Mena was thirteen years old she moved to live with her musician father. She sang and wrote lyrics as a form of therapy for her feelings and frustrations. Not all the stories in her diary became songs, but "My Lullaby" was one of them, expressing her pain from her parents' divorce. After pleading with her father to make a demo, he contacted some industry experts to record Maria's songs in the studio. Then he presented his daughter's demo to the music industry. Sony Music signed Maria Mena to their label.
In March 2002, Mena's single "My Lullaby" reached number five in the Norwegian charts. The young singer quickly gained fans and soon earned her first platinum record. 2005 saw the release of Apparently Unaffected, including singles "Miss You Love" and "Just Hold Me". A significant success in Norway, the album gained three Spellemann nominations: best female artist, best hit, and best music video.
In September 2008 Mena's fifth studio album was released, Cause and Effect.
He's Hurting Me
Maria Mena Lyrics
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They don't bother me when I'm alone
Can you come over, save me, 'cause he won't stop
Now get him off his fucking throne
Caution, the floor's wet in here, been crying
I don't know why he seems convinced I'm lying
I don't know what he's capable of doing
It's not his fault I made him lose his temper
I should know better not to talk too loud
There's no one out there who could love me better
I'm not like you, you are too proud
Caution, the floor's wet in here, been crying
I don't know why he seems convinced I'm lying
I don't know what he's capable of doing
But he's hurting me
Don't leave me
Please believe me
Baby there is
I can explain
Please love me
Please need me
I've never been confronted with my own thoughts
They don't bother me when I'm alone
Can you come over, save me, 'cause he won't stop
Now get him off his fucking throne
The lyrics to Maria Mena's song "He's Hurting Me" describe the pain and fear that one can suffer in an abusive relationship. The first verse reveals that the singer has never really examined her own thoughts, and typically doesn't struggle with negative feelings when she's alone. But in the context of the relationship, she's being repeatedly hurt and can't seem to get away from it. She pleads for someone to come and rescue her, to take the abuser down off of the pedestal he's put himself on.
In the second verse, the singer makes excuses for the abuser's behavior. She takes responsibility for his loss of temper, and feels like she deserves the abuse because she's not as good as others. She expresses the hope that her love can save her from this abusive relationship, and begs her partner not to leave her. This verse also highlights the abuser's manipulation, as he tries to convince her that she's the problem, and that no one else could ever love her.
The chorus reiterates the pain she's experiencing, and how she's so exhausted from crying that the floor is wet. She doesn't understand why her abuser is so certain that she's lying, and fears what he's capable of doing as well. Overall, the lyrics to this song paint a picture of an abusive relationship that's all too common, and give voice to those who are in a similar situation and feel trapped.
Line by Line Meaning
I've never been confronted with my own thoughts
I usually avoid self-reflection and it doesn't bother me when I'm alone.
They don't bother me when I'm alone
I am not really comfortable acknowledging my feelings and thoughts when alone.
Can you come over, save me, 'cause he won't stop
I need your help to make him stop hurting me.
Now get him off his fucking throne
He has been dominating and controlling me for too long. It is time for it to stop.
Caution, the floor's wet in here, been crying
I have been crying due to the pain and hurt I am feeling.
I don't know why he seems convinced I'm lying
I don't understand why he doesn't believe me when I am telling the truth.
I don't know what he's capable of doing
I am not sure to what extent he can harm me physically or emotionally.
But he's hurting me
He is causing me pain and suffering through his actions and words.
It's not his fault I made him lose his temper
I blame myself for his outburst and I think that I should have been more careful with my words.
I should know better not to talk too loud
I believe that it is my fault that he got angry and I should be more cautious in the future.
There's no one out there who could love me better
I don't believe that anyone else will ever love me as much as he claims to.
I'm not like you, you are too proud
I am different from you and I don't feel like I deserve as much love and respect as you do.
Don't leave me
I am afraid of being alone and I need your support and presence in my life.
Please believe me
I am struggling to make him believe me and I need your help to convince him.
Baby there is
I have something to tell you and I hope that you will listen.
I can explain
I have a valid reason for my actions and I need you to understand and support me.
Please love me
I need your love and comfort to get through this difficult time in my life.
Please need me
I want to feel needed and valued in your life as much as you are in mine.
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: MARIA MENA, ARVID WAM SOLVANG
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