Hard To Be Friends
Kris & Rita Lyrics


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Closing time, you take off your jumper
Home and dry, feels like better weather
But then I can't string words together
Tongue-tied forever

I was better at this when I was seventeen
I would be making the move, the way you're looking at me
Now we're writing a song on your bedroom floor
And people are calling you just ignore them all, oh

I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna wake up in your bed
I'm losing just a little more sleep
And a bit of self-confidence
Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
But I've gotta lie to you
'Cause if I let out the truth
I can never take it back

I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna wake up in your bed
I'd write it out a million times
But then I get scared to send
Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
But I've gotta lie to you
'Cause if I let out the truth
I can't take it back

Hanging on every word that you say
Play your songs, play the one we just made
Long slow nights, warm white wine and mind games
I don't want us to change

I was better at this when I was twenty-one
The way you're looking at me like we're already in love
Now we're filling our drinks on your bedroom floor
People are calling you just ignore them all, oh

I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna wake up in your bed
I'm losing just a little more sleep
And a bit of self-confidence
Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
But I've gotta lie to you
'Cause if I let out the truth
I can never take it back

I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna wake up in your bed
I'd write it out a million times
But then I get scared to send
Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
But I've gotta lie to you (I gotta lie)
'Cause if I let out the truth
I can't take it back

I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna wake up in your bed
I'm losing just a little more sleep
And a little self-confidence
Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
But I've gotta lie to you




'Cause if I let out the truth
I can never take it back

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of "Hard To Be Friends" by Kris & Rita portray the internal struggle and conflicting emotions that arise when two people who share a deep connection attempt to maintain a platonic friendship. The singer expresses their desire to be more than just friends with the person they are addressing. They are reluctant to reveal their true feelings because they fear the potential consequences and the inability to go back once the truth is out.


The first verse sets the scene after a night out, as the singer reflects on their inability to express themselves verbally. They reminisce about their younger self, who confidently pursued romantic interests. However, as they grow older, they find it challenging to articulate their emotions. The line "Tongue-tied forever" illustrates the perpetual struggle to find the right words to convey their true feelings.


The chorus reiterates the singer's longing to be more than friends. They yearn to wake up in the person's bed, emphasizing their desire for a deeper, romantic connection. However, they acknowledge that they must conceal their true emotions and lie because revealing the truth could have irreversible consequences.


The second verse moves the timeline forward, highlighting the singer's growth and maturity. Despite their increased experience, the struggle to express their feelings remains. They recall how they shared intimate moments, writing songs together on the bedroom floor. However, they are reminded of the judgment and criticisms they face from others, urging the person they address to ignore the opinions of outsiders.


Ultimately, the song captures the internal conflicts between the desire for a romantic relationship and the fear of losing the current friendship. The singer acknowledges their love for the person but feels compelled to conceal the truth in order to preserve the connection they currently have. The lyrics convey the complexity of human emotions and the challenges of navigating the fine line between friendship and romantic love.


Line by Line Meaning

Closing time, you take off your jumper
As the night comes to an end, you start to relax and become more comfortable


Home and dry, feels like better weather
Finally feeling safe and secure, like the stormy days have passed


But then I can't string words together
However, I struggle to express my feelings coherently


Tongue-tied forever
Constantly at a loss for words, unable to communicate effectively


I was better at this when I was seventeen
In the past, I was more confident and skilled in expressing myself romantically


I would be making the move, the way you're looking at me
If I were younger, I would take the initiative because of the way you're showing interest in me


Now we're writing a song on your bedroom floor
Now we're engaged in an intimate moment, pouring our emotions into a song


And people are calling you just ignore them all, oh
Despite people's judgment or opinions, we should disregard them and focus on our connection


I don't wanna be your friend
I desire a deeper connection than just friendship


I wanna wake up in your bed
I yearn to share intimate moments and wake up beside you


I'm losing just a little more sleep
The intensity of my feelings for you is causing me some sleepless nights


And a bit of self-confidence
It's also affecting my self-assurance and belief in myself


Oh, I swear I'm in love with you
I truly confess that I am deeply in love with you


But I've gotta lie to you
However, I feel compelled to lie to you because of the consequences of revealing the truth


'Cause if I let out the truth
If I were to disclose my true feelings


I can never take it back
I would be unable to undo the impact and the potential changes it may bring


I'd write it out a million times
I would compose my emotions and intentions repeatedly


But then I get scared to send
Yet, I become fearful of actually expressing and sending those messages


Hanging on every word that you say
I hang onto your every word, eagerly listening and analyzing


Play your songs, play the one we just made
Let's listen to your songs, including the one we created together


Long slow nights, warm white wine and mind games
Memorable evenings spent together, enjoying each other's company and engaging in playful conversations


I don't want us to change
I prefer for our relationship dynamic to remain the same, without any alterations


I was better at this when I was twenty-one
In my earlier years, I had more confidence and skill in expressing my emotions in relationships


The way you're looking at me like we're already in love
The way you gaze at me makes it seem as if we are already deeply in love


Now we're filling our drinks on your bedroom floor
Now we're together, enjoying each other's company, and preparing our drinks in your bedroom


People are calling you just ignore them all, oh
Regardless of the criticism or judgments from others, we should disregard them and focus on our connection


I'm losing just a little more sleep
The intensity of my feelings for you continues to disrupt my sleep


And a little self-confidence
Furthermore, my self-assurance and belief in myself are gradually diminishing


I can never take it back
Once I reveal my true feelings, there is no way to undo the consequences and repercussions




Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Rita Ora, Nick Hahn

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

AteDyakie

Lyrics

It's so hard to be friends,
When it was so easy to be lovers,
Holdin' on, holdin' on to each other.
It's so hard to be free,
When it was so easy to be sheltered

Smothered by the promises
Someone said would keep the fire,
Fill the cup and keep from deceivin'
Know so well, never tell

So hard to step forward,
So easy to turn inward,
Too soon to be ended,
Too late too late to be mended

So hard to step forward,
So easy to turn inward,
Too soon to be ended,
Too late too late to be mended

It's so hard to be friends
When it was so easy to be lovers



All comments from YouTube:

TC Smith

I had an original vinyl of this... the whole album. damn it got lost yrs ago. IMHO, one of the greatest duos ever. George and Tammy might be remembered more but Kris and Rita wrote their own stuff.

Jan Baart

This song was composed by Larry Murray. The best version by far to my opinion was recorded by Dutch group The Cats.

Neville Wissmann

TC Smith me, too

Mira Mccort

I have a original final in my music library .... It is a shame beautiful song.

Mary Alfaro

BEAUTIFUL MUSIC, BEAUTIFUL WORDS WRITTEN BY KRIS WITH RITA ALWAYS THE BEST SOUNDS.

AteDyakie

Lyrics

It's so hard to be friends,
When it was so easy to be lovers,
Holdin' on, holdin' on to each other.
It's so hard to be free,
When it was so easy to be sheltered

Smothered by the promises
Someone said would keep the fire,
Fill the cup and keep from deceivin'
Know so well, never tell

So hard to step forward,
So easy to turn inward,
Too soon to be ended,
Too late too late to be mended

So hard to step forward,
So easy to turn inward,
Too soon to be ended,
Too late too late to be mended

It's so hard to be friends
When it was so easy to be lovers

northernmuse9

Thanks so much for putting up an undistorted version! Wish the stupid record company would reissue this--much better than their second album, which was reissued.

Supernusantara Videos

Great song!

anita espedal

Its so sad to hear ths song when we now how things ended between them. A beautiful song that brings tears in my eyes.

Peter Badenbroek

My sister Ria passed away one day ago and this was one of her favourite songs...thanx for the upload because we only have it on a record...but no recordplayer anymore xxx from Holland

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