Not the Love We Dream Of
Gary Numan Lyrics


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Sometimes things don't work out the way you planned
Sometimes words don't say the things you mean
Sometimes you can't explain the way you feel
Sometimes when we smile we tell the same lie

With a whisper, everything you know
Is torn away and life just stops
With a whisper, everything you are
Just falls apart and dies

And all those things that you meant to change
Are thoughts lost on the way to this
And all those sorries you never said
Are words lost on the wind

Did you ever wonder about the end?
Did you ever you wish that I was still there?
Did you ever call my name by mistake?
Did you ever cry yourself to sleep?

Slowly, slowly, we lose the love that binds us
Slowly, slowly, we lose the care that holds us
Slowly, slowly, we lose the time that shares us
Slowly, slowly, we lose the heart to save us

Sometimes things are not the way they seem
Sometimes friends are not the friends they seem




Sometimes time is not the cure it seems
Sometimes love is not the love we dream of

Overall Meaning

The song Not the Love We Dream Of by Gary Numan is an emotional ballad about the heartbreak that can come from unmet expectations in love. The opening verses set the tone with lines such as "Sometimes things don't work out the way you planned" and "Sometimes when we smile we tell the same lie." The lyrics capture the sense of disappointment that can arise when reality does not live up to fantasy, conveying the idea that love can be messy and unpredictable.


In the chorus, the phrase "With a whisper" introduces a sense of the suddenness and shock that can come with heartbreak. Numan sings: "With a whisper, everything you know / Is torn away and life just stops / With a whisper, everything you are / Just falls apart and dies." These lines express the overwhelming feeling of loss that comes when a relationship ends unexpectedly or abruptly.


The second half of the song reflects on the aftermath of a failed relationship, with lines like "Did you ever wonder about the end?" and "Did you ever cry yourself to sleep?" The closing lines of the song capture a sense of resignation and acceptance, with the repeated refrain of "Sometimes love is not the love we dream of."


Overall, Not the Love We Dream Of is a poignant expression of the pain and disappointment that can come with love, but still manages to maintain a sense of hope and resilience in the face of heartbreak.


Line by Line Meaning

Sometimes things don't work out the way you planned
Life doesn't always go according to plan


Sometimes words don't say the things you mean
It can be difficult to convey our true thoughts and feelings with language


Sometimes you can't explain the way you feel
Some emotions are hard to put into words


Sometimes when we smile we tell the same lie
We can deceive others by putting on a fake smile


With a whisper, everything you know
A sudden realization can drastically change our perspective


Is torn away and life just stops
The sudden change can be jarring and feel like everything has come to a halt


With a whisper, everything you are
Our identity can be shattered just as easily


Just falls apart and dies
Leaving us feeling lost and broken


And all those things that you meant to change
Regret for missed opportunities


Are thoughts lost on the way to this
We can get so caught up in the present that we forget about the past


And all those sorries you never said
Unspoken apologies can leave us with guilt and a sense of unfinished business


Are words lost on the wind
The chance to make things right might have passed us by


Did you ever wonder about the end?
Questioning our mortality and what happens when we die


Did you ever you wish that I was still there?
Longing for someone who's no longer in our life


Did you ever call my name by mistake?
Being reminded of someone from our past can be jarring


Did you ever cry yourself to sleep?
Emotional pain that runs deep and can be hard to process


Slowly, slowly, we lose the love that binds us
Love can fade and relationships can fall apart over time


Slowly, slowly, we lose the care that holds us
Falling out of love can lead to neglecting our partner's needs


Slowly, slowly, we lose the time that shares us
Losing sight of the importance of spending time together


Slowly, slowly, we lose the heart to save us
Love can be a powerful force that keeps us going, but it can also fade and leave us feeling lost


Sometimes things are not the way they seem
Appearances can be deceiving


Sometimes friends are not the friends they seem
People can disappoint us and relationships can change


Sometimes time is not the cure it seems
Some wounds don't heal with time alone


Sometimes love is not the love we dream of
Our idealized version of love might not match up with reality




Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Adrian Fenton, Gary Anthony James Webb

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