It's Not You
Language of Flowers Lyrics


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I see you standing over there
Why won't you come on over
The way things work seems so unfair
I'm drunk but you're still sober
I wasted time on silly things
I've never felt my own way
I used to dream of wedding rings
I never felt my own so

But if I can't have you
I know what to do
I know where to go
To get over you
If it's not you (x4)

I've seen you holding hands with her
You told me it was over
I thought that you were just good friends
I've seen the way you hold her
Don't waste your time
She's not your type
I need to get my say in
She's been with all the boys I know
I know the games she's playing

But if I can't have you
I know what to do
I know where to go
To get over you
If it's not you (x4)

I've heard it all a million times please take me back I miss you
Still you don't seem to understand I've lost the will to kiss you
But still you'll take me in your arms
Send shivers down my spine
She's not afraid that nothings changed
She's not your ideal love now

But if I can't have you
I know what to do
I know where to go




To get over you
If it's not you (x4)

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Language of Flowers's song "It's Not You" convey the mixed emotions of a person dealing with a breakup. The singer is torn between holding on to the hope of being reunited with their former partner and moving on. They see the person standing and yet they hesitate to approach them. The singer seems to feel that it's not fair that they are drunk while the former partner is still sober, perhaps reflecting on the unevenness of the relationship that just ended.


The singer acknowledges that they've wasted time on things that don't really matter and that they've never truly found their own way. The mention of dreaming of wedding rings suggests that they had put a lot of hope in the relationship that just ended. However, the singer seems to come to terms with the end and decides that they will move on if they can't have their former partner. They envision going forward with their life, even if it's not with the person they once loved.


The second verse of the song details the singer's pain as they see their former partner with someone else. They had thought that the relationship was over, but seeing the way they hold the other person suggests otherwise. The singer implores their former partner not to waste their time with someone who's not their type. They also assert that this new person is playing games.


Overall, "It's Not You" is a poignant expression of heartbreak and the difficult task of moving on after a relationship has ended.


Line by Line Meaning

I see you standing over there
I notice your presence from a distance


Why won't you come on over
I'm curious why you haven't approached me yet


The way things work seems so unfair
I find the mechanisms of life to be unjust


I'm drunk but you're still sober
I'm under the influence, but you remain in your right mind


I wasted time on silly things
I spent my time on pointless matters


I've never felt my own way
I've always followed someone else's lead


I used to dream of wedding rings
I previously yearned for marital commitment


I never felt my own so
I never truly experienced my own desires


But if I can't have you
If I am unable to win your affection


I know what to do
I have a plan of action


I know where to go
I am aware of where to find comfort


To get over you
To move on from my feelings for you


I've seen you holding hands with her
I've observed you displaying public affection towards another woman


You told me it was over
You conveyed to me that our relationship was finished


I thought that you were just good friends
I previously assumed your relationship was purely platonic


I've seen the way you hold her
I've noticed how affectionate you are towards her


Don't waste your time
There's no point in continuing what you're doing


She's not your type
You and she are not well-suited


I need to get my say in
I want to express my thoughts and feelings on the matter


She's been with all the boys I know
She has had previous romantic relationships with acquaintances of mine


I know the games she's playing
I am familiar with her manipulative tactics


I've heard it all a million times please take me back I miss you
I've been begged numerous times to reconcile, but I no longer have feelings for you


Still you don't seem to understand I've lost the will to kiss you
You remain oblivious to the fact that I no longer have romantic feelings towards you


But still you'll take me in your arms
Despite my lack of interest, you continue to attempt intimate gestures


Send shivers down my spine
Your touch produces an intense physical reaction


She's not afraid that nothings changed
The other woman is not concerned with the fact that you are still pursuing me


She's not your ideal love now
You and the other woman are not a perfect match


If it's not you (x4)
If our relationship cannot be mended




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Such a fuckin' solid song!

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