You've Been In Love Too Long
Martha Reeves & The Vandellas Lyrics


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Girls, you've been in love too long
(You're a fool for your baby)
Don't you know, girls
You've been in love too long
(You're a fool for your baby)

When just his smile takes all your pain away
And you find yourself believing whatever he may say
Now when he keeps you cryin'
But your heart tells you, Girl, keep right on tryin'
Girls, you've been in love too long
(You're a fool for your baby)
Don't you know, girls? You've been in love too long
(You're a fool for your baby)

When you accept his wrongs just to share his kiss
And even though lonely nights are filled with happiness
Now girl, you're in trouble; you know your heart is seein' double
When your head tells you to run
But your heart says he's your only one
Girls, you've been in love too long
You're a fool for your baby)

(Girl, you've been in love too long)
You're a fool
'Cause when a week of loneliness
Can be erased with just one sweet caress
Girls, you've been in love too long
(You're a fool for your baby)
I say girls, oh yeah, you're a fool
When his wrong looks right 'cause he always treats you bad
When you find little excuses for all the sadness & abuses
Don't you know, girls, you're in love
You're just a fool for your baby




Girls, you've been in love too long
You're just a fool

Overall Meaning

In this song, Martha Reeves and The Vandellas address the issue of loving someone for too long, to the point where it has ceased to be healthy. The lyrics warn women that when they are in love for too long, they can become oblivious to their partner's wrongdoings, excuses, and abuses. Despite knowing that it is in their best interest to leave, they stubbornly insist on staying with their significant other, no matter the cost. The song places the focus on how women in love become "fools" for their partners, which can lead them to overlook certain red flags, toxic behaviors and eventually, the emotional turmoil that stems from such a relationship.


Reeves and The Vandellas further tackled the notion that being in love for too long can lead to a distorted perception of reality, which may result in a prolonged sense of loneliness and a dependence on the significant other's affection. The lyrics suggest that the women in love may accept their partner's wrongdoings just to experience temporary happiness, and focus on the positive aspects of the relationship while ignoring its issues. Despite the obvious warning signs, the women refuse to consider the possibility of leaving their partner, dismissing their intuition and being controlled by their emotions.


Overall, the song encourages women to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship, to listen to their intuition, and not to let their love for someone turn into a one-sided, unhealthy situation.


Line by Line Meaning

Girls, you've been in love too long
You have been in love for a significant period of time


(You're a fool for your baby)
You are blinded by love and are making poor decisions


Don't you know, girls
Do you not understand


When just his smile takes all your pain away
His smile has the power to make you forget any troubles in your life


And you find yourself believing whatever he may say
You trust and believe everything he tells you


Now when he keeps you cryin'
When he causes you to cry


But your heart tells you, Girl, keep right on tryin'
Your heart encourages you to keep trying to make the relationship work


When you accept his wrongs just to share his kiss
You are willing to overlook his faults in order to be with him


And even though lonely nights are filled with happiness
Despite being alone, you are content just thinking of him


Now girl, you're in trouble; you know your heart is seein' double
You are conflicted and unsure of what to do


When your head tells you to run
You know logically that you should leave the relationship


But your heart says he's your only one
You cannot bring yourself to leave him because you feel he is the only one for you


I say girls, oh yeah, you're a fool
The singer is emphasizing that the girls are making foolish decisions


When his wrong looks right 'cause he always treats you bad
You justify his negative behavior towards you as just his way of showing love


When you find little excuses for all the sadness & abuses
You make excuses for his actions, even when they hurt you emotionally or physically


Don't you know, girls, you're in love
The singer is suggesting that the girls are confusing love for a toxic relationship


You're just a fool for your baby
You are willingly making foolish decisions for the sake of being with him




Lyrics Β© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: CLARENCE O. PAUL, IVY JO HUNTER, WILLIAM STEVENSON

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Comments from YouTube:

Christopher Bawson

My FAV by the girls, a true Motown gem. Dancin in the streets ain't bad either but this is it!!! The flip side interrupted this from being much bigger.

Robert Velez

If you listen to the words to this song very carefully, you could swear that it is a message song! An absolute classic!

Leatherbro 1000

This song should be an anthem for women who have been in abusive relationships.

Gary S.

"You've Been In Love Too Long" - One of my all-time favorite Martha/Motown tracks!

Patrick Walton

Songs like this will ALWAYS live on. Unlike the music now it tells a true story.

DonnyPiano

Patrick Walton I agree! 😍

WAYNE HAZZARD

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WAYNE HAZZARD

Go Martha!!! Sounds like she dad theses tracks last night. Vocally, the natural beauty of her voice to me is more alive and soulfully pretty than any of the Motown Queens. She pulls you in and wears you out. Levi Stubbs does it from Motown's male stable.

Captain Keyboard

That is nice to know! The only thing I have known is to just enjoy the music as it flourished the air. This song swings.

Preston Barnes

Great voice! Sings it like she means it.

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