Don’t Ask
Grizzly Bear Lyrics


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It's a call
I fell into your arms that night
Don't ask
It's the time we had apart to sort things out
Just don't ask
It's the work you saying you're doing
But baby, I don't even ask
It's the love that came undone between us
And nobody ever asks
There's a place and time for everything I know
Don't ask
But when I'm around you still I lose control
Just don't ask
You suggest the struggle goes both ways
But baby, I don't even ask




I just wish you had a little faith
But I'm learning not to ask

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Grizzly Bear's "Don't Ask" address the complications of a relationship that has gone through a period apart. The singer has fallen back into the arms of their partner, but emphasizes not to ask about the past. The phrases "don't ask" and "baby, I don't even ask" repeat throughout the song, suggesting that questioning the past only leads to more pain and complications. The singer acknowledges that there is a time and place for everything, but ultimately can't resist being around the person they love, even though it results in them losing control.


The lyrics are open to interpretation but seem to touch on themes of trust, vulnerability, and fear. The singer is hesitant to ask questions about the past, perhaps because they fear what they may find out. The line "you suggest the struggle goes both ways" implies that the singer's partner may also be holding back from asking difficult questions. However, the singer wishes that their partner had more faith in their relationship and their ability to move forward.


Overall, "Don't Ask" is a poignant and emotional song that explores the complexities of relationships and the difficulty of moving forward after a period of separation.


Line by Line Meaning

It's a call
This is an attempt to reach out or connect with someone


I fell into your arms that night
A moment of vulnerability or surrender to another person


Don't ask
There is no easy or clear explanation for the situation or feeling expressed


It's the time we had apart to sort things out
The separation was necessary to resolve conflicts or personal issues


Just don't ask
Reiterating that the situation is not worth explaining or can't be put into words


It's the work you saying you're doing
Doubts about the other person's honesty or commitment


But baby, I don't even ask
Choosing not to confront or challenge the other person despite suspicions


It's the love that came undone between us
Acknowledging a past relationship or connection that has fallen apart


and nobody ever asks
The end of the relationship is not a topic that anyone wants to discuss or revisit


There's a place and time for everything I know
Understanding that certain conversations or actions are better left for a different moment or context


Don't ask
Repeating the idea that explanation or discussion is not necessary or desirable


But when I'm around you still I lose control
The artist struggles to maintain emotional distance or control around the other person


Just don't ask
Reiterating the idea that the situation is beyond explanation or resolution


You suggest the struggle goes both ways
The other person tries to deflect blame or responsibility for the situation


but baby, I don't even ask
Choosing not to argue or engage in a discussion about who is responsible for the problems in the relationship


I just wish you had a little faith
Desire for the other person to trust or believe in them


but I'm learning not to ask
Coming to terms with the fact that certain things cannot be changed or resolved and choosing to move on




Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Edward Droste

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