Tom & Mary
Ben Folds Five Lyrics


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Chicka uh chicka uh
For the benefit of Tom and Mary
Before our guests arrive
If they haven't found out already
It's gonna blow their minds
Will they find the strength
To find the will to testify
That for the benefit of Tom and Mary
There's something we can't hide anymore?

Everybody here knows the story
Some with fabricated extra parts
See the sisters shout in whispers
Feeding hot air to the sparks
Put a damper on the party
It will lighten up this room
But for the benefit of Tom and Mary
We've got to see the truth today

Ms. Suthernson says "here they come"
And all the chatter and the smiles
They come undone
You could hear a pin drop on the carpet floor
Everyone's pretending not to hear them
Knocking at the door

For the benefit of Tom and Mary
Before our guests arrive
If they haven't found out already
It's gonna blow their minds
Haven't found out already
And yet the seams all seem to show
That for the benefit of Tom and Mary
For the benefit of Tom and Mary




For the benefit of Tom and Mary
We gotta let the truth me known, yeah

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of "Tom and Mary" by Ben Folds Five deal with the revelation of a secret or truth that is about to be exposed at a social event before the arrival of Tom and Mary. It is hinted that the secret involves some scandal or gossip that the guests are already aware of to some extent. The singer, who is likely one of the guests, alludes to the fact that some of the details have been fabricated, possibly for dramatic effect or to add to the intrigue of the situation.


As the song progresses, the anticipation builds, and there's a sense of anxiety and tension as the guests are waiting for Tom and Mary to arrive. The singer notes that some of the guests are avoiding the elephant in the room, pretending not to hear the knocking at the door. Despite this, there's an acknowledgement that the truth must be revealed- for the benefit of Tom and Mary. It's not clear why exactly, but it's suggested that the truth will "blow their minds" and that they will need to find the strength to testify about what they know.


In a broader sense, the song may be speaking to the human propensity towards gossiping and the desire for scandal and intrigue. It implies that we can't help but be drawn to and participate in the spreading of rumors, even when it's destructive and potentially hurtful. Ultimately, the song is calling for truth and honesty, even when it may be difficult or uncomfortable.


Line by Line Meaning

Chicka uh chicka uh
Repetitive sound effect indicating the start of the song


For the benefit of Tom and Mary
This song is dedicated to these two individuals


Before our guests arrive
There's important information that needs to be revealed before others arrive


If they haven't found out already
Tom and Mary may not be aware of the information yet


It's gonna blow their minds
The information is shocking and will have a big impact


Will they find the strength
Will Tom and Mary be able to handle the truth


To find the will to testify
Will they be willing to share what they know


That for the benefit of Tom and Mary
The information is important for their benefit


There's something we can't hide anymore?
There's a secret that needs to be revealed


Everybody here knows the story
Others present are aware of the secret


Some with fabricated extra parts
Some have added false information to the story


See the sisters shout in whispers
People are gossiping secretly


Feeding hot air to the sparks
Spreading rumors and making the situation worse


Put a damper on the party
Stop the gossiping and keep the atmosphere calm


It will lighten up this room
Stopping the gossip will make the atmosphere better


Ms. Suthernson says "here they come"
Someone announces the arrival of Tom and Mary


And all the chatter and the smiles
The mood becomes tense as they arrive


They come undone
Everyone becomes nervous and unsure


You could hear a pin drop on the carpet floor
Everyone is silent and tense


Everyone's pretending not to hear them
People are avoiding talking to Tom and Mary


Knocking at the door
Tom and Mary have arrived and are knocking on the door


Haven't found out already
Tom and Mary may not know yet


And yet the seams all seem to show
There are signs that the secret is about to be revealed


That for the benefit of Tom and Mary
The truth needs to be revealed for their benefit


We gotta let the truth me known, yeah
The secret needs to be revealed




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silverainbow123456

Currently reading “A dream about lightning bugs” keep referencing all the songs I haven’t heard.
This is awesome 😎

Dick Wallace

This is the most awkward album to google for... "naked baby photos", I sure hope that was in some way intentional, but I'm sure it wasn't.

Ezra C

Naked baby photos are embarrassing, which is why it makes the perfect name for an album of unused songs.

the max archive_01

This song genuinely freaks me out a bit. My parents names are Tom and Mary which makes this the weirdest coincidence ever. I like the song but it always feels a bit weird to me to hear my parents names.

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Brentalfloss sent me. And yes, I like the song :D

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No-one sent me. I just randomly ended up here... wait.. what?

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