I Don't Know How to Love Him
Helen Reddy Lyrics


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I don't know how to love him
What to do, how to move him
I've been changed, yes really changed
In these past few days when I see myself
I seem like someone else

I don't know how to take this
I don't see why he moves me
He's a man, he's just a man
And I've had so many men before
In very many ways, he's just one more

Should I bring him down?
Should I scream and shout?
Should I speak of love?
Let my feelings out
I never thought I'd come to this
What's it all about

Don't you think it's rather funny
I should be in this position?
I'm the one who's always been
So calm, so cool, no lover's fool
Running every show, he scares me so

I never thought I'd come to this
What's it all about?
What's it all about?

If he said he loved me
I'd be lost, I'd be frightened
I couldn't cope, just couldn't cope
I'd turn my head, I'd back away
I wouldn't want to know
He scares me so




Oh, I want him so
I love him so

Overall Meaning

Helen Reddy's song "I Don't Know How to Love Him" is a touching ballad about a woman trying to come to terms with her feelings for a man she deeply desires, but is scared to love. The song is from the 1970 rock opera "Jesus Christ Superstar," which tells the story of Jesus Christ's final days before his crucifixion. The singer of the song is Mary Magdalene, a follower of Jesus and a former prostitute, who has fallen in love with him. The lyrics of the song express her struggles in coming to terms with her emotions towards Jesus.


In the first verse, Mary admits that she doesn't know how to love Jesus and doesn't understand why she's been changed by him. She feels like she's someone else and can't figure out how to move or approach him. In the second verse, Mary questions if she should bring Jesus down, scream and shout, or speak of love to let her feelings out. She's scared and confused, having never felt this way before. In the final verse, Mary confesses that if Jesus were to declare his love for her, she wouldn't know how to cope with it. She would turn away from him and back away because he scares her so much, although she loves him deeply.


The lyrics of "I Don't Know How to Love Him" tap into universal human emotions of love, fear, and vulnerability. Mary Magdalene's struggle to accept her feelings for Jesus is a relatable experience many people have gone through at one point in their lives. Despite Mary's fear of love, she cannot deny her affection for Jesus. The song tells a tale of an internal battle with one's heart.


Line by Line Meaning

I don't know how to love him
I am unsure of how to love him


What to do, how to move him
I am uncertain of how to impress or make him respond to me


I've been changed, yes really changed
I have undergone a significant transformation recently


In these past few days when I see myself
During recent days, I've perceived a change within myself


I seem like someone else
I appear to have become a different person


I don't know how to take this
I am uncertain how to handle this situation


I don't see why he moves me
I cannot understand why he attracts me


He's a man, he's just a man
He is merely a human being, a male


And I've had so many men before
I have experienced many men in the past


In very many ways, he's just one more
He is similar to many other men I have known


Should I bring him down?
Should I criticize him or belittle him?


Should I scream and shout?
Should I express my frustration or anger loudly?


Should I speak of love?
Should I confess my love to him?


Let my feelings out
Should I express my emotions openly?


I never thought I'd come to this
I never expected to be in this situation


What's it all about
What is the significance or meaning of all of this?


Don't you think it's rather funny
Do you not find it ironic?


I should be in this position?
I cannot believe I am in this circumstance


I'm the one who's always been
I am typically the one who is


So calm, so cool, no lover's fool
I am composed, collected, and not easily deceived in love


Running every show, he scares me so
I am usually in charge, but he intimidates me


If he said he loved me
If he were to confess his love for me


I'd be lost, I'd be frightened
I would feel confused and scared


I couldn't cope, just couldn't cope
I would be unable to handle it


I'd turn my head, I'd back away
I would avoid the situation and retreat


I wouldn't want to know
I would avoid hearing his confession of love


He scares me so
He intimidates and frightens me


Oh, I want him so
Despite all of this, I still have a strong desire for him


I love him so
I have strong romantic feelings for him




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Andrew Lloyd Webber, Tim Rice

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@VEttariPEPC

@Bubba Still - lets see. One of her signature songs was I Am Woman. How does it go. I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar - Except In Afghanistan.

Helen Reddy did have a beautiful voice. But, so did Satan.

As was written by the Prophet Isaiah:

Your pomp has been brought down to Sheol, along with the music of your harps. Maggots are your bed and worms your blanket.
How you have fallen from heaven, O day star, son of the dawn! You have been cut down to the ground, O destroyer of nations.
You said in your heart: “I will ascend to the heavens; I will raise my throne above the stars of God. I will sit on the mount of assembly, in the far reaches of the north.
I will ascend above the tops of the clouds; I will make myself like the Most High.”
But you will be brought down to Sheol, to the lowest depths of the Pit.
Those who see you will stare; they will ponder your fate:
(Isaiah 14:11 - 16)



All comments from YouTube:

@DougCeleste

My favorite song by Helen with her soft and then powerful vocals accompanied by the lovely background female vocalists and strong instrumentation. Still brilliant after all these years! Bravo! 🥰

@chriscorman734

I saw Jesus Christ Superstar on Broadway many years ago with my wife for our anniversary. This song especially brought tears to my eyes what a song and what a voice Helen has.

@jamiezandt7655

R.I.P. 09/29/2020. The heavenly choir now has a new angel. Thank you for the music, Helen!

@VEttariPEPC

Beautiful song for sure. But, there is no evidence that Mary Madeline was a prostitute. In fact, the ossuaries of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus were found. And, once again, there is no indication that this woman was a prostitute. So, I am not sure if being able to sing this song well gains you admittance to heaven. Maybe not. After all, Mary Madeline may find such a person's presence offensive.

@rtoddcannonjr7462

Who was first to be at the tomb of Jesus? I believe you need to rethink the history of the Roman catholic church.

@tuneaddicted

This song is 52 years old and still sounds as excellent as it did when it was released. Her voice is amazing

@DeborahGilson

I was 11, watching my late mother, a classically-trained musician, sing, "I Don't Know How to Love Him" along with Helen Reddy. As I stood in the living room doorway watching in silent adoration, I believed my mother was singing about a specific man as she poured her heart and soul into this "duet" with Helen. Hearing this song again just now took me back in time and also brought me to tears. Thankfully, YouTube and Helen Reddy make me feel my late mother is still by my side.

@michelemarie1276

I lost my Mother in April this year [2019]. She used to do the same thing -- pour her heart into a duet with Helen to this song, AND to "You're My World" by Helen Reddy.

Brought me to tears hearing this because I know she was singing about my Father. I lost him a little over a year ago. They were married almost 52 years.

@jeffreyclarke736

Hugs to you

@jeffreyclarke736

I think I get it.

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