How Could I?
Oleander Lyrics


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Memories and silence fills each room
Overwhelming heavy as the tidal waves consume
Buried underneath the dust & gloom
Relics are reminders of my family of two

Pictures of a happy bride and groom
Ferry rides around the harbor on our honeymoon
Wedding gifts of pots and pans
Sleeping while were holding hands
As Gracie lays upon us as we spoon

How could I ever be so blind that I could not see
How could I ever stray from what has meant so much to me
How could I ever gain her trust without the guarantees
Of who I am or where I'll be

So now we live in fear of the unknown
Insecure and skeptical her trust in me was blown
Despite the past we face we both have grown
Through the pain to find the strength together or alone

How could I ever be so blind that I could not see
How could I ever stray from what has meant so much to me
How could I ever gain her trust without the guarantees
Of who I am or where I'll be

How could I ever be so blind that I could not see
How could I ever stray from what has meant so much to me




How could I ever gain her trust without the guarantees
Of who I am or where i'll be

Overall Meaning

These powerful and emotional lyrics of Oleander's song 'How Could I?' describe the aftermath of a relationship that has been shattered due to disloyalty and deceit. The images of memories and silence filling each room create a deeply melancholic and hopeless atmosphere. The pain of losing someone you loved and the regret of the one who hurt her is palpable in every word.


The lines 'How could I ever be so blind that I could not see / How could I ever stray from what has meant so much to me / How could I ever gain her trust without the guarantees / Of who I am or where I'll be' illustrate the remorse of the singer. The overwhelming realization of what has been lost and the sense of guilt for the actions that eventually caused them to be broken apart is evident in the repetition of these lines at the end of every verse.


The song also highlights the turmoil and struggles of rebuilding the broken trust between partners. Through this pain, the singer and his partner have grown, realizing that trust needs to be earned and acknowledging that they must work together to regain the strength of their relationship.


Overall, 'How Could I?' is a potent and reflective song about the importance of trust and the consequences of breaking it in a relationship. It shows that rebuilding a relationship requires effort, forgiveness, and understanding.


Line by Line Meaning

Memories and silence fills each room
The house is filled with memories, yet no sound to be heard


Overwhelming heavy as the tidal waves consume
The weight of the memories are like strong waves crashing over


Buried underneath the dust & gloom
Their home is neglected, a reflection of their relationship


Relics are reminders of my family of two
The objects around the home represent their marriage and past together


Pictures of a happy bride and groom
Captured moments of their joyful wedding day


Ferry rides around the harbor on our honeymoon
A time when they explored together and made happy memories


Wedding gifts of pots and pans
Symbolic gifts representing their start of marriage and a future together


Sleeping while were holding hands
Physical touch and affection was a regular part of their relationship


As Gracie lays upon us as we spoon
A pet that was also a part of their family and happy moments


How could I ever be so blind that I could not see
Expressing regret and disbelief towards actions that caused harm and damage


How could I ever stray from what has meant so much to me
Questioning decisions that led away from what was important and valued


How could I ever gain her trust without the guarantees
Realizing trust is hard to earn and maintain without consistent proof


Of who I am or where I'll be
Having certainty in oneself and the future is a factor in gaining trust


So now we live in fear of the unknown
Uncertainty and worry shape the current state of their relationship


Insecure and skeptical her trust in me was blown
The damage done to trust is evident and painful


Despite the past we face we both have grown
Acknowledging the difficulties, yet also acknowledging personal growth through them


Through the pain to find the strength together or alone
Enduring hardship with the potential to emerge stronger either as a team or individually




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: DOUGLAS JAMES ELDRIDGE, FRED ROGER JR. NELSON, RICHARD C. IVANISEVICH, THOMAS ALLAN FLOWERS

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