For as much as the world has changed since Real Friends first emerged in 2010, the band’s mission hasn’t. The Illinois quintet continue to bleed without apology and write songs that make it okay to feel everything: the ups, the downs, and anything else in between. Rather than shy away from emotion, the group run right towards it with distortion cranked and hearts opened, tightening their careful distillation of pop and punk on each subsequent release. When the band—Dave Knox (lead guitar), Kyle Fasel(bass), Eric Haines (rhythm guitar), and Brian Blake (drums) —welcomed vocalist Cody Muraro in 2020, the goal stayed the same as they crafted new music for Pure Noise Records.
Over the years, Real Friends have forged and strengthened a deep connection with fans. The group’s 2014 full-length debut, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We’re Just Changing, marked a turning point. Rock Sound named it one of the “Top 50 Albums of the Year.” 2016’s The Home Inside My Head maintained this momentum with further acclaim and sold out shows. In 2018, Composure incited applause from Music Connection, Alternative Press, Substream Magazine, New Noise, and Billboard who described it as “raw.” To date, they’ve also amassed over 100 million streams and counting. In 2021, they turned the page on a new chapter with the singles “Nervous Wreck” and “Storyteller.”
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In the fall of 2010 bassist Kyle Fasel "wasn't happy" with the music he was working on and wished to start over. Fasel called lead guitarist Dave Knox and the pair soon started talking about the goals they wished to achieve. Fasel didn't expect it to lead anywhere. Vocalist Dan Lambton, who was friends with Knox, received a call from Fasel, asking if he would like to join him and Knox. They were soon joined by drummer Aaron Schuck. The band recorded its debut EP, This Is Honesty, in the spring of 2011. Following the release of the EP, the band began playing shows around the Midwest. The group soon realized that it "didn't feel right, playing the songs they currently had. Almost forcing ourselves into sound." They had a meeting and came to the conclusion to start over. During this period of change, Fasel and Knox were playing in The Fastest Kid Alive. Shortly afterwards, Schuck was replaced by Brian Blake. Blake had emailed the band after he found out they needed a drummer.
Real Friends didn't have a permanent second guitarist, often having their friends to substitute. Eric Haines soon joined as a rhythm guitarist. Until Haines joined Fasel and Knox would typically write the songs and they didn't have "another guitarist's opinion", according to Fasel. Shortly after the release of the Everyone That Dragged You Here EP, the band's popularity increased and the audience at their shows also increased. The band later released the Put Yourself Back Together EP. Reviewing the EP for Rock Sound, Andy Biddulph said noted that he would not be "surprised" if the band was "mixing it with the big boys in a year's time". In November, the group supported The Wonder Years on their UK shows, included UK Warped Tour.
Fearless signed the band in December 2013. The band were initially hesitant to sign to a label but called Fearless "different. They made it feel more like a family." The group "still wanted full control of our band" while Fearless would help with marketing and distribution, according to Fasel. The band recorded their debut studio album in February with producer Seth Henderson. The band released its debut studio album, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We're Just Changing on July 22, 2014. The album sold over 10,300 copies, charting at number 24 on the Billboard 200. The band played on the 2014 Vans Warped Tour supporting the album's release, appearing on the Journey's Stage. More Acoustic Song EP was released for Record Store Day in April 2015. One of the tracks, an acoustic version of "Late Nights in My Car", features Kevin Jordan from This Wild Life.
Fearless Records announced that a new Real Friends record would be released on their label in 2016, through a post on their official Twitter account, which was made on December 22, 2015. Prior to the Fearless announcement, the band had made several references to the recording of a new album throughout 2015 on their Facebook and Twitter pages. Real Friends finished recording their second full-length album on the road, in February 2016. Prior to the album's announcement, the band began to play a new song entitled "Colder Quicker" during their live sets. On April 1, 2016, the band announced the title of their new album as being The Home Inside My Head, along with the album's release date, cover art and track listing. Additionally, on the same day the band released a music video for "Colder Quicker". The album was released on May 27, 2016.
On November 16, 2017 the band released a single entitled "Get By". On June 18, 2018 the band announced the new album 'Composure' set for release on July 13, 2018 to their home town fans during an RSVP Acoustic session. It was preceded two weeks prior by a single entitled "From the Outside", which was accompanied by a music video.
Style and influences
Real Friends has been described as pop punk and emo, as well as emo pop punk. Punknews reviewer said "If American Football went totally pop-punk, Real Friends would be the result." Vocalist Dan Lambton has been described as a cross between The Starting Line's Kenny Vasoli, The Wonder Years' Dan Campbell and The Dangerous Summer's AJ Perdomo. Bassist Kyle Fasel has cited American Football, Dashboard Confessional, The Early November, Jimmy Eat World, The Promise Ring, Saves the Day, The Starting Line, Spitalfield, Taking Back Sunday and Thursday as influences.
Bassist Kyle on the often used phrase "sleepy eyes and bony knees":
I think there’s something that needs to be explained on our end here. We released a new EP on June 4th titled “Put Yourself Back Together.” There are some references in the songs that mention sleepy eyes and bony knees. There have been some negative comments regarding the amount of times we mention those two things. I want to make this post to explain the detailed meanings of both of those subjects. I assure all of you out there that we would never put something in multiple songs that doesn’t have a great amount of meaning. These songs are my life summed up into some verses and choruses. These songs are my therapy, and that goes for the four other dudes in my band too. So here we go….
Sleepy eyes refers to a time in my life in 2011. I was going through a very messy break up which then lead to a love triangle and that lead me to be depressed. The girl that I was in love with since I was eighteen had found someone else that she grew to love. She told me that she still loved me as well though. This lead to lots of sleepless nights and some weight loss as well. Thirty pounds of weight loss to be exact. Listen to our song “Floorboards” for more details on that whole situation. Well anyway, this situation and some other ones over the past few years have led me to not being able to sleep at night. I had resorted to sleeping pills in 2011 when I was depressed. I also consider myself a night owl in general. I haven’t gone to bed before 2 am in years. But mainly sleepy eyes is something that I think we have all been through in life. It’s about those nights when you’re so overworked and have so much going on that you can’t fall asleep, even if you are physically tired. Not only do I write these songs for my own therapy, but I would hope that some of you could find some peace in them. So of course I’m going to reference this subject multiple times. And that is sleepy eyes.
Bony knees is a subject that pops up in a lot of our songs as well. I will keep it general at first here. I in fact do physically have bony knees. But I will surely say that there is a way deeper meaning behind these bony knees. It kind of all dates back to my depression in 2011. Like I stated before there was some weight loss, which made these knees a little more bony than before. I also found myself physically and mentally down on my knees while going through depression. Even after 2011, after I started feeling better, I would still find myself down and out on my bony knees physically and mentally. We all go through dirt in life and lot of times it makes us fall on our knees for awhile. I can easily say that dirt has put me on my knees more than I want to say. But the beautiful part about falling on your knees is getting back up. And that’s the main point of the bony knees reference. You have to get up in life and move on. We have all been there and we will all be there again. When I write bony knees in a song it reminds me of how I put all of the bullshit behind me and moved on. And that is bony knees.
I just wanted to clear this all up. I don’t want anyone to ever think that we are using this as some sort of gimmick or something. We keep things real and it will always be that way. I hope you can all now find deeper meaning and connection with sleepy eyes and bony knees.
Anchor Down
Real Friends Lyrics
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So you can stop making my bones feel cold
I swear that emptiness lives inside your chest
You're the reason you fell far away from what brought out your best
Don't get me wrong, I wish a lot of things were the way they used to be
The streets that used to make me feel alive just make me feel alone
The holes in the wall get bigger every year
I've been breaking all ten fingers for you and you wouldn't even lift one up for me
Appreciation's something you lost in the dirt that's on your hands and knees
But I'm never gonna be just a hole in the wall
You can anchor down your feet and say fuck the past and everyone that dragged you here
I'm not putting myself on a pedestal
You need to stand up for yourself and who you claim you used to be
It's hard to think that some people in this world look at me with the same eyes as yours
I've been breaking all ten fingers for you and you wouldn't even lift one up for me
Appreciation's something you lost in the dirt that's on your hands and knees
Anchor down your feet, say fuck the past and everyone that dragged you here
Just stand up for yourself and who you claim you used to be
It's hard to think that some people in this world look at me with the same eyes as yours
I've been breaking all ten fingers for you and you wouldn't even lift one up for me
Appreciation's something you lost in the dirt that's on your hands and knees
The song "Anchor Down" by Real Friends is a poignant reflection on growing apart from someone who was once close, and the struggle to move on and find self-worth. The opening lines set the scene, with the singer admitting that they are not ready for another Chicago winter, and asking the other person to stop making them feel cold inside. This could be interpreted as a plea for emotional warmth, or a desire to avoid the literal cold of the city. The next lines take a darker turn, with the singer accusing the other person of having emptiness inside them that has caused them to distance themselves from what once made them happy.
The chorus is an emphatic statement of self-worth, with the singer insisting that they will not be "just a hole in the wall" and that the other person needs to stand up for themselves and who they used to be. The repeated refrain of "It's hard to think that some people in this world look at me with the same eyes as yours" suggests a deep insecurity or self-doubt on the part of the singer, who feels judged and found wanting by the other person. The final line, "Appreciation's something you lost in the dirt that's on your hands and knees," is a cutting indictment of the other person's lack of gratitude or recognition for all that the singer has done for them.
Overall, "Anchor Down" is a powerful exploration of the complex emotions that can arise when a close relationship falls apart. It highlights the pain of feeling undervalued, the importance of standing up for oneself, and the difficulty of letting go of the past.
Line by Line Meaning
I don't really think that I'm ready for another Chicago winter
I am not prepared to face another cold and bitter winter in Chicago.
So you can stop making my bones feel cold
Stop causing me to feel cold and uncomfortable all the time.
I swear that emptiness lives inside your chest
You feel a constant sense of emptiness and sadness within you.
You're the reason you fell far away from what brought out your best
It is due to your own actions and choices that you have strayed away from the things that brought out your best qualities.
Don't get me wrong, I wish a lot of things were the way they used to be
Although things have changed, I still have a longing for how they used to be in the past.
The streets that used to make me feel alive just make me feel alone
Even though the streets used to bring me joy and a sense of belonging, now they just make me feel isolated and alone.
The holes in the wall get bigger every year
The physical and emotional damage in my life continues to grow worse with each passing year.
It's hard to think that some people in this world look at me with the same eyes as yours
I find it difficult to accept that some people view me in the same negative way that you do.
I've been breaking all ten fingers for you and you wouldn't even lift one up for me
Despite all the effort and sacrifice I have put into our relationship, you have not been willing to offer anything in return.
Appreciation's something you lost in the dirt that's on your hands and knees
You have lost the ability to show gratitude and appreciation, and your hands and knees are covered in the dirt of neglect and mistreatment.
Anchor down your feet, say fuck the past and everyone that dragged you here
Take a stand, forget about the past and all the negative people who have influenced you in a harmful way.
Just stand up for yourself and who you claim you used to be
Stand up for yourself and the person you were before you lost your way.
Contributed by Aiden H. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
_nolongersleepy
I miss this.
This song hits hard after my recent break up.
Kamille Elizabeth
This came on in hottopic today and I was singing every lyric but for the life of me I couldn't figure out what this song was. I had to ask a sales associate. It was so weird. I forgot how much I loved this song.
aeshah blah
an lambton's voice has so much raw emotion in it it's fucking heartbreaking
The One Who Knocks
Soupy has more
lauryn.
i see you're a TWY stan
The One Who Knocks
+lauryn. So? Soupy has more emotion than Dan.
lauryn.
MaddenGBMobile i didn't say it was a bad thing. i think he has more emotion too. i was just pointing out that you like TWY.
CHEEKI BREEKI TRACK SUIT
+lauryn. Oh ok (this is my other acc)
Josh Howe
Saw these dudes for the first time at Soundwave in Sydney in February. Really connected with their tunes. Especially this one. Keen for the full length.
BlackAndWhiteBlossom
You guys are amazing!