You Don't Own Me
Dirty Dancing Lyrics


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You don't own me
I'm not just one of your pretty toys
You don't own me
Don't say I can't go with other boys

And don't tell me what to do
Don't tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don't put me on display, 'cause...

You don't own me
Don't try to change me in any way
You don't own me
Don't tie me down 'cause I'd never stay

I don't tell you what to say
I don't tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That's all I ask of you

I'm young and I love to be young
I'm free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
To say and do whatever I please

And don't tell me what to do
Don't tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don't put me on display





I don't tell you what to say
I don't tell you what to do...

Overall Meaning

In the song "You Don't Own Me," the female singer retorts to a controlling partner, insisting that she is not just a pretty toy to be owned and controlled. She asserts her independence, claiming that she is young and loves to live her life the way she wants. The singer also demands her space, making it clear that she won't be tied down or put on display by her partner. The song is an anthem for empowerment, with the singer refusing to be silenced or oppressed by societal norms.


The tone of the song is confident and determined, with the singer standing up for herself against her oppressor. The song is also a reflection of the feminist movement of the era, as it received positive reception both commercially and critically. It is often regarded as a feminist classic and a symbol of female empowerment.


Line by Line Meaning

You don't own me
I am an independent individual and you have no right to possess or control me


I'm not just one of your pretty toys
I am not a mere object for your amusement or pleasure


Don't say I can't go with other boys
You have no authority to restrict my freedom to associate with other males


And don't tell me what to do
I have the right to make my own decisions and choices without your interference


Don't tell me what to say
I have the right to express myself freely without your censorship or judgment


And please, when I go out with you
As a courtesy, I ask that you respect my privacy and dignity when we are together


Don't put me on display
Do not treat me like a trophy or exhibit me for others to see


Don't try to change me in any way
I am content with who I am and do not want or need your attempts at alteration


Don't tie me down 'cause I'd never stay
I value my freedom and would not tolerate being restrained or constrained by anyone


I'm free and I love to be free
I cherish my autonomy and find joy in exercising my own will


To live my life the way I want
I desire to live according to my own beliefs and desires


To say and do whatever I please
I have the right to express myself freely and without censorship


So just let me be myself
I simply ask that you accept me for who I am and allow me to live my life in my own way


That's all I ask of you
Please grant me the respect and freedom that I deserve as a human being and we can enjoy our relationship as equals




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Rochelle Navarro

To me this is best cover of the original. Thank you Dirty Dancing for being one of the best soundtracks ever! ❤️🎶

sam rix

🙏🖤

Top hatz

This is better than the original

Veronica Serafim

😊😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤

GrGr

This song has been dwelling in my ears for last 30 years

Ingrid Fong-Daley

I remember my first act of defiance (as a religious teenaged girl in the South): After some 'last straw' disagreement with my parents, I stormed off (gasp!), I locked my bedroom door for the very first time in my life, and I turned up my stereo ALL THE WAY for the first time (with my parents home!), and I BLARED this song on repeat for like half an hour. (In hindsight, I can't believe I got away with it that long!) Maybe it's the day my teen rage just exploded... But I was one of those kids who somehow didn't realise how angry they were, so the moment that erupted was just spectacular :) Wonder if my Mormon folks would remember that?!

Ashlee Cantu

An epic tale! And done with style! 😂

Gary W-l-o-t

cool story

Julia Wild

i love both versions of this song... and omg these lyrics

Morgana Lanussy Lima Nunes

Acho essa música linda.

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