The Language of Love
Dan Fogelberg Lyrics


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She says no
When she means yes
And what she wants
You know that I can't guess
When we want more
You know we ask for less
Such is the language of love...
I say leave
When I mean stay
But she don't see
And so she moves away
What we really want
You know we rarely say
Such is the language of love.

It's tooth for tooth
and eye for eye
We hide our hearts
And then we won't say why
It's truth for truth
and lie for lie
Such is the language of love.

One cries foul
And will not speak
The other claims a little victory
And all the time
You know we fail to see
This is the language of love.

When a loves begins to wander
No one ever knows
But we feel it deep inside us
Long before it shows
Long before it shows.

We hem and haw
We balk and bluff
Our words don't ever seem to
say enough
But a simple smile
A tender touch
Speaks the true language of love.

When a loves begins to wander
No one ever knows
But we feel it deep inside us
Long before it shows
Long before it shows.

She says no
When she means yes
And what she wants
You know that I can't guess
When we want more
You know we ask for less




Such is the language of love
Such is the language of love...

Overall Meaning

The Language of Love is a deeply introspective song by Dan Fogelberg about the complexities and paradoxes that come with romantic relationships. The song begins with an admission that communication in love is often convoluted, with partners saying the opposite of what they mean and expecting less even when they want more. In doing so, Fogelberg suggests that this "language of love" is one that is spoken by lovers all over the world, despite differences in culture, language, or social background.


The chorus of the song goes on to describe how love is a game of give and take, where partners keep score of each other's actions and hold back their true feelings in fear of being vulnerable. Fogelberg uses the analogy of "tooth for tooth, and eye for eye" to describe this cycle of mistrust and misunderstanding. He also implies that when there is a problem or misunderstanding, rather than confronting them directly, partners will cry foul or claim little victories, leading to a breakdown in communication and understanding of each other.


Ultimately, The Language of Love reflects the universal truth that love, while being a beautiful and transformative experience, can be complicated, confusing, and difficult to navigate. Despite this, Fogelberg suggests that simple and genuine gestures, like a smile or a tender touch, can speak the true language of love and bring us closer to each other.


Line by Line Meaning

She says no
Sometimes women say the opposite of what they really mean.


When she means yes
So, when she says "no", she might really mean "yes".


And what she wants
It's hard to figure out what she wants when she doesn't express it clearly.


You know that I can't guess
It's not easy to guess what she wants or needs just by her words or actions.


When we want more
When we actually desire more than what we have.


You know we ask for less
We tend to ask for less than we really desire or what we actually deserve.


Such is the language of love...
This is how communication works in a relationship.


I say leave
Sometimes we say the opposite of what we actually want.


When I mean stay
Because we are afraid to express our true feelings and risk being rejected.


But she don't see
Sometimes our significant others don't realize what we are actually trying to say.


And so she moves away
And this may lead to a breakdown in communication and distance between us.


What we really want
Our deepest desires and needs that we often hide from others.


You know we rarely say
We don't usually express our true wants and needs to our partners.


It's tooth for tooth
We tend to respond in kind when someone hurts us.


and eye for eye
We retaliate when someone does something hurtful to us.


We hide our hearts
We keep our emotions and true feelings hidden from others to avoid being hurt.


And then we won't say why
We refuse to explain why we hold back, because we are afraid to be vulnerable.


It's truth for truth
We often respond with honesty to the truth that is revealed to us.


and lie for lie
And sometimes we may lie in response to when we feel deceived or lied to.


Such is the language of love.
This is what love can drive us to do when we are hurt.


One cries foul
One of us may feel unfairly treated.


And will not speak
One of us may refuse to express what they are feeling.


The other claims a little victory
The other person may feel victorious in the argument or situation.


And all the time
All this happens often in our relationships.


You know we fail to see
We fail to perceive how much we are hurting the relationship by doing this.


This is the language of love.
This is what communication can turn into when we are lost in the emotions of love.


When a love begins to wander
When one of us starts to lose interest in, or feel unfulfilled in, the relationship.


No one ever knows
It's hard to know when this will happen.


But we feel it deep inside us
We can sense that something is off, long before it shows up on the surface.


Long before it shows.
Before the relationship really starts to suffer.


We hem and haw
We stammer and hesitate when we try to express our feelings in words.


We balk and bluff
We avoid talking about what's really bothering us.


Our words don't ever seem to say enough
We feel like we can't express clearly in words what we are feeling inside.


But a simple smile
However, sometimes a simple gesture like a smile can show what words can't express.


A tender touch
A gentle or affectionate gesture can also show affection and love more effectively than words.


Speaks the true language of love.
This is how the true language of love is expressed, through actions rather than words.




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: DAN FOGELBERG

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Andrei Jay

This man was one of the single most talented musicians ever.He could've rock as hard as they come when he needed to...then his ballads were tear jerking and pore raising!!! He was a fantastic guitarist too.A true talent in his own right!!! It was and is a pleasure to own his music.Rest In Peace Dan.

MAGNETO

I love all different sides of his music, such an amazing talent!

SWLinPHX

This is my favorite upbeat Fogelberg song -- proof that he is capable of more than just poignant ballads.

J & D Pascale

What about Power of Gold ....love that one too!

Mark Adamowicz

Fogelberg was awesome. This man had talent. He is sorely missed.

doglips1958

Absolutely

Michael Flaherty

Agreed

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Ajay Bizoara

Hearing him after 3 decades, wow he got my teenage back

Debbie Schmidling

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