In My Lonely Room )
Martha Reeves & The Vandellas Lyrics


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Every single time you take me out with you
You always flirt around with someone new
But I never criticize the tearful things you do
'Cause I'm so afraid of losing you

But in my lonely room, tears I don't have to hide
'Cause I just lock my door and let myself go
And lay right down and cry

Every place we go, people are whispering
About your flirting ways, & it hurts me so to hear
But in the public's eye I just push behind all my hurt inside
And pretend i don't mind

But in my lonely room, tears I don't have to hide
In my lonely lonely lonely lonely room
I push my pride aside and lay right down & cry




In my lonely room, in my lonely room
Let myself go, lay right down and cry

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Martha Reeves and The Vandellas's song In My Lonely Room is about a woman who is desperately in love with a man who constantly flirts with other women in front of her. Despite his hurtful behavior, she is afraid of losing him and never criticizes him. She goes out with him to public places where she hears people whispering about his flirting ways, which deeply hurts her. However, she hides her feelings and pretends like it doesn't bother her.


In the chorus, the woman sings about her "lonely room" where she can finally allow her true feelings to come out. She locks the door, lets herself go and cries as much as she wants. This is a place where she doesn't have to hide anything or pretend like everything's fine. She can be vulnerable and honest with herself.


Overall, the song is about the pain of unrequited love and the struggle of hiding one's true feelings. It's also about the relief that comes when one is finally able to let those feelings out in a safe space.


Interesting facts about the song, "In My Lonely Room":


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Line by Line Meaning

Every single time you take me out with you
Each time we go out together


You always flirt around with someone new
You constantly seek attention from others


But I never criticize the tearful things you do
I avoid criticizing your behavior despite feeling hurt


'Cause I'm so afraid of losing you
Because I fear losing your love and companionship


But in my lonely room, tears I don't have to hide
I don't need to hide my tears when I'm alone


'Cause I just lock my door and let myself go
I allow myself to express my emotions freely in private


And lay right down and cry
I let myself cry until I feel better


Every place we go, people are whispering
Wherever we are, people are gossiping about you


About your flirting ways, & it hurts me so to hear
They talk about how you flirt around and it pains me to hear it


But in the public's eye I just push behind all my hurt inside
I hide my feelings from others and pretend to be unaffected


And pretend i don't mind
To give the impression that I'm okay with everything


In my lonely room, tears I don't have to hide
When I'm alone, I can cry freely without feeling judged


In my lonely lonely lonely lonely room
A place where I feel truly alone and isolated


I push my pride aside and lay right down & cry
I put aside my ego and let myself cry until I feel better


In my lonely room, in my lonely room
The only place where I allow myself to be vulnerable


Let myself go, lay right down and cry
I permit myself to release my emotions and cry until I feel better




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: BRIAN HOLLAND, EDWARD HOLLAND, EDWARD, JR. HOLLAND, LAMONT DOZIER, LAMONT HERBERT DOZIER

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Comments from YouTube:

Brian Alejandro

This song has a special meaning to me. I love Martha Reeves and The Vandellas. It was such an honor to actually dance on stage with them.

George Stewart

That’s amazing. You’re one lucky man !

lasg dle

As a baby boomer I jammed many a days off this song. As much as I love Heat Wave, Quicksand and others, this is my favorite. I only listen to 50s, 60s, and 70s. This was a wonderful era of "true music that could be understood!"

Shteve67

One of my favorite Motown songs EVER 🧡

Martin Fane

Me too....and always got the floor filled with soul loving people at our scooter events during the 80's

Steven Hicks

Everyone younger seems to think all they did was Dancing in the Street. I think this definitely counts as one of the best by Martha and her Vandelas.

57dogsbody

I really don't think Martha ever made a bad record. She's Fab....I love her. BTW Doesn't this sound like "The 81" by Candy & the Kisses ?

David moore Moore

God bless all the old scooters ww12 Ike you know there ain't no fool around we are we all have to come together you know forget about the colors the skin colors you know because our adversary if they drop a bomb on us we all going to be the same color a quote from George Putnam make United States of America I love you

N Smith

THEE Best!

Devon Mitchell

Their version came out before Candy and the Kisses

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