Big Girls Don't Cry
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Big girls don't cry
Big girls don't cry

Big girls don't cry (they don't cry)
Big girls don't cry (who said they don't cry?)
My girl said goodbye (my, oh, my)
My girl didn't cry (I wonder why)
(Silly boy) told my girl we had to break up
(Silly boy) hoped that she would call my bluff
(Silly boy) then she said to my surprise
"Big girls don't cry"

Big girls don't cry (they don't cry)
Big girls don't cry (who said they don't cry?)

(Maybe) I was cruel (I was cruel)
Baby I'm a fool (I'm such a fool)

(Silly girl) "Shame on you" your mama said
(Silly girl) "Shame on you, you're cryin' in bed"
(Silly girl) "Shame on you, you told me lies"
Big girls do cry

Big girls don't cry (they don't cry)
Big girls don't cry (that's just an alibi)

Big girls don't cry
Big girls don't cry
Big girls don't cry




Big girls don't cry
Big girls don't cry

Overall Meaning

The song "Big Girls Don't Cry" by Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons is a song about a break-up and the emotional response of the two people involved. The song features a male protagonist who has been left by his girlfriend, who does not appear to have been as upset about the break-up as he is. The lyrics suggest that big girls don't cry, but the singer is questioning this as his girl didn't seem to cry when she left him. He wonders why she didn't cry and why he is crying instead. The lyrics also suggest that the singer may have been a bit harsh in how he treated his ex-girlfriend, and he realizes that he may have been a fool to do so.


The lyrics of the song reveal the societal expectation that men should not show their emotions or cry, while women are allowed to express their emotions freely. The chorus repeats the line "Big girls don't cry" as if to reassure the singer that he should not be crying if he is a "big boy". The song challenges this gender stereotype by showing the male protagonist in a vulnerable and emotional state. The lyrics also suggest that crying is a natural and healthy response to a break-up, regardless of gender.


Line by Line Meaning

Big girls don't cry
Girls who are mature and strong do not shed tears easily.


Big girls don't cry (they don't cry)
Girls who are strong and empowered do not cry (as easily).


Big girls don't cry (who said they don't cry?)
Whoever said that big girls don't cry was mistaken or misinformed.


My girl said goodbye (my, oh, my)
My girlfriend ended our relationship; it was unexpected and a surprise.


My girl didn't cry (I wonder why)
I'm curious as to why my ex-girlfriend didn't cry during the breakup.


(Silly boy) told my girl we had to break up
A foolish young man informed my girlfriend that we were ending our relationship.


(Silly boy) hoped that she would call my bluff
The silly young man believed that my girlfriend would doubt whether we were really breaking up.


(Silly boy) then she said to my surprise
To the surprise of the foolish young man, my girlfriend responded in a way he hadn't expected.


"Big girls don't cry"
My ex-girlfriend reminded the foolish young man that strong women do not cry.


Big girls don't cry (that's just an alibi)
Saying that big girls don't cry is only an excuse or justification for not showing emotions.


Maybe I was cruel (I was cruel)
It's possible that I was harsh or unkind during the breakup.


Baby I'm a fool (I'm such a fool)
I realize now that I made mistakes and acted foolishly.


(Silly girl) "Shame on you" your mama said
The girl was scolded or reprimanded by her mother for crying over a breakup.


(Silly girl) "Shame on you, you're cryin' in bed"
The girl was criticized for crying in her bed after the breakup.


(Silly girl) "Shame on you, you told me lies"
The girl was accused of being dishonest prior to the breakup.


Big girls do cry
Despite what some may believe or say, strong women can and do show emotions.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Songtrust Ave, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Tobias Gad, Stacy Ferguson

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@-TheExposition-

Back in the early 90's right during my preteens I was riding in the car w/ my dad, stepmom and older teenage step sister. My step sister had been being such a brat and was now crying in protest at her mother snapping at her.
The radio was on but all attention was focused on her throwing a tantrum.
That all changed when this song starting playing out of nowhere.

My dad, step mom and myself lost it. Her mom was trying to so hard to muffle her own laughter but couldn't. My dad and I just freely cracked up. It was so fitting!
Step sister was so salty. It was as if the universe was saying "give it a rest already". She got the message too. Didn't say a word the rest of the car ride home. That was the first time I ever this song.

@anthonycolatrella2438

Great Story!

@jwream

You gotta love that lead tenor sound. As a tenor 2, I could never dream of having a range that high be that comfortable. Props to a legend

@hayal8526

💋❤

@garybooth4270

My fiancee and I just saw them last Friday in Lancaster Pennsylvania at the American Music Theatre....Frankie Valli just as good as he was in the sixties....

@matthewrandell5055

they don't make them like Frankie Valli anymore. glad to hear he's still at it too!

@teddybearcupcake6616

I love the part where they go yaiyaiyai

@choomummmaa4527

It's more * cryaiai

@teddybearcupcake6616

@@choomummmaa4527 I know but at first when I listened to this song and didn’t know the song name or anything I thought it was yaiyaiyai

@geeem5408

Hahahaha meee toooo

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