Hand in Hand
Elvis Costello Lyrics


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No, don't ask me to apologize
I won't ask you to forgive me
If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me

You say, "Why don't you be a man about it
Like they do in the grown-up movies?"
But when it comes to the other way around, you say
You just want to use me
Oh, you and you wonder whether
It's gonna be syndicated
You sit with your knees together
All the time your breath is bated

(Hand in hand) no, don't ask me to apologize
I won't ask you to forgive me
If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me

Don't you know I got the bully boys out
Changing someone's facial design
Sitting with my toy room lout
Polishing my precious china
Don't you know I'm an animal?
But don't you know I can't stand up steady?
But you can't show me any kind of hell that I don't know already

(Hand in hand) no, don't ask me to apologize
I won't ask you to forgive me
If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me
Hand in hand, hand in hand
Hand in hand
Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand




Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand

Overall Meaning

Elvis Costello's "Hand in Hand" is a song that discusses a toxic and destructive relationship. The song implies that the singer and their partner are both equally culpable for the dysfunction in their relationship. Both parties are manipulative, selfish, and willing to destroy each other. The lyrics "If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me" suggest that neither the singer nor their partner will leave the relationship without taking the other down with them.


In the second verse, the singer sings about the power dynamics in their relationship, saying that their partner demands that they be masculine and in control, while their partner themselves is content with being used. The lines "You sit with your knees together, all the time your breath is bated" suggest that while their partner seems to be submissive, they are actually controlling and calculating.


Overall, the song is a commentary on relationships that are self-destructive, dysfunctional, and violent. The lyrics indicate that both parties are at fault and that they are both equally responsible for the pain they inflict on each other.


Line by Line Meaning

No, don't ask me to apologize
I refuse to apologize.


I won't ask you to forgive me
I won't seek your forgiveness.


If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me
If I face consequences, so will you.


You say, "Why don't you be a man about it
You suggest I act like an adult.


Like they do in the grown-up movies?"
Like they do in films for mature audiences?


But when it comes to the other way around, you say
But when the roles are reversed, you say


You just want to use me
You only want to exploit me.


Oh, you and you wonder whether
You question whether


It's gonna be syndicated
It will become widely broadcasted.


You sit with your knees together
You maintain proper posture.


All the time your breath is bated
You are fully attentive.


(Hand in hand) no, don't ask me to apologize
I reiterate my refusal to apologize.


I won't ask you to forgive me
Again, I won't seek your forgiveness.


If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me
Once again, if I face consequences, so will you.


Don't you know I got the bully boys out
You should know I have thugs at my disposal.


Changing someone's facial design
I can seriously injure someone.


Sitting with my toy room lout
I am hanging out with my childish friends.


Polishing my precious china
I am taking care of my valuable possessions.


Don't you know I'm an animal?
You should know I am a brute.


But don't you know I can't stand up steady?
However, you should know I have a weakness.


But you can't show me any kind of hell that I don't know already
But you can't inflict any punishment worse than I've already faced.


(Hand in hand) no, don't ask me to apologize
Once again, I refuse to apologize.


I won't ask you to forgive me
Again, I won't seek your forgiveness.


If I'm gonna go down, you're gonna come with me
Once again, if I face consequences, so will you.


Hand in hand, hand in hand
Together, we face the consequences.


Hand in hand
We are united in this.


Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
We are unwavering in our solidarity.


Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
We stand together, no matter what.


Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
We will face any punishment together.


Hand in hand, hand in hand, hand in hand
We will not falter in our loyalty to one another.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: ELVIS COSTELLO

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