Family
Dolly Parton Lyrics


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When it's family, you forgive them
For they know not what they do
When it's family, you accept them
'Cause you have no choice but to
When it's family, they're a mirror
Of the worst and best in you
And they always put you to the test
And you always try to do your best
And just pray for God to do the rest
When it's family

Some are preachers, some are gay
Some are addicts, drunks and strays
But not a one is turned away
When it's family
Some are lucky, others ain't
Some are fighters, others faint
Winners, losers, sinners, saints
It's all family

And when it's family, you trust them
And your heart's an open door
When it's family, you tolerate
What you'd kill others for
When it's family, you love and hate
And take then give some more
Somehow you justify mistakes
Try to find some better way
To solve the problems day to day
In the family

You take the trouble as it comes
And love 'em more than anyone
Good or bad or indifferent
It's still family
You choose your lovers
You pick your friends
Not the family that you're in
They'll be with you 'til the end
'Cause it's family

When it's family, you forgive them
For they know not what they do
When it's family, they're a mirror
Of the worst and best in you
When it's family, when it's family




Let me be all that I should be
To the family

Overall Meaning

In Dolly Parton's song "Family", she speaks about the complicated nature of families, how they are by no means perfect or always easy to deal with yet there is an undeniable bond between family members. The opening lines reveal this sentiment: "When it's family, you forgive them for they know not what they do. When it's family, you accept them 'cause you have no choice but to". These lines illustrate the unconditional love that family members have for each other, regardless of their faults or how difficult they can be to deal with.


Later in the song, the lyrics become more specific about the different types of people one can find in a family. There are those who are "preachers, some are gay, some are addicts, drunks and strays" and yet "not a one is turned away when it's family". This highlights the idea that families are made up of all types of individuals, and it is the love and acceptance one has for their family that allows them to overlook these differences.


The song also touches on the idea that family members can both bring out the best and worst in each other, and that they are there to "put you to the test". Despite this, the singer believes that "when it's family, you trust them and your heart's an open door". This illustrates the unique bond that family members share, and the trust and openness that comes with it.


Overall, the song emphasizes the complexity of families and the way that they challenge us, but also the love and connection that holds them together.


Line by Line Meaning

When it's family, you forgive them
Regardless of their mistakes, you grant their pardon when it concerns family


For they know not what they do
Since ignorance is the cause of their errors, you learn to forgive


When it's family, you accept them
Family acceptance is inevitable despite their inadequacies


'Cause you have no choice but to
You're left with no alternative but to embrace them as family regardless of their flaws


When it's family, they're a mirror
Family members reflect the worst and the best in you


Of the worst and best in you
Family members reflect both your strengths and weaknesses


And they always put you to the test
Family members are always challenging you


And you always try to do your best
You always strive to do your best in dealing with the challenges


And just pray for God to do the rest
After delivering your best, you leave the rest to God


When it's family
All of the above is meant when family is mentioned


Some are preachers, some are gay
Some family members are clergy or homosexual


Some are addicts, drunks, and strays
Some family members experience addiction, alcoholism, or vagrancy


But not a one is turned away
However, rejection of any family member is out of the question


When it's family
All these traits become tolerable when family is in question


Some are lucky, others ain't
In family, some members are fortunate, while others are not


Some are fighters, others faint
There may be those who are combative and those who give up easily


Winners, losers, sinners, saints
Family members encompass a wide range of character types


It's all family
Despite their differences, all these people are family


And when it's family, you trust them
You hold family members in high regard and trust them unconditionally


And your heart's an open door
You're willing to welcome family members into your life with open arms


When it's family, you tolerate
Despite the discomfort they may cause, you learn to tolerate certain behaviors for the sake of family


What you'd kill others for
You'd react differently towards others, but not with family as you learn toleration


When it's family, you love and hate
Family is complex and can be loved and resented at the same time


And take then give some more
Family is a two-way street with you giving and receiving in equal measure


Somehow you justify mistakes
Mistakes can be justified in the context of family


Try to find some better way
You are always striving to improve the family dynamic


To solve the problems day to day
The day-to-day problems must be resolved by finding common ground


In the family
All of this occurs within the realm of family


You take the trouble as it comes
You deal with problems as they arise in family situations


And love 'em more than anyone
Family members are loved more than anyone else despite their flaws


Good or bad or indifferent
Family members are still loved regardless of their personality type


It's still family
No matter how bad it gets or what happens, family still remains


You choose your lovers
Your romantic partners are selected by you


You pick your friends
You select your friends according to your taste


Not the family that you're in
However, there is no option to choose your family


They'll be with you 'til the end
Your family members will be with you until the end of your life


'Cause it's family
This bond exists simply because it is family


Let me be all that I should be
Allow me to become the best version of myself


To the family
For the betterment of the family unit




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: DOLLY PARTON, CARL PERKINS

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Grunge

What is your favorite Dolly Parton song?

Lori

Coat of many colors, 9 to 5, Jolene, islands in the stream, I will always love you… wait, what’s not to love ❤

*miracles&blessings*

Mule Skinner Blues

Karin Van Tubbergh

Coat of many colors

Tina Butkus

My favorite song is coat of many colors

Mimi Milan

Here You Come Again, It's All Wrong But It's Alright, The Bargain Store, Why'd You Come in Here? and 9 to 5 are my top favorites, but really ALL of Dolly's songs are good.

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Debra Kasprick

Love Dolly, she never forgot her humble beginnings, she obviously has a loving, strong family base.

marilucastillo7777

She’s such a national treasure.

Lori

I think Dolly and Loretta Lynn were and are amazing, beautiful, talented souls. They carried themselves as ladies and you never hear anything bad about those women. RIP Loretta. True women of country ❤❤

Sam Jeffries

Love Dolly Parton she is amazing and so beautiful she such an angel love her music!!

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