I'm Livin' In Shame )
Diana Ross and the Supremes Lyrics


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Mom was cooking bread,
she wore a dirty raggety scarf around her head.
Always had her stockings low,
rolled to her feet, she just didn't know.
She wore a sloppy dress,
No matter how she tried, she always looked a mess.
Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate.
I was always so ashamed for my uptown friends to see her,
Afraid one day when I was grown that I would be her.

In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found.
Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet.
I must have been insane,
I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain.
She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train.
I married a guy, was livin' high,
I didn't want him to know her,
She had a grandson, two years old,
I never even showed her.

I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.

Came the telegram,
mom passed away while making homemade jam.
Before she died, she cried to see me by her side.
She always did her best, Ah! cookin', cleanin',
always in the same old dress.
Workin' hard down on her knees,
always try'n to please.




Momma! Momma! Do you hear me, Momma!
Momma! Momma! Do you hear me, Momma!

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Diana Ross and the Supreme's song "I'm Livin' in Shame" tell the story of a daughter's shame and embarrassment of her mother's appearance and lack of social status. The daughter, trying to escape her mother's perceived inferiority, creates a new identity for herself in college, lying about her background and even lying about her mother's death to distance herself from her. Despite her success and newfound status, the daughter's guilt and longing for her mother becomes apparent in the chorus where she begs for her mother's forgiveness and wishes she was still alive.


The song is a commentary on social class and snobbery, depicting the harm and pain that can come from trying to deny or hide one's background. It emphasizes the importance of honoring one's roots and the people who helped shape a person's life, regardless of perceived societal status.


Line by Line Meaning

Mom was cooking bread,
My mother was baking bread while wearing a raggedy scarf on her head.


she wore a dirty raggety scarf around her head.
My mother's scarf was stained and torn due to years of using it for household work.


Always had her stockings low,
My mother wore her stockings low, scrunched at her feet, unaware of the latest fashion trends.


rolled to her feet, she just didn't know.
She never paid attention to fashion trends or style.


She wore a sloppy dress,
My mother wore a messy dress that never seemed to look nice, no matter how much she tried.


No matter how she tried, she always looked a mess.
Regardless of how hard she tried, she never looked presentable or fashionable.


Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate.
She preferred eating out of the pot directly and never bothered with using a utensil or plate.


I was always so ashamed for my uptown friends to see her,
I was embarrassed for my friends from the high society to find out about my mother's appearance and unconventional habits.


Afraid one day when I was grown that I would be her.
I was scared of becoming like my mother; embarrassed and ashamed of my identity and background.


In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found.
Away from home, in a college town, I discovered a new sense of identity and belonging.


Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet.
I pretended to be born into a wealthy family with people of low socioeconomic statuses working for me.


I must have been insane,
It was bewildering and foolish of me to lie about my background and upbringing.


I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain.
I fabricated a lie that my mother was dead due to a trip to Spain to distance myself from her and my original identity.


She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train.
My mother never left the house or even traveled on a train in her entire life.


I married a guy, was livin' high,
I got married to a wealthy person and started living an extravagant lifestyle.


I didn't want him to know her,
I didn't want my husband to find out about my mother and my past life.


She had a grandson, two years old,
My mother had a two-year-old grandson, my son.


I never even showed her.
I never even introduced my mother to my son; I kept her hidden away from my new life.


Came the telegram,
I received a telegram conveying the message of my mother's death.


mom passed away while making homemade jam.
My mother died while preparing homemade jam.


Before she died, she cried to see me by her side.
Before breathing her last breath, my mother yearned to have me near her.


She always did her best, Ah! cookin', cleanin', always in the same old dress.
My mother always tried her best to take care of us and the household, cooking and cleaning, relentlessly, in her old dress.


Workin' hard down on her knees, always try'n to please.
She worked her way through life, trying her hardest to make everyone happy.


Momma! Momma! Do you hear me, Momma! Momma! Momma! Do you hear me, Momma!
I am now remorseful, remembering my mother, conveying my love and pain despite the distance between us


I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I live in guilt and despair for having distanced myself from my mother, and now that she is gone, I miss her.


I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I am still living with the regret and sadness of forsaking my mother and not being there with her in her last moments.




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: BRIAN HOLLAND, EDWARD HOLLAND, EDWARD JR. HOLLAND, LAMONT DOZIER, LAMONT HERBERT DOZIER

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@Theorema2001

I'm Living In Shame · Diana Ross & The Supremes

Mom was cooking bread,
she wore a dirty raggedy scarf around her head.
Always had her stockings low,
rolled to her feet, she just didn't know.
She wore a sloppy dress,
No matter how she tried, she always looked a mess.
Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate.
I was always so afraid for my uptown friends to see her,
Afraid one day when I was grown that I would be her.

In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found.
Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet.
I must have been insane,
I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain.
She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train.
I married a guy, was livin' high,
I didn't want him to know her,
She had a grandson, two years old,
That I never even showed her.

I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I know you are not to blame, Momma, I miss you.

Came the telegram,
mom passed away while making homemade jam.
Before she died, she cried to see me by her side.
She always did her best, Ah! cookin', cleanin',
always in the same old dress.
Workin' hard down on her knees,
always try'n to please.

Momma! Momma! Can you hear me, Momma!
Momma! Momma! Can you hear me, Momma!
I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I know you've done your best , Mama, I miss you

Won't you forgive me mama
For all the wrong I've done
I know you've done your best
Oh I know you've done the very best you could
Mama I thought you understood
Working hard, down on your knees



All comments from YouTube:

@patrickproctor392

This queen Diana Ross is still singing and touring 👑

@UncleDuTheWatchman

This song is so lyrically underrated. And they pulled a LOT of Soul out of Ross for this one. She interpreted the hell out of this here.

@notthatyouasked6656

Underrated? This song has possibly the most awkward, ridiculous lyrics of any hit song of its era. "Came the telegram - Mama passed away while makin' home made jam" - seriously?

@tinafiumara1952

You are absolutely right I love that song

@tinafiumara1952

I love all Diana Ross's songs but this is one of my favorite songs by her it is very depressing song but this is life life is very depressing Diana Ross in Gladys Knight is the queen of oldies back in the 60s 70s and '80s but I only like the songs from the 60s and 70s it is a very depressive song but it also if you look at it in a different way it's a beautiful song like I said live is so f**** depressed

@lewiscarey6984

Been listening to Ross The Boss since 1965! Agree wholeheartedly!! 💅🎵💅🎵💅

@jackjules7552

Yes, Ross does a good job out of making something out of what is really an overly dramatic corny song...I mean..mama died while making homemade jam? Really? Homemade jam? How backcountry can one get? I also think that Mary and Cindy do a good job in overcoming the soapy soap opera of the song. Their smooth little shimmies toward the camera are pleasant to watch and make up for the rather dismal lyrics. Calling Holland Dozier Holland!! The Supremes need you back!!

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@seangibson9040

This song always makes me sad

@thunderbolt2145

Yeah, it's a beautiful song, but it leaves me depressed.

@isaiahthompson2065

I RAN TO THE RECORD SHOP WHEN THEY RELEASED THIS ONE ! I LOVE IT TIL THIS VERY DAY !

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