Family Man
John Oates Lyrics


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She had sulky smile
She took her standard pose as she presented herself
She had sultry eyes
She made it perfectly plain that she was his for a price

But he said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
If you push me too far I just might"

She wore her hurt surprise
As she rechecked her make-up to protect herself
Dropped her price and pride
She made it totally clear that she was his for a night

But he said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
If you push me too far I just might"

She gave him her look
It would have worked on any other man around
He looked her up and down
She knew he couldn't decide if he should hold his ground

But he said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He's just "Leave me alone, I'm a family man (oh oh)
If you push me too far I just might" (ayy)

She turned, tossed her head
Unlike her opening move, her final exit line
He waited much too long
But by the time he got his courage up she was gone

Then he screamed, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man (oh oh)
If you push me too far, I just might"

He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And I don't think I want it tonight"
Then he said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man (oh oh)
If you push me too far I just might"

He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man (oh oh)
If you push me too far I just might"

He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man




Don't leave me alone 'cause I got to go home please
Leave me alone, I'm a family man"

Overall Meaning

The song "Family Man" revolves around a man who is tempted with the prospect of infidelity outside his marital life. The singer of the song is approached by a woman who is open about her willingness to engage in a paid sexual encounter with the individual. However, the man insists that he is a "family man" and declines her advances. He emphasizes that while he might have a tough exterior, he values his family life and will not abandon his principles or sacrifice his family's well-being despite temptations.


The song conveys a moral message about the importance of personal values, fidelity, and familial bonds. The singer's tough exterior indicated by his "bark is much worse than my bite" phrase echoes the overarching theme of the song, which stresses on the idea of staying true to one's commitments and principles regardless of external enticements. The song highlights the importance of family values and the firm belief in them to help individuals navigate through difficult times.


Line by Line Meaning

She had sulky smile
She appeared unhappy or resentful, with a slight downward curve on her lips


She took her standard pose as she presented herself
She stood in a typical, rehearsed way as she introduced herself


She had sultry eyes
Her eyes were suggestive, alluring or seductive


She made it perfectly plain that she was his for a price
She made it clear that she was willing to engage in a transactional relationship


But he said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
He expressed that he was committed to his family and didn't want to be involved


And my bark is much worse than my bite"
He warned that his words or actions may seem harsher than his true intentions


He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
He repeated that he prioritized his family above anything else


If you push me too far I just might"
He cautioned that if she persisted, he may be compelled to act outside of his values


She wore her hurt surprise
She showed a mix of emotions, including disappointment and shock


As she rechecked her make-up to protect herself
She adjusted her makeup, possibly as a way of shielding herself from feeling exposed


Dropped her price and pride
She gave up both her monetary demands and her sense of self-respect


She made it totally clear that she was his for a night
She made an unambiguous offer to engage in a short-term, purely physical relationship


She gave him her look
She made eye contact with him, possibly attempting to convey attraction or seduction


It would have worked on any other man around
Her look would have been successful in tempting or persuading most other men


He looked her up and down
He assessed her physical appearance, possibly as a way of deciding whether or not to engage with her


She knew he couldn't decide if he should hold his ground
She was aware that he was indecisive about whether or not to maintain his original commitment to his family


She turned, tossed her head
She flipped her hair as she left, possibly attempting to convey indifference or disinterest


Unlike her opening move, her final exit line
Her last words were different from her original approach


But by the time he got his courage up she was gone
He waited too long to make a decision, and lost his chance to engage with her


Then he screamed, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
He got frustrated and expressed his commitment to his family even more emphatically


He said, "Leave me alone, I'm a family man
He repeated his earlier statement, indicating how important it was to him


And I don't think I want it tonight"
He admitted that he had no interest in engaging with her that evening


Don't leave me alone 'cause I got to go home please
He acknowledged that he needed to return to his family, and requested that she not pursue him any further




Lyrics Ā© BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, CONCORD MUSIC PUBLISHING LLC
Written by: David Brough Pert-Morris, Eddie Fenn, Maggie Reilly, Michael Gordon Oldfield, Mike Fry, Timothy Kjell Cross

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@edkeaton1085

Any song from "Hall and Oates" from the 80's will always be a classic to me. They have a lot of heart and soul. Awesome group!

@markgoodwin7442

Love these guys so does my pop who is 74

@edkeaton1085

Mark Goodwin Right on! I have been a big fan of Hall & Oates since the eighties, bro!

@tracyconner1497

Ed Keaton same šŸ˜‹

@ozzyhoang3499

@@edkeaton1085 I have 30 favorite bands of the '80s, but since the '90s up till now 2022..... I have none, big 0 band to like....Music is dead!

@alexandermakrianis

Yes sir, you are right on the money! 1980s Hall and Oats is the best!

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@rodneycox5798

One of the most underated Hall and Oates songs EVER

@nexxxus7498

GE Smith kills it on the lead guitar. He is so underrated!!! He is one of the greatest guitarist out there. He doesnā€™t get his due because he was mostly a studio player. The guy is absolutelyšŸ”„šŸ”„šŸ”„!!!

@micway71

He was getting it!! You know he could probably hang with just about anyone plucking! Nice sound too!

@lauramayfield5410

He was with the house band for SNL back in the day xo

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