How Can We Be Lovers
Michael Bolton Lyrics


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How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
How can we start over when the fighting never ends?
Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
How can we be lovers if we can't be, can't be friends?

Look at us now, look at us, baby
Still tryin' to work it out never get it right
We must be fools, we must be crazy
Whoa, Whoa, when there's no communication
Whoa, whoa, it's a no win situation

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
How can we start over when the fighting never ends?
Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
Tell me how can we be lovers if can't be friends?

We lie awake, this wall between us
We're just not talkin', we got so much to say
Let's break these chains, our love can free us
Whoa, whoa, ain't it time we started trying
Whoa, whoa, gotta stop this love from dying

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
How can we start over when the fighting never ends?
Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
Tell me how can we be lovers if can't be friends?

Baby, love is tough but we can make it
Baby, times are rough but we can make it
We can work it out

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
How can we start over if the fighting never ends?
Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
Tell me how can we be lovers if can't be, can't be friends?

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
How can we start over if the fighting never ends?




Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
Tell me how can we be lovers if can't be, can't be friends?

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Michael Bolton's How Can We Be Lovers explore the idea of how difficult it can be to maintain a romantic relationship when communication breaks down and conflict seems to overshadow all else. The chorus poses the question, "How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?" acknowledging that a foundation of friendship and mutual respect is necessary for a successful relationship. The second verse describes the frustration of lying awake with a wall between two people who simply can't seem to talk things out. The bridge offers hope, encouraging the couple to break free of their chains and make an effort to communicate and work through their problems. The final chorus reinforces the central idea of the song, that without the foundation of a strong friendship, a romantic relationship will likely fail.


One interesting fact about the song is that it was co-written by Michael Bolton and Diane Warren, who is widely regarded as one of the most successful and prolific songwriters of all time. Another is that the song was a top 20 hit in six different countries, including the United States, Canada, and Australia. Additionally, the song was featured in the 1996 film The Nutty Professor, starring Eddie Murphy. The song also features prominently in the 2012 romantic comedy "This Means War".


The chord progression for the song is as follows:


Verse: C - G - Am - F (repeat)
Chorus: C - G - Am - F - C - G - Am - G - F (repeat)


Line by Line Meaning

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?
If we can't even get along as friends, how can we expect to have a romantic relationship?


How can we start over when the fighting never ends?
If we keep arguing without resolving our issues, how can we move forward in our relationship?


Baby, how can we make love if we can't make amends?
If we can't reconcile and forgive each other, how can we connect intimately?


Look at us now, look at us, baby
Reflecting on our current state of relationship,


Still tryin' to work it out never get it right
we are struggling to fix and improve our situation but failing to do so,


We must be fools, we must be crazy
realizing that our behavior is irrational and unreasonable,


Whoa, Whoa, when there's no communication
We can never make progress in our relationship when we are not communicating effectively.


Whoa, whoa, it's a no win situation
Our relationship is at risk of failing completely if we continue on this path.


We lie awake, this wall between us
We are experiencing a divide between ourselves that is preventing us from connecting with each other,


We're just not talkin', we got so much to say
we have important things to say but we are not communicating with each other,


Let's break these chains, our love can free us
We must take action to remove the barriers between us and let our love bring us together,


Whoa, whoa, ain't it time we started trying
It is time for us to actively work on our relationship,


Whoa, whoa, gotta stop this love from dying
We need to prevent our love from dying out by putting in effort to improve our relationship,


Baby, love is tough but we can make it
Although it might be hard, if we work together, we can overcome the challenges of our relationship,


Baby, times are rough but we can make it
Even though we are going through difficult times in our relationship, we can still succeed,


We can work it out
We can resolve our issues and make our relationship better with effort and commitment,




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Realsongs
Written by: Michael Bolton, Diane Warren, Desmond Child

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@kevinchandler179

You know, I have to admit, I was not a big fan of Mr. Bolton years ago, but he is very good and I appreciate it now, better late than never!!! Great song 🎵

@jimmyshaker1720

I don't care if many people say Michael Bolton fans are mostly girls! I'm a full blooded Male & the Man knows how to Rock! What a voice! Pure Talent & Music to my ears! 👍😊

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I’m a girl and my friends still make fun of me for loving him. I don’t care. Talent is talent and this man is 100% talented. I like good music. Period.

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Very powerful voice man knows how to sing!!

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I was born 89. My mom blasted this man’s music while cleaning our single wide trailer. I remember it so well just the same as I remember every word. Good times good music. !!!

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