Mirrors
J. Mitchell Lyrics
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Trust me, them days is over
Can't understand how I
Let you sit on my shoulders
Them times when you messed up
I made escuses for
And I always knew it, that I should have headed for the door
But I stayed and you played the right way in your place
But the me was you, and your
Pain was mine, and the
Same situation playing over in my mind
It seems
Ain't tryna hear you
Just tryna hear me
Don't wanna hear nothing, baby it's selfishly
I blaming you for the hurt in me, but it's not your fault that
I'm so incomplete
You see everytime I do it do it
I seem to ruin
Got this funny way of falling in love
And it's effecting how I'm breathing
Effecting how I'm eating
Seems like I'm all up on drugs
So beg you my pardon
Loving you deep in my heart
And I can't take no more
I'm looking for the problem
Standing over the seek
One thing I found, I had to take a look in mirror
See I can't leave you, until I learn to leave me
What was I thinking
That you could talk to me like that
You was holding me down, but I was holding me back
Looking inside myself, and has to see who I am, cause this is my trial, affecting my smile
I'm gotta walk (?), this is gonna be a while
You see everytime I do it do it
I seem to ruin
Got this funny way of falling in love
And it's effecting how I'm brething
Effecting how I'm eating
Seems like I'm all up on drugs
So beg you my pardon
Loving you deep in my heart
And I can't take no more
I'm looking for the problem
Standing over the seek
One thing I found, I had to take a look in mirror
See I can't leave you, until I learn to leave me
Everything I thought I knew
All them times I ran away
You see, really I was running for me
I know constantly we're trying, we was living in a lie
Finally looked into mirror to see
Probably would have left you sooner, but I was being scared, that ain't how I ever should be
Yeah I was searching for a while for the sores of the problem
One thing I found, I had to take a look in the mirror
In the song "Mirrors", J. Mitchell sings about self-reflection and the realization that true change must come from within. The lyrics convey the message that the singer had been holding onto a toxic relationship, taking on the burden of their partner's emotions and excusing their mistakes. However, she comes to understand that the root of the problem lies within herself, and that she cannot leave her partner until she learns to leave herself. She speaks of her struggles with falling in love and the negative effects it has on her physical and emotional well-being, comparing it to being on drugs. She eventually takes a long and hard look at herself in the mirror and sees that she must change before she can expect change in her life.
The repetition of the phrase "every time I do it, I seem to ruin" shows the singer's acknowledgement of her habit of sabotaging her own relationships. She acknowledges that her partner is not to blame for the hurt she feels and that it is her own faults and insecurities that she needs to overcome. Through this self-discovery, she learns to let go of the toxic relationship and move towards a healthier mindset and way of loving.
Line by Line Meaning
I used to give you too much power
I used to allow you to control my life but not anymore
Trust me, them days is over
You can no longer control me or have power over me
Can't understand how I
Let you sit on my shoulders
I can't believe I allowed you to put me under so much pressure and weight
Them times when you messed up
I made escuses for
And I always knew it, that I should have headed for the door
Even when you made mistakes, I made excuses for you and I knew I should have left you long ago
But I stayed and you played the right way in your place
And I prayed everytime you was away you'd see my face
But the me was you, and your
Pain was mine, and the
Same situation playing over in my mind
It seems
I stayed with you and you behaved when you were around, but I was suffering too and the same situations replayed in my head
Ain't tryna hear you
Just tryna hear me
Don't wanna hear nothing, baby it's selfishly
I blaming you for the hurt in me, but it's not your fault that
I'm so incomplete
I am only listening to my own thoughts and feelings because I am selfishly blaming you for my pain, even though it is my own insecurities and incompleteness causing it
You see everytime I do it do it
I seem to ruin
Got this funny way of falling in love
And it's effecting how I'm breathing
Effecting how I'm eating
Seems like I'm all up on drugs
So beg you my pardon
Loving you deep in my heart
And I can't take no more
I'm looking for the problem
Standing over the seek
One thing I found, I had to take a look in mirror
See I can't leave you, until I learn to leave me
Every time I fall in love, I tend to self-destruct and it affects me physically and emotionally. I apologize for loving you so deeply but I need to find the root of my problems and fix myself before I can leave you
What was I thinking
That you could talk to me like that
You was holding me down, but I was holding me back
Looking inside myself, and has to see who I am, cause this is my trial, affecting my smile
I'm gotta walk (?), this is gonna be a while
I can't believe I allowed you to speak to me so poorly, but ultimately it was myself holding me back. I need to look within myself to see who I truly am and fix my problems. This is my difficult journey but it will take a while
Everything I thought I knew
All them times I ran away
You see, really I was running for me
I know constantly we're trying, we was living in a lie
Finally looked into mirror to see
Probably would have left you sooner, but I was being scared, that ain't how I ever should be
Yeah I was searching for a while for the sores of the problem
One thing I found, I had to take a look in the mirror
I thought I knew everything and I ran away often, but I was actually running from myself. We were constantly trying but living a lie, until I finally looked within myself to see the problem. I was scared to leave you, but that's not who I should be. I searched for answers for a while and realized that I need to take a look in the mirror to fix myself before leaving you
Lyrics © Peermusic Publishing, Warner/Chappell Music, Inc., Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: CHRISTOPHER STEWART, EVE JEFFERS, MARY J. BLIGE, TERIUS NASH
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