was just an inconvenience. It took me 2 years to love myself again and find who I’m supposed to be. Still working on letting myself trust and love others, but it’s not easy when you let a narcissist destroy you for so long. I thank you for writing this song and being a voice for us who have gone through these situations. And for those who have gone through this, know you are loved and you are enough, always remember that. ❤️

@stevenfoster5291

2y↑14

Megan O’nell am sorry for all the difficult terms you have went through all this while.. Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less ,and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for it..

@ladypeace8912

2y↑7

I feel every word you said. I’m happy for you because you managed to get out and wish you a smooth healing journey. I am still stuck after 14 years with no end in sight. It’s impossible to really heal while you’re in it but I do my best. I recommend Dr. Ramani and her channel because she has been a lifeline in this field.

@ladypeace8912

2y↑3

@@stevenfoster5291 exactly right. I couldn’t have said it better …

@roxypoint1

2y↑3

@@ladypeace8912 omg me too! I’ve been dealing with the mental abuse now for 31 years. At times it was physical until I started calling 911. I don’t know why I thought he’d change. I didn’t understand it until I googled narcissist. I kept reading and reading with my eyes popping wide open… “omg this is him”. Until one day it hit me… I stopped giving in to his narcissistic ways. Our marriage got worse because I was no longer his pawn. He knew he wasn’t winning any longer. So what he do…. He would seek others that gave in…. He’s a smooth talker. One time he manipulated the shit out of a judge and played victim… he won! He’s a great salesman who can sell you a pen that no longer has ink. He can make you think it is the only pen left in this world and you needed it. He is basically an adult bully. Who also believes he knows everything. He doesn’t abide by the law because it don’t pertain to him. He has more selfies than anyone I could imagine. Very self righteous. It gets worse and I can go on all night. I praise those of you that ran away from a narcissist. It’s awful to say this, but my own mother told me once…. “If you left he’d still find you. There’s never getting away from him, he’ll still find a way to hurt you.”

@debbinevius3454

25 years I spent with a narcissist. He completely destroyed me and our family. I finally had enough. 16 years later and I still don’t trust a man.

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@rachellandry7550

1y↑16

I’m blessed to finally have my divorce finalized. This song pops up not even a week later and I can’t believe how much I can relate. So happy there’s a song for these feelings and situations. Thank you so much Avery❤

@sandravanvelzer4055

50w↑1

Same, happily divorced from a narcissist

@nicolahodges2

38w↑1

I was with a Narcissist 😞and I thought I was going mad I eventually got away and had to start all over again 😢I found Jesus and Jesus has helped me so that I can forgive and move on I will never give up 💪💪💪💪Beautiful song thank you 😊 🙏🙏🙏🙏

@mariapalladino2473

2y↑249

“I don’t even like me anymore” it’s amazing when we think we’re the problem. How we change and become miserable because the person we love is miserable. You lose yourself and think you’re the crazy one. I can sadly relate. I think we’ve all loved a narcissist in our lifetime.

@charlottepearson4244

1y↑2

This is spot on!!!!!!

@alyssabehrendsen3603

1y↑2

currently dealing with one n i just dnt understand how they can make us feel the way they do.. After all the love n effort ive put into it istill feel as if im what she says i am .

@julioignacius7687

1y↑2

Been over 3 years since removing myself from a similar situation....to this day I have a hard time allowing myself to be happy, let alone allow myself to be....myself.

@billieelmore6738

I can relate to this

@kellyrios5238

Me too

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@idontknoeidontknow6624

2y↑69

the way this song literally explains the toxic relationship i am in right now, i know that i should leave but it’s so much easier said than done, he literally calls my psycho and dramatic because i know a lot of things he doesn’t know that i know !! i needed this song so bad

@samanthalee2641

2y↑1

same 😂😂😂😂 it’ll all come out tho they just gotta wait and see lol ima be chilling tho so we good 😭😂

@sabrinnanazir445

2y↑2

Ahaaaa....i hope you are out of that toxic thing....I wish you luck and much love...❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@cynthiamayo7575

2y↑1

Its hard because when you are in a relationship with a narcissist you have a strong trauma bond, a form of Stockholm's syndrome. Research these two things on you tube. There is a lot of help available for victims and survivors. Breaking free and recovery take time. Be good to yourself and have self compassion. You are worth it and you can do it. God bless you beautiful soul.🌹

@crazycatlady4391

2y↑1

I’m right there with you ❤️ it’s hard to leave.

@mariah5456

Literally me but in a marriage.

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@KingKhufu14

12w↑1

That line "I don't even like me anymore" everytime I listen to this song. It resonates with me. She's grieving and giving that part of herself up. And doesn't know who she is anymore. I've been exactly where she is.

@VirgoSun23

1y↑4

This song just...... I can't hear it without tears, but I love it. Thank you for this moving song.

@divinasandot2320

2y↑260

the nature of narcissistic abuse is such that you can't believe it unless you've been through it and then you still can't believe it.

before i knew about narc, my mind occupied with WHY's.

there is part of me tells that i should understand him and let it go and move on. and the other one feels pity for him, for what he's been through because of the up bringing (family).

I'm currently on my journey of healing now. 🙏🌻

@lulabell79_31

2y↑6

I used the pity for his upbringing to excuse his behavior. For years I blamed myself for his behavior because I inadvertently turned to opiate painkillers following a broken leg injury to numb a much deeper pain that I guess I didn't even realize was hurting me so badly until I realized how well pain killers had been dulling the ache and enabling me to live this way. I'm 4 years opiate free but still haven't figured out total sobriety or how to get out of this marriage with any dignity, though there is no dignity in staying in it, either. And the fear of failing at life without him is my greatest fear. I knowingly step into a crippling trap every single day of my life.

@katherinesprague4010

2y↑5

I wish you all the best and the love and happiness you deserve ❤️ I am still in the midst of a 15 yr battle with myself whether to stay or go, I know what the logical, safe choice is but I keep hoping and praying that things will go back to the way they were in the beginning 😕 I know that he will not change and I know that I am not ready to leave... Yet... To all the brave, loving, beautiful women, we know we aren't what they say we are, but it's so hard to keep telling yourself that when you hear differently over and over 😢 sending love and strength and, best of all... Hugs 🤗

@katherinesprague4010

2y↑4

I forgot to mention that I cannot wait to stop apologizing for every little thing that irritates him, I find myself on eggshells and I have done nothing wrong, but I say "I'm sorry" everyday multiple times 😕

@katherinesprague4010

2y↑3

@divinasandot2320

2y↑3

@@katherinesprague4010 that feeling like you're walking on an eggshells is the sign that you need to go out from that situation. esp. when he's given you a lot reason to feel sorry for yourself. it is not out faults. why we need to take the accountability of their wrong doings? i know and i can see it that you are strong...being aware and knows about what a narcissist is a blessing. all you have to do now is to break the pattern, the cycle. you can do it. its really worth it after you disconnected from them. i assure you that. and for now take alteast one step away from them. 😊🙏💪🏻🤙

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@kdcbend

2y↑542

Been waiting for a song like this for over 20 years. I suffer from Complex PTSD from childhood trauma followed by a 14 year marriage to a severe narcissist. I found the courage to leave when my daughter was 4. This year she turns 18...he's made my life a living hell for 27 years but she makes it all worth it. Thank you for writing this song and sharing. ❤

@07jeepgirl

1y↑15

I'm right there with you, and I lost everything.... Everything to him.

@lonewolf_101

1y↑5

Good on you for taking your daughter away from the toxic situation 👏 your story gave me goosebumps, I have been there, have CPTSD too and every relationship I've been in, from my father to every single person. Insightful lyrics and a beautiful voice, thank you 💜💔💜

@lonewolf_101

@SummerGirl I'm sorry and I feel you too. We're better than that ✨️

@ndiweli1216

1y↑5

Going through the same now I wish I will have the courage to do what you did😭

@kirstenholmquist7074

1y↑1

My ex won't stay out of my life, he seriously was dangerous to my health

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@graciepalmer5462

26w↑4

Now, I've never been in a relationship with a narcissist- but my sister is literally the embodiment of this song...

@JimmyD07

This song helps so many people. God bless you!

@deeb5817

2y↑104

"cause I don't even like me anymore" I always said to him "it's like you blew out my flame and you don't even notice" glad I'm out of that situation. Girl, whoever and where ever you are, you can get out. It may seem impossible, but you got this and I'm so proud of you ❤️

@sheilacooley5783

2y↑2

That trapped feeling ... the desperation feelings ... no matter the lies ...
just do it .... don't look back...
I lost $200,000 to that x boi friend and my house ( which was paid from when my husband was alive) ... and have been living in my car for three and a half years. I am widowed and I have no family in the entire State of Florida where I live ... but I am grateful that I made it out alive ... I've known others that did not make it, they lost their lives to a narcissist . I'm 60 years old a lot of health problems, but I will live in my car the rest of my life if that's the way it has to be. I would never go back to that narcissists (although a two-time millionaire) or any other narcissist for that matter. Please save yourself.

@gutegeister4916

2y↑1

@@sheilacooley5783 Viel Glück 💫💥💚

@GURLnGUCCIsunglasses

2y↑1

There’s another song that talks about getting your smile back, I forget who sings it, but it’s also a good one. We tend to lose so much of ourselves like damn even our smiles. Like not even being happy anymore about anything.

@sheilacooley5783

@@GURLnGUCCIsunglasses Thank you I will try to find the song on YouTube. Have a good day.

@Stephanie-hk9yk

❤️

@StarryHilder

2y↑488

wow...my life for 24 years..but there is hope.. you are valuable priceless and lovely..God showed me love..unconditional..peace... and forgiveness...My new husband is Jesus... and I am now empowered...strong and free

@sarahb4345

2y↑15

Same! 24 years i was 16 when we met..now I'm single at 41! But I'm not tested anymore..im driving my own life ..I knew it wouldn't be easy but I'm free xx 😘 good luck x

@jessedion16

2y↑2

🥲🥺😪😭😢

@sarahb4345

2y↑4

@@RozanneVeeMuthrof4 😘 but now your free hun xx

@mistytrewin8661

2y↑2

Love it

@reneeg9406

2y↑6

Amen 💯
20 yrs trapped. 3 free.
Never give up

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@babywaffles9985

1y↑5

Makes me cry cuz of the accuracy. The part about the parents not liking the spouse made me break down crying because I'm married to a narcissist and my parents (my whole family actually) really hate him, and it's so hard to escape his clutches. Its true. You end up hating yourself for loving him too much and feeling crazy like it's your fault, but they really do need help, and after Trying so hard for years to fix things that went wrong, it becomes so clear how stupid you feel for not leaving sooner, or saying you will leave but then end up constantly forgiving their wrongs when they have a hard time forgiving yours, and making you feel like they're sorry and as long as you stay with them.... They'll get better...

Patterns. :(

@tlamb1180

1y↑1

I can not agree more on this! The pain I feel is literally torture 😩🥺

@babywaffles9985

@@tlamb1180 😥 such pain

@robinzendayah3705

45w↑1

Beautifully done. Been there, done that for over 20 years in an abusive on all levels marriage. Ended that 8 years ago but he still won't let go. So glad I finally did.

@perlamays892

2y↑196

This song describes my situation a couple of months ago. Constant gaslighting, the cheating, building me up just to bring me down.
Beautiful song, to everyone struggling in a relationship like this, please just know, it's not worth it. At all, you are more than what the make you feel and it's not worth your tears and time, you might not see it now, but you will. Sending lots of love to everyone!

@vanessapersent2307

2y↑1

I don't even know what building up feels like ..He doesn't even tell me I'm beautiful

@lunamaya2267

2y↑2

@@vanessapersent2307 leave you deserve real love

@vanessapersent2307

@@lunamaya2267 thanks dear trying to

@alishasmommy3

2y↑204

This song hits my soul right now. It literally is exactly what I'm going thru right now. Loving a narcissist is the hardest.

@bunny-uu2rr

2y↑6

I feel stuck. This song hit home.

@ladybug41766

2y↑4

Me too honey. You are strong and beautiful. Don’t give in and go back. I’m trying my best not to go back either

@tiffanylake5524

2y↑1

I absolutely agree 💯..

@MJ-gj6mj

2y↑3

At some point you have to ask yourself are they really loving me? Thr truth hurts, but dragging yourself along in a relationship with a narcissist will really hurt more. Hoping for the best for you.

@leilaearl

2y↑2

Dealing with this is my life after 9 years!. Hurts so bad😥

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@jessicamarie1558

17w↑3

It can be so good , almost perfect . Then a light switch is flicked … it’s my fault , everything in his life is my fault . This song is 100% …. I pray to God that He gives me the strength to walk away . Everyone sees it in me , the pain . Leave come back I’m sorry I love you .

Keep rocking out man ,

@denisegudmundson9338

1y↑5

Big trigger song. Thank you for creating this. I will play it often and share with those who know what it is to have your life ripped apart by a narcissist.❤️😪

@lauriellbaker

2y↑483

I cried when I listened to this. I am married to a Narcissist that gas lights me all the time. I am so broken down and insecure. I have thought I was crazy for so long, thinking that I was incapable of being enough. The damage that people like this do is undescribable. Thank you for this beautiful song.

@alizasawyer2900

2y↑21

Just know that you deserve better you deserve to be treated like a queen and just know that you ARE enough!! 😌 💋❤️

@lauriellbaker

2y↑3

@@alizasawyer2900 thank you. ❤️

@boho2744

Please hang in there........🙏❤️

@jessdrocha

2y↑4

#metoo...it just hurts, alot...

@boho2744

2y↑6

I definitely understand and empathize with you.... experienced it as well. Just a little different since it was my dad. Can't tell you how much I hope you hang in there and know that you are not alone. Please take the time to care for yourself...seek counseling, take yourself out for coffee and write down how you feel, find a support group...and Ill be praying for you. God be with you!🙏🤗🥲

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@gretchenzwiegers1896

2y↑53

After a two year relationship with a narcissist, 3 years of healing and ptsd, this hits deep 💔

@StarrySky-ky2uz

44w↑2

This song made me cry. Tears that I didn't know I needed. Absolutely beautiful

@brynnpreston1118

1y↑2

The feeling of healing that comes from listening to a song about a narcissist knowing full well you USED to relate to every single word...and then out of nowhere, your wonderful husband texts you "Good Morning My Queen" with pictures of the sunrise he took on the way into work this morning and you realize that all those feelings you had while being in a relationship with a narcissist are in the past because you've finally found someone wonderful who treats you like a queen, makes you feel like a princess and makes you feel so happy you feel like you're living a fairytale. Except this person has been the same for the past 4 years if your relationship and they're not going to change anytime soon and turn into a monster or gaslight you. They're just wonderful ❤️

@jasminetigre625

2y↑76

This song has a completely different feel when you have actually had a narcissist in your life.

@m.g.6870

2y↑44

Abuse comes in many forms. One of the ugliest emotions one can feel is being accused of being crazy and at the end to show proof to your sanity. By then , you have absorbed all kinds of words and questioned your self worth. Some people break you without even thinking about it. How can people do such things knowing they are wrong? All those young people who feel alone and then eventually sad things happen. Even the law wont listen at times , until its too late. A person who fights back to your unjustified wrongs is NOT crazy. Like Gabby Petito who was upset and she was viewed wrong. Now she's gone.....Many, many still out there.😔

@ambriahculbertson1709

33w↑2

Avery Anna is one of the best singers ever.

@danika_stra

1y↑4

My father is a narcissistic, alcoholic, abusive person. When I listen to this song it helps me through the rough times with him

@ccampbell6876

2y↑35

"But can you get over yourself.. ..." The blaming, yelling, never saying sorry ..... I'm always in the wrong. It's hard and somehow this song is a relief... Like hearing it, makes me feel like I'm heard.

@saharvarona

2y↑49

Wow… 😔
All true… all true 😔😔😔😔
Wow it’s amazing how there is a whole community of people traumatized by narcissistic relationships and we all just come and cry together and support each other. I wish there was a support group we can get together and talk about stuff that happened and support each other so we dont go back to them 😞

@lulabell79_31

2y↑5

I wish there was a support group for helping those who are stuck and insecure about leaving to find the resources and the courage to get out and never look back.

@lorrainebuono8824

This song is so beautiful and so needed right now!! It’s incredible how many ppl are suffering from these narcissists on the planet! But it’s coming into the light of day and there is so much more awareness and support, now more than ever.
Chump lady is a very active site for daily support with a wonderful community( her book “ Leave a cheater, gain a life” is brilliant) She is funny and wise, highly recom the site!! I also love Dr. Ramani’s YouTube videos, so spot on accurate and helpful, she’s so comforting to listen to.
Dr Les Carter also does a great job helping you to get free and deal with these narcissists in your life.
You are not alone and it is real!
I was 38 years with one, recently divorced, still healing, prob will always be healing. Songs like Avery’s give such hope to the sufferers, what an amazing voice tackling a most painful subject, so moving, so validating and so important! God bless! 🙏🌷💜

@cureholder

1y↑3

My whole life I have been involved with narcissist after narcissist (and would have loved to hear this song then!). After six years of therapy, I can finally spot the red flags and I also have made significant progress on fixing the problems in me that inexorably drew me to such women. The mantra that very probably saved my life: "The only way to win with a narcissist is to refuse to play."

Thank you, Avery Anna, for such a personal and powerful and evocative song. For every comment here, I am certain you have touched many other people who did not comment, in a way that literally saves lives and increases happiness. May you experience even a small portion of the peace and relief you have brought to all of us.

@blanchyflores4186

48w↑1

I been playing this song over and over so my baby girl because she is in this type of relationship my daughter is so beautiful inside and out she has a heart of gold she is the reason get up each and now is being treated badly It just breaks my heart, thank you for this song

@heathermuasau3777

2y↑52

13 years too long and the healing process has had its up and downs but I am stronger! Thank you for creating a song that speaks the truth!

@tinaparkinson8833

2y↑2

How do you heal....??? Just left a 29yr relationship.

@heathermuasau3777

@@tinaparkinson8833 You just need to give yourself time. Start doing things for yourself and to make sure you give yourself all the necessary attention to your mental health. Just because one relationship wasn’t great doesn’t mean the next won’t. Trust and know that all things will come together and give you clarity. Know your worth and don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

@crystalsnodgrass7145

2y↑58

I can't stop playing this on repeat. Crying because it hits different after you love a narcissist. Giving all to them and getting scraps of "love" in return. I'm so sad/mad for betraying myself for someone who can't love me in return

@gloriafejedele4628

1y↑1

Had me in tears as well. Same reason, allowing him to do it to me. Never again!

@ianspier5437

We don't know until we meet one, that such vampires exist.

@donnaware2793

Exactly.

@firebirdlogistics6067

1y↑39

I was in a very complicated relationship with a narcassist about a year ago. I would break up with her and try sticking to my guns, but she always ended up pulling me back like a siren. It took me way too long to finally get out and stay out, and it still impacts me to this day. Im just now finding out who I am again. What i like to do, how I like to dress, how to be myself... I'm always asking for reassurance from my current partner because I don't know what normal is anymore. I dont know how to accept love without feeling like I'm doing so.ething wrong. I am finally able to ask for help with tasks, and ask for things I want. Thise were the hardest four years of my life, and though I'm happy in my current relationship, something still keeps telling me to go back to her. It is difficult to understand, and hard to get her out of my head, but I'm still here. I'm doing whats best for me and I will never, ever, go back to her or put myself in a situation like rhat again. Stay strong everyone... because though it may not seem like it at the moment, things do get better down the road. I promise ❤

@mira5014

1y↑2

Wow, you speak from my soul. I go right now true the same, true a process of finding my self again after a relationship that destroyed me. All the best to you ❤️

@user-pr6fj4dc7o

42w↑1

Thank you I hope things do get better too.. 😢

@evalynnetterogers9177

36w

I have that pull to be with them too

@kaylahau6863

24w↑4

I’ve lived this for 6 years now every lyric describes how my soon to be ex husband treated me the entire 6 years we were together every thing was always my fault and I was the one who had to change I don’t remember when the love I had for him faded or how many tears I shed because of him I’m free from it and only want to move on and take what I’ve been through and learn from my mistakes

@cecelianess9918

23w

I feel this so much. I was with my soon to be ex husband for almost 4 years. He came back for 3 days to go right back to his coworker. We split 2 months ago 🙃 so I got shoved out the door for me to be the bad guy. For him to come back. And go right back to her. The Joys of a narc...

@jodimueller1025

2y↑75

I cry every time I listen to this! I'm soooo thankful you wrote exactly what I was feeling!! To lose all 4 of my children to my abuser has been like living in hell. I am extremely sad every single day without my children. It's been years since I've seen some of them. Narcissistic abuse ruins children and lives of entire families. If my oldest daughter ever sees this, I am thinking of you today, on your birthday. I miss you tons! Thank you, Avery, for this song!! It will mean a lot to victims of Narcissistic abuse and family court fraud!

@jillodom3812

2y↑4

All I can say right now is: same.

@moniqueengleman873

Same here. I have suffered parental estrangement from my daughter by her father. I have three wonderful daughters....but still missing my bonus baby. I flip flop between cutting her off and leaving nothing to her. (I have terminal cancer)
And stomping my feet in frustration.
I have waited patiently.7years now
Time is running out.....
And I worry about her. She has no relationship with her sisters.
They think she is spoiled by her Dad.
They didn't have a Dad....he died in a car wreak. So I remarried 10 years later....and he took her from me while I was in a Coma. Unbelievable.
We(her dad) and I have never spoken again.

@rikkileechance

I was living in an emotional narcissistic physical abuser for over 15 years 😢 what it does to you is horrible and devastating. The worst part is when the narcissist wins it all, while the child is the one really hurting, confused, and on pain , but mine can't talk . Non verbal autism rainbow miracle! 🌈 how does the system fail them!

@08nicoleella

2y↑41

I feel this to my core! My sibling has this and it's really difficult to have an easy relationship. She doesn't even know she has it and you can't tell her because she will ruin the relationship over it. You can't help someone that doesn't want to change. You just have to be quiet and say nothing and be careful not to tip her over the edge. The biggest trigger for the narc rage is calling her out on something morally wrong.

@marylu2216

2y↑1

Its definitely constantly walking on eggshells around them. They will also keep tabs on EVERYTHING you do or say BUT dont try to do the same to them.. they will go haywire!! Accountability is not in their vocabulary.

@elderxemo92

2y↑2

I used to call them out anyways. Even though it started fights and arguments. I couldn't let them think it was okay to do that and behave in such a way.

@08nicoleella

@@marylu2216 yes that's true...it's evil

@08nicoleella

@@elderxemo92 that's brave right there

@garryk19581

25w↑3

Anyone whos suffered at the hands of a narcissist will know a bottomless pit of despair, keep strong you can beat this.

@Sammyjkjs97

37w↑2

We need more Artists like you Anna. You are such a True Artist and Your love for Music has a essence in your Lyrics and Melody. We can relate, can feel your lyrics......New to your Music but never going to go back!!!!Best of Luck ahead :)

@jamsey3298

2y↑35

I swear I know I haven't been alive 100 years but things seem to get worse with social media as time goes on. They never want to own up to their mistakes. They put you down everytime you do call them out and it eats you inside. Keep standing up for yourself and never settle for bullshit. Thank you for such an amazing song!

@delightncube3488

They act like angels in e eyes of e public and unfortunately e world seems to see em like gud pipo and u r e 1 whose z always to blame.......i thot i was being ungrateful bt looks like thy r alot of pipo who ve travelled this road bfre me.....used to blame myself fr things i ddnt do....

@firewoman13merica65

2y↑71

& here I thought there was NO beauty associated with narcissism.
Wow soul sista!
You summed up the bottomless pit of pain & regret leftover from falling head over heels for the demons identifying as humans afflicted with narcissism beautifully.
Outstanding!
Got yourself a new fan lyrical genius!

@cherylhampton910

I'm crying like a baby. Being Unappreciated is the worst, BUT I'm know I'm a very good women. I am worthy narcissistic people will drain the life of of you, while giving them, the best ride or die/ loyalty means nothing to him. Thank you for this song. Keep them coming. Excellent
I needed this today!!