Big Girl
Dr. Dog Lyrics


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She's a big girl now and she can't be your baby anymore
Sha-na-na-na-na she's a big girl now

She had such wild expectations when she was very young
But you couldn't stand to see her happy or having fun
But she's a big girl now and she can't be your baby anymore

You had her doing all the dishes, had her mopping the floor
You had your dinner on the table when you walked through the door
But she's a big girl now she can't be your baby anymore

She could have been anything that she wanted
She could have had anything at all
But you broke her down man, you nearly undid her
You made her feel so very small
You made her call you daddy, changed the color of her hair
And when you stayed out very late you had her waiting on the stairs





But she's a big girl now and she can't be your baby anymore
She's coming with me

Overall Meaning

The song "Big Girl" by Dr. Dog is a poignant commentary on an emotionally abusive relationship, where a woman is broken down by a man who controlled every aspect of her life. The lyrics suggest that the woman had high expectations in life when she was younger, but her partner could not bear to see her happy and stripped away her self-worth little by little. The repeated refrain of "she's a big girl now" emphasizes the woman's growth and independence, and the contrast between her past life as a submissive "baby" and her current state as a confident adult is striking.


The song uses vivid imagery to portray the abuse the woman endured: she was made to do all the household chores, wait for her partner on the stairs, and even change her hair color to please him. All of these actions belittle the woman's autonomy and reinforce the power dynamic in the relationship. The point of view of the song seems to be from a third person who is observing or intervening in the woman's life, trying to rescue her from the clutches of her abusive partner.


Overall, "Big Girl" is a powerful song that sheds light on the issue of emotional abuse and the importance of breaking free from toxic relationships. The song encourages women to take control of their lives and assert their independence.


Line by Line Meaning

She's a big girl now and she can't be your baby anymore
She's no longer a child and can't be dependent on you anymore.


Sha-na-na-na-na she's a big girl now
The repetition of 'sha-na-na-na-na' emphasizes that she's truly grown up.


She had such wild expectations when she was very young
As a child, she had high hopes and dreams for her future.


But you couldn't stand to see her happy or having fun
You didn't support her dreams and instead held her back from enjoying her life.


You had her doing all the dishes, had her mopping the floor
You made her do all the household chores, treating her like a servant or maid.


You had your dinner on the table when you walked through the door
You expected her to cater to your needs and have your dinner ready when you arrived home.


She could have been anything that she wanted
She had the potential to become anything she desired.


She could have had anything at all
She could have achieved any goal or acquired any possession that she wanted.


But you broke her down man, you nearly undid her
You emotionally damaged her, almost to the point of no return.


You made her feel so very small
You diminished her self-worth and self-esteem.


You made her call you daddy, changed the color of her hair
You exerted control over her by making her address you in a paternalistic manner and by dictating her appearance.


And when you stayed out very late you had her waiting on the stairs
You made her wait for you even when you were irresponsible and disrespectful by coming home late.


She's coming with me
She's choosing to leave your toxic influence and is moving on with her life.




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Comments from YouTube:

Kkins100

Love Dr. Dog and this song one of my fav's of theirs! Great album.

LittleGreenBit

Love this song

TheReindeer TheRabbitTheBat

I had to put this song on for my wife just now... she's not amused. I can't help it, every time somebody says "big girl", I think of this song. So when she said "I'm a big girl now", I had to hear it.

jillian

One of my favorite songs...

Tim Knight

accidently came across it looking for another song, but love it :D

Bradley Clayton

This is the best song

Sarah Bear

perfect ugh i can't even

Johnny Marke

good song

Valerie Gilmore

this is the best song; you're crazy

nakbomb

come together

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