He Oughta Know That By Now
Lee Ann Womack Lyrics


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I guess he's working late again
I don't need to wonder where he is
But I do
He ought a know that by now

I know his job takes a lot of him
There's not much left for him to give
But I need more
He ought a know that by now

[Chorus]
It's not like he's gotta read my mind
To know what I'm feeling after all this time
It's just so hard to hold onto what is never around
He ought a know that by now

He used to promise soon things would change
It's been years and it's still the same
And that hurts
He ought a know that by now

I've grown so used to being alone
Couldn't be much worse if I were gone
And in a way I am
He ought a know that by now

[Chorus]

Heartache and coffee at midnight motel
Leaving him was hard as hell, but I did
He ought a know that by now

I didn't try to explain
No goodbye underneath my ring
That was all I left
He ought a know that by now





That was all I left
And he ought a know that by now

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Lee Ann Womack's song, "He Oughta Know That By Now," carry an emotional weight that they communicate through rich, expressive storytelling. The song conveys a sense of frustration and disappointment that comes from a long-term relationship in which one partner is present physically but emotionally absent, leading the other to feel increasingly isolated and alone. The first verse explores the singer's frustration with her partner's work schedule, which seems to be a persistent source of tension in the relationship. She expresses her sense of despair, knowing that she no longer has faith in his promises to change. The chorus expands on this theme, lamenting the fact that her partner should know her well enough by now to understand her emotional needs without her having to communicate them directly.


The second verse takes a more introspective turn, exploring the singer's own sense of isolation and alienation in the relationship. She has grown used to being alone and knows that leaving him would be no different: both scenarios will leave her feeling lonely and unfulfilled. The final verse turns the narrative in a new direction, revealing that the singer has, in fact, left her partner, but without explanation. She has left him only a small, tangible reminder of their time together, hoping that he will finally understand the emotional pain he has caused her.


Line by Line Meaning

I guess he's working late again
I suspect that he is at work late once again.


I don't need to wonder where he is
I have no reason to speculate his whereabouts.


But I do
But I still have a doubt in my mind.


He ought a know that by now
He should be aware of my doubts by now.


I know his job takes a lot of him
I am aware that his job requires much dedication from him.


There's not much left for him to give
He does not have much time or energy to spare.


But I need more
However, I still require more of his time and attention.


He ought a know that by now
He should know that I need more from him by now.


It's not like he's gotta read my mind
He does not have to be a mind reader to understand my feelings.


To know what I'm feeling after all this time
It should be clear to him how I feel about our situation after all the time we have spent together.


It's just so hard to hold onto what is never around
It is difficult to hold on to something that is always absent or unavailable.


He ought a know that by now
He should be aware of how his absence affects me by now.


He used to promise soon things would change
He used to assure me that things would improve in the near future.


It's been years and it's still the same
However, it has been several years since those promises were made, and nothing has changed.


And that hurts
This fact is painful for me to accept.


He ought a know that by now
He should know that his broken promises cause me pain by now.


I've grown so used to being alone
I have become accustomed to being by myself.


Couldn't be much worse if I were gone
Being alone is nearly as bad as not being in the relationship at all.


And in a way I am
In some sense, I am not truly in a relationship anymore.


He ought a know that by now
He should understand that I feel like I am not in a relationship by now.


Heartache and coffee at midnight motel
I am experiencing intense emotional pain, and I am trying to cope by drinking coffee in a motel late at night.


Leaving him was hard as hell, but I did
Even though it was extremely difficult, I made the decision to leave him.


He ought a know that by now
He should recognize that I have left him by now.


I didn't try to explain
I did not attempt to justify my decision to leave or to provide any explanation.


No goodbye underneath my ring
I did not even leave a note or any kind of message behind.


That was all I left
The only proof that I was ever there is the absence of my physical presence.


He ought a know that by now
He should realize that my sudden disappearance was a clear sign that I had left him and wasn't coming back.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Bluewater Music Corp.
Written by: Clint Ingersoll, Jeremy Spillman

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