What Kind of Friend
Mark Heard Lyrics


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What kind of a friend could pull a knife when it’s him or you and his kids need shoes?
What kind of friend would do you in, when the bomb goes off and the shelter’s his?
What kind of friends do friends become when the musical chairs get down to one?
What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of friend am I?

What kind of friend would tell you lies to spare you from the bitter truth?
And what kind of friend could stoop so low as to shield your eyes from the mirror’s gaze?
What kind of friends do friends become when a blind eye turns on the damage done?
What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of friend am I?

And what kind of friend survives the night in a frightened sense of self-defence?
What kind of friend can take the ache of losing face for friendship’s sake?
What kind of friend do friends become when the heart says “kill” and the soul says “love”?




What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of friend am I?

Overall Meaning

Mark Heard's song What Kind of Friend is a thoughtful and introspective exploration of the nature of friendship. The song poses a series of questions, each one highlighting a different aspect of the complex and often contradictory relationships that we have with our friends.


The song begins with the question "What kind of a friend could pull a knife when it’s him or you and his kids need shoes?" This line speaks to the difficult choices that we sometimes face in our friendships, highlighting the tension between our loyalty to our friends and our own self-preservation. The following lines continue to build on this theme, asking what kind of friend would turn on you in a crisis or lie to spare your feelings. The overall effect is to create a sense of uncertainty and ambivalence about the nature of friendship, suggesting that there are no easy answers to the questions it poses.


As the song progresses, the focus shifts to the singer's own relationship with their friends. They ask themselves "What kind of friend am I?" and wonder what kind of friend they could become in different situations. These questions lead to a sense of introspection and self-examination, as the singer confronts their own flaws and inadequacies as a friend.


Overall, the lyrics of Mark Heard's What Kind of Friend are a poignant and thought-provoking reflection on the complexities of friendship. The song challenges us to think deeply about the nature of our own relationships with our friends, and to consider what kind of friends we aspire to be.


Line by Line Meaning

What kind of a friend could pull a knife when it’s him or you and his kids need shoes?
What kind of friend would resort to violence out of desperation for his family's well-being?


What kind of friend would do you in, when the bomb goes off and the shelter’s his?
What kind of friend would betray you in a time of crisis where his own survival is concerned?


What kind of friends do friends become when the musical chairs get down to one?
What kind of people do friends turn into when they're fighting for their own survival and resources?


What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of person could I turn into if tested in difficult circumstances?


What kind of friend am I?
What kind of person am I as a friend and how would I act in various scenarios?


What kind of friend would tell you lies to spare you from the bitter truth?
What kind of friend would deceive you to protect you from the harsh reality?


And what kind of friend could stoop so low as to shield your eyes from the mirror’s gaze?
What kind of friend would try to hide your flaws and prevent you from facing the true reflection of yourself?


What kind of friends do friends become when a blind eye turns on the damage done?
What kind of people do friends turn into when they choose to ignore the harm they have caused?


What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of person could I turn into if tested in difficult circumstances?


What kind of friend am I?
What kind of person am I as a friend and how would I act in various scenarios?


And what kind of friend survives the night in a frightened sense of self-defence?
What kind of friend would be able to withstand a situation of danger and act in their own self-preservation?


What kind of friend can take the ache of losing face for friendship’s sake?
What kind of friend can accept humiliation or embarrassment for the benefit of preserving the relationship?


What kind of friend do friends become when the heart says “kill” and the soul says “love”?
What kind of people do friends turn into when they're torn between their emotions and their morals?


What kind of friend could I become?
What kind of person could I turn into if tested in difficult circumstances?


What kind of friend am I?
What kind of person am I as a friend and how would I act in various scenarios?




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