I Do
Howie Day Lyrics


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I got a letter today
An invitation
And the writing looked like you
"Hello, how are you?
And by the way, please RSVP "I do"'
I thought of writing the sad words
Of how it used to be
But I didn't want to bring you down, no
I guess the bells ring pretty well there without me
Don't worry 'bout me baby
I'll wear the thorn of crowns
I will play the clown

You think that I don't love you
You're just wrong
That don't matter now anyway
Couldn't bear to see you up there
With the white dress on
Here's my vow to you
I'll stay away

I remember when
In a lover's whisper you said,
No other man would ever share your bed
Well we both know that's not been so
I wish I'd never let you go
Now you found a better man instead
I wish you health and wealth
And a white house on a hill
And I hope you raise a family
Little boy and a little girl
A little more joy in this little old world
Well that'll be enough for me

You think that I don't love you
You're just wrong
That don't matter anyway
Couldn't bear to see you up there
With the white dress on
Here's my vow to you
I'll stay away

Time rolls on
Dreams they die
And I've thrown out the pictures
I have of you and I
And if you're ever wondering
If love can be true
Think of me
Remember darling
Like I, like I do

Old friendships fade away
Love falls apart
And you've not spent
a single day outside my heart
But there's just one more dream
That I have left for you




I hope you're smiling when he turns around and says
I do... I do... I do

Overall Meaning

The song "I Do" by Howie Day is about a man receiving an invitation to his ex-girlfriend's wedding, and how he feels about it. When he received the invitation, he was initially tempted to write a letter back to his ex-girlfriend about how much he misses her, but he ultimately decides against it. The reason for this is because he does not want to dampen her special day with his own feelings of regret and sadness. Instead, he decides to stay away from the wedding and wishes her well for the future. Although he wishes that he was the one marrying her, he understands that they are both on different paths now and that he needs to move on.


The lyrics of the song are relatable to anyone who has experienced heartbreak and regret. The theme of unrequited love and moving on are central themes to the song. The singer wishes his ex-girlfriend happiness and success in her new life, even though he still has feelings for her. The song is a beautiful tribute to the resilience of the human spirit, and a testament to the power of love, even when it is unrequited.


Line by Line Meaning

I got a letter today
I received a letter recently


An invitation
The letter was an invitation to an event


And the writing looked like you
The handwriting on the invitation reminded me of you


"Hello, how are you? And by the way, please RSVP "I do"'
The letter said 'Hello, how are you?' and requested a response of 'I do'


I thought of writing the sad words Of how it used to be But I didn't want to bring you down, no I guess the bells ring pretty well there without me
I considered writing about how things used to be but didn't want to bring you down. I realized the event will go well without my presence


Don't worry 'bout me baby I'll wear the thorn of crowns I will play the clown
Don't worry about me, I can handle feeling hurt. I'll pretend to be happy for you


You think that I don't love you You're just wrong That don't matter now anyway Couldn't bear to see you up there With the white dress on Here's my vow to you I'll stay away
You believe I don't love you, but you're mistaken. However, it doesn't matter anymore. I can't bear to witness you getting married, so I promise to stay away


I remember when In a lover's whisper you said, No other man would ever share your bed Well we both know that's not been so I wish I'd never let you go Now you found a better man instead
I recall when you whispered that no other man would ever be with you. However, we both know that's not true. I wish I never let you go, but now you've found a better man


I wish you health and wealth And a white house on a hill And I hope you raise a family Little boy and a little girl A little more joy in this little old world Well that'll be enough for me
I hope you have a healthy and prosperous life with a beautiful house on a hill. I also hope you have a family and bring more happiness to the world. That's all I could ask for


Time rolls on Dreams they die And I've thrown out the pictures I have of you and I And if you're ever wondering If love can be true Think of me Remember darling Like I, like I do
Time passes, dreams fade and I got rid of our pictures. But if you ever doubt that love is real, think of me and remember how much I loved you


Old friendships fade away Love falls apart And you've not spent a single day outside my heart But there's just one more dream That I have left for you I hope you're smiling when he turns around and says I do... I do... I do
Old friends grow distant and love ends, but you've stayed in my heart. I have one more dream for you, which is for you to be happy and smiling when your partner says 'I do'




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@almaidaabdurajak1581Ksisiskz

2024 Is Anyone here

@chrismyers2170

I'm with ya. I actually met him in person right after I learned to play this song on my guitar. He performed in Alexandria Virginia at a concert venue that I was working at called The Birchmere. He's so down to earth. I was smoking a cigarette and he came outside to the smoking area. ❤

@chrismyers2170

You are sooo beautiful by the way😊

@randyvogt82

Found some more real music! 💯 *Gotta love when stumble upon a song you used to love!

@catycuofano8925

Here I am

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@carip285

I am tearing up reading all of these comments. I honestly thought that I was the only one that remembered this song. It's comforting to me to hear the memories that other people have around this song.

@jonathanwilliams365

I remember this song. Good times before most social media leading to less interaction with one another😮

@liamorigami

I am putting this here so every time this gets a like I’ll be reminded of this beautiful song. Don’t wanna ever forget this song again. Truly a masterpiece

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