For as much as the world has changed since Real Friends first emerged in 2010, the band’s mission hasn’t. The Illinois quintet continue to bleed without apology and write songs that make it okay to feel everything: the ups, the downs, and anything else in between. Rather than shy away from emotion, the group run right towards it with distortion cranked and hearts opened, tightening their careful distillation of pop and punk on each subsequent release. When the band—Dave Knox (lead guitar), Kyle Fasel(bass), Eric Haines (rhythm guitar), and Brian Blake (drums) —welcomed vocalist Cody Muraro in 2020, the goal stayed the same as they crafted new music for Pure Noise Records.
Over the years, Real Friends have forged and strengthened a deep connection with fans. The group’s 2014 full-length debut, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We’re Just Changing, marked a turning point. Rock Sound named it one of the “Top 50 Albums of the Year.” 2016’s The Home Inside My Head maintained this momentum with further acclaim and sold out shows. In 2018, Composure incited applause from Music Connection, Alternative Press, Substream Magazine, New Noise, and Billboard who described it as “raw.” To date, they’ve also amassed over 100 million streams and counting. In 2021, they turned the page on a new chapter with the singles “Nervous Wreck” and “Storyteller.”
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In the fall of 2010 bassist Kyle Fasel "wasn't happy" with the music he was working on and wished to start over. Fasel called lead guitarist Dave Knox and the pair soon started talking about the goals they wished to achieve. Fasel didn't expect it to lead anywhere. Vocalist Dan Lambton, who was friends with Knox, received a call from Fasel, asking if he would like to join him and Knox. They were soon joined by drummer Aaron Schuck. The band recorded its debut EP, This Is Honesty, in the spring of 2011. Following the release of the EP, the band began playing shows around the Midwest. The group soon realized that it "didn't feel right, playing the songs they currently had. Almost forcing ourselves into sound." They had a meeting and came to the conclusion to start over. During this period of change, Fasel and Knox were playing in The Fastest Kid Alive. Shortly afterwards, Schuck was replaced by Brian Blake. Blake had emailed the band after he found out they needed a drummer.
Real Friends didn't have a permanent second guitarist, often having their friends to substitute. Eric Haines soon joined as a rhythm guitarist. Until Haines joined Fasel and Knox would typically write the songs and they didn't have "another guitarist's opinion", according to Fasel. Shortly after the release of the Everyone That Dragged You Here EP, the band's popularity increased and the audience at their shows also increased. The band later released the Put Yourself Back Together EP. Reviewing the EP for Rock Sound, Andy Biddulph said noted that he would not be "surprised" if the band was "mixing it with the big boys in a year's time". In November, the group supported The Wonder Years on their UK shows, included UK Warped Tour.
Fearless signed the band in December 2013. The band were initially hesitant to sign to a label but called Fearless "different. They made it feel more like a family." The group "still wanted full control of our band" while Fearless would help with marketing and distribution, according to Fasel. The band recorded their debut studio album in February with producer Seth Henderson. The band released its debut studio album, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We're Just Changing on July 22, 2014. The album sold over 10,300 copies, charting at number 24 on the Billboard 200. The band played on the 2014 Vans Warped Tour supporting the album's release, appearing on the Journey's Stage. More Acoustic Song EP was released for Record Store Day in April 2015. One of the tracks, an acoustic version of "Late Nights in My Car", features Kevin Jordan from This Wild Life.
Fearless Records announced that a new Real Friends record would be released on their label in 2016, through a post on their official Twitter account, which was made on December 22, 2015. Prior to the Fearless announcement, the band had made several references to the recording of a new album throughout 2015 on their Facebook and Twitter pages. Real Friends finished recording their second full-length album on the road, in February 2016. Prior to the album's announcement, the band began to play a new song entitled "Colder Quicker" during their live sets. On April 1, 2016, the band announced the title of their new album as being The Home Inside My Head, along with the album's release date, cover art and track listing. Additionally, on the same day the band released a music video for "Colder Quicker". The album was released on May 27, 2016.
On November 16, 2017 the band released a single entitled "Get By". On June 18, 2018 the band announced the new album 'Composure' set for release on July 13, 2018 to their home town fans during an RSVP Acoustic session. It was preceded two weeks prior by a single entitled "From the Outside", which was accompanied by a music video.
Style and influences
Real Friends has been described as pop punk and emo, as well as emo pop punk. Punknews reviewer said "If American Football went totally pop-punk, Real Friends would be the result." Vocalist Dan Lambton has been described as a cross between The Starting Line's Kenny Vasoli, The Wonder Years' Dan Campbell and The Dangerous Summer's AJ Perdomo. Bassist Kyle Fasel has cited American Football, Dashboard Confessional, The Early November, Jimmy Eat World, The Promise Ring, Saves the Day, The Starting Line, Spitalfield, Taking Back Sunday and Thursday as influences.
Bassist Kyle on the often used phrase "sleepy eyes and bony knees":
I think there’s something that needs to be explained on our end here. We released a new EP on June 4th titled “Put Yourself Back Together.” There are some references in the songs that mention sleepy eyes and bony knees. There have been some negative comments regarding the amount of times we mention those two things. I want to make this post to explain the detailed meanings of both of those subjects. I assure all of you out there that we would never put something in multiple songs that doesn’t have a great amount of meaning. These songs are my life summed up into some verses and choruses. These songs are my therapy, and that goes for the four other dudes in my band too. So here we go….
Sleepy eyes refers to a time in my life in 2011. I was going through a very messy break up which then lead to a love triangle and that lead me to be depressed. The girl that I was in love with since I was eighteen had found someone else that she grew to love. She told me that she still loved me as well though. This lead to lots of sleepless nights and some weight loss as well. Thirty pounds of weight loss to be exact. Listen to our song “Floorboards” for more details on that whole situation. Well anyway, this situation and some other ones over the past few years have led me to not being able to sleep at night. I had resorted to sleeping pills in 2011 when I was depressed. I also consider myself a night owl in general. I haven’t gone to bed before 2 am in years. But mainly sleepy eyes is something that I think we have all been through in life. It’s about those nights when you’re so overworked and have so much going on that you can’t fall asleep, even if you are physically tired. Not only do I write these songs for my own therapy, but I would hope that some of you could find some peace in them. So of course I’m going to reference this subject multiple times. And that is sleepy eyes.
Bony knees is a subject that pops up in a lot of our songs as well. I will keep it general at first here. I in fact do physically have bony knees. But I will surely say that there is a way deeper meaning behind these bony knees. It kind of all dates back to my depression in 2011. Like I stated before there was some weight loss, which made these knees a little more bony than before. I also found myself physically and mentally down on my knees while going through depression. Even after 2011, after I started feeling better, I would still find myself down and out on my bony knees physically and mentally. We all go through dirt in life and lot of times it makes us fall on our knees for awhile. I can easily say that dirt has put me on my knees more than I want to say. But the beautiful part about falling on your knees is getting back up. And that’s the main point of the bony knees reference. You have to get up in life and move on. We have all been there and we will all be there again. When I write bony knees in a song it reminds me of how I put all of the bullshit behind me and moved on. And that is bony knees.
I just wanted to clear this all up. I don’t want anyone to ever think that we are using this as some sort of gimmick or something. We keep things real and it will always be that way. I hope you can all now find deeper meaning and connection with sleepy eyes and bony knees.
Home for Fall
Real Friends Lyrics
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I always drive past your house hoping you'll be sitting on your porch
I still smell the smoke on your clothes
And I can still hear those secondhand stories fall off your tongue
It's just not the same around here without you
Most of the time I feel like you're in over your head out there
You ran away from the Midwest and traded it in for beaches and east coast sunsets
Don't take in too much too soon
Keep your chin up out there
Don't forget where you came from and who cares about you
Whenever you're missing home, just look at your arm
You've got the state lines inked into your forearm
There's still memories of you pinned on my wall
It's just not the same around here without you
Most of the time I feel like you're in over your head out there
You ran away from the Midwest and traded it in for beaches and east coast sunsets
Don't take in too much too soon
Maybe you'll be here next year to waste the fall away, watching the leaves blow across my driveway
We could listen to American Football and talk about high school
Just like we did the years before
The lyrics of Real Friends's song Home for Fall talk about missing someone who left their hometown to move to the east coast. The vocalist talks about how much has changed back home since the person left without packing all their things. The vocalist misses the person so much that they drive past their house, hoping to see them sitting on their porch. They can still smell the smoke on the person's clothes and hear the stories about home that fall off their tongue.
The vocalist thinks that the person is in over their head on the east coast and that they ran away from the Midwest and traded it in for beaches and east coast sunsets. The vocalist advises them not to take in too much too soon and to keep their chin up because people back home care about them. The person has the state lines inked into their forearm, and there are still memories of them pinned on the vocalist's wall.
The vocalist hopes that the person will return home next year to waste the fall away, watching the leaves blow across the driveway, listening to American Football and talking about high school, just like they did in the years before. The lyrics of the song are an emotional message to a loved one, telling them how much they are missed and that they will always have a place to return to.
Line by Line Meaning
So much has changed back home since you left without packing all your things
A lot has changed since you left without grabbing all your possessions.
I always drive past your house hoping you'll be sitting on your porch
I frequently pass by your house in the hopes that you’ll be there and we can chat.
I still smell the smoke on your clothes
I can still sense smoke in your clothes even though you've gone.
And I can still hear those secondhand stories fall off your tongue
I can still hear you tell me stories that were told to you by others.
It's just not the same around here without you
Things have changed since you left, and it's not the same without you.
Most of the time I feel like you're in over your head out there
Often, it appears that you're struggling in your new surroundings.
You ran away from the Midwest and traded it in for beaches and east coast sunsets
You traded the Midwest for the coasts.
Don't take in too much too soon
Take it slow so as not to be overwhelmed and overstimulated.
Keep your chin up out there
Stay optimistic about your future wherever you are.
Don't forget where you came from and who cares about you
Remember your hometown and the people who care about you.
Whenever you're missing home, just look at your arm
To remember your roots, look to your skin where it bears a tattoo of the state line.
You've got the state lines inked into your forearm
You have the state line tattooed on your arm.
There's still memories of you pinned on my wall
I have memories of you on my wall.
Maybe you'll be here next year to waste the fall away, watching the leaves blow across my driveway
Perhaps next year you'll be home enjoying the fall's beauty with me.
We could listen to American Football and talk about high school
We can talk and listen to music about highschool, just like old times.
Just like we did the years before
The same way we used to do in previous years.
Contributed by Adeline S. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
Jessica Wesolowski
for my 8th grade baby picture in the yearbook my mom put “don’t forget where you came from and who cares about you” I’m graduating highschool now and realized she put this quote because I always talked about moving to California and leaving home and she was sad about me wanting to leave, I love you so much mom I’ll never abandon you, illinois will always be my forever home
4lec _
Forever my favorite Real Friends song
Julius Caesar
@Gxrefeck ❤️
Gxrefeck
bro looks for lil peep one last time
SpaceKush
I love these guys!!!! they know exactly what to say in their songs. . . this song is so heavy it gives me chills and an emotional wave hits me all the time.
decemberblunts
4 years im still sad
Your Mercy
9 years I'm still sad
ProblemAdd
8 years in counting
Alexander Shreve
My first reaction to hearing any song I think is good... Can't wait to cover it. You guys are talented keep it up!
Edgar Vazquez
I love how this band puts so much emotion to this song and I really hate how some people can actually hate on this :S I really love this band and always will