It Hurts So Bad
Kim Carnes Lyrics


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When it hurts so bad
You got to let go
Can't let him know that he's really gotten to ya

And it hurts so bad
When you're all alone
Those ol' memories
Keep goin' through ya

And you want to act nonchalant
But you can't
Cause he keeps on haunting you

And when it hurts so bad
You gotta try and pretend
He's just a casual friend
Who never meant a thing to ya

Well you can fool your friends
And you can laugh a lot
It's all a coverup
Of what he really means to ya

And you try and act nonchalant
But you can't
'Cause he keeps on haunting you
And it hurts so bad

How can it hurt this bad
When it was never planned
But you stole my heart
And here I am
I'm possessed by you
I'm obsessed with you
Guess what I tryin' to say
Is I love you





Now how can I act nonchalant
When all I want is to spend the night with you

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Kim Carnes's song "It Hurts So Bad" depict the universal theme of heartbreak and the struggle to move on from a relationship that has ended. The first verse suggests that it is important to let go of the person causing the pain, even though it may be difficult to do so. The second verse highlights the loneliness that arises after a breakup and the incessant memories that keep resurfacing, making it impossible to pretend that everything is okay. In the chorus, the singer acknowledges the difficulty in pretending to be unaffected by the situation, while the haunting presence of the ex-partner lingers on.


The third verse reveals how one may attempt to hide their true feelings from their friends by acting nonchalant, but deep inside, the memories and feelings are still very present. It is ironic that the more one tries to suppress their feelings, the stronger they become. The final verse expresses the singer's struggle to hide her true desires, which is to be with the person who caused the pain, yet they cannot act nonchalant when they are around. The chorus repeats the same sentiment that it hurts so bad to be in this state of heartbreak.


Overall, the message is that heartbreak is a painful and inevitable part of life, but it is important to acknowledge the hurt and eventually move forward, even though it may be a difficult process.


Line by Line Meaning

When it hurts so bad
The feeling of unbearable pain is experienced


You got to let go
It is necessary to let go of the person causing the pain


Can't let him know that he's really gotten to ya
One must hide their true emotions from the person causing the pain


And when it hurts so bad
The feeling of unbearable pain is experienced again


When you're all alone
The feeling of pain is even more intense when there is nobody around


Those ol' memories
Past memories keep coming back and adding to the pain


Keep goin' through ya
The memories are causing the pain to persist


And you want to act nonchalant
One desires to conceal their true feelings and appear indifferent


But you can't
It is difficult to hide one's true feelings


Cause he keeps on haunting you
The person causing the pain is always on one's mind


You gotta try and pretend
One tries to fake their emotions


He's just a casual friend
One tries to convince themselves that the person causing the pain is just a friend


Who never meant a thing to ya
One tries to convince themselves that the person causing the pain has no significance


Well you can fool your friends
One can deceive their friends through their actions and words


And you can laugh a lot
One can fake laughter and pretend to be happy


It's all a coverup
All the pretending is just hiding the true feelings


Of what he really means to ya
The person causing the pain is very important and has deep meaning to the individual


How can it hurt this bad
The feeling of pain is so intense that it is difficult to comprehend


When it was never planned
The pain was not expected or intended


But you stole my heart
The person causing the pain has captured the individual's heart


And here I am
The individual is now in the current situation of pain


I'm possessed by you
The person causing the pain has complete control over the individual


I'm obsessed with you
The individual's fixation on the person causing the pain is intense


Guess what I tryin' to say
What the individual is attempting to express is


Is I love you
The individual is still deeply in love with the person causing the pain


Now how can I act nonchalant
It is even more difficult to pretend to be indifferent when the feeling of love is still present


When all I want is to spend the night with you
The individual desires to be with the person causing the pain despite the feeling of hurt




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: KIM CARNES

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