The chorus repeats the phrase "I'd rather be a loner" to emphasize the singer's desire for independence and solitude. She is willing to leave behind the sweet moments and pleasant memories of the relationship because she knows that it will ultimately bring her more pain than joy. The outburst of scatting at the end of the song highlights the singer's inner turmoil and frustration with the situation.
Overall, "Loner" is a powerful message of self-love and self-respect. It encourages listeners to prioritize their emotional well-being over the fleeting pleasures of unhealthy relationships.
Loner
Kali Uchis Lyrics
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I don't want to be your ashtray
I don't want to be your door mat
Don't want to be ignored
All o' sudden you're not into me
And maybe it's not deliberate
And I know you never asked me
I just gotta put it out there
Usually I stay tucked away
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Mind games, manipulations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
No I don't want to be your cigarette
Use me up then toss me, step on me
I don't want to be an option
Avoidin' interaction 'cause
I just want to get away
And maybe you got a full plate
Know I'm cookin' something better
But if you don't want me now
No boy I don't want you later
Don't try to come and eat with me
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Headaches and allegations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
Kali Uchis's song "Loner" is a declaration of her desire for independence in a romantic relationship. In the first verse, she lists the ways in which she doesn't want to be used or mistreated by a partner, saying she doesn't want to be a cigarette, an ashtray, or a doormat. She admits that she opened up to him even though she's not used to putting herself out there, and now she feels rejected.
The chorus is a resounding statement of her preference to be alone than to be in a relationship where she feels she's being taken for granted or played with. She wants to be a loner and doesn't want to be known by someone who doesn't truly appreciate her. In the second verse, she reiterates that she doesn't want to be used or taken advantage of, and she wants to move away from the relationship.
Overall, "Loner" is a song about the dangers of giving oneself to someone else fully and not receiving the same level of commitment in return. The song stresses the importance of valuing oneself and walking away from relationships that are not fulfilling.
Line by Line Meaning
I don't want to be your cigarette
I don’t want to be used, thrown away, or treated as if I am disposable like a cigarette.
I don't want to be your ashtray
I don’t want to be the one who has to deal with your problems and negative aspects of your life.
I don't want to be your door mat
I don’t want to be walked all over, taken for granted or not respected.
Don't want to be ignored
I don’t want to be ignored or treated as if my feelings don’t matter.
All o' sudden you're not into me
You’ve become disinterested in me, and I’m not sure why.
And maybe it's not deliberate
It’s possible that your lack of interest in me is not intentional.
And I know you never asked me
You never asked me to be anything more than what we were.
I just gotta put it out there
I just need to express how I feel about this situation.
I don't put myself out there
Normally I don’t bother expressing my feelings or being vulnerable.
Usually I stay tucked away
I prefer to keep to myself and not be too emotionally invested in others.
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
I was happy being alone before you came into my life.
And I let you in after all the persuasion
I allowed myself to be vulnerable and let you into my life after you convinced me that you were worth it.
Mind games, manipulations
You played mind games and manipulated me into letting you in, which I regret now.
That's why I'd rather be a loner
I prefer to be alone because I don’t want to get hurt again.
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I prefer being alone to being in a relationship where I am not appreciated.
I don't even want to know ya
I’d rather not know you if it means getting hurt or being treated poorly.
I don't want to be known
I don’t want to be known as someone who can be mistreated or disrespected.
Baby it was nice to know ya
I appreciated the time we spent together, but it’s time for me to move on.
Packing up and leaving home
I'm leaving and moving on from this situation.
Use me up then toss me, step on me
I feel as if you are using me and treating me like I'm disposable.
I don't want to be an option
I don’t want to be just an option or a backup plan for you.
Avoidin' interaction 'cause
I’m avoiding interacting with you because I don’t want to be hurt again.
I just want to get away
All I want is to put some distance between myself and this situation.
And maybe you got a full plate
Perhaps you have a lot on your plate and that’s why you’ve lost interest in me.
Know I'm cookin' something better
I know I have a lot to offer and I deserve to be with someone who appreciates that.
But if you don't want me now
But if you don’t want to be with me right now then I’d rather walk away.
No boy I don't want you later
I don’t want a relationship with someone who doesn’t value me or my feelings.
Don't try to come and eat with me
Don’t try to come back into my life and pretend that everything is okay.
Headaches and allegations
Our relationship was full of tension and accusations, which is why I don’t want to continue it anymore.
I'd much rather be alone
Being alone is better than being in an unhealthy relationship.
Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Caleb Wilder Stone, Karly Marina Loaiza
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
Saira 🪴
I don't want to be your cigarette
I don't want to be your ashtray
I don't want to be your door mat
Don't want to be ignored
All o' sudden you're not into me
And maybe it's not deliberate
And I know you never asked me
I just gotta put it out there
I don't put myself out there
Usually I stay tucked away
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Mind games, manipulations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
No I don't want to be your cigarette
Use me up then toss me, step on me
I don't want to be an option
Avoidin' interaction 'cause
I just want to get away
And maybe you got a full plate
Know I'm cookin' something better
But if you don't want me now
No boy I don't want you later
Don't try to come and eat with me
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Headaches and allegations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
bored.
💧💘
Jesus Solis
I’m sorry to all the ladies that are experiencing this and have in the past… you’re worth so much more than to settle for less… love yourself first the rest will come to you it’ll take time but have patience (:
YourStrength
Thank you
3rdEye Girl
Thanks ❤
P. A. Wiley
Love her voice. Simple and sultry. Reminds me of some lounge singer from the 50’s.
I imagine coming in from the rain to find a little known bar and lounge in the bad part of town, and Kali Uchis is there singing this song. I order an old fashioned and sit in the back wondering about fortune.
Garrett
reminds me a lot of amy winehouse
Tremayne Dawson
Very much Latina Amy Winehouse
Saira 🪴
I don't want to be your cigarette
I don't want to be your ashtray
I don't want to be your door mat
Don't want to be ignored
All o' sudden you're not into me
And maybe it's not deliberate
And I know you never asked me
I just gotta put it out there
I don't put myself out there
Usually I stay tucked away
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Mind games, manipulations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
No I don't want to be your cigarette
Use me up then toss me, step on me
I don't want to be an option
Avoidin' interaction 'cause
I just want to get away
And maybe you got a full plate
Know I'm cookin' something better
But if you don't want me now
No boy I don't want you later
Don't try to come and eat with me
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Headaches and allegations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
g4pin
thx lady
a
healing, loving myself more than ever