Man I
Boston Lyrics


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If I said what's on my mind
You'd turn and walk away
Disappearing way back in your dreams
It's so hard to be unkind
So easy just to say
That everything is just the way it seems

You look up at me
And somewhere in your mind you see
A man I'll never be

If only I could find a way
I'd feel like I'm the man you believe I am
And it's getting harder every day for me
To hide behind this dream you see
A man I'll never be

I can't get any stronger
I can't climb any higher
You'll never know just how hard I've tried
Cry a little longer
And hold a little tighter
Emotions can't be satisfied

You look up at me
And somewhere in your mind you still see
A man I'll never be

If only I could find a way
I'd feel like I'm the man you believe I am
And it's getting harder every day for me




To hide behind this dream you see
A man I'll never be

Overall Meaning

The song "A Man I'll Never Be" by Boston speaks to the feeling of not being able to live up to the expectations of someone you love. The singer wants to be the man that this person believes he is, but he simply cannot meet those expectations. The lyrics are filled with feelings of inadequacy and sadness at the realization that he will never be able to be that person. The first stanza describes the difficulty in being honest with the person about his true feelings, as he fears that she will leave him. The second stanza speaks to the desire to be the person she sees in him, but the more he tries, the harder it gets. The chorus reinforces the idea that he cannot change who he is, no matter how hard he tries.


The lines, "If only I could find a way/ I'd feel like I'm the man you believe I am," suggest that the singer believes that he is not good enough as he is- that he is not living up to the ideal he has created in the mind of the person he loves. He is longing for acceptance and validation from her, but feels that he is failing to deliver. The chorus is particularly emotional- "And it’s getting harder every day for me/ To hide behind this dream you see/ A man I'll never be"- emphasizing the futility in trying to be someone he's not. The repetition of the line "A man I'll never be" at the end of each chorus drives home the point that the singer has come to terms with his limitations.


Overall, the song is a poignant reflection on the difficulty of trying to meet someone else's expectations, and the pain felt when one realizes that they cannot. The singer wishes he could be the person his love sees in him, but knows deep down that it's impossible.


Line by Line Meaning

If I said what's on my mind
If I expressed my true feelings and thoughts


You'd turn and walk away
You would reject me and avoid the conversation


Disappearing way back in your dreams
You would withdraw into your own thoughts and fantasies


It's so hard to be unkind
It's difficult to hurt someone's feelings intentionally


So easy just to say
It's much simpler to lie or withhold the truth


That everything is just the way it seems
That all is well and there's nothing to worry about


You look up at me
You gaze at me for reassurance


And somewhere in your mind you see
You envision an idealized version of me


A man I'll never be
A person who doesn't exist and who I'll never be able to become


If only I could find a way
If only I could figure out a solution


I'd feel like I'm the man you believe I am
I would experience the confidence and validation you have in me


And it's getting harder every day for me
It's becoming increasingly difficult for me to maintain this façade


To hide behind this dream you see
To conceal my insecurities and shortcomings from you


I can't get any stronger
I am unable to increase my strength or abilities


I can't climb any higher
I can't reach greater levels of success or achievement


You'll never know just how hard I've tried
You will never be aware of the extent of my efforts and determination


Cry a little longer
Express your sadness and frustration a bit more


And hold a little tighter
Try to comfort and support me a bit more


Emotions can't be satisfied
Our emotional needs and desires can never be fully quenched


And somewhere in your mind you still see
You continue to envision the idealized version of me




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: T. SCHOLZ

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@tomstorm4060

I danced to this song with my wife in her hospital room the day before she died. I chose it because she wanted me to continue in life and be the same man I was the past 26 years we were together. I've tried but that was a man I'll never be again

@gibson3798

Man, I'm so sorry!

@geocav9708

Remember the good times.

@edwardpetersen3437

True pain, sorry brother. Try to be satisfied with the great memories. But there is no antidote. The hole in your heart won't be filled. Try to be grateful for what you had. That's what I try to do, it helps.

@BrianSkinner-sj4fq

Brad Delp was so underrated as a rock and roll singer to me he had one of the best voices he had so much range and smoothness and ease to hit the high notes he was unbelievable

@crawfordfanatic

I’m so sorry. My late husband used to play this for me. He was a brilliant musician. I feel your sadness. It’s a shitty club being widowed. We don’t want anymore members.

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@glo7802

Brad Delp, I'm so sorry that you didn't find peace in this world! You had an amazing voice & touched many lives!😢

@ericsays8801

God wanted to hear his singing in person

@jenerickson67

Simply amazing voice!! Saw Boston twice in concert!! Amazing!!

@lafaynecallahan7189

Fly high❤❤❤

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