Growing Apart
Kendrick Lamar Lyrics


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Where are we going, why are we slowing down
Where are you going, we should be growing now
Smoke to it nigga, smoke to it nigga
Where are we going, we should be slowing down
Where are you going, we should be growing now

That's what she said to me
That place I used to call home is just a bed to me
We don't even sleep, neighbors can hear her weep
Meanwhile I'm in these streets with everybody, I'm trying to get it
And she know they got me, I watch her feelings watch me
As they staring with the saddest eyes of loneliness
Look each other in the face and barely blink
Tried to make it right but the pen ran out of ink
So if my letters don't reach you, I hope these lyrics in sync

Where are we going, why are we slowing down
Where are you going, we should be growing now

That's what it said to me but the place I call ambition now dead to me
Gone and forgotten, I'm off track like Dale Earnhardt, my liver rotten
Alcoholic tripping, fucking bad bitches and they got bad intentions
Club night, guys and dolls, balling out but I'm about to drop the ball
I'm calling out for help, my engineer called
Told me come to the studio but I wanna tell him nah

Where are we going, why are we slowing down
Where are you going, we should be growing now

That's what he said to but that place we call Heaven is unfair to me
Only 144 can go, seven billion people on planet Earth today
Is there something that I don't know
I know to follow Him rather than follow people or follow vanity
'Cause that means I'm following evil, guess I'm following evil
I should follow cathedral, blessings I need but live like I don't need you

Where are we going, why are we slowing down
Where are you going, we should be growing now

So in conclusion, we all seem to stumble, planning our own demise
Forgetting the big picture and making it wallet size
So to what is important in my life, I apologize
I promise to stay faithful, focused and sanctified
We all get distracted
The question is would you bounce back or bounce backwards?
Would you not know how to act or take action? It's just a part of life
And if your vision's impaired, you probably lose it all tonight

Trying to visualize how to get it right but my vision's so blurry
Trying to slow it down, stay close to the ground but we're always in a hurry
And if I could make this world spin a little slower then I would




Then we could grow a little closer, I think we're getting closer
I think we're getting closer...

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Kendrick Lamar’s song Growing Apart explore the themes of growth, ambition, failure, and relationships. The first lines of the song, “Where are we going, why are we slowing down, where are you going, we should be growing now,” allude to a existential crisis of sorts. The singer is questioning why they are not making progress and growing as they should be. This lyric sets the stage for the remainder of the song, which discusses the various ways in which the singer and his partner have failed to grow individually and together.


Throughout the song, the singer highlights different areas of his life where he has failed to grow, such as his ambition, his drinking habits, and his relationship with God. He acknowledges the way that these failures have affected his partner, who is weeping while he is out pursuing his own goals. Despite his best efforts to make things right, he has been unable to, as he laments, “Tried to make it right but the pen ran out of ink.”


Ultimately, the song reflects on the importance of staying focused on what is truly important and not getting distracted by things that do not matter. The singer apologizes for his failures and promises to stay faithful and sanctified, to not follow vanity or evil. The final lines of the song suggest that the singer is trying to slow down and stay grounded, in the hopes of growing closer to the people and things that matter most.


Line by Line Meaning

Where are we going, why are we slowing down
Questioning the lack of growth and progress in their situation


Where are you going, we should be growing now
Urging the other person to strive for growth and progress


That's what she said to me
Recalling a conversation with a past acquaintance


That place I used to call home is just a bed to me
Expressing how their former home has lost its meaning and importance


We don't even sleep, neighbors can hear her weep
Describing a tumultuous and emotional relationship


Meanwhile I'm in these streets with everybody, I'm trying to get it
Focusing on their ambition and goals


And she know they got me, I watch her feelings watch me
Realizing how their actions affect others and how their partner feels about it


As they staring with the saddest eyes of loneliness
Observing the sadness in their partner's eyes due to their choices


Look each other in the face and barely blink
Acknowledging the tension and difficulty in their relationship


Tried to make it right but the pen ran out of ink
Trying to fix things but unable to do so effectively


So if my letters don't reach you, I hope these lyrics in sync
Hoping that their message comes across through their music


That's what it said to me but the place I call ambition now dead to me
Reflecting on how their priorities have shifted and their former dreams are no longer meaningful


Gone and forgotten, I'm off track like Dale Earnhardt, my liver rotten
Feeling lost and physically unhealthy


Alcoholic tripping, fucking bad bitches and they got bad intentions
Engaging in destructive behaviors and relationships


Club night, guys and dolls, balling out but I'm about to drop the ball
Partying and having fun but risking losing everything in the process


I'm calling out for help, my engineer called
Receiving an offer for assistance but hesitant to accept


Told me come to the studio but I wanna tell him nah
Considering refusing help and struggling to accept it


That's what he said to but that place we call Heaven is unfair to me
Acknowledging their frustration with religious beliefs and the concept of afterlife


Only 144 can go, seven billion people on planet Earth today
Questioning the fairness and practicality of religious beliefs


Is there something that I don't know
Expressing confusion and uncertainty


I know to follow Him rather than follow people or follow vanity
Choosing to prioritize religious faith over superficial values


'Cause that means I'm following evil, guess I'm following evil
Recognizing the consequences of not prioritizing faith


I should follow cathedral, blessings I need but live like I don't need you
Realizing the importance of faith and God's blessings but struggling to fully embrace it and live accordingly


So in conclusion, we all seem to stumble, planning our own demise
Reflecting on the self-sabotage and struggles faced by everyone


Forgetting the big picture and making it wallet size
Prioritizing materialistic and short-term goals over long-term growth and fulfillment


So to what is important in my life, I apologize
Acknowledging their mistakes and shortcomings


I promise to stay faithful, focused and sanctified
Committing to prioritize faith and self-improvement


We all get distracted
Recognizing the universal struggle of losing focus and getting sidetracked


The question is would you bounce back or bounce backwards?
Considering the resilience and ability to recover from setbacks


Would you not know how to act or take action? It's just a part of life
Questioning how one reacts to challenges and encouraging taking action to overcome them


And if your vision's impaired, you probably lose it all tonight
Suggesting that lack of clarity and focus can have serious consequences


Trying to visualize how to get it right but my vision's so blurry
Struggling to envision a clear path to success


Trying to slow it down, stay close to the ground but we're always in a hurry
Desiring to take things slow and steady but feeling pressure to move quickly


And if I could make this world spin a little slower then I would
Expressing a desire for a more relaxed and peaceful world


Then we could grow a little closer, I think we're getting closer
Believing that slowing down can lead to personal and communal growth




Lyrics © GREAT SOUTH BAY MUSIC GROUP INC, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: KENDRICK LAMAR, DONTE PERKINS

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@seacell4ever70

Where are we going? Why are we slowing down?
Where are you going? We should be growing now

Smoke to it nigga, smoke to it nigga
That's what she said to me
That place I used to call home is just a bed to me
And we don't even sleep, neighbors can hear her weep
Meanwhile I'm in these streets with everybody
I'm trying to get it and she know they got me, I watch her feelings watch me
As they staring with the saddest eyes of loneliness
Look each other in the face and barely blink
I tried to make it right but the pen ran out of ink
So if my letters don't reach you, I hope these lyrics in sync

That's what it said to me
But that place I call ambition now dead to me
Gone and forgotten, I'm off track like dale earnhardt
My liver rotten, alcoholic tripping
Fucking bad bitches and they got bad intentions
Club night, guys and dolls
Balling out, but I'm bout to drop the ball
I'm calling out for help, my engineer called
Told me come to the studio, I wanna tell him nah

That's what he said to me
But that place we call heaven unfair to me
Only a hundred and forty-four can go
Seven billion people on planet earth today
Is there something that I don't know?
I know to follow him, rather following people
Or follow vanity cause that means I'm following evil
Guess I'm following evil, I should follow cathedral
Blessings I need, but live like I don't need you

So in conclusion
We all seem to stumble, planning our own demise
Forgetting the big picture and making it wallet size
So to what's important in my life, I apologize
I promise to stay faithful, focused and sanctified
We all get distracted
The question is, would you bounce back or bounce backwards?
Would you not know how to act or take action? It's just a part of life
And if your vision's impaired, you probably lose it all tonight


I'm trying to visualize how to get it right
But my vision's so blurry
Trying to slow it down, stay close to the ground
But we're always in a hurry now
And if I could make this world stand a little slower
Then I would, then we could grow a little closer
I think we're getting closer
I think we're getting closer



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