You Can Have Him
Doris Day Lyrics


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You can have him, I don't want him
He's not worth fighting for
Besides, there's plenty more where he came from

I don't want him, you can have him
He isn't my concern
And he can just return where he came from
I could never make him happy
He'd be better off with you
I'm afraid I never loved him
All I ever wanted to do was

Run my fingers through his curly locks
Mend his underwear and darn his socks
Fetch his slippers and remove his shoes
Wipe his glasses when he read the news
Rub his forehead with a gentle touch
Mornings after when he's had too much
Kiss him gently when he cuddled near
Give him babies, one for every year
So you see

I don't wan' him, you can have him
You can have him, I don't wan' him
For he's not the man for me

I would look a trifle silly
Taking him away from you
That was never my intention
All I ever wanted to do was

Close the window while he soundly slept
Raid the icebox where the food is kept
Cook a breakfast that would please him most
Eggs and coffee and some buttered toast
Wake him gently with a breakfast tray
After breakfast clear the things away
Bring the papers, and when they've been read
Spend the balance of the day in bed
So you see

I don't wan' him, you can have him
You can have him, I don't wan' him
For he's not the man for me

I don't wan' him, you can have him




You can have him, I don't wan' him
For he's not the man for me

Overall Meaning

The first stanza of Doris Day's song You Can Have Him expresses the singer's apathy towards a man that is evidently causing a dispute between her and another woman. She declares that she does not want him and that he is not worth fighting for. The singer appears to be indicating that she has no interest in being in a relationship where she has to fight for a man's affection. She relinquishes any claims to him, stating that there are plenty more where he came from, suggesting that she has other options.


In the second stanza, the singer explains that she could never make the man in question happy, suggesting that his preferred partner would be the person she is speaking to. She even goes as far as saying that she fears she never loved him, indicating that she was never fully committed to the relationship. While she has no desire to continue seeing him, she highlights the little things she enjoyed doing for him, such as running her fingers through his curly locks or making him breakfast in bed.


Overall, the song is about a woman who has realised that she does not want to be in a relationship with a particular man. Instead of causing drama, she offers the man to the other woman involved in the dispute, emphasising that he was never the right one for her.



Line by Line Meaning

You can have him, I don't want him
I don't desire him, he's all yours.


He's not worth fighting for
He isn't a man worth contending over.


Besides, there's plenty more where he came from
There are numerous other potential partners out there.


He isn't my concern
I'm not interested in him at all.


And he can just return where he came from
I have no problem with him going back to where he started.


I could never make him happy
I do not believe he could ever be content with me.


He'd be better off with you
You would be a better match for him than me.


I'm afraid I never loved him
I am scared to admit that I never actually loved him.


Run my fingers through his curly locks
I want to run my fingers through his curly hair.


Mend his underwear and darn his socks
I would love to mend his clothes and be domestic for him.


Fetch his slippers and remove his shoes
I want to get his slippers and take off his shoes for him.


Wipe his glasses when he read the news
I want to help him wipe his glasses when he is reading the news.


Rub his forehead with a gentle touch
I want to give him a gentle forehead rub.


Mornings after when he's had too much
I want to be there for him in the morning when he has a hangover.


Kiss him gently when he cuddled near
I want to give him a soft kiss when we're cuddling.


Give him babies, one for every year
I want to have children with him, one for every year.


I would look a trifle silly
I would appear silly if I tried to take him from you.


Taking him away from you
Trying to take him from you was never my intention.


That was never my intention
Having a relationship with him was never what I wanted.


Close the window while he soundly slept
I want to close the window while he's sleeping soundly.


Raid the icebox where the food is kept
I want to sneak into the kitchen and grab some food for us.


Cook a breakfast that would please him most
I want to make him a breakfast that will make him happy.


Eggs and coffee and some buttered toast
I plan to make him eggs, coffee, and toast for breakfast.


Wake him gently with a breakfast tray
I want to wake him up gently with a tray of breakfast foods.


After breakfast clear the things away
I will clean up the breakfast dishes afterwards.


Bring the papers, and when they've been read
I want to bring the newspaper to him and read it together.


Spend the balance of the day in bed
I want to spend the rest of the day in bed with him.


For he's not the man for me
He is not the right man for me.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: Irving Berlin

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