They have released two EP's: Innocence Surround and Introduction, a demo and four full length albums: Shout The Truth in 2008, which was re-recorded and re-released when Joel Piper joined the band in 2009, Recover in 2010 and then All Is Calm in 2013. The band ended in 2010, but had a comeback for their last album released in 2013.
All former members (in order of joining):
Jeffrey Helberg (2004 - 2010, 2012 - 2013): guitar (only original member left)
Aaron Van Zuthpen (2004 - 2009): guitar, vocals (now in Nekrogoblikon)
Joshua Plesh (2004 - 2007): vocals
Billy Pruden (2004 - 2009): bass
Jason Pickard (2004 - 2006): drums
John Paul Penton (2006 - 2007): drums
Ross Kenyon (2007 - 2010, 2012 - 2013): vocals (Ex-PenknifeLovelife)
Arin Ilejay (2007 - 2009): drums (ex-Avenged Sevenfold)
Joshua Patrick Paul (2009 - 2010, 2012 - 2013): guitar (Ex-In Fair Verona)
Joel Piper (2009 - 2010, 2012 - 2013): drums, vocals (also in Avery PkwyEx-Olivia the Band)
Trevor Vickers (2009 - 2010, 2012 - 2013): bass (Ex-Underneath The Gun)
Confide was formed by Joshua Plesh, Aaron Van Zuthpen, Billy Pruden, Jason Pickard and Jeff Helberg. They were in the same youth group and wanted to start a hardcore band. Two EP's were recorded in this formation: Innocence Surround and Introduction.
In the end of 2006, drummer Jason Pickard left the band and was replaced by John Paul Penton. Joshua Plesh also left the band. Ross Kenyon (who was fronting Penknifelovelife at that time) contacted Jeffey Helberg through the internet and told him he wanted to sing in an American band because his girlfriend lived there.
After being in the States for three months, Ross was forced to move back to England and John decided to quit the band.
In July Ross moved back to California and Arin Ilejay joined the band on the drums. In this formation they recorded Shout The Truth and their videoclip for If We Were a Sinking Ship.
In March 2009 two new members were introduced to the band: Joshua Paul and Joel Piper. Aaron and Arin left the band because they wanted a normal life off the road.
With Joel taking over the clean vocals, they re-recorded Shout The Truth and also a cover of The Postal Service's 'Such Great Heights'. They also recorded a videoclip for that song.
In August 2009 Billy Pruden, bassplayer and founding member, left the band. He was replaced by Trevor Vickers.
Vickers was introduced on their national headliner tour 'Thriller Tour' with Agraceful. They also recorded a video for 'I Never Saw It Coming' in September.
In December 2009 the band recorded their new album with Joey Sturgis (Asking Alexandria, The Devil Wears Prada, Attack Attack!). The album was released in May 2010 and featured one single Tighten it Up..
On October 4th, 2010, it was officially announced by Confide of their breakup. They have stated that they'll part ways when they return from their tour of Japan in early October. The band plans to play a handful of farewell shows on the West Coast. A statement released on behalf of the band says, "There is no easy way to say this at all but it's time to put an end to all the rumors you guys keep hearing about us breaking up. Unfortunately, the rumors are true and we wish we could have been the first to tell you guys but there are reasons why we couldn't release this statement until now. We want to be 100% honest with you guys and let you know the real reasons that Confide will be no longer because you deserve to know. First of all, we want to let you know that each member of the band remains friends and the band breaking up was a positive thing and nothing bad happened to result in this. After being a touring band for over three years now, Confide is on the road for nine to ten months out the year and for some people in the band, it was getting to be a struggle to be gone so much, living in a van, sleeping in parking lots and not eating/sleeping well. We absolutely love making music, playing shows and especially meeting/hanging out with fans but we feel God has a new chapter for our lives right now. Around two weeks ago, Joshua, Trevor & I (Ross) sat down and talked about how we felt about touring and how it is really taking a toll on our lives. After the talk, we then sat down as a full band and told Jeff & Joel how we felt and they were very understanding and knew exactly what we were going through. Jeff & Joel discussed keeping Confide going but we decided as a group that it would be for the best if Confide came to an end after our Japan tour, which is in early October. Each member of the band will continue to work in the music industry in some way or another, whether it be in a band, work for a record label/management company, work in a studio, or whatever it may be, we're not giving up on music and you will definitely hear from each of us again. We hope that you guys will show each of us the same support that you have shown Confide over the years. Since the beginning, Confide has been a band that strives to help, encourage and inspire people and even though the band will be no more, we want you guys to still be able to talk to us on a personal level so if you ever want to talk or just say hey, please never hesitate to contact us through our Facebook, twitter or myspace profiles. As a huge thank you to our fans, we will be doing a bunch of farewell shows. We'll post dates and details on the farewell shows once we get back from Japan and figure all of that out. We want to thank fans and give you guys a chance to come to a show and celebrate the life of Confide with us."
The fans missed Confide and the band listened to the words online. The band started a Kickstarter campaign and on September 30, 2012 Confide was successfully funded and had received $38,709 in fan support for their album project to be released in 2013 called All Is Calm. Confide performed on several festivals after this.
The members of Confide have gone on to take part in many other bands and projects, most notably Avenged Sevenfold and Of Mice & Men. Former drummer Arin Ilejay joined Avenged Sevenfold and then was fired from the band, but as of 2015 has joined the nu metal band Islander. Drummer Joel Piper started his own solo project after quitting Of Mice & Men, and later the band Lifelong with also previous Confide members Ross Kenyon and Trevor Vickers. Aaron Van Zutphen currently plays in the metal band Nekrogoblikon.
Role Reversal
Confide Lyrics
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looking for the tag that’s been tied around my neck.
I’ve been searching for,
searching for an identity that’s found in You.
Because I know there’s times
when I feel your afar and there’s times when
I know I am further
and there’s times when I really feel I’m alive and
Recently we’ve been holding on to everyone’s last breath,
And letting it replay in our head.
I realized I was in too deep.
You never had to explain yourself to me.
How can we hide from our cold insides?
I can’t live side by side the description you’re giving me.
I find myself in something bigger than the size of your lips.
Take a step back, hold your thoughts.
It was never too easy for you.
I’ve found a peace in silence,
as I listen,
I’m lost for thought.
Recently we’ve been holding on to everyone’s last breath,
And letting it replay in our head.
How can we hide from our cold insides?
How can we hide from the one who never blinks?
The lyrics to Confide's song "Role Reversal" touch on themes of self-searching, identity, distance, and the struggle for emotional connection. The singer expresses a desire to find their true self, symbolized by the metaphorical "tag tied around [their] neck." They yearn for an identity that is rooted in something greater than themselves, something they find in another person, possibly a romantic partner or a higher power.
However, there is a sense of distance and inconsistency in this connection. At times, they feel close and alive, while at other times, they feel far away or completely alone. This fluctuation in emotional closeness can be challenging to navigate.
The second verse reflects a realization that the singer has become deeply invested in this connection and perhaps even dependent on it. They acknowledge that they never required an explanation from the other person, suggesting a level of unquestioning trust or devotion.
The chorus questions the ability to hide from the inner emptiness or coldness that exists within oneself. There is a recognition that living alongside the beliefs or description the other person imposes upon them is not sustainable. The singer feels they have grown beyond the limitations of the other person's perspective, as illustrated by the line "I find myself in something bigger than the size of your lips." It suggests that they have discovered a greater sense of purpose or meaning that transcends physical or superficial aspects.
The final question in the lyrics reflects a deeper existential dilemma, wondering how one can hide from someone who never blinks. This can be interpreted as a metaphorical representation of a higher power or an all-seeing force that is aware of every aspect of a person's being, making hiding or masking true emotions and intentions futile.
In summary, "Role Reversal" explores the search for identity, the complexities of emotional connections, and the yearning for something greater than oneself while questioning the nature of hiding from one's own inner struggles and a higher power's perception.
Line by Line Meaning
I’ve been looking for, looking for the tag that’s been tied around my neck.
I have been searching for my true identity, which feels like a burden.
I’ve been searching for, searching for an identity that’s found in You.
I have been seeking to find my sense of self in a higher power or in something beyond myself.
Because I know there’s times when I feel your afar and there’s times when I know I am further and there’s times when I really feel I’m alive and there’s times when I feel there’s no-one in sight.
I go through different phases where I feel distant from you, close to you, alive, or completely alone.
Recently we’ve been holding on to everyone’s last breath, And letting it replay in our head.
Lately, we have been obsessing over the final moments of other people's lives, replaying them over and over in our minds.
I realized I was in too deep. You never had to explain yourself to me.
I finally understood that I had become too emotionally invested, and you never owed me any explanations.
How can we hide from our cold insides?
How can we avoid confronting our own emotional emptiness?
I can’t live side by side the description you’re giving me.
I cannot exist alongside the limited interpretation you have of who I am.
I find myself in something bigger than the size of your lips.
I discover my true worth and significance in something greater and more meaningful than superficial physical traits.
Take a step back, hold your thoughts. It was never too easy for you.
Pause and reflect, as it was never effortless or straightforward for you.
I’ve found a peace in silence, as I listen, I’m lost for thought.
I experience tranquility and inner peace when I remain quiet and attentive, often rendering me speechless.
How can we hide from our cold insides?
How can we avoid facing the cold and empty parts of ourselves?
How can we hide from the one who never blinks?
How can we escape from the all-seeing and ever-watchful presence of someone who never misses a thing?
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