1. Heavens to … Read Full Bio ↴There are at least two bands called Heavens to Betsy.
1. Heavens to Betsy was a punk rock band from Olympia, Washington. The members were Tracy Sawyer on drums and Corin Tucker on guitar and vocals. Their first recording, a split single on the independent label K Records with Bratmobile, put them center stage in the Riot Grrrl movement of the early 1990s. The band recorded three singles, produced one LP/CD, Calculated, and contributed to many compilations while they were together. These recordings are now sought after by collectors. One of these compilations, Free To Fight, also included a song contributed by the band Excuse 17, of which Carrie Brownstein was a member. Corin and Carrie began to play together, and when Heavens to Betsy disbanded in the mid 1990s, the two women founded Sleater-Kinney.
2. A Christian piano pop duo from Nashville, TN, consisting of Ben Backus and Stephen Lynch.
Decide
Heavens to Betsy Lyrics
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Is that that the way he said it?
Is that the way you asked him?
I know you have to live your life and I live mine
But when I think about it, it still makes me want to cry
"I will decide my life
I will decide this time
"I will decide my life"
Make a million promises that you won't keep
Holding on boygirl, I'm dying in my sleep
Wait for something different
Holding on to nothing else but him, him, him, him, him
"I will decide my life
I will decide this time
No man is gonna rule my life," she said
"I will decide this time"
Waiting on forever, waiting on tomorrow
Waiting on a fairy tale
You get rid of all those traps they have set around you
But can you get rid of that seed they planted in your head?
"I will decide my life
I will decide this time
No man is gonna rule my life," she said
"I will decide this time"
Is he a real prince charming? Is he really worth it?
All those things I saw you give up
I wait, I wait for a happy ending
But I could never say goodbye
The song "Decide" by Heavens to Betsy is all about taking control of one's own life and not letting anyone, especially a man, dictate what one's life should be. The opening lines of the song question the way the male partner asked the female partner to get married, indicating that he might have pressured her into it. The singer acknowledges that both of them have their own lives to live, but the thought of her friend getting married against her will still makes her sad.
The chorus of the song emphasizes the notion that the singer will decide her own life and not let any man rule it. She repeats this phrase multiple times, emphasizing the importance and power of taking charge of one's own life. The lyrics also talk about false promises and how holding onto a relationship that is not right for one can lead to one's demise. The singer acknowledges the trap of waiting for a perfect fairytale ending, and how hard it is to get rid of the seed that society has planted in our heads about the importance of marriage and relationships.
The song also poses some questions, asking whether the male partner is truly worth giving up everything for and whether he is a real prince charming. The singer waits for a happy ending but knows she could never say goodbye to her friend, indicating the complexity of relationships and how hard it is to break away even when things are not working out.
Line by Line Meaning
Do you wanna get married baby?
Did he ask you to get married in a respectful way? Did you ask him to? It still upsets me when I think about it.
I will decide my life
I will decide this time
No man is gonna rule my life," she said
"I will decide my life"
I am in control of my own life, I make my own decisions. No man is going to have power over me. I decide what happens to me.
Make a million promises that you won't keep
Holding on boygirl, I'm dying in my sleep
Wait for something different
Holding on to nothing else but him, him, him, him, him
Stop promising things you won't do, it only hurts me more. Holding on to someone who isn't good for me is causing me to suffer. I'm waiting for something better but I can only hold on to him.
Waiting on forever, waiting on tomorrow
Waiting on a fairy tale
You get rid of all those traps they have set around you
But can you get rid of that seed they planted in your head?
I'm waiting for a better future but it seems like a fairy tale. You can escape your bad situation, but can you escape the way it's affected you? Can you escape the mentality and beliefs you've developed because of it?
Is he a real prince charming? Is he really worth it?
All those things I saw you give up
I wait, I wait for a happy ending
But I could never say goodbye
Is he really the perfect guy? Is he worth giving up everything for? I'm waiting for a happy ending but I can never bring myself to say goodbye, even if it's hurting me.
Contributed by Bella R. Suggest a correction in the comments below.