For as much as the world has changed since Real Friends first emerged in 2010, the band’s mission hasn’t. The Illinois quintet continue to bleed without apology and write songs that make it okay to feel everything: the ups, the downs, and anything else in between. Rather than shy away from emotion, the group run right towards it with distortion cranked and hearts opened, tightening their careful distillation of pop and punk on each subsequent release. When the band—Dave Knox (lead guitar), Kyle Fasel(bass), Eric Haines (rhythm guitar), and Brian Blake (drums) —welcomed vocalist Cody Muraro in 2020, the goal stayed the same as they crafted new music for Pure Noise Records.
Over the years, Real Friends have forged and strengthened a deep connection with fans. The group’s 2014 full-length debut, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We’re Just Changing, marked a turning point. Rock Sound named it one of the “Top 50 Albums of the Year.” 2016’s The Home Inside My Head maintained this momentum with further acclaim and sold out shows. In 2018, Composure incited applause from Music Connection, Alternative Press, Substream Magazine, New Noise, and Billboard who described it as “raw.” To date, they’ve also amassed over 100 million streams and counting. In 2021, they turned the page on a new chapter with the singles “Nervous Wreck” and “Storyteller.”
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In the fall of 2010 bassist Kyle Fasel "wasn't happy" with the music he was working on and wished to start over. Fasel called lead guitarist Dave Knox and the pair soon started talking about the goals they wished to achieve. Fasel didn't expect it to lead anywhere. Vocalist Dan Lambton, who was friends with Knox, received a call from Fasel, asking if he would like to join him and Knox. They were soon joined by drummer Aaron Schuck. The band recorded its debut EP, This Is Honesty, in the spring of 2011. Following the release of the EP, the band began playing shows around the Midwest. The group soon realized that it "didn't feel right, playing the songs they currently had. Almost forcing ourselves into sound." They had a meeting and came to the conclusion to start over. During this period of change, Fasel and Knox were playing in The Fastest Kid Alive. Shortly afterwards, Schuck was replaced by Brian Blake. Blake had emailed the band after he found out they needed a drummer.
Real Friends didn't have a permanent second guitarist, often having their friends to substitute. Eric Haines soon joined as a rhythm guitarist. Until Haines joined Fasel and Knox would typically write the songs and they didn't have "another guitarist's opinion", according to Fasel. Shortly after the release of the Everyone That Dragged You Here EP, the band's popularity increased and the audience at their shows also increased. The band later released the Put Yourself Back Together EP. Reviewing the EP for Rock Sound, Andy Biddulph said noted that he would not be "surprised" if the band was "mixing it with the big boys in a year's time". In November, the group supported The Wonder Years on their UK shows, included UK Warped Tour.
Fearless signed the band in December 2013. The band were initially hesitant to sign to a label but called Fearless "different. They made it feel more like a family." The group "still wanted full control of our band" while Fearless would help with marketing and distribution, according to Fasel. The band recorded their debut studio album in February with producer Seth Henderson. The band released its debut studio album, Maybe This Place Is the Same and We're Just Changing on July 22, 2014. The album sold over 10,300 copies, charting at number 24 on the Billboard 200. The band played on the 2014 Vans Warped Tour supporting the album's release, appearing on the Journey's Stage. More Acoustic Song EP was released for Record Store Day in April 2015. One of the tracks, an acoustic version of "Late Nights in My Car", features Kevin Jordan from This Wild Life.
Fearless Records announced that a new Real Friends record would be released on their label in 2016, through a post on their official Twitter account, which was made on December 22, 2015. Prior to the Fearless announcement, the band had made several references to the recording of a new album throughout 2015 on their Facebook and Twitter pages. Real Friends finished recording their second full-length album on the road, in February 2016. Prior to the album's announcement, the band began to play a new song entitled "Colder Quicker" during their live sets. On April 1, 2016, the band announced the title of their new album as being The Home Inside My Head, along with the album's release date, cover art and track listing. Additionally, on the same day the band released a music video for "Colder Quicker". The album was released on May 27, 2016.
On November 16, 2017 the band released a single entitled "Get By". On June 18, 2018 the band announced the new album 'Composure' set for release on July 13, 2018 to their home town fans during an RSVP Acoustic session. It was preceded two weeks prior by a single entitled "From the Outside", which was accompanied by a music video.
Style and influences
Real Friends has been described as pop punk and emo, as well as emo pop punk. Punknews reviewer said "If American Football went totally pop-punk, Real Friends would be the result." Vocalist Dan Lambton has been described as a cross between The Starting Line's Kenny Vasoli, The Wonder Years' Dan Campbell and The Dangerous Summer's AJ Perdomo. Bassist Kyle Fasel has cited American Football, Dashboard Confessional, The Early November, Jimmy Eat World, The Promise Ring, Saves the Day, The Starting Line, Spitalfield, Taking Back Sunday and Thursday as influences.
Bassist Kyle on the often used phrase "sleepy eyes and bony knees":
I think there’s something that needs to be explained on our end here. We released a new EP on June 4th titled “Put Yourself Back Together.” There are some references in the songs that mention sleepy eyes and bony knees. There have been some negative comments regarding the amount of times we mention those two things. I want to make this post to explain the detailed meanings of both of those subjects. I assure all of you out there that we would never put something in multiple songs that doesn’t have a great amount of meaning. These songs are my life summed up into some verses and choruses. These songs are my therapy, and that goes for the four other dudes in my band too. So here we go….
Sleepy eyes refers to a time in my life in 2011. I was going through a very messy break up which then lead to a love triangle and that lead me to be depressed. The girl that I was in love with since I was eighteen had found someone else that she grew to love. She told me that she still loved me as well though. This lead to lots of sleepless nights and some weight loss as well. Thirty pounds of weight loss to be exact. Listen to our song “Floorboards” for more details on that whole situation. Well anyway, this situation and some other ones over the past few years have led me to not being able to sleep at night. I had resorted to sleeping pills in 2011 when I was depressed. I also consider myself a night owl in general. I haven’t gone to bed before 2 am in years. But mainly sleepy eyes is something that I think we have all been through in life. It’s about those nights when you’re so overworked and have so much going on that you can’t fall asleep, even if you are physically tired. Not only do I write these songs for my own therapy, but I would hope that some of you could find some peace in them. So of course I’m going to reference this subject multiple times. And that is sleepy eyes.
Bony knees is a subject that pops up in a lot of our songs as well. I will keep it general at first here. I in fact do physically have bony knees. But I will surely say that there is a way deeper meaning behind these bony knees. It kind of all dates back to my depression in 2011. Like I stated before there was some weight loss, which made these knees a little more bony than before. I also found myself physically and mentally down on my knees while going through depression. Even after 2011, after I started feeling better, I would still find myself down and out on my bony knees physically and mentally. We all go through dirt in life and lot of times it makes us fall on our knees for awhile. I can easily say that dirt has put me on my knees more than I want to say. But the beautiful part about falling on your knees is getting back up. And that’s the main point of the bony knees reference. You have to get up in life and move on. We have all been there and we will all be there again. When I write bony knees in a song it reminds me of how I put all of the bullshit behind me and moved on. And that is bony knees.
I just wanted to clear this all up. I don’t want anyone to ever think that we are using this as some sort of gimmick or something. We keep things real and it will always be that way. I hope you can all now find deeper meaning and connection with sleepy eyes and bony knees.
I Had a Heart
Real Friends Lyrics
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Hoping to hit a spot that's weaker than I was,
A year a half ago.
I remember how Christmas used to be,
Before she spat me out.
And left me to roam this empty place.
If I ran to the city sub lights, I'd still feel dull and worn out.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll spend the night slamming doors,
Smoking outside my grandparents house.
I thought Christmas was the time for us to feel loved.
I feel like no one understands me anymore.
Nothing is how it was last year.
But it's cold and lonely, just like before.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year.
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll sit and wonder who she loves instead of me.
If she told me who it was,
I'm afraid it would rip my heart out
For my family to see.
At least they'd know I had a heart.
The lyrics of Real Friends's song I Had a Heart capture the feelings of loneliness, heartache, and nostalgia during the holiday season. The opening lines of the song, "I walk on this frozen lake, Hoping to hit a spot that's weaker than I was, A year a half ago," reflect the singer's desire to find a vulnerability that would allow them to feel something again. The frozen lake represents the singer's emotions, which have been frozen over and numbed by their heartbreak.
The later lines "I'll spend the night slamming doors, Smoking outside my grandparents house" further establish the singer's sadness and isolation during the holiday season. Instead of experiencing the traditional warmth and love of Christmas, the singer is consumed by their own pain and feeling of being misunderstood. The song's chorus "It's time to start over and move on. My grandma keeps going on about the New Year, She says 'you can't miss what you forget'" suggests that while the singer may feel stuck in their pain, there is hope for renewal and growth in the new year.
The final lines of the song "At least they'd know I had a heart" reveal the singer's underlying fear of being forgotten or unloved. Despite their heartache, the singer desires to be seen and understood by their loved ones. Overall, the song captures the complexity of emotions that can come with the holiday season and the comfort of finding hope in new beginnings.
Line by Line Meaning
I walk on this frozen lake,
I am walking on this frozen lake, hoping to find a spot weaker than I was a year and a half ago.
Hoping to hit a spot that's weaker than I was,
I am looking for a vulnerable spot in the ice to fall into.
A year a half ago.
I was stronger a year and a half ago.
I remember how Christmas used to be,
I have memories of past Christmases.
Before she spat me out.
Before the person I cared about rejected me.
And left me to roam this empty place.
And abandoned me in this desolate and lonely location.
If I ran to the city sub lights, I'd still feel dull and worn out.
Even if I leave this place and go to the city, I would still feel unhappy and exhausted.
It's time to start over and move on.
It is time for me to begin anew and continue with my life.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year
My grandmother is talking a lot about the upcoming New Year.
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
My grandma advises me to forget the past and not dwell on what has been lost.
I'll spend the night slamming doors,
I will pass the night by angrily closing doors.
Smoking outside my grandparents house.
I will smoke outside of the house where my grandparents reside.
I thought Christmas was the time for us to feel loved.
I used to believe that Christmas was a time for us to feel loved and valued.
I feel like no one understands me anymore.
I feel that no one comprehends me like they used to.
Nothing is how it was last year.
Things are not like they were a year ago.
But it's cold and lonely, just like before.
Although circumstances have changed, the environment remains cold and solitary.
I'll sit and wonder who she loves instead of me.
I will contemplate about who the person that rejected me now loves.
If she told me who it was,
If she was to reveal who the person she loves is,
I'm afraid it would rip my heart out
I fear that the revelation would emotionally devastate me.
For my family to see.
I do not want my family to see me in that state of despair.
At least they'd know I had a heart.
At least my family would know that I am capable of feeling and caring.
Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS
Written by: BRIAN CUMMING, JASON BLUME
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
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I walk on this frozen lake,
Hoping to hit a spot that's weaker than I was,
A year a half ago.
I remember how Christmas used to be,
Before she spat me out.
And left me to roam this empty place.
If I ran to the city sub lights, I'd still feel dull and worn out.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll spend the night slamming doors,
Smoking outside my grandparents house.
I thought Christmas was the time for us to feel loved.
I feel like no one understands me anymore.
Nothing is how it was last year.
But it's cold and lonely, just like before.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year.
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll sit and wonder who she loves instead of me.
If she told me who it was,
I'm afraid it would rip my heart out
For my family to see.
At least they'd know I had a heart.
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I walk on this frozen lake,
Hoping to hit a spot that's weaker than I was,
A year a half ago.
I remember how Christmas used to be,
Before she spat me out.
And left me to roam this empty place.
If I ran to the city sub lights, I'd still feel dull and worn out.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll spend the night slamming doors,
Smoking outside my grandparents house.
I thought Christmas was the time for us to feel loved.
I feel like no one understands me anymore.
Nothing is how it was last year.
But it's cold and lonely, just like before.
It's time to start over and move on.
My grandma keeps going on about the New Year.
She says "you can't miss what you forget."
I'll sit and wonder who she loves instead of me.
If she told me who it was,
I'm afraid it would rip my heart out
For my family to see.
At least they'd know I had a heart.
Rapid Fireman
I requested this song on the radio since they were accepting request and they played it and it made my night <3
Luke
I like this song because it describes WInter and Christmas time. Lonely, sad, quite, cold, and peaceful all at the same time. Plus it is just a damn good song.
Archie Labordo
This has to be the saddest Christmas song ever. Great job Real Friends.
SleepingWithPanic!AtTheDisco
This song puts me in a very emotional mood especially since he's talking about his grandma's house and my grandmother just passed away these past few months. Real Friends have such real emotion. I think this song is every emo kids dream come true for a Christmas song.
Ludens
this album was played on my stereo ladt christmas and newyears eve..ONE OF THE BEST SONG ON THE ALBUM ohh i miss christmas already.. i will comeback here again this year . december 2022. happy new year guys!!
Thomas Revill
Any other Real Friends songs similar to this? The vocals and guitar are really appealing to me
Daniel Mcnamara
Hebron?
Auden Ryan
seeing them in two days, i'm so excited i love real friends so much. they get better and better with everything they put out
DillyDilly
Love it! Sounds like they've matured in this one. This gets better and better.
Ali
the level of pop punk in this is high