Jodie Rivera (Also Known As VenetianPrincess) became famous on YouTube. Her… Read Full Bio ↴Jodie Rivera (Also Known As VenetianPrincess) became famous on YouTube. Her videos are usually parodies of songs and events in pop culture. She is the #1 most subscribed female of all time on YouTube globally, and #9 out of all people on YouTube with over 406,000 subscribers, and over 100 million views,. [1] She gained notoriety in 2006 after being featured on the frontpage of YouTube, and then in 2007 was one of the first people invited into YouTube's revenue sharing program.[2] Her videos have been viewed 90 million times.[3] In December 2008, Samsung announced that her music video for her original song "Somewhere Else" is the pre-installed video on all Samsung Behold cell phones.[4] PC World Magazine named her "7 Things Guys Don't Have To Do" music video one of the top 10 viral videos of 2008. [5]

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Comments from YouTube:

Brooklynn Bourne

3y↑248

My great grandmother (may she rest in heavenly peace) always said “when you go outside this house, you are a reflection of me.”I would never disrespect her memory by going outside in a bonnet, pajamas, a house dress nor house shoes. I will always be ‘pulled together’ and walking with my head held high.

Lady Dee

Yes! Same here, my mother, both grandmothers, and all of my aunts. “You represent this family.”

SoulEducation

3y↑1

🙌🏾

Sharon Bennett

3y↑2

Yes!I miss the old days of the villiage.

sheila love

3y↑6

My mother said the same thing

JaNee Martin

3y↑42

I'm a black women and I stand with Monique. I'm glad someone used their platform to address this madness!!!

Rati17

3y↑555

We need more people like Monique to stand up and speak the truth!!

Ilovecheesecakebaby

@She's Nita J then come do my hair on the daily. I got 4c hair and it comes to my armpit

Ilovecheesecakebaby

Or mind her conditioned business

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

Rock your bonnets ladies! Good men still gonna love you and marry you! I promise 💯

Theo A.

When she comes out against actresses rappers and people she works with with thighs booty cleavage back out stomach out fat or skinny then I'll take her serious about having pride but if she talked about her 'co workers ' but with them Monique would call it cute or fashion we have to be careful about being hypocrites

Aaliyah highofflife

3y↑1

Are you a man in black women business?

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Masika Ray

3y↑247

Perhaps this is someone’s first time hearing this message that “we” were taught. My first year teaching, I had a beautiful black baby in my 2nd grade class. His skin was everything with a smile to match. He was soooo bad! I would get onto him hourly for disrupting class and fighting. One day I decided to get eye level with him and talk to him like a grown up, questioning him and etc. I asked several questions. But the simplest question I asked was, “Do you know right from wrong?” He answered honestly and said, “No.” Digging deeper, I learned that his parents weren’t much older than he was. Digging even deeper, I learned that he had two loving grandmothers. This is where my real expertise came in because I was a grandmother’s baby. I took a chance and called both grandmothers. We sat at the kidney table, me sitting across he and his two grandmothers on each side of him. We talked, prayed, cried, hugged, made a plan and then had another meeting with his parents. Yes, I had to fail him, but on the last day of school, he thanked me like a little man who had gained a foundation of what is right and wrong. You have to meet people where they are. The Bible says the elders should teach the young women. Monique used her platform like she was supposed to. It’s up to each individual to accept or deny her words of wisdom. If you’re given an opportunity to help one person, do so. Love and courage speaks truth regardless of the backlash; being a coward is a sin too. Perhaps, Monique helped one sheep find her way because no one took the time to show her.

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

puts on bonnet 😌

Masika Ray

3y↑3

@Relatable Reels age doesn’t make you an adult. Children are used all the time throughout the Bible. Read some parables.

Relatable Reels

Cute story, but you’re comparing apples to oranges.

Masika Ray

3y↑2

@Tennessee Minnissi thank you! Stay safe!!!

Tennessee Minnissi

3y↑4

Wonderful comment!

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Lina Lina

3y↑325

Mo’nique wasn’t criticizing the “bonnets nor the head-attire-wraps”🧐‼️ Her concerned is “dressed-appropriately”when leaving your home or etc... Regardless, Black People’s are still being “judged”👉🏼 as a group/stereotype. Whether you’re rich or poor. Unfortunately, that’s the way it’s 🤷‍♀️‼️

Child of God

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD I’ve seen you under so many videos commenting the same thing

Island Girl

Absolutely!!!!!!

Carolyn Meltesen

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD I'm sorry, i dont understand; what exactly is a bonnet?

stani moni

3y↑5

Black women's hair is very coarse it takes a certain amount of effort to ensure our hair is presentable...sometimes people don't have time to do their hair I'm really sick of black people who care so much about how others think of them it really shouldn't matter...

Samoore BP.!

3y↑3

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD Period!

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Y

3y↑3.3K

I'm black and I believe Monique's message was purely from the heart.

Ilovecheesecakebaby

@Black Men Achieve, LLC exactly

Averi Faheva

Regardless, if Monique opinion was heartily or not. It’s just an opinion. People should wear what they feel. Bonnets aren’t that big of a deal.

Brown Hornet

@Independent Politics it's an obvious push to tell the world that you choose your own battles, not to understand, but to respond.
I respect your passion for your point but what I eat dont make you shit.
We have polar opposite views on life. Over 90% of normal people agree with me...go read. You just chose me to push your independent politics on.
I agree to disagree.... again

Independent Politics

@Brown Hornet but judging people by their looks will always lead to inaccurate assessments, and that is why your logic is faulty. And no, my logic isn't necessarily that Mo'nique is bossing/criticizing (even though she is, but for the sake of argument we can just put that aside), mine is that telling grown adults what they should and should not wear based on YOUR subjective standards of what is appropriate is selfish and shallow. It's one thing if these adults are going to a job interview with a bonnet, but Mo'nique made it clear she had an issue with people wearing bonnets and sleepwear specifically in airports, or even when they leave the house. That is THEIR business what people want to wear, and advising grown adults what to wear is a subtle form of control when they never asked YOU your opinion on the matter. Furthermore, what ADULTS wear on their own time is their choice. WOuld you like it if someone came up to you and pulled you aside based on how you dressed? People aren't dressing for YOU, that's very narcissistic to think so, people are dressing for what makes them comfortable. I'm sure Mo'Nique and others with your opinion pass by many homeless people and ignore them, don't offer to help them out with anything (due to selfishness), but when someone wears a bonnet you want to try and control them. Control is different from help, and conflating them will be wrong.

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Cocoa Davis

3y↑900

It’s not even about what white Ppl think. It’s about taking pride in yourself period.

quelqu'un

2y↑1

She’s bias, she literally sell bonnets for a living🙄

theWine🍷Cellar

@Kimmminem West so glad u said this. Men will actually go for & abuse women who do take care of them self “ “ , bc they think she has something to offer, and they want to cut down her self esteem. A man cannot suck the life out of someone who already is ok with themself 24/7 and don’t care tho

Child of God

@Dee Dee lack of self respect is also how you put yourself in public who would you employ a person wearing pajamas in public or a person wearing casual clothes

Island Girl

Yessssss

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Malikaha Lockhart

3y↑57

Can’t be dignified or presentable in bonnet outside of your house, point blank period. She said nothing wrong and she said it with the best of intentions. Ppl don’t like being checked.

Chandrian Holmes

3y↑130

In my opinion, bonnets in public are equally as bad as "boys" intentionally showing their underwear, especially a grown man. Stop it please!!

Daron Lewis

@Chandrian Holmes since you want to be a clown you should paint your face

Ron Newman

2y↑1

@Daron Lewis When all else fails blame men. 🥴 smh.

Daron Lewis

2y↑1

@Ron Newman that is so true shame insults and need to be right.. in my K.S voice you can't make this shit up

Chandrian Holmes

@Ron Newman for me, the subject is about appearance. But I guess you must be one of those boys who wear sagging pants since you have an issue with my opinion. Ask i stated, it's my opinion and I'm entitled to it. Have a great day!

Ron Newman

2y↑1

@Chandrian Holmes a subject about women - brought up by a woman yet you still feel the need to include men🫡

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Da PatMan

3y↑87

Questions: Would you go out wearing night gowns at work? Sleep wear? Would you be ok with guys sagging around you? It's about class. That's all.

Debi Williams

3y↑46

With all due respect sis, we can't have it both ways. Image is everything and so is representation. I'm in my 50s and grew up as a member of a community. We have gone down a slippery slope where anything goes-sagging pants, grills, house shoes, and bonnets in public. The problem is people don't know where to draw the line nowadays. I agree with Mo'Nique 100 percent.

AlishaTheLibra

3y↑68

but when She said...
"You cant want more for somebody than they want for themselves" 🙌🏽

Frederick Ellis

3y↑1

I can’t expect me out of you.

Shalom Lee

3y↑1

That part!

My Valentine

3y↑50

Well said Tami! “You can’t want more for someone who doesn’t more for themselves”. I (too) have “secondhand embarrassment”.. I want them to take pride presentation but..... ✌🏾

Rolnique Lewis-Ned, RN

3y↑6

Ain't nothing wrong with wanting more for our people!

Jackie Cross

3y↑25

Sometimes young people don’t know any better, what she said may make someone think about it in another way. I think she was trying to help somebody. I applaud that.

Joyce Washington

3y↑86

The fact that she was tagged in THAT video just shows how much ppl really like drama.... They were expecting and probably hoping beef would ensue...

Christine Barthelmy

That's not what she meant. That's what you had yo respond hto.. I shake my head

Asa Brown

Yes that’s why she shouldn’t have replied with this video. She’s trying to protect her brand

Crystal Harris-Thomas

3y↑1.7K

We applaud Monique. She dropped a seed. Those who appreciate wisdom will receive it. Be "Glad and Greatful" when someone loves us enough to share knowledge.

Jess Torres

@Just Mercedes 😴😴

Jess Torres

@Pipers u right lol let’s all do what we think men like… btw type kevonstage in he completely disagrees with Monique n his wife wears one. At the end of the day ppl should be respected because they are human not because of what they have on

Jess Torres

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD 😂😂👏🏽

MRS. JORAN

@Mrs. Dior wouldn't your cousin be of the exception... so really your opinion was irrelevant. This is the problem with being wise. You knew that your situation has nothing to do with this and yet you felt it did. Of you were listening like you should have then you would know that this is in regards to regular women being lazy and not taking the time to so appreciation on our crowns

Knowledgebearer

Yes, she told the truth!!! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿❤️❤️❤️💯💯

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SimplyWhy?

3y↑8

I appreciate Monique for caring enough to speak to the young ladies. This wasn’t something that was always done so at some point people decided it was okay. She wasn’t going to win, but I’m happy she tried.

TarHeelMommy3

3y↑38

Right! Everything Mo'Nique said my mom taught me growing up.

Good Guy Man On a Mission

3y↑10

Being respected on the world stage has very little to do with wanting acceptance from whites! It’s about being in position to demand respect and equal opportunities!

Honeya Sonja

3y↑4

Watching Saints and Sinners missing Tami as Felicia(original), you killed that role Mrs. Lady!!🙌Couldn't wait every week..glad you have bonnet Chronicles, and courage to speak your truth share pieces of yourself and life many are inspired by and opening our hearts too in our own as well, Blessings Sister🙏💙

Mia Neema

3y↑1.1K

I grew up in a time where we as black people took pride in our appearance because it was representative of our people and culture. Image and representation still matters.

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

3y↑1

Ain't nobody worried about Monique! Imma wear my bonnets as I please to the store,airport,Walmart,CVS and out to eat! Ppl can wear what they want 🤷🏽‍♀️we wear what we wanna wear and it's not changing not one bit

Kimira Kash

Thank you 🙏

Breadand Butter

I live in Singapore and the black family that I know here dress to the T. They would incorporate Bright colours that represent their culture and I personally think scarf is cute but it has to be dressy one, with ‘royal’ colours. not bonnet style. Bonnet looks like someone just came out of shower. But again expat community here are mostly well travelled, they have African community here doesn’t matter if you’re french, American, South African. They all mingle together and have monthly parties and non black people are welcome we get to see and appreciate their love for music. Never once I see them otw to the party with bonnet on though.

Humility is Wisdom

3y↑1

@ג'וקר נשי Amen!

Humility is Wisdom

3y↑1

@ Mia Neema Who cares about how we look? Are we united as a community? Are we making progress financially as a group in this society. Why is police brutality such a big problem in many of our communities? crickets, big surprise.

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Tawanda Nozama

3y↑11

People should be judged by the "content of their character" but they're not. The "me, me, me" is not how we made the limited accomplishments we (as a people) have realized, thus far. It is what it is.

The Voice of Reason

2y↑3

I think what you missed is that we are a community and we all represent each other. First impressions are everything.

Core Hibb

3y↑249

"When you talkin', I'ma be quite & when you gone, I'ma be talkin' again"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tim Henley

Wasn't funny...still waitin' for the punchline🤔

LEO'S FINEST

3y↑1

@sheila dotson Exactly! 🤣🤣

sheila dotson

3y↑2

@LEO'S FINEST now she should be quite quiet trying to correct somebody 🤣🤣🤣 but hopefully typos it happens

S W

3y↑2

Tammi is hilarious I Love her Realness, I agree with Tammi on “Second Hand Embarrassment” and I understand where Monique is coming from because I share old school upbringing like Monique. Although I hate seeing women wear bonnets, bad wigs, unkept nappy dreadlocks, braids and horrible weaves I cannot be judge-mental all of us wear a crown and it’s not my place to tell another queen to fix her crown, when my own crown is never perfect 👑

Althea Renn

🤣🤣🤣

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PurpleGoddess

3y↑25

I’ve seen women with full makeup and hair “done” acting a plum fool in public. Aesthetically they may look “decent” but their character showed what people think a bonnet wearing, hot mess of a person is perceived as. I ain’t none of them but..I get both sides. Lead by example. Be a good human internally. It will shine through the bonnet.

Lanii919

3y↑2

THIS!!☝🏾💯

K M.

3y↑2.2K

I was adopted, as a baby, by a couple in their 60’s. I grew up the same way. My mother always said go out of the house presentable because you never know who you’ll run into.

mahogany princess

@TerriTerriHotSauce what makes that a keyword?

TerriTerriHotSauce

@mahogany princess The key word is dad.

Kim Librisk

Who cares

INARCIDYE ASTRAIL

@K M. Oh yeah, and just like you know who you are ,so do those women who wear bonnets and slippers. I notice that as long as I'm in on the movement to talk about the mishaps of black women ,I'm fine but bring the Savior in on the topic, there's a problem.

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Ginger Rice

3y↑20

Bottom line is that when you really love someone, you don't turn a blind eye to something that could be their downfall. Also think about who tricked you into believing that bonnet and pajamas and house slides are appropriate for outside attire anyway??? 👺

Carlos Kea

3y↑149

"When I was a child I thought as a child but when I became a man I put away those childish things".

Frederick Ellis

Message

David McFarlane

3y↑2

Preach !

Nykilla Walk

3y↑1

@A Rare Sophisticate what’s that faking and trying to keep up with the Jones?? Their is no cookie cutter way to be a woman! We are all different, what’s for you is yours what ain’t, aint! A woman isn’t what she wears she is what she does!

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RaeLuv Danielle

3y↑11

I was just in the airport and many black girls were there with bonnets on. I was raised to go out the door ready for the world. But, I represent my family and I like to look amazing in public.

Joanne Williams

3y↑2

I AGREE WITH EVERY WORD!! THANK YOU MONIQUE MY QUEEN...THANK YOU !!!

Nakia Simmons

3y↑127

My mother and grandmother would lose their minds if we walked around that way!!!! In the house, in your backyard, or your own property is fine!!! But when you step our of the door you represent your family your children and most importantly yourself!!! Present yourself in the best light!!!!! You never know what opportunities you could miss out on!!! And that's a FACT!!!!

Ms. K. Coleman

3y↑2

🎯🎯🎯🎯💯💯🙏

King Of HeArts👑

3y↑7

I mentioned the same thing on another video. My wife and I have our own businesses, and if we walked EVERYWHERE looking like we just left the bedroom to straight outside, then we wouldn't have been able to even RANDOMLY get clientele. Even a person who does NOT have a business of their own, never knows what kinds of opportunities that they have missed out on because they are out here looking crazy & lazy. The person who put me on to what I do, would've passed me by if I was wearing a durag & wifebeater.

Denise W.

3y↑2

You absolutely can want more for others than they want for themselves.
I think Monique was completely on point. We have to stop accepting everything and some things needs to be spoken about.
Let people rock, No!!!!!
Tammy, sorry, but you're wrong here.

saundra brown

3y↑3

I'm like Mo'Nique. I was watching the news Friday morning and a sista was on there at a daycare that had rejected some parents because of a shortage of workers. That look that sista was displaying was too ratchet for the news🤦. I wear a bonnet to bed or around the house but when I leave to go outside the house, the bonnet stays in the house. It was embarrassing to see sista's on the news that early in the morning out in public with pajama pants, bedroom slippers and bonnets on...smh

J Moore

3y↑1

Thank you, Tami. You wear a bonnet in the comfort of your home. I can't think of one time you did not come out in public in your best dress. Your behavior reflects that someone close guided you well into becoming a woman who takes pride in your appearance, and I commend you for passing the positive behavior to your daughters.❤️❤️❤️

BigTemperance #LithouseX

3y↑17

I Love your unbiased stance on the matter.

Shaniece P

3y↑16

We need more Monique's in our community....Our elders Support is valuable.

Jay Stew

3y↑2

Tami,
A significant part of your platform has been built upon you imparting your opinion(s) on the masses, whether they listen or not. Your Opinion and Influence Matter!!! Use it to assist in areas that some of us may need your guidance and leadership. #ItIsOURBusiness💯

ECON301

3y↑1

Respectfully, I am a 56 y/o Black Man and what I hear her saying is that I should abdicate my responsibilty as an adult in the community. Thnakfully, the adults throughout my childhood chose not to follow that mantra and felt very comfortable correcting me. And yes sometimes I didnt want to hear it, but thats part of the growing process. It took a “Village” and I’m thankful these mentors/teachers a.k.a ADULTS were willing to provide that advice/correction.

Briana Jones

To be honest I'm in my early 30's, and I have a great friend whose in her late 50's. We're both Black. I remember one time I went to hang out with her just to browse the stores, and she got dressed up, I remember joking with her saying "gurl you don't play when you walk out the house." I will never forget what she said to me. She said: "Gurl you don't ever know who you'll run into, be it a business opportunity or a great friendship, or an opportunity that you won't come by. You DON'T want to walk out the house tore up and miss a great encounter. Always make sure you and your kids are dressed to impress."💜

Albert Bracken

3y↑3

Monique: One of us represents all of us and that is the reality of how ppl of other races see us. So please, help us out a little bit because it's already hard for us.

Tammy: Hopefully people will understand that one of us does not represent all of us, so do as you wish.

Greta Berry

3y↑723

Growing up we never wore a head scarf or rollers out in public.

Luh_lay

3y↑2

@Oliviaaa tell em sis😂✋🏽cus we dnt gaf

Luh_lay

3y↑1

@Billy Tyson exactly 😂

Luh_lay

3y↑2

@Oliviaaa righttt tho😂

Kim Librisk

@MAC DiME you wouldn’t know a real men if he was standing right next to you

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Torrie Brown

3y↑38

Ty Monique for starting the conversation. Teach the youngest

Soul Sister 🦋

And let me add this....Tami girl every time I watch you I obviously laugh but I always come away feeling your class....teach a class girl !!!!! 💚

SUPA-DUPA FLYY

3y↑18

I haven’t seen Tammy wear a bonnet outdoors it’s always worn in her home .it’s a whole difference

Cole Bien

3y↑23

I see both sides. However, I feel there were ladies out there that needed to hear that message from Monique. There may have a lady out there wondering why a good man will not approach her even though her face is beautiful, or why some people stared at her like she's lost it. So I think the message was for those ladies. Monique herself seemed to understand this and respectfully spoke the same sentiment in her follow-up video. I think then was when she kind of had the same feelings as Tami here. They both agree that bonnets and PJs aren't appropriate outside of your home. She gave solid advice and you can take it or leave it. All the hateful responses and rage about what she said, did not match the respect and love that she gave.
I had a random self-hating black girl come up to the register and tell me that my lipstick shade was ugly on me. I'm a pretty girl and I know I'm pretty with this lipstick. So her hateful comment didn't affect me besides me being shocked that someone would be so rude to a random stranger, especially one preparing their food. (I'd never do anything, but it's just a good idea to be polite to the people that can affect your safety. Especially if they have nothing to lose.)
It just rolled off of me, but all these women (not Tami) up in arms and raging and pulling at straws about what this woman kindly said.... there's a reason you're pressed.

Cole Bien

@Cantatrice Chauve I personally wouldn't have posted her. That is really just invasive and mean to post a picture of a stranger for a negative reason. But to speak about it is perfectly fine.

Cantatrice Chauve

3y↑1

You give advice when someone asks you. And you don't single out a person (who didn't ask you for advice), publish her picture on social media without her permission, and caption a moral lesson meant to shame her. Mo'nique doesn't know any of these persons.

Petite Rider

3y↑527

Monique had very valid points, I'm actually glad she said it.

Mending Wall

The problem is we never know what someone's story is, poverty, mental health etc. What bothers me is she never liked anyone talking about her appearance, especially her size. Yet she can talk about others. If someone talked about how she looked, they would be called racist or colorist in a heartbeat

Ma’at Ascended

Yes me too

J gardiner johnson

3y↑1

@Debbie Melvin I want to know who is manufacturing and making a whole heap of MONEY out of these Bonnets! Are they being made by Black People?

Imperfect perfection

Hats and hair in please who cares what ppl wear you won't tell what to wear

Imperfect perfection

Y'all people still wear the worst shut but h can wear a wig like a hat

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TJ T

You're beautiful without makeup, great skin!😍 Also, second-hand embarrassment is definitely a thing!

Nikki Torres

Tammy, I've been watching you from when you were on basketball wives checking fake chicks for their disrespect. however, over the years, I've watched your growth and development you've taken the mistakes you made discovered the lessons within your mistakes, and are now using them as a testimony and a tool to help other women, and for that my respect for you as a woman has grown and deepened. So much that I even subscribed to your channel (I want to support you back sis) Anyway Keep Giving Us The Real By Remaining Humble, Genuine and Authentic. Peace Queen and continue to enjoy your day ❤😊

D Speed

3y↑22

Funny how this "minding your business" comes about but first impressions goes along way! Me personally I would NOT EVER leave my home with said articles on because how my village (parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, neighbors etc...) raised me

Nykilla Walk

3y↑6

That’s why we always get tricked cuz y’all judge people based on bs versus judging off the character of a person! Some of worst ppl I’ve ever met was dress to the T while most of the best ppl I ever met were simple or less than what y’all would approve of! If you judge a person based off how they dressed you deserve what they give you later!!!

K Joyner

3y↑6

If I decide that I, the owner of me, decides I wanna walk out of my house with a bonnet on, or my furry houseshoes .... What concern is it of YOURS!!!!!
Y'all judging like you Jesus. Step back boo.

Jennifer Lafleur

3y↑76

I'm still trying to understand what did Monique say that was wrong??? She is actually telling the truth.. and truth hurt!!! You never stop being a parent just because your children are grown... I still listen to my parents advise even though I'm grown!!!

Sandy Jackson

3y↑1

Just because people don't want to hear it doesn't mean you shouldn't say it in. That's what is wrong with the community today. It starts with these small issues of not caring which grow into these BIG issues. Thank you Monique!

Itslovelychynae

2y↑1

I love both opinion sides 💗! I love wearing men bonnet it’s comfortable just because we all wear these pretty bonnets inside and outside the house it’s fine to do so . We want our days to walk out comfortably still looking cute with it on hey what’s the problem?! Nothing 💯, either way when we step out suited and booted or want to do our bonnet on still looking cute either way. Let us be great either way we want to look let us all be how we wanna be . Mind your own business people worry about what y’all wanna look like not what others want to look like. Loved your video Tammy !! 💕

Williestean Carr

Um, we as Black Women should relate to this. Thanks Monique for SAYING what need to be said, it's been long time overdue for SOMEONE to say this.

Linda Johnson- VanDyke

3y↑136

I feel like it takes a VILLEAGE TO raise a child. Monique "RIGHT ON"

MT

3y↑1

it’s village but I get your point

1obedience

Bottom line!

Rovina Laurent

3y↑775

Monique message was from the heart. There are a lot of close minded people that will not get what Monique is saying.

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

3y↑3

I don't care where her message was from
Imma wear my bonnets when I want too where I want too Walmart,CVS,Walgreens,out to eat everywhere 🤷🏽‍♀️💅🏽

SmoochDevon

@Rovina Laurent it’s not personal to me but I’m going to comment on what I feel like . Now laugh at yourself . That laughing doesn’t bother my spirit love .

Rovina Laurent

3y↑2

@SmoochDevon Obviously this is really personal for you. I have my opinion and you have yours. Calm down. We're talking about Monique. Not you. Stay blessed 😂

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Samoore BP.!

3y↑1

I agree with you 1000% Tammy Mind your business we as blacks are going through way more deeper ish than wearing a bonnet in public. It's not gonna change racism or hate whether she has a bonnet on either way. #mindyourbusiness!

Zanadia Estrich

Keep up the Love Mo’Nique! Thank you for showing the love to all the bonnet, scarf and slipper wearers. I was definitely one of the them.

Lenaa L

3y↑1

ENERGY IS ALSO REAL. The energy you put in yourself is the energy the universe will give back. People who wear bonnets will start to notice they actually FEEL BETTER, when taking pride in themselves.

Self Love

3y↑7

I love You Tammy and Monique but I don’t feel Monique meant it that way. She just wanted to push our black women especially to be mindful of how they leave the house because of who they represent. I’m grateful for her opinion on it. All love to you both ❤️

Renee Gravely

3y↑809

I totally agree with Monique, we've compromised far to much already.

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

3y↑1

@imperial presence puts on bonnet you will never ever have that privilege of seeing me face to face or breathe in the same room as me 🤷🏽‍♀️

imperial presence

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD just don't get all wacky if i stare...or laugh...or call you jiffy pop

imperial presence

@Daughter OfTheLivingGOD that combative attitude will leave you old and alone

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

3y↑2

Ain't nobody worried about Monique! Imma wear my bonnets as I please to the store,airport,Walmart,CVS and out to eat! Ppl can wear what they want 🤷🏽‍♀️

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mrsjjbf

When I’m at work, there are some people that don’t address this topic. These people who turn their heads say “Well, it’s just how they do and what they do. That’s their learned behavior from their environment.” Monique is on point because these images are confirming the stereotypes that are continuously being taught in other ethnic groups.

LiveFree 🐢 🪶

3y↑1

We all have a responsibility to uplift the village. I would rather hear from “Auntie and Granny” than the OTHERS saying something about us. Monique was right and felt there was a responsibility as a black female celebrity and influencer to uplift other black women. The people who got mad are comfortable looking like-who lost I found- up in these streets. 🙄 Black women take pride in yourselves like the queens you should be.

Mr. Too EZ

You 2 sisters are right on point as I love your professionalism and respect. You both are always great... you go gurl 👏
Other celebrities should be like you as you always keep it real. Thanks for the video

luvprincenelson

Boom! You can't want more for somebody than they want for themselves! There is it. I'm from the same era where you would get a beatdown if you left the house not 'representing' class as a Black woman and that means, not giving 'them' or society the 'pleasure' of judging you as ghetto or otherwise. If that is what someone wants to do, they are gonna do whatever they do. So glad I WANT to represent myself with pride and class.

ANA MARTÍNEZ

3y↑218

MONIQUE IS RIGHT, WE HAVE TO LOOK AT OURSELVES BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DOES

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

3y↑1

Monique has her own kids ppl grown and do what they want now pass me my bonnet 💅🏽

Ife A.

@Shawnta Dunn for u and ur generation

Shawnta Dunn

Night caps are not for style its for night tine when u go to sleep

Ife A.

Lmfaooo

S .Stanley

3y↑6

Facts

Cantatrice Chauve

3y↑2

Just because the White Man told you that you share the same identity doesn't mean that it's true. We are completely different persons, we're not sisters, brothers, cousins. Nothing. We're strangers. The only thing we share is being oppressed. So unless you do not talk about how we can resist as a collective against our common oppressor, do not talk to me, do not tell me how to dress, do not tell me how to avoid being misjudged by the Whites. It's my business. I'm the only one who is responsible for my person. If I didn't ask you for advice, leave me alone. The comments section praising for that tough love PSA to black women from a complete stranger who happens to be rich and celeb really needs to rewatch the video slowly this time and/or read Fanon. Thank you for the video, Tami.

Vanessa Wells

3y↑5

Thank you!!! I feel like you're the only one who spoke on the topic being completely unbiased and not imposing your personal opinions on anyone else. To me, it's all about the freedom of doing wtf I want and feel like doing. I don't even own a bonnet, but if I want to buy one and wear it out in public, I will. Second hand embarrassment be damned.

Kiki K Dahrling

Well said... You can't judge a person's character by a bonnet, clothing, footwear, etc. Some of the nicest people may not have the means to look great every moment of the day. As long as you treat me well and not trying to hurt, rob or kill me, wear that bonnet or whatever you have on. Moving on... ⏩⏩⏩

Ana Carrasco

3y↑2

I appreciate your response. Thanks for being you Ms. Tammy 🦋

LaShunda Gladney

3y↑513

My parents would always say to me and my siblings......”don’t go out there and represent me wrong”. Still make me think about that to this very day, I feel you both.

116 Harlem247

3y↑1

Remember everyone has their "own" personal reality.

Lashunda J

3y↑1

@LaShunda Gladney hey love h

LaShunda Gladney

@Lashunda J Hey Sis❤️

Lashunda J

3y↑1

Hey sis ✋🏽 agreed

Lavern Merriweather

@Kimmie T LOL

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Donald Stevens

3y↑3

We, as the elders have to impart the wisdom, because how else can you become a teacher without being taught. If we allow our young men and women to present themselves as "nothing", our race and our culture will become "nothing". Representation matters.

Ebony Gray

Praise God for Mo'nique who said what needed to be said and from a place of love. Kids don't ask to be parented but still need it. If correction is not given in love, people won't know, learn, and grow. People take "mind your business" WAY too far. That's part of the reason why the school system is so jacked up and teachers can't tell the kids anything or correct them. We need more caring, loving, real people like Mo'nique. Get all in "my business" if it's going to make me better. The ones who feel like someone is in their business when it's coming from a place of love are the main ones hollering about how they don't have any real friends or anyone who truly care about them or help them.

Leslie Singleton

Much love and respect to you Tami... loved everything you said! 💝😎👊🏾 #GrownFolkBiz #DramaFree

RAM CON

I loved meeting you in Charlotte years ago while you were promoting your lip gloss line at Walgreens on Freedom Dr. You’re even more beautiful in person and I thank you taking the time out to take a pic with me!! I was employed at the Meck Co DSS building behind the store and had walked down there during my lunch break! I was so lucky to catch you in there. What a sweet surprise for me!! You are my favorite reality TV STAR !!

Change Is Here

3y↑490

All I can say we need more of this type of understanding between us women.

Vive la vida live life

@Dimples 74 yes

Vive la vida live life

3y↑1

@laleea h yes

czc Khol

Absolutely 💯!!!

laleea h

3y↑6

We all like different things and it would be great if others would accept it!

Adra Young

3y↑2

AMEN!!

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Darlene Ramsey

3y↑1

I was brought up the way I acted and dressed was a reflection on my parents. You talked about your daughter and her actions are a reflection on you as to how she was raised.

Charles Martine

I’m with MoNique on this one we have to be honest with our youth and I’m speaking to myself as well. Are we minding our business or afraid of the response and/or words falling on deaf ears? We lack the respect from our youth that our elders had as a direct result of our timidness.

marcus Shaw

3y↑8

I never had an intelligent conversation with a woman with a bonnet and house shoes in public 🤔

KingdomofaQueen

I understand everything Tami is saying. I grew up in a family that would/will comment on someone's appearance in a heartbeat, so much so that it creates an insecurity about one's own appearance compared to others. I don't understand how we judge instances where someone is so called "not looking their best" as them not caring or respecting themselves. It's a foolish assessment.

Shari Gill

3y↑1

It’s not about if it came out of a place of love, one has to see the bigger picture than just an “old school moment” that truthfully at the end of the, is the least of our problems. It didn’t matter where the intent came from, Monique as a public figure left open a door for unwarranted and unjust judgements to be scrutinized outside of our community and give leeway for justification for adding another thing to the already unfair racism and bypass that we face everyday. Black Women today don’t need general “loving” corrections about our body’s and presentation, what we need is protection and solidarity in fighting the stop the world from feeling like they have the right to police our bodies, our actions, and how we look based upon the source of the color of our skin. Monique disagreed those older than her publicly because she understood her fight, what she was about, and in those moments that she can do her “Black” how she sees fit and be given the right to do so, so in this case she should have afforded others the same by not speaking up to correct us, but protect us.

Pinky Scott

3y↑27

Monique made valid points. 💯#Facts Tami, I know that you are trying to find a different approach/angle but bonnets & sleep wear in the streets is inappropriate period. 😃

Riley Ramsey

3y↑317

Monique is 1000% correct! Stop leaving the house looking trifling!

Daughter OfTheLivingGOD

Ain't nobody worried about Monique! Imma wear my bonnets as I please to the store,airport,Walmart,CVS and out to eat! Ppl can wear what they want 🤷🏽‍♀️

Soraya H

why does it bother you

Kenny Rodney

@Sherri Turner I said if I do I didint say I did. I was just talking about some folks i know who do. I do not wear a durag in public. But you do you I'm not mad👌

Sherri Turner

3y↑6

@Kenny Rodney how are you going to get mad at women for wearing a bonnet , yet you walk outside with a durag on .,💀💀

Shauntae Britt

@Akayla D’Shari exactly and when you are bald headed for not caring for your hair, then they will be criticizing you for not properly caring for your hair....Girl this here celebrity social media stuff really be cracking me up....

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PJ Raust

Very great response, Tami. You have a way with words that just may touch the mind of those at the middle of this [conversation]. Love you.

Carolyn Hill

3y↑50

I think Mo’Nique was spot on, and sounds like it came from a place of love. Glad she cared enough to share with them their worth as noble beings. Appreciate her so much, maybe those young women will appreciate her later in life too.

jasmine smith

Thank u Tami for sharing your perspective. I feel this as far as our upbringing and looking a certain way in public

Plants Forlife

GREAT response video!!!! And loved your interview with Monique! You both self reprinted this topic professionally and respectfully! My opinion and on an aesthetic note, You are BEAUTIFUL without your makeup!!

Veronica Haney

2y↑1

This is so sad to see where our people have reached. My mom is Ghanaian, and my dad is African American. All his siblings and himself dress to the tee. My mom from a 3rd world country always dressed to the 9's. You would have never knew that either of them grew up poor, because they made no room for slip-ups. My mom would chastise me repeatedly if I went outside with her and chose to present myself in a way that disparaged myself as a female and as a human being. Dress how you want to be addressed.

Antoine

I look at it like this...I wouldn’t be a friend if I couldn’t give you my opinion/thoughts toward something. And this doesn’t mean telling my friend what to do. As a friend I want to encourage you, and would expect the same.

I think of Monique as being encouragement to her friends (in this case black women). Whether they agree or disagree is up to them.

It’s disheartening that people are asked to mind their business and be silent all the time. Maybe that’s why we don’t have a solid community. It’s time for us to give each other tough love, and learn to agree to disagree instead of crying “#cancel______” like sensitive creatures with no backbone.

Yeah I said it

matthew223740

3y↑126

I disagree that you can't want more for a person than they want for themselves. If you truly love someone, you might see potential in them that they can't see in themselves, and it would be less than love to ignore that potential.

Bernice Jones

Gm every one I this morning was going to pickup my breakfast to Window pick & I had my bonnet on I was listening to Monique & pull it off right away I personally don’t care for Her because she has a foul mouth to be a women but how she makes her money so be it I learned a lesson from her so Thanks MonIque for the scoop💯

Dwayne Norris

3y↑2

If they're not taking action on that potential then it will drain you off your personal energy to want more for them than they're willing to do for themselves

Gracefulbossbabe

3y↑16

Seeing potential is one thing, and you can let them know, but you can’t want more for others than they want for themselves. They have to want to do better for self.

Darlene Wilson

3y↑7

Well said just want I wanted to say

Carole Boyce

Well let me first say that I'm happy to see most of the comment on here make sense. Maybe it's because of my age, but I too was raised to always look presentable when going out in the streets because you never know who you gonna run into. Also, was taught to alway be clean and wear clean underwear because you never know what might happen. So I agree with many who say that minding our business and letting people do what they want is what has created this disturbing reality we're now facing. What we need to understand is that we are judged as "a people" ... We as individuals create an impression about ourselves and our people that others will use to judge us on. And for those who say we shouldn't be judged, you're right. But the reality is that WE WILL BE. How can we call ourselves Queens, and walking around looking busted, and acting ghetto? Then we wonder why people look at us a certain way, judge us, and make assumptions about us? .... It all has to do with the image we're projecting, and them stereotyping/judging us based on that image.... Which means we are all representatives of each other. We are our sisters keepers. Hell, we are our sisters. In my opinion, it needed to be said. Bravo to Monique for having the balls to say what needed to be said and standing firm in her convictions. There is a time and place for everything.
BIG RESPECT AND LOVE TO MONIQUE.

Juju Bean

3y↑8

I agree Tami "second hand embarrassment!" Let 'em rock!

Holly Golightly

Thank you Tami! I appreciate this! Y'all heard it here first! Keep your bedroom attire in the house! Maybe gas station, quick run, but don't go OUT OUT actin like you don't care about yourself.

Reginald Williamson

I love this message!!! You always been real

King D-light 👑

3y↑395

Monique said nothing wrong. She was just trying to encourage our young black Queens to take pride in their appears. My mom always tought my sister's to always look presentable when you are in public as young ladies and they teach their daughter's and my wife though my daughter and it goes on. Queen's you are beautiful and you should present yourself as being beautiful 💯

Ms. Boss

People don’t look like paupers if they’re really queens. Facts.

King D-light 👑

@vblack1 exactly

vblack1

3y↑3

@King D-light 👑 I'm Wondering About Those That Disagree With Monique. If We All Minded Our Business. We'd Possibly Still Be Enslaved. This Monique Thing Showing Loving Criticism Has Shown Some Level Of Mentality In These Comments.

King D-light 👑

3y↑4

@abcdefghijklmnop no I don't, I also wear my pant around my waist. I'm in the same generation era as Monique and I also was thought to take constructive criticism and do better and respect my elders sad thing our young people don't do that now. Key words respect yourself and others. If a person chooses to dress that's on them, but as teachers, elders and Mentors we are supposed to encourage our young people to look presentable in the public eye. You already have people stereotyping the blacks as is.

abcdefghijklmnop

Do you wear durags in public? How about stop wearing those too.

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Vickie S.

3y↑1

Monique is absolutely correct. She spoke the truth in love so we all should respect it, accept it, and make the necessary changes accordingly.

Rydal19140

I feel like Monique spoke in truth and with love. She is fighting for something that the whole black community should also support. We are not inferior, dumb, and or less than any other human race; however just like all cultures there are things that we all wish we as a cultured could do differently.

I am willing to admit that the black culture has changed and the current generation within the black culture view things differently.

My ending statement shall reflect that the world is changing and some of us will change with it or remain with the same prior to the Evolving black culture within the black community.

Can’t we all just get along and learn to love each other, agree to disagree gracefully towards each other.

leighchelle76

I am glad she spoke up! Someone may not have been taught. It takes a village and we should be able to speak to others in love and in correction.
That is the problem within our community everyone wants to not saying anything to others. It does have everything to do with us. Leaders stand!! Love & support , correct , teach in love!!

keesha1232

2y↑1

This was so well said!👍🏽

Aleta M. Neal Mitchell

3y↑57

Ms. Roman. I do not understand your takeaway. There is no shortage of people looking out for themselves, minding their own business, not caring about the next generation. But the Big Mama's and the Aunties should be comfortable engaging and educating the next generation. That's part and parcel of the saying 'it takes a village.' I am a 70's baby, and ALL of the women elders were in my business, even the neighbors. I am personally grateful for them, and I applaud Ms. Mo'Nique for speaking out. She was not wrong. ✌🏼❤

Aleta M. Neal Mitchell

@Cheryl Horn 👈🏼 What she said. Period!!

Ayana Watson

3y↑1

Absolutely!!

Cheryl Horn

3y↑3

I am the last of the Babyboomers. And I must say that Mo'Nique and Aleta Mitchell knows what's up! Not only them and myself, but many have PAID ATTENTION to those Big Mama's, Aunties, Mother's in the Hood called the VILLAGE, etc., because they cared and showed L.O.V.E. toward the young females. That is how we rolled and were raised! And Mo'Nique, Myself, and Aleta Mitchell come far and between, so when you meet one of US, get ready to receive REAL LOVE & CARE. We do not shut up and put up! I miss my Big Mama's and Grandmothers, and Neighborhood Villiage, those who are already gone, just to tell them THANK YOU for being strong, loving, and sensible women of all time. And I stand in my position GRACEFULLY, and I know I am FINE! Just like Cisley Tyson said in one of Tyler Perry's movies, "You got to have some UMPH about yourself!" And ACCEPT the JEWELS from the QUEENS that KNOW, and who were opened to receive "THE REAL" and not from any distorted entities or person. And the reason(s) why most oppose Mo'Nique's kinda love is because it is foreign to this world because many do not receive or never been around women who know how to lead and pull your coattail and tell you otherwise. The other reason is because many have been "Dropped" along the way meaning abandon, overlooked, treated as less than, hurt, so we look to others and you then turn them into your "Idol(s)". But instead, many want to stay in that "Comfort Zone" trapped in your own mind just to feel like you belong, rather than looking inwardly and fixing that which is broken on the inside of you, so that the beautiful you can shine most uniquely apart from others as designed and created. Some have lost "Trust" in others so you become guarded when someone comes along and shines a light on you. Yes, us Queens see you where others were too blind to see YOU- meanwhile they too are blind to even see themselves! Why? Because they are broken themselves. Lastly, LET GO OF THOSE IDOLS and RISE WE GOT YOU!!

Golden 7

3y↑5

@Aleta M. Neal Mitchell...I Agree! Yep! You hit it right on the head! If a person who's older, gives us wise Advice, to make us better, we should take advantage of that wisdom. You were so right, Monique was not wrong for what she stated, you can definitely tell she came from a place of wanting us as Women of color to do better at presenting ourselves in an appropriate way in public.