You Don't Own Me
Brenna Whitaker Lyrics


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You don't own me
I'm not just one of your many toys.
You don't own me
don't say I can't go out with other boys.

And don't tell me what to do,
don't tell me what to say
and, please, when I go out with you
don't put me on display.
'Cause...
You don't own me
don't try to change me in any way.
You don't own me
don't tie me down 'cause I'd never stay.

I don't tell you what to say,
I don't tell you what to do,
So, just let me be myself,
that's all I ask of you.

I'm young, and I love to be young
And I'm free, and I love to be free
To live my life the way that I want
To say and do whatever I please

And don't tell me what to do,
don't tell me what to say
and, please, when I go out with you
don't put me on display.

I don't tell you what to say,
I don't tell you what to do,
So, just let me be myself,
that's all I ask of you.

I'm young,
And I'm free,




To live my life the way that I want
To say and do whatever I please

Overall Meaning

Brenna Whitaker's song "You Don't Own Me" is a powerful composition that speaks to the struggle against oppression and the desire to be oneself without fear of judgment or control. The song is a feminist anthem, encouraging women and girls to stand up and reject the notion that they are mere possessions or objects to be controlled by men.


The first verse sets the tone for the rest of the song by establishing the singer's independence and refusal to be treated like a toy. She asserts that she has the right to go out with other boys and to live her life on her terms. The chorus echoes this sentiment by repeating that the singer cannot be owned or changed by anyone. She insists on being allowed to be herself, without the pressure to conform to society's expectations or anyone else's wishes.


The second verse further emphasizes the singer's desire to live free from the control of others. She points out that she doesn't try to control her partner and asks for the same respect in return. She emphasizes that she is young and wants to be able to live her life as she pleases, without the constraint of society's expectations or outdated gender roles.


Overall, "You Don't Own Me" is a powerful statement of independence and self-determination. It reminds us that we are all individuals and have the right to be ourselves without fear of judgment or control.


Line by Line Meaning

You don't own me
I am not your possession


I'm not just one of your many toys.
I am not an object for you to play with


don't say I can't go out with other boys.
Do not control my actions and who I spend my time with


And don't tell me what to do,
Do not dictate my behavior


don't tell me what to say
Do not dictate my speech


and, please, when I go out with you
And, if we go out together


don't put me on display.
Do not treat me like an object in public


don't try to change me in any way.
Do not attempt to alter my personality or character


don't tie me down 'cause I'd never stay.
Do not try to restrict me because I would not comply


I'm young, and I love to be young
I am youthful and enjoy being so


And I'm free, and I love to be free
I value my freedom and independence


To live my life the way that I want
To make my own choices and decisions


To say and do whatever I please
To express myself freely without limitations


So, just let me be myself,
Allow me to express my true self


that's all I ask of you.
This is the only request I have for you




Writer(s): John Madara, David White

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