The First Night
Monica Lyrics
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Or do I, do I need to turn it up? (Huh, huh)
Baby, baby tell me what's up? Can you hear me?
Or do I, do I need to turn it up? (Huh, what?)
Baby, baby tell me what's up? Can you hear me?
Or do I, do I need to turn it up? (Huh, huh)
Baby, baby tell me what's up? Can you hear me? (Oh)
Or do I, do I need to turn it up? (Huh, what?)
Boy, this evenin' was it only me
Feelin' completely down to be open?
Down to be open for some satisfaction
Didn't want to say yes, afraid of your reaction
I knew it was wrong, for feelin' this way
Especially the thought of givin' in on the first date
Couldn't let go, it stayed on my mind
At the end of the night I had to decide, I was thinkin'
I should make a move but I won't (I should, I should)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I don't get down on the first night
I should make a move but I won't
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I wanna get down, but not the first night
We were chillin' watchin' your T.V.
I felt it was comin' the closer that you got to me
Wanted to touch you, wanted to kiss you
And some how in one night, discover I love you
Felt so right, but it felt so wrong
And look how we are carryin' on
Tryna say things to get me to stay
But my watch is tellin' me it's gettin' too late, I'm thinkin'
I should make a move but I won't (I should, I should)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (knowin')
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right (be right)
I don't get down on the first night (I don't, I don't get down, baby)
I should make a move but I won't
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (you're probably thinkin' something's wrong)
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I wanna get down, but not the first night
If you, want me, you got to know me (got to know me)
And if you want my love (my love) you gotta wait, my love
Baby, that's the way it's got to be (yeah)
Get to know me (get to know me) so we can do this, ooh
I should make a-
I know your probably thinkin' (I wont, I wont babe)
Knowin' if I do (I wont, I wont, babe)
I don't get down, on the first night
I should make a move, but I won't (no, no, no)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (no, no, no)
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I wanna get down, but not the first night
I should make a move but I won't (I should make a move)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong)
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right (no, no, no)
I don't get down on the first night (can't be get down the first night)
I should make a move but I won't (I should, baby, yeah)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (I should, baby, yeah-yeah-yeah)
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I wanna get down, but not the first night (no, no, no, no, no)
I should make a move, but I won't (oh, yeah, yeah)
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong (you're probably thinkin')
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I don't get down, on the first night (no, no, no, no)
I should make a move, but I won't
I know you're probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong
Knowin' if I do that it won't be right
I wanna get down, but not the first night
Monica's song "The First Night" is about a girl's inner turmoil as she contemplates having sex on the first date. The song is written in the first person, and Monica's vocal performance conveys a sense of vulnerability and raw emotion. The lyrics portray the dilemma faced by many people who struggle with the societal norms and expectations around sexual behavior.
In the first verse, the singer questions whether her partner can hear her, prompting her to ask whether she needs to turn up the volume. She goes on to describe the evening, as "open for some satisfaction," but hesitant to say yes due to her fears about how her partner would react. The potential for disapproval lingers on her mind throughout the night, and she ultimately decides not to have sex on the first date.
The chorus repeats the singer's decision to avoid having sex on the first night, emphasizing her commitment to waiting until she has gotten to know her partner better. The second verse describes a moment when the singer was tempted to touch and kiss her partner, feeling that she was falling in love with him. However, she recognizes that it does not feel right to move too quickly, and she ultimately decides to stay true to her values.
Overall, "The First Night" is a powerful reflection on the challenges and dilemmas faced by individuals navigating the complexities of human relationships. The song's enduring popularity speaks to its ability to touch a deep chord within the human psyche, offering comfort and insight to those struggling with similar issues.
Line by Line Meaning
Baby, baby tell me what's up? Can you hear me?
Monica is asking her partner if they can hear her properly and if they are paying attention to her.
Or do I do I need to turn it up?
Monica is inquiring if her partner can hear her well or if she should speak louder.
Boy this evenin' was it only me
Monica wonders if she is the only one who felt the way she did that evening.
Feelin' completely down to be open
Monica felt she wanted to be more open with her partner.
Down to be open for some satisfaction
Monica is ready to be more physically affectionate with her partner.
Didn't want to say yes, afraid of your reaction
Monica was scared of her partner's reaction if she decides to be more physically intimate.
I knew it was wrong, for feelin' this way
Monica felt guilty for her thoughts and desires.
Especially the thought of givin' in on the first date
Monica had moral convictions against giving in to physical intimacy on the first date.
Couldn't let go, it stayed on my mind
Monica couldn't stop thinking about her desires.
At the end of the night I had to decide, I was thinkin'
Monica realized that she had to evaluate her thoughts and decide what she wanted to do.
I know your probably thinkin' somethin' is wrong
Monica is aware that her partner might be suspicious about her behavior and thoughts.
Felt so right, but it felt so wrong
Monica's feelings were conflicted; while it felt right, she knew it was wrong to engage in physical intimacy on the first date.
Tryin' to say thin's to get me to stay
Monica's partner is trying to convince her to stay and engage in physical intimacy.
If you, want me, you got to know me
Monica's love and affection require a deeper connection other than physical intimacy.
And if you want my love (my love) you gotta wait my love
Monica's partner will have to be patient if he wants her love, as it cannot be bought with physical intimacy.
I don't get down, on the first night
Monica reiterates her position on physical intimacy on the first night of a date.
Lyrics © Reservoir Media Management, Inc.
Written by: Jermaine Dupri, Marilyn Mc Leod, Pamela Joan Sawyer, Tamara Savage
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@mrselection7814
I don't care what anyone says. What Jermaine Dupri did for RnB is on the same level as Dr Dre did for hip hop in the 90s. He had an ear for talent and knew how to make hits
@raqueledwards2827
Mr Selection agreed and thats on the real😚
@blessedk77
Right, and had some of the baddest remixes!
@dawb86
kelly cherisse completely agree with u. that Biggie "Big Poppa" So So Def remix was better than the original 💯
@igfromthe323
100% agree
@MrBenHaynes
Preach! JD y'all.
@AmeliaMark503
Monica dun went off 2 da next level like fr fr 💖 a u t h e n t I c v i e w s 💖 is what got them HUGE!
@munamanilla3751
i miss the old days
@needacleaner14
Back when it was considered cool for us as young women to have respect for our own selves. Seriously, shout out to the sisters who still have respect for their own selves. As women, it starts and ends with us.
@linusrandall9339
But sadly in the “good old days“ many women were robbed of their choice as to whether they would get down on the first night.