Pay Attention
D.Core Lyrics

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Yeah

It's about to be a long long night
I just took a long long flight
Girl, we know that two wrongs don't right
But every minute you've been on my mind, mmm
We dinner date you wear a dress
I stole your heart look at a thief up in that flesh

Girl, let's go to heights you haven't met
I find it kind of funny this started with a DM
And now we changin' positions
And I'm a run circles up down she drippin'

I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm
I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm

I keep it for you make a promise for me nice
I'm on this mountain for you, baby, can you climb?
We take a trip I know it's different every time
January while you study in Dubai
She said it's different what I'm feelin' this time
The love residual whenever you shy
I'ma spend all my time on this
Baby, please don't forget I put a bullet in your ex
I'm in Belgium I've been shopping for diamonds bitch
Okay, hold on
Enough love for the both of us
Okay, hold on
Pay attention to what's close to us

I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm

I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of D.Core's song "Pay Attention" discuss a passionate and intense romantic encounter. The song begins with the anticipation of a long night ahead after a long flight. The singer acknowledges that two wrongs don't make a right, but admits that the person they're thinking about has been on their mind every minute. The mention of a dinner date and stealing the other person's heart suggests a seductive and playful tone.

The lyrics then take a more explicit turn as the singer focuses their attention on the recipient's clitoris. The repetition of "I pay attention to that clit, clit" emphasizes the singer's dedication to pleasuring their partner and being attentive to their needs.

The second verse introduces a more personal and intimate connection between the two. References are made to traveling together and the singer being willing to go to great heights for the other person. The mention of studying in Dubai suggests a long-distance relationship, but the love between them seems to transcend physical distance. The lyrics convey a sense of devotion and protectiveness, with the singer willing to stand up for their partner and even proclaiming a willingness to harm those who have hurt them.

Overall, "Pay Attention" is a steamy and passionate song that explores desire, intimacy, and the importance of being present and attentive in a sexual relationship.

Line by Line Meaning

Yeah
Expressing agreement or enthusiasm

It's about to be a long long night
The upcoming night is expected to be lengthy

I just took a long long flight
Recently traveled a great distance by airplane

Girl, we know that two wrongs don't right
We are aware that two mistakes don't make it right

But every minute you've been on my mind, mmm
You have been occupying my thoughts constantly

We dinner date you wear a dress
During our dinner dates, you wear a dress

I stole your heart look at a thief up in that flesh
I metaphorically captured your love, like a thief stealing something valuable

Girl, let's go to heights you haven't met
Let's explore new heights or experiences together

I find it kind of funny this started with a DM
I find it amusing or ironic that our relationship began with a direct message

And now we changin' positions
Our roles or dynamics are evolving

And I'm a run circles up down she drippin'
I will playfully run circles around you while you are enticed or aroused

I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I focus on pleasuring your clitoris and giving it proper attention

I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm
I prioritize understanding and satisfying your clitoral needs, my girl

I keep it for you make a promise for me nice
I keep myself reserved exclusively for you and promise to treat you kindly

I'm on this mountain for you, baby, can you climb?
I am committed to overcoming challenges for you, will you join me in overcoming them?

We take a trip I know it's different every time
Whenever we go on a journey together, it's always a unique experience

January while you study in Dubai
Referring to a specific time period when you were studying in Dubai in January

She said it's different what I'm feelin' this time
You mentioned that the emotions or sensations you are currently experiencing are distinct from before

The love residual whenever you shy
The love for you remains even when you exhibit shyness or reserve

I'ma spend all my time on this
I will dedicate all of my time to this relationship or situation

Baby, please don't forget I put a bullet in your ex
Darling, don't forget that I figuratively eliminated your past relationship's influence or presence

I'm in Belgium I've been shopping for diamonds bitch
I am currently in Belgium, purchasing diamonds arrogantly

Okay, hold on
Pause or wait for a moment

Enough love for the both of us
There is sufficient love for both of us

Pay attention to what's close to us
Be attentive to things or people who are near to us or our relationship

I pay attention to that clit, clit, mmm
I prioritize focusing on your clitoris and giving it proper attention

I pay attention to that clit clit, girl, mmm
I prioritize understanding and satisfying your clitoral needs, my girl

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Written by: Adam Williams, Ricky Banton, Soriba Konde, Ulysse Poletti, Youri Krief

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

Deborah Riley

You know, I’ve healed so very much over many years and you always validate that I’m doing the right things.
I have not had a COTSD event for well over a year 👍
However..😂
I had a doozy this last weekend, that completely blindsided me!
It was a cascading event, I was rushed by someone, I dog/ house sat in an old home full of antiques that triggered fragrance, then their dog lunged at an old lady in a dangerous manner that completely frightening me!
Who boy!😳😬
Never had fragrance triggers but it was an underlying stressor, that I did recognize because I was completely uncomfortable there.
But, it put some huge puzzle pieces together for me and I was able to truly see things from my childhood even clearer.
My brain feels like jello in full vibrating mode!!!
My nervous system was shot for more than 24 hours, but it was truly important information for my soul!!!
Whew! Hopefully I don’t have that again!!!😅😳😬😰

Lynn R

I have experienced these things, and it was probably less than you, but enough to severely interfere with my university education. However, doctors didn't take it seriously when I tried to explain what's going on.

A couple of acquaintances suggested that I might be suffering from black magic, and I even started to accept that possibility, even though I don't believe in such things normally, because it really did feel like someone was playing a very mean trick on me.

For example, I had to retake a lab course at my university recently, and I understood that it was very important to finish it. But despite reading all the directions beforehand, and (so I thought) very carefully going through the directions during one experiment, I collected data that I wasn't supposed to collect and completely omitted everything that I should have written. I felt very stressed, anxious, and on edge throughout the whole process, but tried to fight through it because I thought I didn't have any other option.

When I looked through the directions later, when it was too late, I realized that the directions had been perfectly clear and I had nobody but myself to blame for screwing it up. I started to hate myself so much because it was another example of me working very hard but being unable to accomplish the bare minimum.

Thank you for talking about this, it's so good to know that there is an explanation for this and that I'm not just lazy or careless or not as good as other people, and it's probably not black magic either.

All comments from YouTube:

Blue Cat

2y↑233

I'm always wondering why therapists can't teach you practical stuff like this. Talking about my feelings is a nice thing, but I also need advice for my daily life. Thank you Anna for doing such a great job! 💕

Matthew Dietzen

2y↑14

Because then their prey gets better and escapes.

Shon Henry

Your welcome

Patricia Vandevelde

2y↑4

They just want money money like accountants,doctors and lawyers!

T w

2y↑4

Should be taught in high school-this knowledge Ms. Crappy Childhood Fairy knows; also should teach people how to raise small children as well as other useful life skills. Anyone who knows how to take what she says and put it into books should step forward now and make a book series.

Keepmovingforward!

2y↑5

Therapists do cover this but it depends on why you are there, goals, etc. You are the center so if there is something you wanna talk about please do! They are there to help. If they are not a good fit, fire them and find one that is a better match. You only have 1 life and you are worth it!

11 More Replies...

Tom Leslie

2y↑358

Re-growing my nervous system through martial arts, meditation, and yoga over the past few years has changed my life. It's hard to explain to people, but it's like the electricity is turning back on inside me.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑15

Excellent!
-Cara@TeamFairy

neogery

2y↑26

I understand this, same thing has happened to me. I started with yoga a little over an year ago and it has helped me more than anything else so far in my life. I tried explaining this to my friends and they dont understand. I think everyone discovers this way of life when they are ready.

jenny kastelic

2y↑4

nice analogy.

Flora Griffin

2y↑9

I totally agree about martial arts, but I strongly advise you against yoga. Yoga means ‘yolking’ as in yolking yourself with the millions of Hindu deities ie. It is a religious practice. There are things like Pilates and Alexander technique that I don’t think have any occult/new age roots.

Scottlp2

2y↑17

Not sure it’s widely appreciated, but yoga, like tai chi is giving yourself an energy treatment which can definitely be relaxing, and meditation (depending on kind, there are zillions) can help give you “space” from your conditioning so you can over time become less reactive.

28 More Replies...

Chelsea Yhokoub

2y↑31

The nervous system disregulation is the most challenging part of coping with trauma. I'm glad you touched on this

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Thanks for watching!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Vivianne Bisson

2y↑87

You are for C-PTSD what Dr. Ramani is for Narcissistic Abuse.
I'm very grateful!
Thank you so much.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑2

You're so welcome. Thanks for watching. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Chelsea Yhokoub

2y↑1

Agreed!

miss DeeDee

2y↑1

agree

Диана

2y↑1

I agree!!!

STARQUEEN LOTUS

2y↑9

Narcissistic abuse also one of the causes of cptsd

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Aimee Hall

2y↑37

dysregulation = emotional, unstable, "crazy".....what i've dealt with my whole life. Called "sensitive", "weak", "crybaby". I'm 51 right now and still struggle with the dysregulation, but getting better.

ponetium

2y↑83

I have found regular physical activity to be quite regulating. I think the fact that you are interacting with the world, plus getting some of the fight/flight energy out really helps.
Even simple things like rhythmic movements can help, regardless of deregulation.
It is like...the body likes the rhythm.

Mystearica Nohr

2y↑7

I completely agree with you! When I feel myself losing my temper, I go clean the kitchen counters or floors. It’s physical, repetitive, and gives me a small sense of accomplishment for doing something useful.

JM

2y↑2

Yes! The gym is my medicine. I feel so much better. I also listen to David Goggins and his motivation really helps me.

miss DeeDee

agree

Judy Miller

2y↑3

I'm 76 and find I still NEED to walk or jog my 4 hilly miles nearly daily. It takes time, but makes my day go more efficiently and happily. If I don't exercise, I drift around with no schedule or plan. I have ADHD, introvert (feel more comfortable home alone for days at time in spite of feeling lonely or bored), struggle to shop for myself (even online), deep feelings constantly but keep a pleasant, blank face and struggle to communicate, etc etc. All this and no awareness of childhood trauma, yet silently endured an abusive marriage for 5 years, so I assume some childhood "training"???

Ali Sparkle

2y↑261

I find during the "blank/numb" or "spaced out" times, having an animal around helps! Little puppy face asking for attention and love cuts right through it, like a hammer breaking through the ice wall and I can feel good things again 😍 Animals are such gifts 🐶🐱💕

Monk Mind

2y↑5

That's exactly why I want another one!

winxclubstellamusa

2y↑7

It’s called dissociation, I’ve had it since the first grade.

lunadog71

Awww!

Lisa of parvati therapy

2y↑1

@winxclubstellamusa disregulation

S A

2y↑1

Animals stress me out the most. It’s so disheartening when people dismiss my feelings about it. Animals make things worse for me. Especially cats.

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Christina Cutlass

2y↑111

I’m so TIRED of dysregulation! 60 years! Also, autonomic seizures, vomiting, dissociative episodes where I become catatonic. I didn’t know why…. If only I had had help when I was young. Keep up the good work! The effects years abuse and torture will follow me to my death. It doesn’t have to be that way…

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑15

I am so glad you are here now!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Linn

2y↑15

Same age and same thing for me. I'm broken. My reactions are reflexive and I can't control them no matter how hard I try or how much insight I have into my own behavior. I'm left with maintaining "the mask" as best I can, which is exhausting.

Christina Jordan

2y↑5

I am also your age. You have much more severe symptoms than I do, but I just focus on today and making it as centered and peaceful as possible. Hugs to you!

Lee M

2y↑3

Poor thing I send you good

Michelle Byrom

2y↑10

The catatonic phase - aaagh! With everyone giving me impatient looks suggesting that I'm being deliberately lazy.
There's a total absence of energy to be able to get up and do something, anything.

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Michael Hollins

2y↑37

I'm 73 and had a very small stroke last year. The neurologist recommended exercise, so I got back into the gym. I do weight training and walking on an inclined treadmill 2-3 times a week. I do each rep smoothly and slowly, and I work until the muscles are exhausted. I sense this has benefits that go beyond just building strength and endurance. I notice I tend to feel more relaxed and sleep better, especially when I focus on doing various jobs smoothly and calmly, not trying to be too perfect. My problem has always been social anxiety and panic attacks more than CPTSD, I think, but after a week or two of doing all this I felt like I was getting into a groove--as if my body rhythms generally had gotten more regular.

gina wylie

2y↑2

One step at a time, big air hugs

miss DeeDee

2y↑2

the body needs that stuff whatever sorta activity you feel good to go back to normal again yes

Linda

2y↑12

Most people have had a crappy childhood. Some more than others. I got burnt as a child. I was isolated for 6 weeks after skin grafts were done. I have all your symptoms. It's nice to have some advice on how to cope with the issues. Keep up the good work.

Siobhán Rose

2y↑31

Yip, hey it me, over here trying to heal from childhood PTSD from neglect, abandonment, sexual/emotional/and physical abuse aged 0-17. Watching this made me get teary. I feel understood and seen, and I’ve never had such relation to someone else’s description of this. I don’t want this way of brain function, and I have been working very hard to get better. Recognising and respecting yourself and these reactions, and viewing yourself and these moments with compassion. Thank you.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑2

Thank you for sharing, glad you're here!
-Calista@TeamFairy

miss DeeDee

2y↑1

yes your explanation is very helpfull

Lucy H

2y↑2

"Recognising and respecting yourself and these reactions, and viewing yourself and these moments with compassion" This really helped me, thank you! I'm always likely to feel immense shame for the slightest 'mistake' or feel there's something wrong with me (growing up with narcissistic mother) , so this is a good reminder and to others, to love ourselves and work with ourselves with compassion instead of ripping apart ourselves on top. Self reflection is good, but not to the extent of being unkind to ourselves.

PG L

2y↑1

Thank you your comment hits.

Hebah Muhammad

2y↑34

That’s why I preferred being alone, it takes a really special partner to understand this without getting tired of it!

Rebecca Stone

2y↑22

Terrific description, and thank you for making this so relatable for a wider audience. It's the kind of description you could send to a partner or close friend to help them understand. As someone in recovery from BPD, I've experienced dangerous-level dysregulation, and we do carry around prescribed medication for emergencies, but I know that many people watching this won't. It's true as you say that being able to name it while it's happening is a massive step.

A few extra handy techniques from DBT are:
- similar to your cold shower tip, filling a bowl with iced water (water + ice cubes) and holding your face and breath under the water for around 30 secs. (There's science behind why this one is so effective).
- hard, hard cardio exercise
- a physical activity that forces you to use all points of focus esp balance - eg an inverted yoga pose, roller-skating etc

Amy Marple

2y↑61

I am a special education teacher. It is common for students with special needs to become disregulated. I can tell when it is happening and what to do to help them reregulate. It took me years to figure out that i was also becoming disregulated at work when stressful things happened. I just thought that i had undiagnosed ADHD. For me trying to focus was like trying to do paperwork during a rock concert. There was so much noise in my head it was impossible to do anything.
I now know when the noise gets too loud i stop, take a deep breath, and refocus. Sometimes i have to give myself permission to come back to that task later.

winxclubstellamusa

2y↑2

Real ADHD is very different from the dissociation and trauma noise of CPTSD - in ADHD our senses are heightened and our brains are overactive 24/7, even during sleep, since birth. We take in all of the sounds and can’t “tune out” any of the small ones at all, and actually get panicked when in silence. Our brains and senses are hyperactive and need to be stimulated constantly, lol hats also why we get extremely anxious if we don’t stim.

I imagined a special needs teacher would know a bit more about neurodivergence, I guess I was wrong. No one can understand us except for another one of us, of our specific type of brain mutation.

winxclubstellamusa

Also, the term ADD isn’t used anymore, it’s ADHD their either primarily hyperactive or primarily innatentive.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑4

@Amy I have worked with kids too- what's good for them is good for us! I use the re-regulation tools I learned for first graders all the time :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

MARIA J M C

Thank you it was as if I wrote this I thought I has ADHIK.

Karen B

Thank you for articulating this in this way. This is EXACTLY HOW I’ve felt my entire life! Good luck from NY😻

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swansinleather

2y↑58

Pretty revelatory to see decades of private difficulty recognized & acknowledged as a diagnosable reality. I always thought of my dysregulation as 'driving a wobbly car where the controls never work properly - you never know how the gas pedal or gear shift or steering wheel will respond'. Alot of shame & humiliation when you can't control you.

Matthew Dietzen

2y↑3

That last sentence... 😑

R. P.

2y↑67

I get lost during an emotional flashback. Completely lost while driving. Also, forget things. I feel the dis-regulation but fail to acknowledge what is happening. Especially when it comes out of the blue. Thank you for this reminder. Man, it does NOT go away :(

Jen Marie

2y↑1

I used to love driving. That was my go to stress relief.

neogery

2y↑27

I recently dicovered this channel and I only wish we had this back then when I was young. It took me decades to figure all this out on my own before the interenet. At least I am doing things completely differently than my mother with my daughter. So something good came out of my CPTSD. There is no turning back time, we can only do better today!

Abe 11

2y↑92

Thank you. I wish I had known about this years ago. I experienced this all the time and I never understood what it was. Note that sometimes hugging does not help dysregulation. Growing up my mother never hugged or touched me, and I spent all my time alone in my room comforting myself after my parents' abuse. So now if I'm dysregulated, I hate being touched, it actually irritates me and makes me worse. I just need to be left alone and I can get back to normal. Going for a long walk helps me a lot as it gets me back into my body again.

Lucía Radonic

2y↑14

I also feel uncomfortable if I'm touched but because of the opposite, my mother hugged me but she didn't protect me so that contact felt empty and I rejected it.

Athena

2y↑14

I was abused by my mother and older brother. I hate being hugged! One of the hardest things for me is not breaking the hug first with my children. I know they need it, I know it’s important, so I smile and breathe slowly and remind myself that it’s my child and I’m safe.

michaelyoung24

2y↑9

See, I'm just the opposite. My mom never hugged me or said she loved me BUT, I love getting hugs!

Sheryn Ngofa

2y↑26

Your video came at just the perfect time. I felt dysregulated last week, and I could not figure out what happened. It was like having an out of body experience. And thank you for the tools to combat that feeling should it arise again. I appreciate you!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑3

Your presence in the community is appreciated as well :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Alexa Robinson

A friend of mine and I have a joke that Anna must spy on us because her videos are so on point with things we’ve discussed.

John Miller

2y↑10

My description of dysregulation is that my brain is turned inside out and thorns are jabbing the exposed, tender brain. It's as if my brain is everywhere but calm. Hardly surprising, 15 years ago I was given a false diagnosis for bipolar II. All based on my account of being irritated when depressed or aroused. Thankfully, I got a C-PTSD diagnosis a few years ago and, for the icing on the cake, ADHD this year. Getting the connection between C-PTSD and ADHD (largely thanks to Gabor Mate's books) has been very helpful.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thanks for sharing!
-Calista@TeamFairy

Steve C

2y↑70

It's even clearer now - neurological dysregulation. "The emotions, the memories, the patterns, the relationship problems - all of this depends on your nervous system having a basic level of regulation." My nervous system was out of whack for decades; and started to dysregulate at the moment of my childhood trauma. I am thankfully past the need to discover/understand my past. Being mindful and present today is a new and welcome chapter for me. Yet I do value adding to my knowledge of cPTSD, its causes and its effects on us. In this way I will ensure that my own neurological issues stay balanced. I have not become dysregulated for months now. I know that if/when that happens, I will quickly see the difference in myself...and remove myself from the immediate circumstance to reregulate. This is a totally new and wonderful world. I now have a voice that I can depend upon.

Monk Mind

2y↑5

That sounds like heaven how'd u do it

R Lud

2y↑4

Okay. So you just re-regulate? Just like that? If it was that simple, none of us would have struggled in the first place.

Steve C

2y↑5

@Monk Mind - It is the most difficult thing I will ever do. Opening Pandora's box of my past trauma and all of the ensuing emotional upheaval was self torture. Yet I did it willingly, knowing that I had to allow repressed feelings to heal in the light of new information regarding my history. Six years of talk therapy never even scratched the surface; and was for me a total waste of time and money. My epiphany came one day as I questioned the possible origin of my trauma, and found it.

We have a natural inclination to heal ourselves once we begin to do so. One powerful influence on me has been the book: "Letting Go" by Dr. David Hawkins Every page is a gift to humanity. Another has been finding this channel. Anna and her team are the real deal! She/they have a gift for getting to the root of an issue, and guiding us toward healing. Our lives are finite. This is my last chapter. I swore on my 'epiphany day' that this would be my best life...and it is starting to be! We can all do this. I hope the rest of your journey is a good one!

Steve C

2y↑5

@R Lud - Simple solutions are often the best. No, it has not been a quick or easy fix. However, some things just click...when we are ready to accept them. The imbalance we experience must be challenged and made right. Please read my response to Monk Mind for my longer answer. Good healing.

SUSI Florence

So clear. Thanks Mom..

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Dawn Trueman

2y↑1

I love the attention you pay to the brain,people need to know how to see it in the clear light of day so they can understand it when it's going wrong. My legs get week and I look for a chair. My response has been to change my approach to things over time, identify the things about myself that cause me to see my actions to reflect badly on the various roles I play, break apart the reasons I'm programmed to see it that way and to forgive myself for the humanness I share with everyone. It hasn't worked in the moment though.

Dementional

2y↑12

Thank-you for using yourself as an example. I have been experiencing this for some time. Didn't realize there was a word, but dysregulation describes it perfectly. 🙏

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Glad it was helpful!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Nicole Main Pottery

2y↑2

😍😍😍 polyvagal theory and learning about the sympathetic/parasympathetic nervous systems and how to get them balanced is EVERYTHING! ❤️

M H

2y↑6

Such great video content and emotional regulation tools, Anna! You are such a gem! I have woke up disregulated every day, for 4 years now, since my husband died. I have to do diaphragmatic breathing every morning. That helps a little.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

So sorry for your loss. Sending you encouragement and support. We're here for you. - Ashley, Team Fairy

S Qureshi

2y↑41

It’s very hard to stop when you’re in it. I’ve noticed I often go through 2-3 weeks of being “off”. I just cannot get going. I feel like eating straight brownies all day every day lol. And ong yes the clumsiness and hand writing is so me I can’t believe that happens to others too! This has obviously hurt my life A LOT. I haven’t achieved anything career/ education wise. Now as a SAHM I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to live my dreams (always wanted to be an attorney). But this dysregulation, associated memory issues, and awful family that caused this in the first place (only went no contact this year and I’m so much better already) really held me back. I’m 30 and really having a crisis of identity now that life is finally stable after a decade.

Apegoandco

2y↑6

30 is very young I am 42 and I have managed to do that this year, I am compassionate with myself though. I'm sure you have reached something, this trauma make us believe we're losers, losers for whom, there's always something to be grateful.

trish x

2y↑4

Never give up achieving your dreams because of age! I went back to school to get my degree finally at 34. Just keep plugging away, even if you can only go part time. 30s is still young, plenty of time to accomplish what we want in life!

Polite Q

At least you're young enough to still pull something cool off, even if it's not becoming an attorney (not too late for that!). I hope you can find a way. I struggle with similar stuff though, I really struggle to make my talents shine, even though I am confident in them.

Mary Shepherd

2y↑12

For me, this video describes almost my whole life. I appreciate your down to earth, practical advice and guidance. Thank you so much, Anna. 🙏

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad it was helpful!!
-Cara@TeamFairy

R. P.

@Crappy Childhood Fairy she is thanking Anna.

Amber K. Korstad

2y↑2

Just found your work today. I am in the field and study many medical things, but it's so different to tell a patient about something versus doing it for ourselves. Thank you for your content. You break it down very well.

Kc Colly

2y↑5

You have put a name to what ails me…I’m still amazed at your introspective breakthroughs, spoken in a mere few minutes of a video. Years of therapy, unnecessary medications, didn’t work for me as well, yet you understand and express these real mental health brain injuries. Only one who’s been through it can fathom I believe.
Relieved to know I’m a perfectly, imperfect human due to my dreadful undeserved lifetime of trauma, which led to bad decisions only reinforcing that low self esteem. More importantly, at this point, I commend you for inspiring courage, and continued resilience to find our happiest possibilities during this short stay called life. 🌸

Zeth Crownett

In the beginning, a lot of what you described as disregilation with facial expressions and relating is something heavily associated with autism.
In the second bit, about not feeling your hands or things feeling cloudy, that was describing the experience of disassociation. These things do occur when you are disregulated, but it's also helpful to have the words for what it is your experiencing beyond just I'm deregulated and these are my symptoms. Because it gives you tools to help manage those symptoms.

Shari Taylor

2y↑33

I’m also so clumsy when I’m disregulated. I also hate on myself a lot! Telling myself I’m useless and stupid and ugly. I then want to hole myself up in my room . However I’m a mum and I can’t, so my brain just constantly tells me everything that I’m doing wrong. Thank you for this insight about being dysregulated. I will try not to be so hard on myself!

CorePathway

The handwriting changes!!! Sometimes it’s neat, usually not. For me this is a good clue

Infrared1967

2y↑10

Very powerful! Depending on the need, I bounce around all of my favorite narcissist abuse life coaches. Some days it feels good to say, yeah! that's what he did to me! Then I feel vindicated and heard.

I cycle back to you when I need to stop pointing fingers and focus on what I can do to understand what happens when I'm triggered. I look to you when I feel brave enough to peel off more layers and heal my childhood wounds. You challenge me to admit and accept without guilt & shame that my reactive abuse IS abuse, and I owe it to myself and my family to rein it in.

I often repeat that the victim sometimes becomes the perpetrator. While the narcissists that wounded me deserve my wrath, being angry just covers the pain. Time to feel the pain and that's it's part of me and not some separate entity.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

What a beautiful testament to your growth. Glad you're able to find moments of strength where you take steps forward. There are times where we need to talk about feelings and feel heard... but then, we take steps forward. We're cheering for you. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Agnes Wroblewski

2y↑19

This has changed my life Anna. Thank You for helping us 💜

Crappy Childhood Fairy

You are so welcome!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Orla Hayes

26w↑1

Have you any idea how much of a relief it is to hear that other people experience the same symtpoms as me and I'm not alone.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

26w

I do know. We are all so glad to have found our tribe here!

Jerrica

2y↑11

This video is SOO helpful! I often become extremely disregulated when my partner feels overwhelmed / overstimulated. She can become “angry” during this time. I know it’s not because of me and it’s ALSO her trauma/disregulation. It causes me to shut down and feel paralyzed. It triggers my childhood trauma of my mom who struggled with addiction and her unpredictable behavior. I’ve had such a hard time changing this about myself and it’s caused my partner hurt as well. I want the change and i WANT to be better. I’m learning how to pull myself out of that moment so I can heal & be better help my partner as well. So thank you for this!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Glad you found it helpful. Thanks for watching. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Ginette Cardinal

2y↑1

Thank you so much !!! I got exactly the same experience of people thinking I don't care about them when I get dysregulated, because I look and sound numb. For me, dysregulation expresses itself in the form of helplessness and a kind of paralysis where everything (really everything) is too hard to do or think about. And it can last as long as a week. Now that I know about it, I am able to see it when it happens and soothe myself back to calm, thanks to you and to my daughter who has made me realise it.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy

Randy Stone

2y↑32

The first time I thought about deep seated trauma was when my Dad called and my wife noticed my deep voice rose an octave. Having been insulted and regularly demeaned by Dad I started dwelling on what first caused my fear of my Dad. Finally remembered one of my first memories when I was 2 standing up on the car seat when Dad took his hounds one at a time down into a nearby gully and shot them. I heard their dying bark and Dad returned to the car crying because he loved his dogs. My childhood brain must have felt if he killed the dogs he loved he might kill me too. I know people reading this have had much worse physical trauma than me growing up and I hope they found counseling like me. The best help that was a turning point for me was a couple of years attending the Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families meetings. With ADD (no hyperactivity for me, dammit) and real help available about childhood trauma it's easier to understand why my life perspective is so different from most people.

Serenity

2y↑4

I think a lot of people have gone through trauma that is not so obvious. It becomes more subconscious, and it's harder to see the root cause of our pain later in life. Your story shows me how important it is to explain to children when something violent happens, even if it's not directly to them. Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad you are getting the help you need to process it all. Good luck with everything!

Polly Singer

2y↑7

I am so sorry you went through that as a child. My heart goes out to you. 🙏🙏

Mystearica Nohr

2y↑6

Why would he shoot his own dogs?Was he a psychopath?!
Animal death and cruelty is one of my triggers. So even reading your comment disturbs me greatly. 😔

CorePathway

2y↑2

I am going to my first ACA meeting Wednesday. AA hasn’t worked for me because I feel like a child inside all the time, makes it hard/impossible for me to have relationships with other adult men. Sponsorship has never worked; I can’t (yet) consistently show up as an adult in my healing. Or relationships. Or career.

Bumble Bee

2y↑6

I feel numb/frozen when I get dis-regulated, like I'm in a parallel world. I get angry and blurry eyed. But I now try to catch myself out. Self soothing really helps. And changing the way you want to react before it happens so you know what to do. Learn the signs when it comes.

Racquel S

2y↑3

Anna, thank you for being here! You have been a very special blessing in my life 🙏 ❤ 💛 teaching me how to get more out of life with all of this information and strategies. You're the best!

Soya

2y↑1

This advice is sound and very helpful! Some of it I learned in therapy, whilst the embracing oneself and using touch or impact is something several therapists and social workers I know use to awaken the body after a particularly heavy case. I'm really grateful for you knowledge and how you share it in an easily accesible form. Thank you Ms Fairy!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad you found it helpful. Thanks for being here. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Jana Merten

2y↑4

Couldn't agree more Fairy. Thank you for your work to get these invaluable messages out there for people. 🙏💖

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Your welcome, thanks for the support. Jack@teamfairy

Ashley Moon

Amazing! You explain so well. I ran away from my problems by leaving for college and thought it solved my problem. My problem in relationships is flight. I also fear abandonment. I have a huge problem with avoidance too. I’ve been doing a lot better but avoiding the real thoughts. From the bottom of my heart… thank you. Thank you for your free course too. Do you offer monthly payments for your yearly courses?

Wandering Home

2y↑1

I listened to this one so many times…I recognize this as a super awesome re-upload. It has helped me so much with my adopted children….well, also, my husband and my birth children. Thank you :)

Crappy Childhood Fairy

So glad you enjoyed :) -Calista@TeamFairy

Mary Chifulio

2y↑1

Why is there such an urgent feeling to over explain my decisions? And THANKNYOU for sharing simple things to help during an episode. You are likely saving lives 😎🎼❤️

Deborah Riley

Serenity

2y↑2

I have experienced this since my childhood. There was no one who traumatized me or abused me and yet I have all these symptoms. When I was about 9 years old, I developed emetophobia because of all the kids in school that would throw up and everyone would freak out. I was worried it would happen to me too, and the anxiety made me feel nauseated. Being a little kid, I couldn't tell the difference between being anxious and actually having to throw up.
At the same time, my mom who had been a stay at home mom went back to school to get her master's in teaching. She wasn't around for me as much, and I stopped eating. I have abandonment issues now as a 29 year old that I've had to reconcile in my relationship. I'm much better now with the anxiety and haven't gone through a period of not eating in a while. But recently when my fiancé was out of town, and I couldn't get in touch with him, I cried for a day and a half. I felt cut off from everything that stood for my emotional security. The emotional distance paired with the physical distance was unbearable. But I learned from that and explained to my fiancé what happened. I'll admit he thought I was wayyy overreacting, and looking back, I totally was but it felt so real and hurtful. Like I had just been forgotten about and no one was going to show up for me.

Malibu Barbie

2y↑1

I've had therapy over the years, but listening to you, is describing me to a tee...At 63 I struggle daily to be normal, but I've tried to be a good person and help others...Thank you..

Crappy Childhood Fairy

So glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

Zen Outside

2y↑2

This explains so much! I'm incredibly thankful for this. I could never figure out why I spend so much energy trying to match my face to my feelings.

spamEggsSausage&spam

first off, thank you! this is such a super helpful guide, and it really helps me to know that my intuited solution of stepping away was not, in fact, selfish dramatic behavior. it was me seeking out my own sense of internal regulation. it's a relief to know that, to have it corroborated by someone who actually knows what they're talking about (instead of my toxic af FOI).

my question is, how do you deal when you're stuck back in your childhood home again with the super dysregulated person who hasn't done any of this kind of work, and who perceives attempts to establish boundaries as rejection? who keeps trying to "manage" me the way they did my entire childhood, by ignoring my pleas for space and constantly overwhelming me with their need for company, for sympathy, for admiration and my absolution of all the things they did or allowed to happen that fucked me up? whose understanding of "a good day together" involves us watching hours of whatever TV show she wants to watch, without any conversation about it afterward, just my mindless stimulation to eat away the day. who sulks if I need to spend time by myself to recuperate and then guilt trips me about not spending enough time with them.
....I know that's a lot, but there's only so many times I can reasonably excuse myself to the bathroom. could you maybe do a video on like, conversational scripts one might use in a pinch? I think I might also be on the spectrum, and navigating those delicate moments, especially when I'm overwhelmed.....I tend to spit out all the bad stuff, and it can get really bad between two people with few deescalation skills between them. I just really could use some kind of conversational flow chart to work off of,to script my own true answers and responses in advance, bc in the moment I either escalate things badly or revert to a rather pathetic version of myself in order to "keep the peace."
thank you so much for your work.

Sonni Saenz

You are so right on! I've been told I look so cold, but I was just dying inside, or I'd look for a place to run too. I never understood why I felt that way until I can across your videos. Thank you so very much for your videos!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

So glad this message resonated :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Lesley McMillan

2y↑2

Thank you SO much for this reminder. Awareness of dysregulation and learning how to become regulated is where it all needs to start. ❤️🙏grateful for you my Fairy Godmother🧚

Lily

2y↑2

Thank you for all the tips. I've become more aware of my emotions and disregulation the last couple of years. It's a work in progress but I feel like I'm getting better. Especially since I removed my narc family from my circle.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

thanks for the support, were cheering for you. Jack@teamfairy

marian smith

2y↑1

OMG, I get clumsy too, many of the things you mentioned. 😳. After I had a few minor accidents, I observed that when I'm in such a state, I should just STOP. Certainly not drive.
I appreciate your suggestions on how to re-regulate. Sometimes I think I must stay dysregulated. Yes, I often wake up that way.
So, perhaps I need to make getting regulated part of my morning routine.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Thanks for sharing, sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy

michaelyoung24

2y↑5

6:52 This is me! I deal with this all the time. Thank you for making these videos.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thanks for watching!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Susan De Longis

2y↑1

I believe my nervous system was so chronically irritated/inflamed my whole life, that the battle with fibromyalgia & chronic fatigue syndrome evolved into an autoimmune disease. This is borne out by recent research. It accounts for injuries in every body system and symptoms similar to concussion. In fact, I believe severe, chronic trauma is a concussive injury that never fully heals. This, imo, accounts for some of the brain’s lack of full development in some areas, the emotional lability, memory issues, etc etc. I do see hidden gifts, compassion. Insights, quick assessment of complex situations, etc. So many natural instincts that helped in my career as a chaplain. But, all the above are my worst weaknesses in my personal life. I’m so grateful I was led to a career that gave me the opportunity to succeed, to feel capable and productive. It also taught me, as part of our training, to watch for triggers, over identification, projection, etc. this helped me to understand that every person has these behaviors and experiences to some degree. In myself, with CPTSD, it’s more extreme and requires constant management. The challenge has always been to transfer these professional skills to my personal life. Very difficult. For me, the key is finding ways to step back, to intentionally try to get into the professional mindset that helps me get out of emotions to reason and problem solving faster. Many years ago my genius former psychiatrist confirmed that the whole goal is to keep narrowing that gap between unconscious reaction to conscious response. Accepting that initial reaction as normal for everyone to some degree has really helped in managing it. It helps me to keep in mind what activities calm me and who is a trusted person I can reach out to for support. I hope that everyone here is on the road to healing as much as we can and appreciate all your help along the way. 💕🌷💕

Cheryl Miller

2y↑1

Dysregulation - I had a lifetime of that. I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know what it was. It was horrible living in this body with all the flood of emotions and fear.

Caryl Park

2y↑3

For me I call it Trauma Intoxication. I have explained it to people by asking them how they felt the first time they ever got drunk. That same dissociating feeling happens to me. I feel like I am in a bubble, looking fine on the outside but inside my face feels weird, mouth goes numb, ears ring sound becomes muffled, emotions well up and I want to run.

jehouse61

2y↑3

This all hits home like you wouldn't believe! I had this happen once during an all-day job interview. I had been fine all day, then they took me to lunch. I suddenly crashed, and could simply not communicate anymore. I was so aware of it, but flattened out and couldn't even talk. I didn't get the job. I wish now I had gone to the bathroom and taken breaths. Thank you!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thanks for sharing, glad you enjoyed :)
-Calista@TeamFairy

R. P.

2y↑10

Very good video. Also, high stomach acidity is associated with emotional dis-regulation. GERD. Stomach ulcers. Good idea to eat proteins at every meal, so that the acidity decreases and the so needed proteins are absorbed. Even coffee in AM should be with milk or the powdered peptides we can get from the store, with 22 amino acids and essential minerals. This uses the acidity and prevents dis-regulation during the day. Side effects: tones the face by the collagen we ingest! Try it. It has no taste but the effects on the face are visible in 1 week. 1 scoop in the morning coffee is what it takes... Thank you!

R. P.

@Raven Raven yes. Vital proteins with collagen peptides. ( costco).
I use the unflavored one. I asked a plastic surgeon if I am imagining things on my face getting younger and less obvious festoons and she said she recommends it to her patients for the collagen! :).

R. P.

@Raven Raven it's a puffy lower lid...

Lucy H

B VITAMINS!! needs to be added to your list :) A complex b vitamin is essential to helping regulate too. When we are stressed it depletes our body of b vitamins, they are so important. And yes collagen peptides is great! it also helps rebuild the stomach lining which helps things like leaky gut/digestive issues :) which then in turn will help the mind! (gut-brain axis.. for anyone with anxiety issues throw in probiotics too) x

L Sisak

2y↑4

Wow! God is good. I am grateful for you and to run across this video by total coincidence. This is the missing link in my recovery. It explains why going to therapy and talking about the past in detail only dysregulates me more and makes me much worse! Thanking God for you! <3

Judy Miller

"Stamp your feet"... so brisk walking or jogging IS accomplishing more than burning calories!! I'm 76, still at it nearly daily, and couldn't explain why on earth I keep at it, but it changes how I manage the rest of the day. Thanks 👍BTW also long recovered carb addict - never met a carb I didn't like and want a whole lot more of, but now I treat like poison! In spite of eating keto/carnivore and IF I fight constant cravings and urges to just put something in my mouth... I rarely feel satisfied. 😢

Tee Jay

Finally there is a word for that that explains so many things. Thank you. For me also mindfulness meditations helps in the long run. Not focused meditations - it is a meditation technique that is "focusing" on the wide room around your body.. or on everything all at once - not switching between focus on different things, just being aware of that whole experience in the present moment. That is helping with brain coherence - because that is all we want. If you wanna know more about that -> Dr. Joe Dispenza. 🙏

Jon Person

2y↑3

Thanks so much for your channel! I really like how you present information in your videos and I feel like I can gain control of my life more now.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad you're enjoying the style of Anna's videos. Grateful you're here. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Camille A

2y↑1

Very effective teaching. ..
practical info ❤️

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thank you! Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

Saturday’s Child

2y↑7

Thank you! This was so helpful! I’ve felt all these things at one time or another.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

Really glad the content is helpful to you :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Cristina Evans

2y↑1

Thank you so much Anna you rock you are a star thank you so very much for providing the most important ideas without cost allowing everyone to obtain the tools for healing I am soooo grateful ❤🎉

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thank YOU for being here and supporting the channel. We appreciate you! - Ashley, Team Fairy

Baljit Hayre

2y↑11

With Gratitude for All you do 🙏

Crappy Childhood Fairy

You are so welcome!
-Cara@TeamFairy

winxclubstellamusa

2y↑2

CPTSD is similar but not identical to ADHD, it’s completely unfair to conflate and equate the two. Those of us with ADHD are born neurodivergent with a perpetually hyperactive mind regardless of our mood, heightened emotions and senses and sensory processing disorder, time blindness, and very little working memory.

I was different since I was a literal new born, while my CPTSD kicked in around 8 or 9 beginning with dissociation, fighting, and emotional flashbacks that felt like life or death in their urgency. I’m 25 now, and I’ve spent the past 2 years MIRACULOUSLY virtually completely emotional flashback free due to Richard Grannon’s emotional literacy exercises that I do on the daily, but it took 2 years of doing them to see these results.

Airla Sophia

What kind of exercises? I need to look this up.

winxclubstellamusa

@Airla Sophia look up Richard Grannon emotional literacy exercises, you’ll find it here you YouTube.

Diane McMahan

2y↑1

Thank you Anna, good to know. 🙃🙂 God bless you and your path.🙏🏼

Name Cannot Be Blank

2y↑1

When this happens to me, I kinda just zone out and become quiet, kinda like day dreaming. Working out seems to help keep me focused, surprisingly. I haven't as of yet found a way outside of working out, but I'm experimenting.

Lisa B

2y↑7

My parents nicknamed me “Grace” bc of my constant stumbling when I was a child.
I was “out of it” bc of numbness from experiencing my parents dysfunction.
I always want to run away during or after conflict.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

So glad you're here learning about the CPTSD symptoms :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Idol Hanz

2y↑6

An excellent life saving briefing. Outstanding!

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Thank you for saying so!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Theloveofgod

1y↑1

New sub:) I found your channel yr through therapy in a nutshell )
Don’t know how I have not seen you before I watch so many videos on the topics you talk about ! Just glad I found you now:) great work ❤

Crappy Childhood Fairy

1y↑1

Welcome!

Katharine Anonymous

2y↑16

So my childhood trauma was emotional neglect it’s hard to like validate I have “real trauma” bc I’ve been told a lot I don’t have trauma by “medical professionals”. But I did have one therapist who diagnosed me with CPTSD bc of emotional neglect in childhood and an unstable mother

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑3

If this message resonates and these tools help, you are right where you should be :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Maps33

Thank you for explaining me to me.
🤌🏽💜👜💜
Salads are good carbs.
🥬🍅🥬🍅
CBD is helpful.
🌱🪴🌱🪴
Pets are miracles.
🐈🐓🐕🐓
God is love.
📖🏹🪂🧘🏽‍♀️

Sunshine

2y↑1

Thank you so much for this very valuable information. Bless you and the work you do. You have helped me and so many others tremendously. ❤

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

So happy to hear that. Grateful you're here with us. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Sari Parkinson

The world is lucky to have you in it ❤

April Lee Smith

2y↑4

Sometimes when I get dysregulated I get very sleepy, particularly when in my car in a “trapped” space because it’s my only escape, so I have to be careful so I don’t fall asleep and/or wreck. Only recently realized that’s what is happening - that I’m in ultimate “freeze” mode, aka total shutdown.

Cher Buck

2y↑22

Yesterday I got dysregulated from yet another dysfunctional interaction with F.O.O. I was having a hard time getting to sleep and was just about going to reach for my Xanax or CBD, when I thought of your marching. Too tired to get up out of bed, I did it laying down moving my arms, and legs while saying, "Right, Left, Left, Right" out loud. Before I knew it, the alarm was going off. 😊 And I was less dysregulated. 😁

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑2

You got this!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Carol West

2y↑2

Wow cool!!!

Laurie Carr

Thank you for your insights! Where can I find the pdf of the things you can do to help interrupt disregulation that you mentioned?

Ed McBoy

2y↑23

Listening to these videos just makes me cry. I wish I could just hug childhood me and be what he needed

Amy Marple

2y↑7

That childhood you is still in there. It is never too late to reparent your inner child.

Leftatalbuquerque

2y↑5

It takes talking, tears, and time.

Ed McBoy

@Amy Marple ❤️❤️

Ed McBoy

@Leftatalbuquerque ❤️❤️

Angelicatoo

2y↑1

There is a book called growing up again, another called , ‘homecoming, championing your inner child. There’s another, matrix reimprinting using eft which shows you how to do visualisations to kind of rewrite your history. Even ,’Bridge across forever’ by Richard Bach where he goes back in time to meet his young self.

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Ca Bo

2y↑1

O.M.G! I didn't realize how badly I needed to hear and understand this. Thank you.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

Glen D

2y↑2

Every video gives me an "aha, not just me" moment. A big relief in itself.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad you're finding relief and support here. - Ashley, Team Fairy

Jenny Bruner

I smiled when I talked about trauma. Smiling is connected to vagus nerve. 22 years on psych meds and still looking for someone to hold me.

T V

2y↑1

What is the difference between BPD and CPTSD? A psychiatrist diagnosed me with BPD but my therapist thinks I have CPTSD. The two disorders seem very similar and have the same cause.

R Lud

2y↑8

I’ll try these techniques next time. I, at least, now have the awareness that I’ve been triggered when it happens but other than remove myself from the situation (whenever possible), nothing has helped so far.

Breathing, smelling lavender, cold water in my face.. has not helped. My only coping skill, if you can even call it that, is knowing that it’ll pass and surrendering to the fact that my brain has been hijacked.

I also have a rule to not take any action, no calling, no texting, no personal interaction..cause I at least have the insight to know that my judgment is extremely compromised while I’m in that state. Thanks for such a helpful video. I will try some of the techniques, especially the ones that might help me get back into my body.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑3

Following a rule not to take action is VERY insightful and wise. I hope you pick up some more useful tools as well :)
-Cara@TeamFairy

Lynn R

shawn markert

2y↑7

You help me understand myself !! Thank you so much !

Crappy Childhood Fairy

So good to hear!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Debbie Moore

1y↑1

Thank you. Feeling low at the moment and what was said at the end about being your funky beautiful self. I didn't realise but I needed to hear it 🌹

Crappy Childhood Fairy

1y↑1

You got this!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Luli B

2y↑4

I think recognising the right moment and remembering what to do at the time is going to take a lot of doing. It will be hard to get past my I'm ok nothing to see here reflexes, that leave the clown out front while my brain goes off for a nap. I did get good at using 4/7 breathing in the car which was a real game changer, good to have some less conspicuous tools to try out.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

2y↑1

It takes some practice but it becomes second nature, you can do it!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Kate Gallagher

EMDR and other somatic approaches are extremely helpful in achieving regulation. Look for a therapist who works somatically as well as verbally. C doesn’t mean childhood. CPTSD can be developed at any age, such as when one is in an abusive relationship as an adult.

George75605

2y↑2

Thank You So Much. At age 62, this explains a whole lot of things.

Crappy Childhood Fairy

So glad it was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

George75605

@Crappy Childhood Fairy Two years into retirement, I look back on things, and can let go of many regrets over my actions. Yes, I'm responsible for them, but I was not responsible for my wiring to be fried by age 7.

Wild Ravensnest

2y↑1

Thanks for your information. One other way to help reregulate is through using pure essential oils like Lavender essential oils which is the fastest route to affect the brain. Also ones like Lavender if it is pure- look for the Latin name (Lavandula Angustifolia) has a calming and relaxing effect. Also it’s not very expensive. You can smell it directly from the bottle or buy a roller bottle which has a carrier oil so it can go directly onto your skin. But please read the safety advice on the bottle.

Aurora-Rose

2y↑1

Thank you for this. SO helpful :)

Crappy Childhood Fairy

Glad it was helpful!
-Cara@TeamFairy

Akanksha Singh

2y↑1

I get disoriented. I feel like out of balance. I gurgle through my words and I forget things. I feel scared and ungrounded in those moments. Mindfulness practice helps a lot in those moments. Just breathing to accept it is happening, helps me be kind to myself in those moments. I tend to be harsh on me if I screw up, as my dad was harsh if I made a mistake. It’s my biggest flaw, as I have to find ways to be kind to others too, when they screw up, without letting them walk on me.

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