On the Fence
Brendan Benson Lyrics


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Well I'm afraid that's true
I'm leaving you
But rest assured, tomorrow I'll be home
Cuz you know I never could, I never was no good
Lord knows at bein' on my own

Never been the type to want to settle down
But never had the never to ramble on
So I'm leaving here tonight, but I'll be back before dawn
So leave a light on and keep my supper warm

Never been a fighter or a lover
Never thought that either made much sense
And I can't decide on this way or the other
So I live my life just sittin on the fence

And today I feel restless, but tomorrow I won't fret this
There's no tellin' what this boy may do
But baby guarantee the movement that I'm free
That's when I'll come crawlin' back to you

Never been a fighter or a lover
Never thought that either made much sense
And I can't decide on this way or the other
So I live my life just sittin on the fence

And I don't know you can stand it, I don't know why you stay
But you know I never planned it to turn out this way
And I would understand it, if you coudn't take any more
Of my always keeping one foot out the door

And I want to get married, I want to raise a family
Do the things that normal people do
But what self-respecting woman, would ever have me and not stab me
When I wanna have my cake and it too

Never been a fighter or a lover
Never thought that either made much sense
And I can't decide on this way or the other
So I live my life just sittin on the fence

Overall Meaning

Brendan Benson's "On the Fence" is a song about the struggle between the desire for freedom and the need for stability. It's a song about a man who can't make up his mind about what he wants in life, someone who is afraid of commitment but also yearning for it. The lyrics speak to the deep sense of uncertainty that people can feel about their place in the world, their relationships, and their own identity.


The opening lines, "Well I'm afraid that's true, I'm leaving you. But rest assured, tomorrow I'll be home," show the central conflict of the song. The singer is leaving, but he's promising to come back. He's torn between the desire to be free and the need for comfort and stability. He acknowledges that he's not good at being on his own, but he's also afraid of settling down.


Throughout the song, Benson explores the tension between these two desires. He sings of his "restless" feelings and his inability to choose between fighting and loving. He wants to get married and have a family, but he's afraid of losing his independence. The song ends with the singer admitting that he's "just sittin' on the fence," unable to make a decision one way or the other. It's a bittersweet ending, suggesting that the struggle between freedom and stability is something that never truly goes away.


Line by Line Meaning

Well I'm afraid that's true
I acknowledge that what you're saying is correct


I'm leaving you
I am ending our relationship


But rest assured, tomorrow I'll be home
However, I will return to you tomorrow


Cuz you know I never could, I never was no good
Because you know that I have always struggled and never been good at relationships


Lord knows at bein' on my own
It is difficult for me to be independent


Never been the type to want to settle down
I have never wanted to commit to one person or place


But never had the never to ramble on
But I have also never had the courage to leave and explore


So I'm leaving here tonight, but I'll be back before dawn
So I'm leaving now, but I promise to return soon


So leave a light on and keep my supper warm
Please keep a light on for me and save some food for when I come back


Never been a fighter or a lover
I have never been one to fight or to love deeply


Never thought that either made much sense
I have never understood the point of either


And I can't decide on this way or the other
I struggle to choose between different paths in life


So I live my life just sittin on the fence
So I remain in a state of indecision and do not take action


And today I feel restless, but tomorrow I won't fret this
I feel anxious today, but I know that tomorrow I will not worry about it


There's no tellin' what this boy may do
I am unpredictable and may do anything


But baby guarantee the movement that I'm free
But I promise that I will come back to you when I am independent


That's when I'll come crawlin' back to you
That is when I will return to you, perhaps humbly


And I don't know you can stand it, I don't know why you stay
I do not understand how you tolerate my behavior and continue to be with me


But you know I never planned it to turn out this way
I did not intend for our relationship to end up like this


And I would understand it, if you coudn't take any more
I would understand if you could not handle this anymore


Of my always keeping one foot out the door
Of me always being hesitant and not fully committing to our relationship


And I want to get married, I want to raise a family
I do want to commit and have a family


Do the things that normal people do
I want to have a normal life and do what most people do


But what self-respecting woman, would ever have me and not stab me
However, because of my past behavior, I may not be able to find a partner who respects themselves enough to be with me


When I wanna have my cake and it too
Because I want to have the benefits of both a free and committed lifestyle




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