Baby Father
George the Poet Lyrics

Look at you, back to square one
You find yourself in the same situation again

See your little birth control never hurt a soul
Your previous failed birth control attempts didn't harm anyone

It might have prevented one that wasn't meant to come
Your birth control could have stopped an unplanned pregnancy

You've had your fair share of pregnancy scares
You've experienced multiple unnerving situations surrounding pregnancy

Guys are fathering babies that ain't technically theirs
Men are raising children that aren't biologically theirs

And you'd like to say "seeing that affected me bare"
You want to express how much this affects you

But even to this day you still forget to beware that you could
You haven't learned from your past mistakes

Ruin your life doing your wife
Having a child could have a significant impact on your life

There's always that safety net we expect to be there
We often rely on safety nets to save us from difficult situations

But it's down to you making that decision in hospital
Ultimately, the decision is yours when you're in the hospital

When your living conditions are mission impossible
You might not have ideal living conditions to support a child

You could go from washing the dishes and watching porn
Your life could change drastically in a short time

To raising a little kid that wishes it wasn't born
You might have to raise a child that regrets being born

Cause mum & dad never have any paper change
Financial struggles could make it difficult for the parents

Consider your possible position at a later stage
Think about the future impact of your decision

Some obstacles are hidden at a greater range and all now her behavior changed
Some challenges might not be obvious initially and your partner's behavior might alter

See you been tryna call her but she shegged the requests
You've been trying to contact her, but she's been ignoring you

Cah the two lines showed up on her pregnancy test
She's pregnant based on a positive pregnancy test

It's tempting to dwell on what you did & didn't do
You're tempted to focus on your actions and mistakes

But first you gotta confirm she isn't kidding you
You need to make sure that she's not lying

And you just wanna tell her straight "This don't equate to no relationship even if there is a kid in you"
You want to make it clear that having a child doesn't mean you're in a relationship

(Can you even call it a baby?)
You question whether it's accurate to refer to the fetus as a baby

I swear it can't feel nothing until the 24th week
The fetus can't feel emotions until 24 weeks of gestation

And the circumstances couldn't be any more peak
The situation couldn't be more difficult

Cause you don't know this is not just manipulation
You're unsure if your partner is manipulating you

Tryna avoid words like 'problem' and 'situation'
Your partner is trying to avoid using negative words

But you know she won't not be blunt for you so you fix your face and ask her what she wants to do
You know she won't sugarcoat the truth, so you ask her what she wants to do

But she reckons she wants the yout especially one for you
She wants to keep the baby, especially if it's yours

And it's easier after the first rocky months are through
It gets easier to have a child after the initial few difficult months

(Thats what she wants to do)
Your partner wants to keep the baby

But all you can see is more strife
You only see more difficulties and conflict

It's her body but it's your life
Your partner has the ultimate decision because it's her body, but it affects your life

So you're tryna find another pathway now
You're trying to find a different solution

Cause when you're halfway in you're always halfway out
You feel like you're partially committed and can't fully commit either way

Its something you can't ignore and can't force
This is a situation that you can't ignore or control

But is the choice ever any more than half yours?
You question how much of a say you really have in this decision

So ironic
It's ironic how things turned out

This decision making process was a composition of competitions
The decision-making process was full of contradictions and challenges

Between wrong decisions and non-decisions
Deciding not to make a decision is in itself a decision

Now she's doing what she isn't supposed to do and effectively making decisions for both of you
Your partner is making decisions that she shouldn't be making for both of you

Fam tell me this isn't the golden truth
This is the harsh reality of the situation

Cah she feels she's meant to be taking a strong position
Your partner feels like she needs to be in a dominant position

But to you she's potentially making the wrong decision
You think your partner might be making the wrong decision

And if she was only seeing you
If she was only in a relationship with you

That would make her a fairly lonely lover
She would feel alone in her decision-making

Now for the first time in this, whatever its called
For the first time, you don't know what to call this situation

You both acknowledge that you barely know each other
You realize that you don't really know each other that well

All you could do was put on protection
The only thing you could have done is to use protection during sex

And avoid the common but wrong perception
Avoid the common and incorrect belief

That that's the only form of contraception
That protection is the only form of contraception

But it looks so different on reflection
Looking back, the situation appears differently

My G you woulda had more patience than a hospital had
You would have needed infinite patience

If you could confirm you're the only possible dad
If you could confirm that you're the biological father

Suspicions about lying and semen
Suspicions about lying and paternity

Prying and scheming
Interrogating for the truth and coming up with a plan

But shes crying and screaming
Your partner is emotionally distraught

And in the ends our priorities are messed up
Your priorities are distorted

She'll idealise it so nothing else can stand in her way
She will idealize having the baby and ignore other obstacles

And you can't stop thinking what the mandem will say
You're unable to stop worrying about what others will say

That's why a family can't be planned in a day
Building a family involves more than a fleeting decision

Heated words, you spit lava
You're having an intense conversation

She's forcing you to choose between becoming an absent dad & a shit father
She's making you choose between being a bad father or not being there at all

Being stuck between a rock and a hard place is odd
It's challenging to be in a difficult position

When you're so confused you can't pray to God
You're feeling extremely confused and lost

You just wanna go back to the yard, play some COD
You just want to escape and play some video games

But this ain't going away, so you go in & say
The situation is not going away, so you confront it

Exactly what you don't wanna say
You're saying the words you've been avoiding

"If you get an abortion, problem solved
You suggest that getting an abortion would solve the problem

If you choose not to, i'm not involved"
You make it clear that you won't be involved if she chooses to keep the baby

She goes mad it's a miracle you survived
Your partner gets angry, and you feel relieved for surviving the confrontation

But what you don't realise is she had that exact same conversation with her actual boyfriend
You don't realize that your partner had this conversation with her actual boyfriend before you arrived

You think about the baby's life
You contemplate the child's future

If it becomes a criminal
If the child ends up breaking the law

You know that's gonna be your bad kid
You know that you'll be blamed for the child's bad behavior

But mummy's only doing what her mum did
Your partner is following in her mother's footsteps

And you're only doing what your dad did
You're emulating your father's actions

Couple years down the line
A few years later

She's asking me if I'm gonna stick around for time
Your partner is asking if you're going to stay with her

Saying "I gotta think about this child of mine"
She tells you that she has to think about the baby

So we both made decisions and I can't say I'm proud of mine
You both made decisions, but you regret yours

Decisions decisions
The importance and difficulty of making decisions in life