I Know Him So Well
Elaine Paige Lyrics


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Nothing it so good it lasts eternally
Perfect situations must go wrong
But this has never yet prevented me
Wanting far too much for far too long

Looking back, I could have played it differently
Learned about the man before I fell
But it took time to understand the man
Now at least I know I know him well

Wasn't it good?
(Oh so good)
Wasn't he fine?
(Oh so fine)
Isn't it madness?
He can't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
(More security)
He needs his fantasies and freedom
I know him so well

No one in your life is with you constantly
No one is completely on your side
And though I move my world to be with him
Still the gap between him is too much

Looking back I could have played it differently
One or a few more who can tell
But I was ever so much younger then
Now at least I know I know him well

Wasn't it good?
(Oh so good)
Wasn't he fine?
(Oh so fine)
Isn't it madness?
He can't be mine

Didn't I know
How it would go from the start if I knew
Why am I falling apart?

Wasn't it good?
Wasn't it fine?
Isn't it madness?
He can't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
(More security)
He needs his fantasies and freedom
I know him so well





It took time to understand him
I know him so well

Overall Meaning

The song “I Know Him So Well” by Elaine Paige & Barbara Dickson delves into the complexities of a romantic relationship between two people whose personalities are not compatible. The lyrics suggest that while the two individuals in the relationship deeply care for and understand each other, they are different in fundamental ways that prevent them from being together long-term. Both singers reflect on the time they have spent with this person, and how they have come to know him so well - his quirks, his dreams, his fears, and his desires. However, they also acknowledge that despite their deep understanding of him, he is unable to provide the security and stability they need from a partner.


The lyrics show a sense of acceptance and almost resignation from both singers as they come to terms with the reality of the relationship, that “nothing is so good it lasts eternally” and that sometimes perfect situations “must go wrong”. The song conveys a mix of emotions - nostalgia, regret, and sadness - as they reflect on what could have been, but also a sense of closure and acceptance that they have gained a deep understanding of this person they have loved.


Line by Line Meaning

Nothing it so good it lasts eternally
Even the best things may not last forever


Perfect situations must go wrong
Ideal circumstances can turn sour


But this has never yet prevented me
Despite knowing things may not work out, I still hope for the best


Wanting far too much for far too long
Longing for someone or something for too long


Looking back, I could have played it differently
Reflecting on past actions and wishing I had made different choices


Learned about the man before I fell
Getting to know someone before becoming emotionally invested


But it took time to understand the man
Realizing over time who the person truly is


Now at least I know I know him well
Feeling confident in my knowledge of who the person is


Wasn't it good?
Reflecting on the positive aspects of the relationship


(Oh so good)
An expression of how great the relationship was


Wasn't he fine?
Admiring the person's attractiveness and qualities


(Oh so fine)
An expression of how attractive the person was


Isn't it madness?
Feeling a sense of craziness or irrationality about the situation


He can't be mine
Realizing that the person cannot be with me


But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
Understanding that the person seeks something different than what I can offer


(More security)
Specifically needing more stability or certainty in life


He needs his fantasies and freedom
Recognizing that the person wants space to pursue their own interests and desires


No one in your life is with you constantly
Acknowledging that no one can be there with you all the time


No one is completely on your side
Knowing that even close friends or partners may have different opinions or motivations


And though I move my world to be with him
Going out of my way to be close to the person


Still the gap between him is too much
Recognizing that there are fundamental differences or distance between us


One or a few more who can tell
Wondering about the different paths my life could have taken


But I was ever so much younger then
Reflecting on how much I have changed since the beginning of the relationship


Didn't I know
Questioning whether I should have been aware of the outcome


How it would go from the start if I knew
Considering how things could have turned out if I had known more from the beginning


Why am I falling apart?
Feeling emotional pain or difficulty coping with the reality of the situation


It took time to understand him
Realizing that it takes time and effort to get to know someone deeply


I know him so well
Feeling that I have a deep, accurate understanding of the person




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Tim Rice, Benny Goran Bror Andersson, Bjoern K. Ulvaeus

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@Magnus_Loov

And I didn't say that the vocal performances were bad. They are great.
I actually defended this version (With Paige and Dickson) against the Whitney Houston version (which really is dull!)
You know what is really dull? Musicals! I just happen to like this song. Otherwize I really dislike the theatrics and the extremely old-fashioned way of "singing theater"
"Award winning actor" is not important to me. How they sound and and how they sing is.
And in this video they look stiff and expressionless. But I don't know if it has to do with the parts in the musical (And don't care, since it is a musical).
What I mean by saying that they as ABBA together could have done it is that if Björn and Benny could tailor the song perfectly to Agneta and Frida, with the help of Micheal B Tretow doing all the layering/doubling/shifting of tapespeeds (for thick chorus) and all fantastic producer tricks , they would have been very, very good!
The point is that the core voices were the perfect fit as a starting point to do this!
Better is maybe the wrong word, but differently awesome in a good way! Remember that the team behind them knew them in and out and actually treated the voices as synthesizers in the studio. The tones they had matched so perfectly and melted together in a way that made the magic (with the help of loads of fantastic production in the studio). They said it themselves, they were a studio band and they really loved to be creative in the studio.
But they could also sing live extremely well (this was well before auto-tune and they took pride in playing and singing everything live in the concerts).
In a musical as "theatrical performers"? They probably wouldn't be in the same league as the experienced Paige and Dickson. Paige was more known to me...
But you never know. They made some mini-musicals with that singing style for some albums (at least one). And the videos that Abba made actually were in the same vein(Cheesy though! But I think most musical are, but that is a matter of taste)

Being perceived by you as dull as persons has nothing to do with singing performances. I feel they are typically Swedish, so yeah we may all be dull in Sweden! And besides, you don't know them in private. I think "reserved" and down-to-earth are better words. I take that all the time over any kind of divas or demanding stars(And I'm not saying Paige or Dickson were that either)!



All comments from YouTube:

@natashagomes-george2214

This song is 40 years old. Still sounds amazing in 2023

@andrewgahan3568

May 2023 Friday 1045pm😊

@marlenesullivan3113

​@@andrewgahan3568JUNE 2023
& FOREVER, AN EVERLASTING SONG

@magdalenaengstrand7511

😮😮

@jencoops3468

How true, so exquisite.

@edwardtannahill6297

They are still so beautiful. I'm not so sure about me; timeless talent.

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@tectoramia-sz1lu

Barbara Dickson's voice is like liquid gold. She hits the high notes without screeching.
I saw her in concert twice. She was a much under rated singer in the UK.

@billwatt2528

I totally agree. We saw her in Peterborough a few years ago. A very good voice

@mcmaximon1

One of those pure smooth voices like Karen Carpenter! A pitch perfect tone

@daisyd7815

Benny and Björn - such musical geniuses.

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