Tired Of Fighting With You
Barenaked Ladies Lyrics


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I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm so tired of fighting with you

Sitting in my chair
It's like you're not even there
I shout into the air
But I know that you care
You don't hear a word I say
Never listened anyway
There's no amount I wouldn't pay
To make you go away

I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm so tired of fighting with you

You never wait
For the hearts that you will break
For the dreams that you will take
Why don't you go jump in the lake
Why can't we have peace
Or quiet at least
Between west and east
Between man and beast

I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm so tired of fighting with you

Leaning on the sink
Too tired to even think
I know you're waiting there
At the bottom of the stair
And I think of my little girl
The biggest love in the world
I know I'll thank someone
I know what I'm fighting for

Coming 'round the bend
Here's to things that mend
Here's to friends
And the helping hands they lend

I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm tired of fighting with you
I'm so tired of fighting with you




I'm so tired of fighting with you
I'm so tired of fighting with you

Overall Meaning

The song "Tired Of Fighting With You" by Barenaked Ladies is a commentary on a troubled relationship where the singer is emotionally drained from constantly arguing with his partner. At the start of the song, the singer admits that he is tired of fighting with his partner, which is repeated throughout the song to emphasize his exhaustion from the relationship. Despite his admitting that he is tired, he still becomes defensive and confrontational, shouting into thin air, knowing very well that his partner cares despite the mayhem. The line "Never listened anyway" suggests that he may have given up trying to express his feelings as these have never been taken into account.


The singer expresses his frustration towards his partner's thoughtless behavior, suggesting that she never stops and considers the people she hurts. He encourages his partner to take a break and mentions the need for peace and quiet in their relationship. The singer alludes to the possibility of his partner's departure through the line, "To make you go away", emphasizing his defeat and how he sees leaving his partner as the only solution to put an end to their constant chaos. The song ends on a note of hope, with the singer recalling his "biggest love in the world," his daughter, and reminding himself that he has something worth fighting for.


Line by Line Meaning

I'm tired of fighting with you
The singer is exhausted from the constant conflicts in their relationship with their partner.


I'm so tired of fighting with you
The singer emphasizes their fatigue and weariness towards arguing with their partner.


Sitting in my chair
The singer is seated and likely feeling defeated or trapped in their situation.


It's like you're not even there
The artist feels ignored or unheard by their partner despite speaking out.


I shout into the air
The artist expresses their frustration by making vocal outbursts.


But I know that you care
Despite the disagreements, the singer believes their partner still has some level of concern for them.


You don't hear a word I say
The singer feels they cannot get through to their partner and their words fall on deaf ears.


Never listened anyway
The artist is convinced that their partner has never actively listened or understood them.


There's no amount I wouldn't pay
The artist would do anything to end the conflict and avoid fighting with their partner.


To make you go away
The artist desires for their partner to leave or end the relationship to permanently end the fighting.


You never wait
The singer feels that their partner acts impulsively without considering the consequences for others.


For the hearts that you will break
The artist is aware that their partner's actions will cause emotional pain or damage to those involved.


For the dreams that you will take
The singer believes that their partner's aggressive behavior will sabotage their own aspirations as well as others'.


Why don't you go jump in the lake
The singer's frustration has erupted into sarcasm and they want their partner to disappear completely.


Why can't we have peace
The singer longs for a harmonious and non-violent relationship with their partner.


Or quiet at least
The artist would appreciate it if their partner could refrain from causing unnecessary noise or disturbances.


Between west and east
The artist uses this phrase to emphasize different sides or opposing views in a larger context.


Between man and beast
The singer might see themselves or their partner as behaving savagely like an animal during confrontations, which causes them to feel upset or angry.


Leaning on the sink
The singer seems to be taking a breather or regaining their composure while in the bathroom.


Too tired to even think
The artist has been drained mentally and emotionally from the argument and is struggling to even process their thoughts.


I know you're waiting there
The artist anticipates that their partner is waiting for them to come out of the bathroom to continue the argument.


At the bottom of the stair
The artist's partner is depicted as being physically close by and ready to confront them again.


And I think of my little girl
The singer shifts their focus towards a more positive perspective, perhaps trying to strengthen their resolve or motivation to make things better.


The biggest love in the world
The artist is filled with love for their child and realizes that by ending the conflict, they can create a more stable and loving environment for that child.


I know I'll thank someone
The singer is hopeful that someday they will be able to look back at this situation and feel gratitude for having learned from it.


Coming 'round the bend
The singer senses that a change is on the horizon and things could improve soon.


Here's to things that mend
The singer is expressing hope for healing and a resolution to their relationship issues.


Here's to friends
The artist points out the importance of the support network they have to help them through tough times.


And the helping hands they lend
The artist acknowledges the kindness of others who have reached out to help them out of the difficult situation.




Lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: KEVIN HEARN

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Comments from YouTube:

BattleWalrus

Just wanted to thank you guys for always being there for me in the form of your beautiful music.

WayToSkateKate

The music and vocals in this song are breathtakingly beautiful. The lyrics make me sad, and I hope it's not a situation from Kev's real life. But, regardless, I just love this song and have listened to it many times now. Thank you for such a beautiful song, Kevin.

met182

I like how the listener can interpret the 'you' as anything that relates to them.. A person, illness, depression or anxiety disorder.

sharon S

Eamon Doyle and

WayToSkateKate

Oh crap....I was so afraid that it had returned. Thanks for the info, I really appreciate it.

Eamon Doyle

@WayToSkateKate A fan community on Facebook, I think? Kev's cancer recurred recently, but I don't know details beyond that.

And yeah, it's especially poignant when you interpret it that way. Great song.

WayToSkateKate

Eamon Doyle where did you hear that? If true, no wonder it's so powerful. Do you know what was wrong with Kev this past January? Was it cancer again? You can pm me if you want. 

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red fox

I love this song because the story behind it is so contrast with the atmosphere of this song 😄

red fox

Simon Tang Kevin told it by himself tho..but I believe he was joking

Simon Tang

The story is that Kevin was diagnosed with cancer for the second time, I'm not sure what story you heard.

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