Rhinestoned says it all. No other word, real or invented for the occasion, sums up as well where Pam Tillis stands now.
She is, after all, a superstar as well as a survivor. A child of Music City royalty and a former rebel, she was determined to find her own way as a singer and songwriter — and she succeeded. A CMA Female Vocalist of the Year, she has written songs for some of the top singers in and beyond Nashville, including more than a few of her own hits.
She knows what it's like to break the platinum barrier, to top the singles charts time and again, to bask in an ovation at her induction as a member of the Opry or play in the intimate hush of the Bluebird Café. She has bathed in the lights of Broadway, posed for glamour magazine spreads, sung ballads in Bay Area bistros, batted wicked one-liners back to Tom Bergeron on Hollywood Squares, even made cameos in movies.
But no matter where she wandered, Pam Tillis never lost her connection to country music — even when country began to lose touch with itself. Trends came and went, and though she rolled easily with the tides and drew something from every new twist, she was aware that changes come with a cost, even as the business side of country flourished.
Her response was to insist on writing and cutting songs that spoke from the soul, rather than the boardrooms and focus groups of the country music industry. The results have been records that emanate an almost painful beauty, as did her 2002 release, the critically acclaimed It's All Relative (a tribute to her father, the great Mel Tillis).
"What I'm doing is country — but not necessarily the kind that you hear on the airwaves these days," Tillis explains, one drizzly afternoon over coffee, not far from Music Row. "Now, I admire a lot of this music; after all, I've sung rock, pop, R&B, and jazz, so I'm hardly a purist. But what I'm hearing now sounds often more like pop than country to me. And I just seriously felt called by that old different drummer to something a little bit more like the country I remember from my formative years, the country music of my youth." It's also something Tillis' fans and friends clamor for as she encounters them out on the road.
With It's All Relative, which she affectionately calls "the Dad album," Tillis produced one of the most memorable discs to have come out of Nashville in years, largely because of her refusal to conform to expectations. Combing through her father's catalog, she chose songs that had an especially timeless quality, with built-in resistance to the whims of the market. It was a bold statement; more than that, it set the stage for the even more assertive statement that Rhinestoned would make.
"Pam had reached a point where doing a record every year or two wasn't as important as taking the time to make something that had more meaning," says Matt Spicher, who co-produced Rhinestoned with Tillis and Gary Nicholson. "So she decided to embrace the momentum she had established with the Dad record."
"That was the first record I ever made where I wasn't concerned about having to come up with three singles," Pam points out.
"The labels understood that from the beginning," Matt says.
"They said they did," she clarifies.
And that's one reason why Rhinestoned marks the first album to be released on Stellar Cat, Pam's own imprint. With total creative control, she let her heart lead the way toward material that she could perform honestly and emotionally. "This is an A&R-free zone," she says, smiling. "But it is, first of all, real country. It's a bookend to the Dad album, except it has all new songs. It's like a bridge between the present and the past."
How past is this particular past? "If you look at my record collection circa 1974," Pam answers, "you'd see Emmylou, Gram Parsons, Waylon Jennings, Don Williams, Linda Ronstadt, and Neil Young. Flying Burrito Brothers — hippie country I call it — that was some of the best music that ever came out of this town. Maybe it wasn't happening on country radio at the time but it sold record and built careers. It was the vibrant scene on the fringes of country, which was very cool — just as it is today."
The Rhinestoned sessions started in 2004. Pam and Matt whittled 20 songs down to ten, which they cut and set aside, like bottles of wine allowed to mature. A few months later they repeated the process. And then, after reflecting for a while on what she had accomplished, Pam decided something wasn't right. She talked about it with her trusted friend and writing partner Gary Nicholson and reached a critical decision.
"It needed to be more country " she sums up. "I played what we had for Gary, brought him into the picture, and suddenly it felt like we weren't wandering in the woods anymore. Then when I found the song "Band in the Window," suddenly I could see and hear the whole project in my mind right down to the t-shirts, Tillis laughs.
With that, the final round of recording began. All of it, aside from backing vocals, was cut the old-fashioned way: live, just the way those bands still play in the windows along Lower Broadway. Many of Pam's performances were actually guide vocals, laid down in real time with the instrumental tracks but too strong in the end to throw away. Overdubs and fixes were kept to a bare minimum.
The rollicking reverence she brings to "Band in the Window," the affection that radiates between her and John Anderson on "Life Sure Has Changed Us Around," the goofball humor of "Crazy By Myself," the insight of her recitation on "Bettin' Money on Love": All of the up-tempo moments on Rhinestoned emit a sense of freedom that's impossible for Pam to suppress or for any listener to miss.
Even the ballads and deeper performances — the languorous sway of "Something Burning Out," the wounded wisdom of "Train Without a Whistle," the almost whispered yearning of "Someone Somewhere Tonight," and the recklessness of "Down by the Water" — carry a quality that's become sadly unfamiliar in much of today's music.
It's that feeling of delight that comes from singing exactly what you were meant to sing at that moment. It's almost like a kind of ecstasy, which goes a long way when delivered by the incomparable Pam Tillis, without compromise or apology.
You might call it joy, but there's a better word than that for this state of creative exhilaration.
We'd call it Rhinestoned.
Cleopatra Queen of Denial
Pam Tillis Lyrics
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He was only misunderstood
You know he really didn't mean to treat me so bad
You know he wanted to be good
And I swore one day I would tame him
Even though he loved to run hog wild
Just call me Cleopatra everybody
'Cause I'm the Queen of Denial
Well now I knew he didn't have any money
Yeah that's why he couldn't buy me a ring
Oh and just because he bought himself a brand new pick-up truck
Really didn't prove anything
Yeah he never had to say he loved me
I could see it every time he smiled
Just call me Cleopatra everybody
'Cause I'm the Queen of Denial
Oh Queen of Denial
Buyin' all his alibis
Queen of Denial
Floatin' down a river of lies
Well I'm not gonna jump to conclusions
Or throw away this perfect romance
Oh even though I caught him dancin' last night
With a girl in leapord skin pants
Yeah, he's probably stuck in traffic
And he'll be here in a little while
Just call me Cleopatra everybody
'Cause I'm the Queen of Denial
Oh Queen of Denial
Buyin' all his alibis
Queen of Denial
Floatin' down a river of lies
The lyrics to Pam Tillis's song "Cleopatra Queen of Denial" are a satirical take on a woman who struggles to come to terms with her man's infidelity and shortcomings in their relationship. The singer, Person A, tries hard to cover up her husband's lack of care and priority for her with excuses and stories, refusing to face the reality of the situation. She acknowledges that he has potential and tries to convince herself that he is only misunderstood. She justifies his actions by stating that he wanted to be good and it was only his inability to express himself that made him treat her badly.
The singer jokes about her own denial and desperation by comparing herself to Cleopatra, the famous queen who was known for her beauty and seductiveness. She quotes herself as the "Queen of Denial" because she chooses to live in denial rather than acknowledging the faults of her relationship. In the second verse, the singer continues to give excuses for her husband's actions, such as his inability to buy her an engagement ring and his recent acquisition of a new truck. She chooses to overlook the fact that he never tells her that he loves her and believes in non-verbal demonstrations of love.
The chorus repeats the phrase, "Queen of Denial," suggesting that the singer continues to live in her own fantasy world, buying all of her husband's alibis and floating down a river of lies. The final verse is a humorous take on the singer's desperation as she tries to figure out a rational explanation for her husband's infidelity, even though she caught him dancing with another woman while wearing leopard skin pants. She chooses to believe in the best-case scenario and assumes that he is stuck in traffic instead of facing the truth that their relationship is failing. The lyrics to "Cleopatra Queen of Denial" offer a wry commentary on the destructive effect of denial in relationships and the inability of some to face the hard truths.
Line by Line Meaning
Well I said he had a lot of potential
I believed in him and thought he could become something great.
He was only misunderstood
People didn't understand him and his intentions.
You know he really didn't mean to treat me so bad
Despite his actions, I knew he wasn't trying to hurt me intentionally.
You know he wanted to be good
He had good intentions and wanted to do the right thing.
And I swore one day I would tame him
I had faith that I could change him for the better.
Even though he loved to run hog wild
He had a wild and carefree spirit that I hoped to rein in.
Just call me Cleopatra everybody
I am in denial about the truth of my situation and am living in fantasy.
'Cause I'm the Queen of Denial
I refuse to acknowledge the harsh reality because it's easier to ignore it.
Well now I knew he didn't have any money
I was aware that he was poor and couldn't afford to buy me expensive things.
Yeah that's why he couldn't buy me a ring
He couldn't afford to buy me an engagement ring.
Oh and just because he bought himself a brand new pick-up truck
His purchase of a new truck didn't change his financial situation or prove anything to me.
Really didn't prove anything
His actions didn't change my opinions or beliefs about him.
Yeah he never had to say he loved me
I believed his actions showed me he loved me without him needing to say it.
I could see it every time he smiled
His smile and affection towards me were enough to convince me he cared.
Oh Queen of Denial
I am in denial and refuse to face the truth.
Buyin' all his alibis
I believe his excuses and justifications for his behavior, even if they don't make sense.
Floatin' down a river of lies
I am living in a world of deception and lies, ignoring the truth around me.
Well I'm not gonna jump to conclusions
I am not going to make assumptions without evidence or proof.
Or throw away this perfect romance
Despite any doubts or concerns, I still believe our relationship is perfect.
Oh even though I caught him dancin' last night
I saw him dancing with another woman, but I am choosing to ignore it.
With a girl in leapord skin pants
He was with another woman who was dressed in a noticeable and revealing way.
Yeah, he's probably stuck in traffic
I am making excuses for his absence or behavior.
And he'll be here in a little while
I am still hopeful and optimistic about our future together.
Lyrics © CALHOUN ENTERPRISES, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: BOB DIPIERO, JAN BUCKINGHAM, PAM TILLIS
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
@charlesgauldin8010
Back when country still sounded like country
@TerryHarding-rg2mv
One of the most under rated singers around
@divermike8943
This song takes on a whole new meaning these days.
@VirtualbackgroundsVFX
👍 sure does.
@duncan3998
1993
@hm3drake35
For many people.
@susanwalters7937
Ahhh, the FABULOUS Ladies who rocked Country in the 80 - 90's, I LOVE Them!!😁😍💖💖💖
@erikkaldor2
One of the cutest music videos of the 90s. What a great voice Pam has. Way too under rated IMO
@larsoblarsiii5643
Loved this song for years, and just played it for my wife since we were talking about a lying scheming ex of hers and it reminded me of this classic tune. My wife couldnt help but notice it fit that old relationship so well!
@cindypalombo1673
Pam Tilles is one of the best women country music singers Pam put her heart into the music and I loved her style