Identity Crisis
Emily Weisband Lyrics
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I'ma let you in on a secret
I'd be a slut one day, and a prude the next
Yeah I'd wear nothing but a bra, then a turtleneck
I'd send a picture for attention, tell him he could get it
But he'd never get very far
Every time I hung out with certain friends
And I was hitting up Bible Study with the rest
But personality of the heart
Tryna please my Daddy, so he'd be proud
And driving myself mad to fit in that crowd
And wakin' up so empty, with no way out
Realisin' I don't know who I am now
And holy shit it's heavy, being in your twenties
Time of life you're figuring out what it is you believe
God is way more patient than he's given credit
Turns out that your girl was the farthest thing from authentic
But I'm looking and I'll find it
Yeah I'm proud to say that I'm in an identity crisis
Oh oh oh
Yeah I'm in an identity crisis
Identity crisis, yeah
Emily Weisband's song Identity Crisis speaks about the challenges and confusion we face in our twenties while trying to discover our true selves. Emily shares her journey of constantly changing her personality and behavior to please others, whether it was wearing a bra or a turtleneck, pretending to like drinking and smoking, attending both Bible Study and certain social events. Emily acknowledges that it was all an attempt to get validation from people and make them proud. She speaks about the pressure of fitting in with society's standards and expectations, including the approval of her father. Emily shares how these actions left her feeling empty and confused, with a loss of her sense of self.
Emily then talks about how heavy it can be in your twenties, trying to figure out what you believe, and who you really are. She expresses how comforting it was to realize that God is more patient than people give Him credit for, and that it's okay to make mistakes while figuring out who you are. She admits that her past behaviors weren't authentic and that she was far from her true self. However, she's on a journey to find it, and she takes pride in her identity crisis, knowing that it's a step towards discovering her true self.
Overall, Identity Crisis is an insightful song that speaks about the struggles of discovering your true self in your twenties, the pressures of conforming to society's standards, and the importance of authenticity and self-discovery.
Line by Line Meaning
Oh oh
Emily Weisband is preparing to share a secret with the listener.
I'ma let you in on a secret
Emily Weisband is about to reveal something personal and private to the listener.
I'd be a slut one day, and a prude the next
Emily Weisband's behavior is inconsistent and unpredictable, ranging from sexual promiscuity to prudishness.
Yeah I'd wear nothing but a bra, then a turtleneck
Emily Weisband's choice of clothing is also inconsistent and varies widely from revealing to conservative.
I'd send a picture for attention, tell him he could get it
Emily Weisband would often send suggestive pictures to get attention from men.
But he'd never get very far
Despite her suggestive behavior, Emily Weisband was not interested in advancing these relationships past a certain point.
Yeah I pretend that I like drinking and cigarettes
Emily Weisband would pretend to enjoy certain things, like drinking and smoking, to fit in with certain groups of people.
Every time I hung out with certain friends
Emily Weisband's behavior would change depending on who she was with.
And I was hitting up Bible Study with the rest
Emily Weisband would also attend Bible Study with other friends, suggesting a desire to pursue a more spiritual identity.
But personality of the heart
Emily Weisband's true personality is reflected in her heart or inner-self, rather than her outward behavior.
Tryna please my Daddy, so he'd be proud
Emily Weisband wants to please her father and gain his approval.
And driving myself mad to fit in that crowd
Emily Weisband is struggling to fit in with a certain group of people and is feeling a sense of desperation and anxiety about it.
And wakin' up so empty, with no way out
Despite her attempts to fit in and please others, Emily Weisband feels empty and unsure of herself and her identity.
Realisin' I don't know who I am now
Emily Weisband is having an existential crisis and is struggling to define and understand her own identity.
And holy shit it's heavy, being in your twenties
Emily Weisband is acknowledging the weight and intensity of being in her twenties, a time when many people struggle with questions of identity and self-understanding.
Time of life you're figuring out what it is you believe
The twenties are a time of exploration and discovery, when people are trying to figure out their own beliefs and values.
God is way more patient than he's given credit
Emily Weisband believes that God is more patient and understanding than many people give him credit for.
Turns out that your girl was the farthest thing from authentic
Emily Weisband is admitting that she has not been authentic or true to herself, and that she has been living a lie in many ways.
But I'm looking and I'll find it
Emily Weisband is determined to find her true identity and become more authentic.
Yeah I'm proud to say that I'm in an identity crisis
Emily Weisband is embracing her identity crisis and is proud to be acknowledging her struggle and working to find her true self.
Oh oh oh
Emily Weisband is repeating the opening phrase to bookend the song.
Identity crisis, yeah
Emily Weisband is reiterating the central idea of the song, that she is struggling with questions of identity and authenticity.
Writer(s): EMILY WEISBAND, ALYSA VANDERHEYM
Contributed by Sarah I. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
Emily Weisband
Hey guys! I'm so happy you somehow found this song and it led you here. I've done a lot wrong and a lot right, been totally myself and also pretended to be something I'm not... we all have! But I'm definitely learning that all of that is okay. God didn't make us to be one dimensional robots - I'm finding my individuality in the emotions and layers and questions I was created to have. This song is just the prelude to a record that explores it all... no matter how contradicting they might be sometimes haha. I hope you'll stick with me and ride that ride! I'll probably always be on it, but maybe that's kind of the point. Hit the subscribe button!
-em <3
Keira Fox
Emily Weisband I know what you mean Em, I’d like to compose a longer version of this song with you. I like the meaning, but I think it’s missing something.
Patrick Boyer
Well done Emily. Refreshing to hear some honest shit going on.
Willem TL
She deserves way more redit than all those other popular sht songs
We need more of this
C
Thats what i am sayin dawg
C
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Sophia Ma
I usually don’t pay attention to Instagram ads but I’m so glad I looked you up... this is beautiful
Laura Passos
This is so great! Hope you achieve big things 💟
Runaverse
Thanks for sharing your story through this song Emily! I love this and also Thy Will, which you co-wrote. Such a contrast, but ah the beauty of all that makes up life. Would love to hear you write and sing your own Christian song as well <3
imanDIY
This song couldn’t describe what i’m feeling any better 💔 I’m literally crying rn 💔